When I lived in Germany I found it easier to make friends than in my home country. The secret in Germany is understanding the inclination to belong to clubs associated with a passion. Many Germans are passionate about a hobby/interest, and they are great at forming clubs to share this interest with others. I joined a tennis club and sang in a choir. The folks I met were very welcoming. And I always spoke German, and accepted help with my German.

I'm German and here's my perspective: Friends are people I fully trust. People I'd give a key to my house when on holidays. I feel like friendship in Germany is a much deeper connection than elsewhere. In the US you might call somebody a friend that you shared a beer with, but that's not enough here. As everything else in Germany, friendship is serious business.

I think it's more of a general issue. When I move to another city as a German, it's not easy for me to find good friends either.

for me the problem lies in the definition of "friend" because I think that there are big differences between German and many other cultures as to what a "friend" and what an "acquaintance" is. an acquaintance is someone you know, like, and see occasionally, but who is not part of your inner social group. we germans take our time to find out who REALLY is a friend, who is always there for you when you need him.

There is one relatively easy way in that few foreigners seem to know about: Go join a club, a "Verein". There are 600.000 of them in Germany with more than 40 million members, so it's a huge part of German culture, especially when it comes to organizing recreational activities and volunteer work. Sports, music, theater, hiking, charitable work, conservation, fire brigades, disaster relief - there is literally no field Germans don't organize themselves in in a Verein. Of course, it requires the commitment to go to meetings, spend part of your weekends etc. (things the younger generation often shies away from) but it automatically lets you meet like-minded people who appreciate your interest and welcome you in their circle.

I am from Kiel in the north and here people are more quiet and reserved. I think this often gets perceived as "cold" or "this person doesnt want to meet people outside of their friend group" but on the inside we are very warm and like to make friends. We are just shy up here :D

The German culture has the tendences to be a bit sceptical and distant with new people and things. You need to approach people more to get their attention. But this did not mean the people are cold, Germans are also very warm and friendly and you can make very good new friends here, it just takes a bit more effort.

I moved to Germany 10 months ago. I have tried several times to reach out and make new friends. Part of it is me. I will take it only so far, and if I sense the person isn't meeting me half way in the effort, I stop. I do appreciate how friendship is viewed as a deeper relationship than just a mere acquaintance here. I also will make more effort. ❤️🇩🇪

It's even difficult if you are not a foreigner. Somehow my friend group was shrinking every year. People just live too far away and are too busy. I had a great experience with meeting people through an app and made great irl friends that way. A lot of people are looking for friends, I was surprised.

I believe it's not just a German thing, it's also hard in other cultures to find real friendship as a foreigner.

Because you suspect you're getting on other people's nerves? You make friends when you both realise that you have common interests. You don't have to come from far away to have no friends, you can do that even if you're a local.

You're a fantastic presenter. Even when you make a mistake you keep it in and it works. Well done mate!

Yo! Thank you for these videos. I’m moving up to Germany from the U.S. I’m a German citizen, but I grew up in nyc/Miami. This is very helpful.

First! 🤣 I am from Germany and I really enjoy your videos because I like your openness towards other people and culture(s) and I find it really interesting to get a foreigner’s perspective on this country! All the best to you!

I'm from NY and I was able to make a German friend who was studying abroad here. I was invited to Germany that following summer, and it was the best time of my life. My friend is from a small city between Osnabrück and Hengelo (NL), and from my perspective, Germans want to get to know you. I will say that it was easier for me due to being good friends with 'one from the group', when he'd take me to the city parties or at the club everyone flocked to me in excitement. I agree that language can be a barrier. For context, I had taken an academic year of German and could have simple conversations, which made it even easier. When being at the club and trying my best at German, people would literally buy me shots and I kicked off many conversations by just saying "halloooo" - they pick up on the accent and are immediately hooked/intrigued I got to make many German friends from the local area, and I accidentally penetrated various friend groups. This happened in 2019, and today, I still go visit my friend and his mom and stay in close touch with many of the people that I met. I love Germany!!! Germans want to get to know foreigners, learn about a different culture. The key is, being able to put yourself out there, learning some of the language and being excited about the culture!

