Think Faster, Talk Smarter with Matt Abrahams

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Stanford Alumni

5 місяців тому

Many of us dread having to convey our ideas to others, often feeling ill-equipped, anxious, and awkward. Experts help by focusing on planned communication experiences; yet, most of our professional and personal communication occurs in spontaneous situations that leave us flustered and stumbling for words. Together, we’ll explore science-based strategies for managing anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, and making content concise, relevant, compelling, and memorable. By the end of this class, you’ll know how to navigate the situation like a pro and bring out your very best.
Matt Abrahams, ’91, lecturer in organizational behavior, Graduate School of Business

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@swaganomiks
@swaganomiks Місяць тому
For everyone that is watching this video. Your time for greatness is coming!
@zc1122
@zc1122 Місяць тому
Key titles #1. Tame the Anxiety Beast. #2. Maximise Mediocrity. (So you can achieve greatness) - Reduce cognitive load. #3. Mind Your Mindset. - i) Not yet ii) Yes, and. iii) Next play iv) Missed take #4. Don't just do something... stand there - Listen; Pace. Space. Grace #5. STRUCTURE Your Spontaneity - What? So What? Now What? #6. The F-word: FOCUS - Have a Goal: Know, Feel, Do. (What do I want the audience to Know, How do I want them to Feel, What do I want them to Do) - Sentence starters, pitch (structure): What if you could... So that... For example... That's not all...
@davidr4523
@davidr4523 2 місяці тому
Excellent video. The best tips for better speech I have ever heard include 1. Be knowledgeable on many topics and be a subject matter expert in your area. 2. Prepare your speech. Think about what you are going to say. There is no shame in writing your speech out. 3. Read out loud every day. Just as a singer will not improve with mouthing the words silently an orator needs to practice saying words. 4. Speak slow. 5. Smile and look very comfortable. 6. Concentrate fully on your speech to get in the zone. Don't get distracted and don't lose focus. 7. Role model a great speaking. Watch videos from Obama, Jay Leno, Josh Hawley and other great speakers. Watch their head, hands and other body movement. 8. Practice giving speeches preferrable out loud or at very least in your mind. 9. If you are given a tough question, answer it in frameworks rather than being potentially wrong with the answer. 10. Ask clarifying questions before you give your answer.
@cocoarecords
@cocoarecords 2 місяці тому
Thx sir
@Phileas_40
@Phileas_40 2 місяці тому
It's funny because your advices may work but are very rigid and prepared in advance. But the video was about improvisation, being in the present, truly listening to your audience 😅
@davidr4523
@davidr4523 Місяць тому
@@Phileas_40 except for my #2 all of the guidance I gave prepares you advance for when you have improvise . Other guidance gave like smiling and focusing helps you during your speech.
@muel6294
@muel6294 18 днів тому
😅😊
@lesleymhlanga4324
@lesleymhlanga4324 11 днів тому
exceptional advice....I appreciate 🎉
@user-lk9pp9il9u
@user-lk9pp9il9u 2 місяці тому
Step 1. Manage Anxiety, Step 2. Get out of our own way, Step 3. See it as an Opportunity Step 4. Listen Well Step 5. Messaging
@user-kf8jb6fr4n
@user-kf8jb6fr4n Місяць тому
This is God sent. I blush and perspire and it has really destroyed my life. I am 38 years old now and still faces this issue. Somehow as a younger person I thought, that it would go away as I grow older, but it never did. I just came home after having dinner at a friends place and while socializing my anxiety kicked in and I blushed and started perspiring again. Went home dejected, fired up my P.C and decided, my time's better spent learning Japanese then wallowing in self pity, but for some reason the app won't open. So opened UKposts and this was in my recommendation. I will use this knowledge and better myself from this day onward. Thank You
@mrjohncrumpton
@mrjohncrumpton Місяць тому
Came here to say I blush over my face and neck too. And the sweat from my armpits drenches my shirt lol.
@Nic03187
@Nic03187 10 днів тому
The symptoms you describe are actually an indication of your intelligence. Only frauds and really stupid people are convinced they´re smart.
@singlepointdc7749
@singlepointdc7749 2 місяці тому
I always try to remind myself that I’m just trying to help the people I’m presenting to. If you’re just there to help, and focus on that, you can take yourself out of the equation.
