Thanks for posting! I was gonna have to go through the whole talk again (though no bad thing OFC!) to find this quote! It reeeeeeeeeealy resonated with me!

So powerful!

can someone explain this

@@Bored817 It means when you avoid speaking up about something you feel is a problem to you (whether it be a problem you have with a friend/family member/neighbour/work colleague etc. Or indeed you need to confront and speak to someone about a problem you have at work, such as how things are ran/done there, for eg,) and instead of speaking up you say nothing and internalize what needs to be said, you create a 'war within yourself.' You have no doubt done this before, and when we do, notice how we ruminate over and over and over what we would like to say to the person (or what we feel needs to be said.) We find it difficult to let it go and we can consequently become resentful towards that person, and perhaps even resentful towards ourselves for not speaking up and out about how we feel and instead having put peace between that person and ourselves first, rather than choosing peace within ourselves as the priority. As the saying goes, 'What we resist, persists.' I hope that helps! (I've just woken up so maybe I should have waited until I was more awake to try to explain something, 😄)

That really sounds so familiar. Nice!!.👍💯

Hang on there, just hang on and things will get better. It gets so wearisome to hang on I know and my compassion goes out to you and all of us suffering.

I think if We all had what we wanted in life, We would not be Here listening to this, I have received nothing from what the Lady is saying!; maybe it's to early yet.

@@buddyroe61 I don't know that I can agree, but keep listening! I hope you get what I got from this!

@D Legionnaire WHAT ARE YOU SAYING? ALTHOUGH THE ALL CAPS WOULD INDICATE SCREAMING, MAYBE YOU CAN'T HEAR? I DON'T GET YOUR POINT.

As a medicinal pothead, I love the "not when you're sober" bit.

That's some naked truth.

Yes it’s so true

Bro.. wow

😖

😘

Some people maybe admired your dedication and commitment to get so far under difficult circumstances. I would. I have the opposite problem of having many advantages and opportunities to do what I want but underachieving and ultimately failing to succeed in much at all! Every time I meet someone like you, I was the one who felt ashamed and unworthy. I guess the truth is, neither of us should beat ourselves up about our predicament and accept who and what we are. Maybe we are doing our best. More importantly, the fact you and I have sat and listened to this great chat means we are both still seeking knowledge and understanding to be the best for each other and for ourselves. Take care.

Hope you've went back to it now? Do it if it's still in your heart. Find a way. I'm Scottish and got to university after being married at 17, divorced with three daughters at 24. Started night class and ended up their.. With the encouragment of people I respected around me. Two men in particular, a tutor and community worker. Got in and confidence crashed. Did an aptitude test that convinced I was too stupid to be there, felt like a fraud. The woman said just don't go for jobs with aptitude tests, that flipped it around but still doubted a bit. Stuck it out and did it. The last year was like pushing a rock up a hill but got there. Had available parents to babysit and Scotland had free tuition at that point, so that made it work.

I am so sorry 🥺 If I wasn't broke ass poor, I'd send you back to school myself!! What I can do though is pray. 🙏 I'm praying for GOD to make a way for you to fulfill those dreams and desires in your heart. Tbh, I'm thinking He's the one who put them there in the first place. (Father, may Your good and perfect will alone come to pass in all our lives. In Jesus precious name, amen.)

The sad thing is that to those people YOU are intimidating. You got to where you are DESPITE challenges. Challenges is what creates GREATNESS. If all their extra resources and opportunities were gone tomorrow could they motivate themselves enough to get where you were? Could they push themselves past the self doubt, angst, and pressure to give up? Not many people can. We live in a world that tells you trying is selfish. Wanting is elitist or it’s pointless because it’ll never happen. YOU are proof that if you try, it CAN and WILL happen. You don’t have the money to go back to school, most of us don’t. Take out the loans and bet on yourself. I just did something similar, and guess what? It worked out. Why? Because I had no other option. I didn’t give myself one. YOU deserve it. Don’t ever let anyone (including yourself) tell you otherwise.

No, you are an amazing person! PhD.? Wow! Dont let them pull you down to their level! You are to be admired! You are amazing and I wish you every success...you deserve it!!!!

Me too. I am a control person so I pray ppl will find this video without my help ...?? Hard for me not to forward 😞 😔

Go to clubhouse

Me too. I don't have any friends really. I haven't for a long time for various reasons. It's honestly kind of starting to get to me a bit.