Your videos are fantastic bro, keep it going with the good work😎✨ greetings from Brazil🇧🇷

It's hard for older people, period. In any country, everyone's closest friends are usually from when they were children. To make friends, you have to see them often, so you join a club or Verein or hobby group where others share your interests. What else is there - neighbors, if you're lucky; colleagues, maybe; do something where you help others, like teaching a language; but be prepared to invest a bit of time. And don't tell me that in other countries you become friends with random acquaintances at a snap of a finger.

Love reading the commentsection under every video! Im learning new stuff about my country everytime!

I am german. When you move into another city because if work for example, it is nearly impossible to find new friends. No matter where you come from. I moved here five years ago. I got along with some colleagues very well, we even meet outside work sometimes and I would call them friends. But out of five people three already moved away… because of a new job. Obviously the pandemic didn’t make things easier, but even before it was hard. The people with kids never have any time, everyone works full time, there are rare occasions to meet new people and the colleagues change often. Now I have a daughter and am meeting other parents. Maybe a friendship can form with one of them…but it is still hard to develop a real friendship when you never have the time to hang out…everyone is always working and busy…

Well...I used to live in Germany and I found that at some point I MOSTLY had friends who were fellow expats but I don't blame Germans for that. I have had similar issues in other countries and I think the reason is that locals already have their build up friends circles and just don't need any more social contacts. Especially if they have lived in the area for their whole life up there among a small group of people they know well. People are more willing to try to find new contacts if they are new to an area and don't know many people as it is the case with expats.

Well, I think the lady who said that Germans tend to keep work and „inner circle of friends”/“folks to spend spare time with” separate, nailed one of the major reasons. Then, Germans tend to work during work times and spend little or no time socialising at work - so it will be very difficult to know each other more privately by that. (I also found it very telling that especially the Lady from the US mentioned this - this must be one of the major differences between US-American and German working place culture. We Germans do have a life outside work - it’s just _outside work_ … 😂 ) Which means: after a certain age, it can be very hard to find friends when one is relocating, even for Germans. Another reason is that ppl tend to stay the evenings at home more often at a certain age, and on the other hand it takes some time for us to invite others there… I guess that as a Nation, we are a bit fussy when it comes to personal relationships… It’s easier once you have kids especially in daycare/kindergarden, and then ebbs off a bit again. As for the elderly Lady (about my own age, I guess 😅), talking about Germans walking with and talking to “Asian girls” - I could not help but wonder whether all these girls were actually Asian looking Germans… 😂 (Please excuse the inside joke…) Once more, a very interesting video.

again, another video i watched. and man, i am so indrigued, you are so wow. how can a young brit be so positive about us.

I think, there are multiple reasons. The first one is the language barrier. I would never expect to make friends easily in a foreign country, if I cannot communicate in the endogenous language. I have been to multiple different european countries and in general people are nice and welcoming and a lot of them can speak english sufficiently - as many germans (including myself) do. But to exchange thoughts, ideas and feelings easily and regularly and with a sufficient depth to generate a friendship, that is usually not enough. So, making friends in countries with a more widespread language is generally easier for more people. There is also a bias involved: If you get older, it generally gets more difficult to make new friends and people tend to move to other countries as adults. There are other factors, which can mostly be summarized as cultural. One obstacle is, where friendships tend to be generated. There is a tendency to keep a distance to coworkers in germany, whilst a lot of potentially closer social life (except for personal bubbles) takes place in clubs which are related to hobbies and if you do not join such a club and play an active role there, you have a disadvantage. Also, smalltalk and relationships without depth are less normal than it seems to be the case in some other countries. Therefore there might actually (typically) be a higher treshold. Making a new friend tends to be quite a big commitment in germany. There are other potential obstacles. Germans are often described as brutally honest. If you come from a culture, where it is more common to suggarcoat stuff - especially if you like somebody and want to be friends - it tends to be difficult to make friends with people who rather act on the premise, that the more honest you are, the more you qualify as a friend. Of cause, those factors are just tendencies and obviously there are many additional nuances to the friends-problem.

i would so much like to see more street videos with you talking german to germans. i think you would be surprised how open and not rude they are. they love you, especially, they never expect brits are so posive towards us. hugs.