@SCharlesS
@SCharlesS Місяць тому
Yes that is his step 3.
@adventurist86
@adventurist86 29 днів тому
Absolutely, agreed!
@claudiajimenez380
@claudiajimenez380 3 місяці тому
I found you in UKposts by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge 🙏
@salimjamal7985
@salimjamal7985 2 місяці тому
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@user-ps6wr9fi8s
@user-ps6wr9fi8s 2 місяці тому
Yah! You are the One of greatest speakers I have ever heard.
@PriyankaRay-ng8bu
@PriyankaRay-ng8bu 2 місяці тому
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@bhineshwartidke4249
@bhineshwartidke4249 2 місяці тому
​@@user-ps6wr9fi8smind if I ask to share the link please 🙏
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087 Місяць тому
Cool Thanks...
@AlimFlood-jh5gc
@AlimFlood-jh5gc 23 дні тому
🎉 Thank you UKposts and Stanford Alumni for this free lecture and class... I've learned what was much-needed for my success in the future ❤. #thinktillyousweat
@noorazimi1299
@noorazimi1299 Місяць тому
To this day, i didn't know what small talk means. I am glad i have searched it on here and came across this treasure of communication skills.
@Deanforbes
@Deanforbes 2 місяці тому
It always surprises me how many people have a hard time with small talk. This info is necessary!
@user-xz5vf7ct3j
@user-xz5vf7ct3j Місяць тому
I’m brand new to sales and struggle with social anxiety. I really appreciate your videos. They are very helpful!
@OoggzUgi
@OoggzUgi 2 місяці тому
I believe I’ve seen him do this lecture before and still amazing.
@user-fv7qz5so1b
@user-fv7qz5so1b 4 місяці тому
Amazing presentation again from Matt!! I've been trying to follow him since the presentation 9 years ago and it really helps me
@johndymen4580
@johndymen4580 Місяць тому
One of the rare time I open my note book to study a talk. Thanks for the content. It’s so valuable
@angie_weinberger
@angie_weinberger 3 дні тому
“I’m still a Work in Progress” love your openness here. 😂
@yuanson1989
@yuanson1989 2 місяці тому
I really appreciate for sharing this great lecture.
@aN0nyMas
@aN0nyMas 3 місяці тому
thank you Steve Martin!
@amirahaidary4187
@amirahaidary4187 2 місяці тому
😂 lol he does look like him
@jycegaming8530
@jycegaming8530 2 місяці тому
This is Matt Abrahams
@aN0nyMas
@aN0nyMas Місяць тому
@@jycegaming8530 Hi Matt Abrahams! This is dad!
@sickofya
@sickofya Місяць тому
Steve martin without jokes
@LiveForeverFitness
@LiveForeverFitness Місяць тому
😂😂😂
@pratimamishra2391
@pratimamishra2391 Місяць тому
I really love the way he narrated I'm like when I have to talk I go freeze so it's really good for me to exercise this to reduce my condition
@OptimisticMedia23
@OptimisticMedia23 3 місяці тому
Thank you for sharing!
@ninadgandhi3733
@ninadgandhi3733 Місяць тому
These are really good advices. "Structure is a tool", I love this.
@JayhawkGuitar
@JayhawkGuitar Місяць тому
Outstanding lecture! I wish Matt had been my professor in college. Very engaging to the very end and extremely useful. There are clear applications across my life communicating with my family, in my roles in business development and in podcasting. Thanks, Matt!
@MrDiegoDaza80
@MrDiegoDaza80 2 місяці тому
Matt thanks a lot for this conference and video resource. It's super useful, loved the pitching framework... I'll practice practice practice!
@philrincon
@philrincon 2 місяці тому
Purchased the audio book. Thank you.
@LoveeDooUniverse
@LoveeDooUniverse Місяць тому
I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.
@nickpetrock2710
@nickpetrock2710 Місяць тому
Love this guy! He's like a serious Steve Martin, very engaging speaker!
@JayhawkGuitar
@JayhawkGuitar Місяць тому
Well said! 100% agree.
@traviswebster4622
@traviswebster4622 2 місяці тому
This was also a wonderful video to learn from. I get real tense when attempting to "say the right things"; so thank you for uploading this content for others to evolve from
@shrikantpawar8269
@shrikantpawar8269 3 місяці тому
Thank you so much sir 🙏
@dihett
@dihett 2 місяці тому
This was useful-thank you.