^_^ :3 A copy-and-paste I made recently: Lmfao. 1) Most people misuse that word. It means to be mostly or solely into prepubescent children, by definition. 2) Many later admitted to lying in that case to profit off MJ. 3) They were teens. So, not a pedo. 4) There are various reasons why people are attracted to actually prepubescent children, and it's not just brain makeup that many assume but has been debunked. 5) MJ did it smoother and it seems MJ's is the actual Moonwalk, like someone else said. 6) Age of consent went up only in some areas. 7) Life expectancy went up. 8) Mary was 14 in the unoriginal and very debunked Bible of my Jewish and Greek people. Virgin birth is a mistranslation of almah and wasn't even in original Christianity. Lmfao.... 9) Edgar Allen Poe, Drake the rapper, Tekashi, many classical top philosophers, and many others have been into minors. It's just natural. Calendars......lol...oh well.... (; It's natural to be into pubescent minors. 10) The brain fully develops at 25, not at 18. Lmfao. 18 and 19 are still teens. Lmfao. 11) Way too many violent people. America, the prison capital, drug capital, debt capital, etc. Biden... on them prepubescent looking girls. .....lol.... Epstein had pubescent minors too, as some have even pointed out on the news he wasn't a pedo. So many mindless people. Fuck. Lol. 😂🤣🤣🤣😅😹😹😹😹😹

@@michaelsilverfoote6272 same 🖐️🤗💗

What a unique message, and how empowering for survivors of DV.

Dv perpetrators have such power in our society. Let’s ask them to be better, dig into why, finding mentors amongst other men. Expose themselves to others whose can share their power shift in patriarchal care and leadership starting with themselves.

My heart goes out to anyone who is suffering or HAS suffered from DV. Us “survivors” are stronger for it and it’s so nice not to accept or feel we deserve to wear the badge of “victim” any longer! ❤️❤️🙏🙏🥰

@@katee8147 The boundaries must first be enforced by the loved ones. They will not change if they don’t have to and confronting or asking them to expand their views is basically telling them that they’re doing something wrong which is exactly what they don’t understand.

@@christola interesting 🤨

yes...thats so powerful and it speaks volumes. TRUTH of STEEL

I wish she would've elaborated on the statement "I am compassionate because I don't subject myself to the abuse of other people". I can't grasp the correlation. Any clue anyone?

@@justanotherother because you choose self- compassion first, which then puts you into the place where you can afford to be compassionate towards others.

@@justanotherother No. This makes no sense to me either.

This is why codependency is TOXIC. You can't have compassion if you're in survival.

Elizabeth Nickle , that was one of the most profound things I took away from it

William Oarlock mhm. I’m sure you’re doing your best.

@William Oarlock may I ask what you hope to accomplish by coming here and being negative? Isn't there a rally somewhere that needs you?

I use this all the time when I interact with people.

:3 :3 A copy-and-paste I made recently: Lmfao. 1) Most people misuse that word. It means to be mostly or solely into prepubescent children, by definition. 2) Many later admitted to lying in that case to profit off MJ. 3) They were teens. So, not a pedo. 4) There are various reasons why people are attracted to actually prepubescent children, and it's not just brain makeup that many assume but has been debunked. 5) MJ did it smoother and it seems MJ's is the actual Moonwalk, like someone else said. 6) Age of consent went up only in some areas. 7) Life expectancy went up. 8) Mary was 14 in the unoriginal and very debunked Bible of my Jewish and Greek people. Virgin birth is a mistranslation of almah and wasn't even in original Christianity. Lmfao.... 9) Edgar Allen Poe, Drake the rapper, Tekashi, many classical top philosophers, and many others have been into minors. It's just natural. Calendars......lol...oh well.... (; It's natural to be into pubescent minors. 10) The brain fully develops at 25, not at 18. Lmfao. 18 and 19 are still teens. Lmfao. 11) Way too many violent people. America, the prison capital, drug capital, debt capital, etc. Biden... on them prepubescent looking girls. .....lol.... Epstein had pubescent minors too, as some have even pointed out on the news he wasn't a pedo. So many mindless people. Fuck. Lol. 😂🤣🤣🤣😅😹😹😹😹😹

Two vacuous disengaged mouthpieces.

@@williamoarlock8634 where...do you get that? That's bizarre.

@@williamoarlock8634 An obvious troll is obvious.

Nah..she is quite liberal which is untihuman..

re9is who’s that a quote from?

Richard Rohr, a christian mystic.