It's difficult to make friends everywhere. When I settled in Montana 25 years ago in my thirties, it took me years to make a few close friends. All of them are Montana natives and it took a while to become accustomed to the culture here even though I am American. While people here in Montana are very friendly and polite to strangers, being accepted into a friend group is quite a different story. Expecting to move to Germany from a foreign country and quickly make good friends with the locals is absurd. You must speak the language fluently, learn the culture, and then meet people with whom you have things in common. I know a couple of foreigners who live in my community, and they have had an incredibly difficult time being accepted because they are not American.

My perspective, having lived in a few different countries, is that it is often hard full stop to make friends wherever you live. It might be easier in Germany compared to some other countries and harder in Germany compared to some yet other countries... I used to live in Italy. I also found it hard to make friends there, but easier than in Germany, but that is in large part because of the context I found myself in in Italy.

If you think Germany is hard, try Switzerland. 😅

For me I feel comfortable living here, cause no one would care or simply talk, which I'm happy. Because being an introvert, talking to a stranger is least priority. but I talk only if someone approaches to me. I know a bit deutsch, cause I'm studying as part of my masters in Darmstadt. Start of with Shopkeepers, go to Döner shops, Aldi, try ordering things in Deutsch I regularly buy food at mensa, say hallo, order your food in german, get it and say vielen Dank oder Danke oder dankeschön. also say Tschüss. I once went to campus connect, I met new people there, I started introducing myself in German, they were really surprised just because it's been a month, I quickly observed and adapted. They saw my efforts in integrating with the culture, thus I was able to talk better. that's how I gained contacts

I think it’s just more difficult to make friends anywhere, especially if you are adult. There are so many movie choices, book genre, religions, sports, the chances that you will find someone with at least 50% of matching interests is very low.. and even if you do, other things should match too, like background, character, mentality, you should connect and understand each other on some deeper level to become friends in my opinion.. and it’s just as rare as finding love! For 30 years in my home country i made only one rock solid friend. I have another friend also, but I’m more like an acquaintance to her nowadays due to different locations, lifestyles etc..

Freunde und Bekannte! Ein riesengroßer Unterschied :D

Es ist auch regional sehr unterschiedlich. Und auch im Ausland ist es schwierig "echte" Freunde zu finden, in manchen nahezu unmöglich. Engagiere Dich in Vereinen oder Institutionen und du bist dabei. Ich glaube es gibt es nicht mehr so wie es dargestellt wird.

I can only speak for myself, but when in Australia someone called me a friend and invited me to come over to his house whenever I like, he would be usually surprised if you do. In Germany, if you consider someone a friend and invite him to come to your house, you are planning on visiting each other. Someone I meet at work or at a bar, I would not consider a friend unless we were drinking and having fun together at least once or twice. I would generalize, it is easy to connect to people some way or another in every country, but becoming friends might be more challenging in Germany, at least if you translate "friends" more like "close friends".

It depends if you’re in the north, south, east or west. In Cologne it’s quite easy for example.

7:35 so true, Munich is not Berlin.

Hey bruz! Pls make more videos

About to find out. But hope they are friendly!!!

I think it’s a universal thing that making friends in school is easy but it gets more difficult once you’re working. Most of my current friends I met back in college. And I’m from the US!

for extroverts who are into music, the best places to meet people: are at Parties, nightclubs (subculture) bars/clubs, Irish pubs, festivals, concerts, and through apps for introverts: book clubs, sports clubs, board games, Facebook groups, meetup(app) by going on hikes, music schools, church, etc...