@rabiulhussain1083
@rabiulhussain1083 2 місяці тому
Thank you Matt. I hope to one day come back and repeat, reflect and seek feedback, from others and myself. Anyone else what like to share there feedback?
@nmdusama
@nmdusama 2 місяці тому
Structure mindset and messaging..thanks
@yuzhou8316
@yuzhou8316 2 місяці тому
Very helpful! Thank you!
@Vuistic
@Vuistic 2 місяці тому
I have been listening to your podcast on spotify for 2 years...now i get to see you :) thank you for the show...and love your voice and pace!
@ahsanmohammed1
@ahsanmohammed1 Місяць тому
Thank you! Appreciated.
@ejikeasogwa9699
@ejikeasogwa9699 2 місяці тому
Knowledge is power
@julietableichmarholman518
@julietableichmarholman518 2 місяці тому
Seriously, pretty fantastic! 🎉
@user-nt3nh7ur2s
@user-nt3nh7ur2s 2 місяці тому
Love is a gift that comes to my mind 🤔
@ahedyemen
@ahedyemen Місяць тому
Thanks more for this tips ,thanks again you faced me to the right way
@choodeshb7723
@choodeshb7723 15 днів тому
Great Teacher ❤
@user-rm9bo9yf4m
@user-rm9bo9yf4m 6 днів тому
This was so good thank you
@kandutho
@kandutho 2 місяці тому
It’s dificult to gasp the fact that we as a society need a “ how to have a conversation” course. It’s like teaching droids how to behave. Makes me sad. I appreciate the content nonetheles
@jamalperry4281
@jamalperry4281 Місяць тому
I was thing this??? Why is it a class to talk. Everyone is different and every situation is subtly different… I feeel like he’s teaching how to be deceptive!!!
@JoelTanSG
@JoelTanSG Місяць тому
@kadutho because being able to communicate under high stress situation is a important skill set that should have been taught when we were kids but unfortunately was not. It’s not about “how to have a conversation “ but how to effectively bring across what’s in my mind to someone different from me and be able to connect with him through words
@user-ts9nk9bi3u
@user-ts9nk9bi3u 2 місяці тому
I found you in UKposts by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge
@MOHDREHAN-pq3ny
@MOHDREHAN-pq3ny 2 місяці тому
I have heard many talks on this talk and this is the best so far, it makes the sense straight away. I have already watched it multiple times and will listen to it again and again. Thanks a lot for such a life changing coaching on communication skills
@BrainMartian
@BrainMartian Місяць тому
27:55
@BrainMartian
@BrainMartian Місяць тому
30:52
@BrainMartian
@BrainMartian Місяць тому
p 43:53
@kenken6550
@kenken6550 2 місяці тому
When i was teaching HS Drama 1, i was not teaching acting... i was teaching "how to speak publicly" and "make friends". Sure, we did it through games and scene work, but i think it helped.
@guidovanbelle8516
@guidovanbelle8516 2 місяці тому
Wish I had this lecture fifty years ago.
@uuyy5993
@uuyy5993 2 місяці тому
Hopefully u may have 50 years after this.. So 🥂
@lesleymhlanga4324
@lesleymhlanga4324 11 днів тому
🎉 thanks for the advice, as we speak I have a problem my mind just shut especially presenting sermon
@youngskunk
@youngskunk Місяць тому
His pitch was awesome 👌
@olakapkowicz4743
@olakapkowicz4743 4 дні тому
Amazing❤
@mohajaamus247
@mohajaamus247 Місяць тому
It,s First english vedio i ever completed
@levinsonl
@levinsonl 2 місяці тому
I love Steve Martin
@Kkviolet1822
@Kkviolet1822 2 місяці тому
Absolutely need to slow things down!
