A Live Conversation with Esther Perel and Trevor Noah: Where Should We Begin? | SXSW 2024

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Not all conversations with Esther have to happen behind closed doors. Last week, Esther sat down with Trevor Noah, live at SXSW in Austin on the Vox Media stage, for a candid look at the state of comedy in the world we live in. The two of them uncovered some surprising similarities between being a comic and being a therapist. Esther showed Trevor a few ways to become a better listener and Trevor in return helped Esther prep for her new live tour.
If you want to be part of that show too- Esther invites you to an evening unlike any other. Join her as she shines a light on the cultural shifts transforming relationships and helps us rethink how we connect, how we desire - and even how we love. To find a city near you, go to www.estherperel.com/tour2024
For Trevor Noah's Off the Record tour visit www.trevornoah.com/shows
This conversation is also available on Esther's podcast, "Where Should We Begin?" Listen through the link below and stay tuned for the Audience Q+A, exclusively on Apple Podcasts subscriptions later this week.
link.chtbl.com/WSWByt

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@verb0ze
@verb0ze Місяць тому
Trevor is low-key a therapist and Esther, low-key a comedian. Amazing dynamic between this duo! More please!
@cdarma74
@cdarma74 Місяць тому
Beautifully interpretation of these two.
@melodylaila
@melodylaila Місяць тому
Perfectly said!
@alexandrasanson9138
@alexandrasanson9138 Місяць тому
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@alexandrasanson9138
@alexandrasanson9138 Місяць тому
😊😊😊o😊
@alisaarmstrong9375
@alisaarmstrong9375 Місяць тому
😊 Yes, more please!! Two of my favorites! So brilliant 🎉
@AliBPBG
@AliBPBG Місяць тому
This makes me wanna walk through life with a tiny Esther on one shoulder and a tiny Trevor on the other, giving me advice and commenting on my decisions. 😅
@VivianneRoseLee-hz8oo
@VivianneRoseLee-hz8oo Місяць тому
😂😂😂 same!
@user-gs8jx9oc6p
@user-gs8jx9oc6p Місяць тому
0:26
@janisrose6131
@janisrose6131 Місяць тому
Humor is our ultimate freedom! Both of those people are free! Great video!!
@olgaboldina5584
@olgaboldina5584 Місяць тому
Exactly!
@sayusayme7729
@sayusayme7729 Місяць тому
Agree 😂, wouldn’t that be amazing? All the years of people saying humour is the best quality in a partner. Being able to laugh at oneself is integral 🤍💫✨🫶✌️
@healinspaces4u
@healinspaces4u Місяць тому
Trevor's comedy is healing. Each time I've gone to his show I leave feeling some healing as a woman. It is a tremendous gift as a woman to be left feeling healed by a man. He's brilliant and I'm glad he was born.
@Pixeleen77
@Pixeleen77 Місяць тому
I'm so with you on this point!🙌🏾
@malannacareyhenderson8974
@malannacareyhenderson8974 Місяць тому
Thats why he sjould have children, to pass on his genius genes. Amen?
@lauramendoza5938
@lauramendoza5938 Місяць тому
❤❤ agreed
@JulieGlass-kf3rq
@JulieGlass-kf3rq Місяць тому
100% !!!
@angelagladstone8863
@angelagladstone8863 24 дні тому
He was raised by strong women ❤
@healthstartshere
@healthstartshere Місяць тому
So many brilliant quotes in this conversation: One of Trevor’s: “Laughter is one of the few emotions that robs your pain of its power.” One of Esther’s: “Humor is the closest you can get to someone without touching them.”
@cynnia
@cynnia 6 днів тому
I agree with your quote choices.
@nannielson7790
@nannielson7790 5 днів тому
Perfect summaries of these 2 brilliant people!
@pausekatrine3975
@pausekatrine3975 Місяць тому
what a treat!! Two of my favourite people in the world.
@laurelsfaves2665
@laurelsfaves2665 Місяць тому
I don’t think there’s a Trevor’s interview that I haven’t watched yet and every time I watch one it amazes me how wise , thoughtful and intelligent this man is !!!!
@estefif879
@estefif879 Місяць тому
Who thought about putting these two people in a room? Genius!
@ChirpyChat
@ChirpyChat Місяць тому
Watching from Singapore! I never imagined seeing Esther Perel and Trevor Noah together.
@theempire00
@theempire00 Місяць тому
Why not
@0921AV
@0921AV Місяць тому
@@theempire00 I think it's because he's a comedian - finds humor on anything - and she is a therapist - finds seriousness on anything. For that reason, and many others, it was a great match!!!
@tammyjohnson1927
@tammyjohnson1927 Місяць тому
I think it's because a lot of people cannot find humor in pain. Therapy is supposed to be a meaningful insight to your problems and most people don't find that funny.