If you think Germany is difficult try Switzerland 🥺

Some honesty coming up: 1. I think Germans are kind of stressed most of the time, dealing with their jobs and what have you. I myself would never be open to start some friendship with a foreigner without any context, like working at the same place, taking the same class etc. I feel like I have little time one my own as it is, and I'm just not available for anything else. 2. On top of #1, Germans are just generally speaking more reclusive. We keep to ourselves and are more introvert and even a little autistic. I did have some international friends while at uni, and myself actually lived outside of Germany for 15 years, so I do know how Germans differ from other people. Germans rarely have a strong national identity, but it is funny how few Germans move outside their own country. French people, I guess almost everyone really is much more up and about than us. I met a guy in Shanghai who was there for only four weeks. But he told me how he regretted coming, and that he'd never come back to China. He basically sat in his hotel room waiting out his time. Another group of Germans I talked to at the university couldn't tell me one thing they liked about China. I know it sounds insane, and it's weird because Germans aren't really aware how much they need their native surroundings, but boy, they so do. 3. This is bad: me personally I am seriously unhappy about the migration situation in Germany. From crime statistics, it seems like there is really loads of serious crimes being committed by Arabs and Afghans since 2015, and so generally speaking, I don't feel disposed to be super welcoming anymore. I first need my government to guarantee the safety of everyone living here. If they cannot do that while letting in people from wherever, then I am against more foreigners coming to Germany. I don't like that, it'd be way better to be more open, but two gang-rapes per day when we basically didn't use to have anything like gang-rape back in the 80s, let's say, is utterly inacceptable. I generally like anybody coming to Germany, but our government must make sure that crime does not follow as a result. Seems simple in principle. Germany has three times as high a rape rate as Poland. Sweden even 5 times as high. Completely unbearable. If we can make Germany safe again for everybody, I'll be happy about more immigration. But first this sh!t needs to stop, period.

Y’all gotta move from Munich 🤣🤣🤣

Especially in rural areas it is really hard, often almoste impossible, to make any friends. In bigger cities, especially cities with many migrants and/or students, its quite easy.

You simply have to join a church choir, brass band, sports club, carnival club, firefighters or whatever other club with shared interests there is. It's not optional. :-) Probably easier outside larger cities, but this is the way.

I find it very hard to make new friends in Germany. In 10 years I only made one. When I lived in the Netherlands as a foreigner it was much easier. The friends I made in NL during that time I still have even though I lived in DE for 10 years. I moved to DE when I was 32 and I moved for my job. I do speak German with an accent.

Why should you make friends with Germans in Germany? You don't have to! You can find people from other nationalities and make friends with them! Don't make it hard!

4:28 shes so sweet

What makes a sound person think, moving to a country and trying to get by on broken school English is going to do the trick lol ? It is absolute key to learn the language to take full advantage of that experience. Nothing to do with Germany really, you can move to Greece or Spain but never truly build long lasting genuine friendships with locals and be part of the culture because there's more to friendship than just ordering a beer and saying 'Dankeschön' and 'guten Tag', most of these ppl who seem to have English as their 2nd language won't even be able to express themselves fully in English so you have to make an effort

Painful experience 😢

That actually sums it up pretty well! Interesting to see that people who come from countries where English is not the native language, many speak English. But in countries where English is the native / official language, these people rarely speak other languages! Apart from bilingual education of course.