That was my favorite part of a very very good conversation ...

re9is the best 🙌🏼

@@marshymiyagi2362 This is the basic concept of what happens when the ego represses or supresses painful emotions that Freud explained long before Richard Rohr.

the chemistry is just amazing and the topics were so poignant

Me too x

:p Nice. Aha moments, yes yes. Nice phrase! 🔥😅

:3 :3 A copy-and-paste I made recently: Lmfao. 1) Most people misuse that word. It means to be mostly or solely into prepubescent children, by definition. 2) Many later admitted to lying in that case to profit off MJ. 3) They were teens. So, not a pedo. 4) There are various reasons why people are attracted to actually prepubescent children, and it's not just brain makeup that many assume but has been debunked. 5) MJ did it smoother and it seems MJ's is the actual Moonwalk, like someone else said. 6) Age of consent went up only in some areas. 7) Life expectancy went up. 8) Mary was 14 in the unoriginal and very debunked Bible of my Jewish and Greek people. Virgin birth is a mistranslation of almah and wasn't even in original Christianity. Lmfao.... 9) Edgar Allen Poe, Drake the rapper, Tekashi, many classical top philosophers, and many others have been into minors. It's just natural. Calendars......lol...oh well.... (; It's natural to be into pubescent minors. 10) The brain fully develops at 25, not at 18. Lmfao. 18 and 19 are still teens. Lmfao. 11) Way too many violent people. America, the prison capital, drug capital, debt capital, etc. Biden... on them prepubescent looking girls. .....lol.... Epstein had pubescent minors too, as some have even pointed out on the news he wasn't a pedo. So many mindless people. Fuck. Lol. 😂🤣🤣🤣😅😹😹😹😹😹

They may make a mistake hurting her husband 😂😭😂😂

@William Oarlock Ouch, a bit unnecessarily mean.. Burt I'm sure you're doing your best :-p

this interview and his interview with Gabor Mate are absolutely wonderful!!!!!

@William Oarlock Why are you on such a spiritually healing page? Kindly bounce away, on a light breeze

Brooklyn, I'm with you on this 💝

I agree. The Russel Brand of the 2010s seemed more hedonistic and less disciplined. I'm digging the mellower spiritual Russel Brand. He doesn't come across like a know-it-all guru like such "spiritual" people become.

Before my eyes …

Yep that one. Brilliant!

"If we are painstaking in this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through. We will come to know a new freedom and a new happiness. *We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it."*

@@howtosober Regrets can sometimes be remediated with amends.

Me too! I told my sons counselor this and she said WOW and I was a rock star for verbalizing this and also realizing what it means. It struck me as well.

Me too!

drivethrupoet Thank you for this comment! I’m going to try that tactic. ❤️

drivethrupoet This is huge for me because I’ve been at a loss. Thank you.

Well done you! 🌅

YES!!!!!!

The ALT Group I couldn’t agree more. Thanks for commenting.

Love always has been the answer to most problems. Simple, not easy for many. xoxo

Hahaha

Yes, when we love our self and one other, it encourages others to do the same. When one loves themselves, a wonderful energy is give to others to receive. Soon it will be like a wonderful dis ease, everyone will catch it. Agape love is the answer. Choose love. Yes, to my dear deceased friend, pastor Jeremy Mahood, I am a dreamer .I am very grateful to be surrounded by beings that are also dreamers of love, peace, & abundant life. The alternative is hate , war, and death. We all have free choice. Pat. Xoxo

she sucks

Totally!!!!!

Absolutely agree

I think so too! ... Not a great fan of the long beard though 🙊

An amazing talk Thanks Russell and Brene

It’s a true gift isn’t it.

he really is. Superhuman 5D

Lol....

You’re absolutely right. I think they need to just make a weekly podcast that’s just the two of them talking.

his vocabulary and delivery of words is music to my ears. So brilliant. Well said Proofe

Love is limitless. Love is more powerful than hate. Love changes things that hate cannot.

Gift means poison in german its strange right

@@jessef88 He gives a gift from he's poisones self.

Yakkup Arturo what's German for gift 🎁?

They are so good together - right?!

So unforgiveness is okay?

@@PillCozbee Accountability is unforgiving?

When we sense compassion from our Source/God we are compassionate with ourselves which brings forth the deep boundaries for ourselves and in turn others. thank you 🙏 from the bottom of my ❤️

It’s hard fo find love in a narcissist. I can find a damaged child in one and find compassion and love for one. But when they are so disconnected they cannot feel love themselves... how do you reach them?

All the advice is... you cannot. You have to disconnect with love. You cannot even hold someone accountable when they are in such denial and so detached from oneness they can’t even see the harm they are doing. I want to ask Brené about that.

Congratulations on your sobriety. That's wonderful!

Nice

@@Nancy-md7qr thankyou I'm now in my 7th day and powering along feeling Alot better. Appreciate your kind words.!

@@lukazubic3909 Thanku much appreciated.!!!

Congratulations

I'm only 59 minutes in, so maybe one of them says this later on; but the reason (and I read this in a book, so it must be true) that having boundaries is good is because, although you must love everyone, you must include yourself as one of the people you love. Ergo, if someone treats you badly, it is your duty, as a person who loves everyone, to put yourself out of harm's way.

I would add that they also choose very carefully where they express their compassion...meaning that they don't start bleeding at the heart every time they see a homeless person on the street.