@jayanthirangan-uc9oo
@jayanthirangan-uc9oo Місяць тому
My God. This duo is spontaneous, witty and constantly growing. For me the best part is how they used each other's words - they were listening to each other - with eyes, heart and hands. Yes, humor is a touch.
@IEVAKambarovaite
@IEVAKambarovaite Місяць тому
I desperately didn't want this to end. What a beautiful dance you both created ❤️
@cpmkw
@cpmkw Місяць тому
"They created a dance!" 🦄🌈🦠🤡
@DJ_Dutchess
@DJ_Dutchess Місяць тому
For the record, I'm glad this one wasn't off the record! 🙏 Two brillant people learning from one another and sharing it with the world. What a gift and privilege to have witnessed this 💫
@saniyyahhollingsworth7064
@saniyyahhollingsworth7064 Місяць тому
Thank you for all that you do.
@pdias8469
@pdias8469 Місяць тому
Listening to Esther Perel and Trevor Noah it was the best time I spent this evening.
@pdias8469
@pdias8469 Місяць тому
Ambiguous loss! Yes yes yes. Absolutely right.
@gemmadidit4118
@gemmadidit4118 Місяць тому
The wonderful thing about this kind of content is the elevated souls that gather in the comments. Wish we could be in the same room 😃!
@privateperson4842
@privateperson4842 Місяць тому
gemmadidit sounds like a writer💞
@gemmadidit4118
@gemmadidit4118 Місяць тому
Nah😒. I'm still two thirds potential and it's late in the day🙄. But I choose to be HAPPY😜🤪😁.
@kekica11
@kekica11 29 днів тому
Or on the same airplane :)
@NenaToya
@NenaToya Місяць тому
The duo we didn't know we needed! Absolutely ❤every second of this. Did not feel like a podcast or a "talk". I was eves dropping on an in-depth, intimate, hilarious, emotional talk between two amazing humans. Absolutely fed my soul
@zizinnnn
@zizinnnn Місяць тому
Trevor making Esther laugh is a delight ❤
@leonorejanson5140
@leonorejanson5140 Місяць тому
I love that Esther openly 'confesses' herr stage fright.
@_-JB-_
@_-JB-_ Місяць тому
Mr. Noah is a dangerous man. I didn't plan to sit and listen to a conversation for almost an hour. Yet I did it. Again.
@1XclusiveFBA
@1XclusiveFBA Місяць тому
whoever thought to bring this two together is a genius
@nbjansen8255
@nbjansen8255 Місяць тому
Esther just demonstrated her incredible ability to listen to and to engage with her client/interviewee/audience. Trevor was an incredible vehicle for her to do that. Two utterly charming individuals interacting about a range of riveting topics. Surely he had every opportunity here to learn about developing his curiosity and to further develop his true listening ability ...which is what he hoped to get from Esther at this interview.
@ann3700
@ann3700 Місяць тому
I always click play..when Trevor is doing an appearance somewhere...this was fulfilling
@user-mz8ek1sn4f
@user-mz8ek1sn4f Місяць тому
Why not someday do a tour together where we can learn from through therapy and laughter at the same time. Great duo dynamic!
@calewis55
@calewis55 Місяць тому
What a great idea!!! I hope they take this and run with it. This conversation was si wonderful. Deep and true. ❤
@joshuaesquivel5721
@joshuaesquivel5721 Місяць тому
This woman is incredibly smart. People that become fluent in multiple languages blow my mind!
@MliDube
@MliDube Місяць тому
True. I'm equally fascinated by people who learn a new language as adults. My daughter is ten years old and fluent in three languages. It's the norm growing up in a multicultural country like South Africa, but learning a new language as an adult is very rare.
@Pixeleen77
@Pixeleen77 Місяць тому
I dated a guy who spoke 7 languages fluently. He was a total tool. It's irrelevant how many languages people speak. Dick heads are dick heads:)
@privateperson4842
@privateperson4842 Місяць тому
He's multi-lingual, also.. and his voices of multiple peple are amazing 😂
@YassamanN
@YassamanN Місяць тому
Can the two of you please make a series of podcasts together? I learned so much just from this one session. Thank you both!
@estherkim2425
@estherkim2425 Місяць тому
Did I manifest this?? Literally two of my favorite people coming together from two of my favorite worlds!!! More of this please!! amazing amazing amazing
@iccotom
@iccotom Місяць тому
Yes you did. And were all very thankful to you for it 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@Emy53
@Emy53 Місяць тому
I know that for 7 years, I was not present with my adult children. I was stuck in a relationship that didn't exist. It was very painful for them to watch me so absorbed in my cellphone with an individual that couldn't be present for me. I am so over it now, and I am so thankful to my daughter for trying to get me to understand and see how stuck I was. I am better now, and was still working on grieving something I could never have. She has helped me by making me aware how I dodged a bullet. I totally agree, and I have moved on. Took me a while, but I am so much better now.