I think big part of the reason is where you live in Germany. In Berlin we aren't as interested in expats as they are usually just here for not long enough to make it worthwhile. It's why they mostly stay friends with other expats. It makes sense. Long term friendship is the goal for more Germans. However if you're an immigrant here for the long haul, then let's get to know each other! 🙂

It really depends on where you live in Germany. I come from a northern German city and now live in a smaller town in North Rhine-Westphalia. I would say in big cities people are much more open. At least in Bremen you can make small talk on the street without being perceived as strange, meet for coffee or any other activity without being seen as "indecent". Friendships or casual acquaintances can easily develop from this, if not, then still nothing is lost. I don't get very far with this relative openness where I live now, unfortunately. It is probably necessary to organize in association or other groups to overcome this hurdle first. I can't even imagine what it would be like if I didn't speak the language well. Here in the countryside i was looked at suspiciously because of my north german accent. My conclusion is that some Germans make life difficult for themselves and others with their distrust and distance.

I had the same experience in Munich as the woman from South Korea. And I come from Northern Germany. She described it very well at the beginning of the video. I've often heard from Munich that they like to keep to themselves in their bubble and that seems to be true. With German work colleagues there is an impenetrable wall and it was only possible to do something outside of work with non-German colleagues.

Language might not be the reason (e.g. the Dutch are also known to be fluent in english, yet many foreigners find it hard to break into their social circle), but perhaps due to the "cold" culture of northern Europeans to have close-knit and small circle of "true friends", maybe as a result of climate/geography or historical reasons which affected how their society evolved.

I think it's up to you, and how much German you know. My problem is the language barrier, people want to talk to me all the time but my German is so bad😅 Also, I'm really bad at small talk, whereas my husband has made some friends even though his German is worse than mine. He's very friendly, he always finds someone to chat with wherever we go 🙂

There are differences when it comes to "make friends". It strongly depends on WHERE in Germany you are. In Bavaria (Munich) it is much harder compared to lets say Hesse (Rhein-Main Area). The northern regions (Hamburg etc.) are also pretty reserved, even to other germans =)

In the US we don't make a distinction between the terms 'friend' and 'acquaintance' although we have these words. So everyone here is a classified as a friend but with different degrees of closeness. In Germany the distinction is well defined.

as a german i find it hard to find friends in germany

"down here, it is hard" 😂i see what you did there

Not just for foreigners.. I'm German and I have a lot of trouble making friends now that I'm out of university and I'm not living in the area I grew up in anymore.

It‘s harder in Germany because people tend keep on distance. I got my friends as a friend after knowing them for years. That’s a pretty low process of earning trust. But at the end you can rely on them.

I think is depends to who people you met. I usually didn't say hi to stranger, i was avoid to talking with stranger, im not convinient as well. So if i saw someone on the street and we're facing each others. I just throw smile to them.

One importend thing to my mind is that we are really open regarding other cultures and appreciate having them here but we love our own traditions and expect that foreigners respect them too or even share them with us.

İ think what the older men said is right. It's often quite hard for the ppl here to get into a new group of friends. I don't think it's because sb is a foreigner or not I think it's just the culture it's generally more hard to make friends but often as soon you are a friend the quality of friendships is a lot higher in general. In many other countries its quite easy to get some peers so to many foreigners it seems its hard to make friends as foreigners in Germany. I am half German half Asian

That's really the topic of our life's here in Germany. 😂 I have probably friends from at least 10 different countries but not a single German, I'm not joking. I noticed that Germans are mostly friends with other Germans and I have absolutely no clue why. They are certainly socially awkward to a very high degree. You can sometimes really see how stressed they are during social interactions 😂😂

It depends. I guess there are people who just speak English as a group, if there is anybody around who doesn't understand German. But if there are people around who don't speak English and others who don't speak German, it is hard to balance that. I've had a friend who couldn't speak English at all and after he lost his job, he decided to visit an English course for 3 months. Did I mention it was in New York City? Very crazy to not understand any word and then just moving to NYC for 3 months, just to learn the language :D

Yes, it is hard to make new friends, nobody has waited for you. That is exactly why I joined different clubs, sports, groupes to find new friends in the city I moved to. It will take time an afford and I need to be proactive about it. I’m a German, by the way.