I never understood the true meaning of boundaries before. I aways thought it was a person's way to cop out, so they can walk away from a given situation or person; but now i understand it as a loving, emotionally healthy gift that you give to yourself, in such a way that it does not hurt anyone; and is in fact, very compassionate towards everyone involved!

Paul The Legend Yass

So. Boundaries are good, but walls are bad?

If you can substitute "humanist" for "spiritual" I'll be with you.

@@williamchamberlain2263 humanist=nihlist

We chose this.The reason we are here is to experience and grow, unfortunately this means dealing with difficult situations, individually and globally. We live in a world of duality Dark has to exist so we can seek out the light. This does not mean that World cannot become a better place, we all have to work to make it so, this is part of our challenge.

Also love his answer, "to access people because their triblism, rationalism, materialism....is some sort of universal spiritualism."

totally with you on that Jodi!

Isn't it beautiful how just a phrase can change our perspectives

Naabun Gaming Yes!

This seems rather a grandiose statement to me, if she can do this, I would like to see a demonstration.

More like two brainwashed sheaps from the hive mind if you ask me. Actions speaks louder than words.

@@victorbeardman1610 I hear anger

Anne McGlone I hear your appreciation for what they offer. They also have their limits. We also have valuables to contribute to them.

@@InternetSado Yes you're right I'm filled with anger bcause of people like Russell Brand, you should be too if you would be sane, but I guess you're insane that's why you're not angry. I guess you haven't been to Sweden or other european countries lately either huh?

Anne McGlone PLZ BELIEVE ME TRANSGENDER PEOPLE ACT UP WHEN TOGETHER

Depression is internalised anger.

But if your ego is not involved then avoiding conflict is easy

This could be WHY I suffer "shell shock" or PTSD?! I Internalize when I feel abuse from people and/or situations I cant avoid. K.

Same here. But for me it’s 35 years. I wonder what books they’d both recommend that they’ve written we’d start on. As I feel I’ve learnt more from these two in the last few minutes than I have in years of therapy

I needed to hear this. Thanks.

Two privileged media grifters spouting hot air at each other.

What do you mean by 'us who don't have a card'? Is your access to you tube limited? Sorry I just want to understand. :)

Hello!🙂 No...I can get UKposts, but I don’t have a credit card so I am not able to sign up (or afford!🤣) things like Luminary, Russell’s subscription service. So I was grateful he allowed this to be seen for free.

I am AMERICAN and I don’t have a card also. Thanks Russell for realization that much of the world doesn’t have a card or bank account.

But he does not seem to mind choosing a platform which only services 4 countries in the world? And doesn't put them all on youtube because not enough money from youtube? Not sure its so kind considering how different so many of his actions are compared to what he claims to support.

Have you been practicing??

Yes, having trained with mindfulness and supercharged that part of me, I'm not only kind to people, their quirks, their weirdness and their wickedness but I'm also simultaenously can let myself not be their prey without needing to hurt them, I wasn't like this earlier almost like I didn't know or was aware of how to do that.

Meet more people.

Me too! I kept looking for it and could only find the segments and I knew there had to be a full episode somewhere. I was so happy to see this pop up on my UKposts today!

STEVE! 👐👐👐

😂😂 we love them too. 🙏🏾

I hope you may be gracious enough to allow a reality of multiple reactions 💓

My guess is people who dislike Russell’s particular style of waffling because why say one word when you can speak for ten minutes to say the same

Insightful and kind.

Kornelia F They both have such a wealth of excellent information to share!! I’m such a big fan of Gabor Mate, and now I think I need to read all the other books by Brene that I haven’t read yet!

I find Gabor Mate boring. And rambling. I can’t get anything out of him. Maybe it m already there so it’s not exciting.

elsa Grace Well then read his books instead of listening to his voice. His theories or his body of work are really important, imo. I have never come across anything that so effectively describes the combination of social, spiritual, psychological aspects of mental health, trauma recovery, the connection between the psyche and physical disease, and addiction treatment/recovery

elsa Grace i hope you can open your heart and mind to him...he has some of the most transformative information out there. From being a physician, to working with addicts... to owning his own failures.. I found one of his statements about trauma profound “Trauma is a disconnection from self” A lot of his work is in healing that pain caused by disconnect from oneself. And addressing that in addicts, as addicts are trying to numb that pain..,but once they have tools and support to discover their true selves, they can heal. INCREDIBLE. He also speaks to society’s 4 big alienation’s. 1) alienation from nature 2)alienation from self 3)alienation from others 4) alienation from meaning (true purpose, creativity etc Working those could transform our world and ourselves. Blessings 🌸

90MysteriumFascinans yes!!! I just discovered him and I KNOW I am headed in a new direction and healing...and he is a part of it! I am so excited and hopeful.