@navinagrawal1963
@navinagrawal1963 2 місяці тому
- manage anxiety - get out of Our Own Way - see it as an opportunity - listen well - structure your responses
@Qrealtorpa
@Qrealtorpa 2 місяці тому
Next play ❤️
@riskyhn2145
@riskyhn2145 26 днів тому
I watched his video 9 years ago, and still good till this day
@rocketcal6326
@rocketcal6326 25 днів тому
Sick ass time traveler lol
@Nicole-cf3kj
@Nicole-cf3kj Місяць тому
Speaking in the moment - is something that I struggle the most. I’m frozen all the time 😢 And I am in my 30s
@dukeyin1111
@dukeyin1111 Місяць тому
1)What? So what? Now what?. 2)Tell me the time, don’t make me a clock. 3) Structure/focus. pitching: what if you could, so that, for example, and that’s not all
@sandeepreddy7831
@sandeepreddy7831 14 днів тому
00:00:01:How to speak better in the moment if you have recently had to 00:01:34:6 Steps to Be Better at Talking in the Moment 00:04:10:How do you feel when you watch a nervous speaker present now I 00:06:29:Thermo Regulators for Your Body 00:07:28:How to manage anxiety if I didn't talk about a 00:09:44:How to maximize mediocrity in the moment we get in our own 00:11:32:When I am evaluating and judging everything I'm saying as 00:12:57:How to play a simple improvisation game with me 00:15:10:Step How we want to do well and we want to make sure we 00:17:01:How to see things opportunities the first comes from this notion of growth mindset 00:19:57:How to move to the next play if you're an athlete 00:22:56:Listening most of us are not good listeners we listen just enough 00:24:51:Three Things Pace Space Grace to listen well you have to give yourself 00:26:19:How to listen better if you don't respond right away 00:28:43:Why I was teased mercilessly because Matt rhymes with everything okay 00:31:17:This is a yes thumbs up yes thumbs down no no 00:34:04:Where are we going do I have the right shoes on should I go 00:35:14:3 simple questions what so what now what the what is your idea your 00:37:19:Structure is incredibly helpful in spontaneous communication in the new book 00:38:40:It is much better to be Compact and concise in what you're 00:40:48:How to speak more effectively in the moment what if you could feel 00:42:24:Do you see how easy that was do you see how the structure helped
@joshj3662
@joshj3662 Місяць тому
I love Steve Martin.
@prayaanshmehta3200
@prayaanshmehta3200 Місяць тому
6:00 manage anxiety 8:00 find sources of anxiety
@human-condition
@human-condition 3 дні тому
Executive summary: be present, be present, mistakes are the main way to learn, be more present.
@joaqin96
@joaqin96 2 місяці тому
This is really great. But i fell asleep really fast also xD.
@giselavila7590
@giselavila7590 Місяць тому
That was my problem in my last job interview, I felt so embarrassed 😢
@DailyBettermentandmore
@DailyBettermentandmore Місяць тому
Our internal thought processes may not always align perfectly with external communication. We might have a clear understanding of our thoughts internally, but conveying them to others requires translating them into a format that may not capture all the nuances of our internal experience.
@user-ps7ds8cb8i
@user-ps7ds8cb8i Місяць тому
That's good conversation
@The_Study_Studio_
@The_Study_Studio_ Місяць тому
00:01 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 01:13 Developing a Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 03:37 Six-Step Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 07:50 Managing Anxiety in Spontaneous Speaking 10:25 Developing a Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 12:48 Interactive Lecture Approach 15:08 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 16:46 Embracing Spontaneous Communication 18:20 Tools for Seeing Opportunities 21:19 Reframing Mistakes 22:33 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 25:02 Developing a Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 29:27 Improving Listening Skills through Paraphrasing 30:33 Interactive Paraphrasing Exercise 32:13 Importance of Messaging and Structure 33:24 Being a Good Tour Guide Analogy 34:44 Structures for Effective Communication 36:50 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 39:43 Interactive Lecture Approach Created using StudyStudio xyz
@smeaj
@smeaj Місяць тому
be present oriented
@JoelTanSG
@JoelTanSG 2 місяці тому
Me in the toilet cubicle: “I slit a sheet…” My colleague in the next one: 👀👀👀
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087 Місяць тому
Ss matter of Fact: The Best Tool...