Hallo .. you are so great .. i am 59 years old work with children and older people from other countries . The younger generation speak very well english the older germans often dont want to talk english . Mach weiter super Kanal .

In my last residential area, foreigners never want to have anything to do with Germans and sometimes they slammed the door in my face, although I was always friendly and nice to them!

As a foreign student in Germany from Asia I usually find that foreigners and germans with migrant backgrounds (so germans with turkish/middle east/western asian backgrounds) friendlier and more approachable. I find asian-germans and asians in germany more reserved just like the germans. But I never experienced discrimination and I'm pretty sure it's because I can speak german.

Yees it take a lil bit time here… 20 years actually 😂😂😂

i am a foreign student in Germany and i dont have friends

For me as a german, its hard to find the free time to have social contacts in general. I think i work to much.

Can you go to Liechtenstein?

Everybody a) has only a limited sample size and b) is constantly getting older, which changes the "problem" in any culture. So if you were in country X in your 20s and move to country Y in your 30s, guess what, it's going to be harder - also because you're 30, have different expectations, life circumstances and standards. While I agree that the Germans can be quirky and reserved, which is something to navigate properly, I would say a very big aspect to this is how you communicate, what you put out. The older I get, the less I get approached in any country, because youth seems to be a factor for the ease of connecting. You see that in the friendly couple(?)'s response, they're open and young, go partying and have no problem connecting whatsoever.

This problem is universal, not just Germany, it’s pretty much the same all over the world. Expats have difficult time finding friends. There are casual acquaintances for sure, but friends? It’s much harder

Try to make friends in France by speaking english there :)

I'll see myself and ask my question then see that

I'm leaving in lower Bavaria for 25 years, but I go never alone to an event, could be that nobody speaks with me. But if I'm at least 1 other person, ppl are noticing that we are nice together u are now open and friendly. On the other hand they are all very busy with familiy and friends. And women are reluctant to invite someone to their house, if it could be a problem with their husband.

I was waiting for the comments from the guy of Nicaragua but didn't happen

It´s hard because they "don´t have time" (that happens in other Western countries too) for friendship. Foreigners who don´t speak the language well are seen as a burden. The only exception is if you are a native English speaker. They will be willing to spend time with you to improve their English. So the inteviewer is lucky :)

If you have a hobby go to a Verein, there is one for every interest.

plzz provide subtitles for german

I think it's cultural shift! The old Germany like from the 80s and 90s it was much easier to make friends! The Germany of today is much more reserved and less social. People are afraid of strangers more

I totally agree with this older people from Germany. It's an individual thing. For me as a German, where I live it's easier to get in touch with foreigners than with Germans. Maybe I'm very interested in cultural differences. But I'm shy and childish near to handsome women. And no one is interested into my personality :D:P

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I have lived in DE for about 4 years now and i have noticed that German people tend to make friends with germans too. They could say hi, hello tschuss on d street or playground but there is always a wall. It' hard to open up their ideas, emotions or feelings , mybe bcoz they have trust issues or so to other auslander. Either they wud opt to have small group of friends since they were in grade school. Apart from that, language barrier, culture differences coz some doesnt speak english fluently or for asian people like me. We wud lpve to have chitchat with other but some wud not choose to mingle with other nationalities. I hope that they wud b more open and friendlier so people wud be more entice to live here longer.

Although there were people from various countries interviewed, they only mentioned reasons that make it difficult to make friends as an expat in general. Those reasons mainly originated from living in a foreign culture with people speaking a foreign language around them. The persons interviewed did't mention any reasons specific to making friends with Germans - in fact, no feature of the behaviour or thinking of Germans was addressed. Thus, most of the content of this video would be applicable to making friends in a foreign country in general.

What l have experienced as a Greek in Germany the people they help a lot. If you do something good for a German he doesn’t forget it (personal experience).