@muoean8219
@muoean8219 Місяць тому
Trevor doesn’t realize how well he actually listens! Using the words deridere and entendre correctly… He’s so mindful of those little details🙏🏼
@safochristian
@safochristian Місяць тому
Yh, that was great
@maryjeanthomas-johnson2043
@maryjeanthomas-johnson2043 Місяць тому
In the Struggle in South Africa we used humour to survive. Judge Albie Sacks used it to survive in 90 days solitary confinement. He sang "Always". ". .I will be loving you always, ...not for 90 days ..but akways.." I will be
@cathypreston1095
@cathypreston1095 Місяць тому
This is like watching a great movie in a theatre or in a group where we laugh and cry together. Thank you everyone.
@nannielson7790
@nannielson7790 5 днів тому
Trevor is so much more than a comedian. The wisdom that comes from his brain, passing through curated decisions to speak to the topic literally and/or with an edge of comedy. Oftentimes, both. Love him!
@kimberlysauber5601
@kimberlysauber5601 Місяць тому
I can’t decide whose accent and speech patterns I love more!!! I could listen to you both speak every day. Also because of WHAT you both speak about. Love you BOTH so much. Thank you for your time and conversation. ❤
@RichardDawson-sz4bz
@RichardDawson-sz4bz Місяць тому
I'm tuning in for a second time. These two people are brilliant conversational models.
@kimberlysauber5601
@kimberlysauber5601 Місяць тому
38:24 - when I make small talk in a city, people look at me like I’m crazy more than if I’m in a small town. I like small talk because I’ve crossed paths with some REALLY AMAZING people and I wouldn’t have known without small talk. 💯
@shay-doran
@shay-doran Місяць тому
Esther I loved this notion of the Whole Body Listening, that's certainly how active listening feels - all senses are engaged!
@zanaleezee
@zanaleezee Місяць тому
Love their points about listening, the quality of listening and how it can shape the way the person we listen to expresses themselves. It's an underrated skill and very very useful and important.
@Nettiaz
@Nettiaz Місяць тому
"Tragic optimism" = "You get to decide your reactions to the events which you can not control" ❤️👍
@boothvrstudio
@boothvrstudio Місяць тому
Thank you so much. I miss you Trevor!! I wish you all the best! You are the best!
@BaKellaC47
@BaKellaC47 Місяць тому
I also see how Trevor is confident in himself that he is not uncomfortable speaking to a psychologist/ therapist. He is so sure of himself , and he has quickly taken the lead as if he is the host .
@megancarroll
@megancarroll Місяць тому
Omggggg two people who’s work I adore and this match up makes the most amount of sense ever
@denisemacedopsico
@denisemacedopsico Місяць тому
Trevor is the best ever 👏🏼👏🏼 I found many psychological concepts and strategies in his speech. He always makes me learn, think and laugh ❣️
@kimberlysauber5601
@kimberlysauber5601 Місяць тому
11:14 - I LOVE that. Humor is the closest you can get without touching someone. So profoundly correct. Love having new thoughts. Thank you.
@georgeferguson2197
@georgeferguson2197 Місяць тому
If I were to think what the perfect conversation could be like, it is THIS. Absolutely riveted to these two exchange thoughts.
@carolinehardware9982
@carolinehardware9982 Місяць тому
Trevor's laugh heals the soul😅
@b.t.734
@b.t.734 Місяць тому
How inspiring and touching to see Esther with Trevor. It may sound as minor but I love seeing the body-appereance of the two of them together. Trevor is soo tall or may be esther is petite. :-) After so much face timing it is great to see corpo-reality.
@privateperson4842
@privateperson4842 Місяць тому
Thanks for teaching me a new word corporeality. And french terms, though my brain might not retain it, it's interesting.
@b.t.734
@b.t.734 Місяць тому
@@privateperson4842🌺🌟🌟
@jovicrada8102
@jovicrada8102 Місяць тому
Thank you, thank you, thank you. That dream interaction between two great people make my day and I will remember for loooong time.
@bw13579_
@bw13579_ Місяць тому
TWO BRILLIANT PEOPLE HAVING A VERY INSPIRING CONVERSATION ❤
@elizabethrodrigues2100
@elizabethrodrigues2100 Місяць тому
Beautiful conversation between two of you is something nobody can miss .I am looking forward to hear you two
@frankpaquet295
@frankpaquet295 Місяць тому
This was excellent, thank you to Esther Perel and Trevor Noah. It's given me a lot to think about. You two are great!! Thank you. (from Sandi)
@ellenbruckermarshall4179
@ellenbruckermarshall4179 Місяць тому
The way we share content with each other- best explanation ever Trevor. Thanks!