@andrewringo6794
@andrewringo6794 2 місяці тому
Buddy made me feel like an idiot right off the bat with that Fs question
@MiamiHeat872
@MiamiHeat872 2 місяці тому
exhale, cold bottle, be present with walking, song, counting backwards, and tongue twister (i slip a sheet), be mediocre, what, so what, now what
@r1knd.e
@r1knd.e Місяць тому
3:45 Tame the anxiety beast
@marlonhans7122
@marlonhans7122 2 місяці тому
are those his...?😂 btw it's a really nice lecture..ill apply this in my work😊
@Chrisjavier2604
@Chrisjavier2604 2 місяці тому
“Of” los of OF
@moemenace5345
@moemenace5345 Місяць тому
Instructions unclear, I failed the interrogation for the triple homicide
@maroroarocha
@maroroarocha 2 місяці тому
Think faster , talk smarter
@siamakarassi
@siamakarassi Місяць тому
I am that person Dr Siamak Baghai Arassi
@jamilmahammad3203
@jamilmahammad3203 Місяць тому
Abhi 2024 meh aa video dak raha hoo
@eduvidio
@eduvidio 2 місяці тому
Anyone can explain to me about the 6F?
@eduvidio
@eduvidio 2 місяці тому
Nvm I got it in my fifth replay 😂😂
@munmundey3768
@munmundey3768 2 місяці тому
Here you go - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years
@TiyibAbdat
@TiyibAbdat 7 днів тому
👍
@thatsnotme5574
@thatsnotme5574 26 днів тому
Despite the title talk faster I feel like this video is 2hrs long , may because I'm a slow listner 🙂
@luismata3328
@luismata3328 2 місяці тому
I am seeing this and I think they are actually 5 Fs in there
@shrikantpawar8269
@shrikantpawar8269 3 місяці тому
Good morning sir
@nikkii7203
@nikkii7203 2 місяці тому
MQU❤
@Sainthosh_
@Sainthosh_ Місяць тому
How did he find 6 Fs in that "quote"?
@asararulhaque8391
@asararulhaque8391 Місяць тому
Search again it's 6F Count "of" also contacted F
@jo8188
@jo8188 2 місяці тому
More then 44 minutes without using mmm, hmm, aaand , incredible🎉
@drishtim2848
@drishtim2848 Місяць тому
Takeaway tongue twister : I slit a sheet , a sheet I slit , and on that slitted sheet I sit 😅
@audacious8866
@audacious8866 Місяць тому
still findinf only 5 "f"s
@philopolymath
@philopolymath Місяць тому
9/10 Indian telephone scammers agree
@thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep9986
@thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep9986 Місяць тому
Don’t think about it…
@mysticery
@mysticery 2 місяці тому
You can find Ariana grande's music here - yes, and? 😂
@NagyMedia
@NagyMedia Місяць тому
Speak* smarter.
@HoffM-mc7qj
@HoffM-mc7qj Місяць тому
Pretty good stuff, I just realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's crazy! Although what he previously talked about was pretty decent, it was difficult to follow, I just go'ogled the latest in Mario's Thunderous Erections, it's so much simpler and potent now!
@blakethom
@blakethom 2 місяці тому
there are 5 f’s tho
@Limbuuriya
@Limbuuriya Місяць тому
I freeze 🥶 ?????
@michaelnyenty
@michaelnyenty Місяць тому
Am I the only one? But I can only find 3 Fs not 6😢
@fene241
@fene241 Місяць тому
you probably skipped over the word “of” it was in the sentence 3 times
@DeborahFESQF-jf4gw
@DeborahFESQF-jf4gw 22 дні тому
👍🐝🦷🌹🍻
@user-qv5tm3fo3p
@user-qv5tm3fo3p 2 місяці тому
nnnl
@OfficialTypeOne
@OfficialTypeOne Місяць тому
maybe a tip on keeping nips from getting piercing hard... 🤣
@hayien
@hayien 2 місяці тому
Bro did not name his kids right lmao
@user-be5ks3tv1w
@user-be5ks3tv1w 2 місяці тому
Wait there aren’t more than 3 F’s? Dafuq is he talking about ?! 😅😂
@munmundey3768
@munmundey3768 2 місяці тому
If that helps - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years
@bhima_durga
@bhima_durga Місяць тому
How many fs?
@noeltellsall
@noeltellsall Місяць тому
Just 1, Me. I did not pass the intro quiz.
@thilde007
@thilde007 Місяць тому
I couldn’t find a single F and I don’t give a F
@thegarybains
@thegarybains Місяць тому
😂😂😂😂😂
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