I think the Swedish guy is an artist : )

On making friends , germany seems like japan , but without all the strong politeness in daily life. Maybe austria and Switzerland is even more smiliar to japan People make friends only if you know their deeper social connection. And therefore it takes time. People take friendship really to a deeper meaning and need a lot of prove and evidence in a local working culture. But i dunno about making friends because of specific interests. In japan there is a lot of focus on if you like something in particular you always do like in a hobby group online it may work.

‏‪7:30‬ the girl from Germany is so nice That gives me hope 😂

Friendship is just one of those illusions we all cherish. Let me quote Hermann Hesse: Seltsam, im Nebel zu wandern! Einsam ist jeder Busch und Stein, Kein Baum sieht den andern, Jeder ist allein. Voll von Freunden war mir die Welt, Als noch mein Leben licht war; Nun, da der Nebel fällt, Ist keiner mehr sichtbar. Wahrlich, keiner ist weise, Der nicht das Dunkel kennt, Das unentrinnbar und leise Von allen ihn trennt. Seltsam, im Nebel zu wandern! Leben ist Einsamsein. Kein Mensch kennt den andern, Jeder ist allein.

as the person who lives in German for 7 months I must say that I have tried to make friends with Germans, they seem to be nice and friendly to you but ones they see no value in you, they don't want to hang out. In my culture, the value of people of other nationalities doesn't really matter (I mean such things how much money you have and what can you get from this friendship). We are curious about different culture and their traditions, we want to know about them and share our values. I don't feel this here, I feel that they are self-centered and superior towards others. Just, they will never tell that in your face. Sorry, I didn't want to be mean, I just share my experience.

I feel like there is a lot of generalization going on here (especially the US lady only being in Germany for a few days lol). You will find extroverted/ culturally open people and introverted people in every country. Of course living in certain areas or working in specific companies can give you a harder time here (as everywhere).

My experience making friends in Germany was different. I went to school with a German exchange student in the US and during the summer met her best friend who was also an exchange student in another state and came to visit. After they went back to Germany I visited them in Potsdam. They took me to parties and it was so easy to make friends! People were friendly, fun and welcoming. We were in our early 20s in 2003. Maybe it was a different time. There were people calling the house who I didn’t know but who had heard that I was in town and wanted to invite me to events, parties, etc.. I’m only now realizing at 42 years old that my experience was unusual!

Language is a big thing for me as a german. I can speak english and german quite well and can talk about my feelings and desires. When someone can't tell me theirs i don't connect so much.

The whole migration debate ist getting more and more complex and toxic. But watching your videos makes me wanna warmly welcome foreigners! :)

It’s hard, after a while I stop looking for it.

I find in a lot of EU countries everyone is very worried about strangers. Random interactions with strangers who could become your friends doesn't really happen unless you are both on the booze.

I am german myself, but already spoke english and French too while being at school, i am 77 years young. My german father and latvian mother always invited foreigners my sister or i met. We travelled a lot ourselves and despite the lost 2nd world war and having had nothing i still have friends all over the world and since35 year's a wee cottage in beautiful co donegal, eire, where i am called a local. I believe that when judging a country and its people you need to visit first all the german counties with all their different traditions, dialects, before asking foreigners who mostly stay for a short time in the country about friendliness and getting new friends. And then you choose the freistaat bavaria for your interviews, which is so different to the other german cos in germany. The variety of cos is so big in this country. And everybody has a different mentality. There is prussia and bavaria, hamburg very cool, the ruhrgebiet very open minded, etc. With all different traditions, and then you can ask foreigners who easily can afford to be in germany with a lot of govermental support (students) ,euro train tickets, etc I am happy as a photographer that i never had to do selfies and could use my old camera for all my travelling. And at my place on the hill of the winds friends come from all over Europe, new zealand, japan, etc. I don't want to tell you what you should do, but it would be lovely on a smaller shedule with mote detailed questions. Nevertheless thanks for your video