@dianacirilo
@dianacirilo Місяць тому
More of this please!!!❤
@kasandimulaa9999
@kasandimulaa9999 Місяць тому
IM SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS INTERSECTION
@trishm3002
@trishm3002 Місяць тому
I love how Esther said we listen with our whole body: eyes, ears, smiles, nods, body posture. Amazing insight.
@Bri.Katungi
@Bri.Katungi Місяць тому
The treat I never knew I needed!Thank you❤
@renatakrasovskaja5824
@renatakrasovskaja5824 Місяць тому
this duo is the cutest!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@gemmausiku
@gemmausiku 26 днів тому
I learnt to listen watching this. You do not need a degree to be a teacher. These two have taught me so much. Thank you!
@caz119
@caz119 Місяць тому
Both a great way at looking at relationships and comedy and the relationship comedy has with each person. Indeed laughter is a therapeutic medicine.
@1991Depa
@1991Depa Місяць тому
Admire both of them from Singapore
@tandilemakuluma7582
@tandilemakuluma7582 Місяць тому
Two of my faces who have amazing insight on how to relate! So many gems...thank you for an insightful, intelligent, funny conversation. So much respect for both of you and the work you do.
@MaithiliKulkarni
@MaithiliKulkarni Місяць тому
45 min of Insights from two of the brightest/ wisest minds of our times! Than k you!
@a_secret_tho
@a_secret_tho Місяць тому
I absolutely love this. Listening to Esther’s podcast before going to bed is my favorite hobby. I get to reflect on myself, learn and explore new ways, and feel positive and warm and hopeful energy of imagining how I can do better next time. Thank you! And all the luck and support for all of you who watches this video! We deserve love.
@esfuturestrading
@esfuturestrading Місяць тому
This is something I never expected. What a treat!
@megv6467
@megv6467 Місяць тому
I wish Esther did a tour in the UK. I really enjoyed the conversation between the these two greats in their own right.
@nuriap3278
@nuriap3278 Місяць тому
I haven't seen it yet but my like 🎉is for bringing these two together, to start with...
@Kixperience
@Kixperience Місяць тому
Lovely surprise and what a good listening.
@lollettealipe9363
@lollettealipe9363 Місяць тому
An interesting conversation between two equally intelligent and witty people.
@Julzableful
@Julzableful Місяць тому
Beautiful conversation with a beautiful soul. I love comedy and the art of it. I have always used it to connect to people even in times when I've felt unsafe to help gain some footing in the social dynamic.. really enjoyed this reflective, insightful discussion on why it's so important in our lives. Thank you so much for bringing this to us, Esther!
@privateperson4842
@privateperson4842 Місяць тому
Just yesterday someone I know and respect said I need to get out with people more. So this was good timing on that path.💙🌎❤️
@artistmaureensharkey5321
@artistmaureensharkey5321 Місяць тому
This may become one of the best all time talks!
@maribelsandoval4405
@maribelsandoval4405 Місяць тому
This was such a delightful and real conversation- thank you both 🙏🏼
@thescowlingschnauzer
@thescowlingschnauzer Місяць тому
Stage fright: I don't know how to do this. Nerves: I know how to do this. I don't know what's on the other side of me doing it.
@erikserum9519
@erikserum9519 Місяць тому
Trevor noah and Esther perel have really good connection ❤❤😊. Trevor is amazing
@Julieglam3
@Julieglam3 Місяць тому
I adore Trevor. I could listen to him speak all day, every day. I have only recently discovered Esther but so glad I have. So refreshing to listen to two people who are so intelligent, insightful, funny and engaging. With so much discord and insanity going on right now, THIS was so needed...💕
@ochiengodhiambo
@ochiengodhiambo Місяць тому
Two legends .....they are intelligent n I can listen to them without getting bored.
@jessicakuilan670
@jessicakuilan670 Місяць тому
Absolutely love this. As a fellow therapist, these two dynamics are sooooooooo on point. Love them both!
@marikaoconnor5058
@marikaoconnor5058 Місяць тому
Both of them so thoughtful and genuine. Impressive.
@kunwaranujsingh9980
@kunwaranujsingh9980 Місяць тому
❤ Esther
@0921AV
@0921AV Місяць тому
Excellent!!! Love them both, great match for an interview. Thanks.
@makeoneonly
@makeoneonly Місяць тому
Esther great teacher ❤
@Sara-321
@Sara-321 Місяць тому
My two favorite people! I’m excited to give this a listen.
@rosemariekimball5787
@rosemariekimball5787 Місяць тому
Love and appreciate those two people.
@asmahamidullah9571
@asmahamidullah9571 Місяць тому
Thank you both so much! God bless you! ❤🇹🇹
@SunraeSkatimunggr
@SunraeSkatimunggr Місяць тому
This was a wonderful conversation!!! I have always loved Trevor Noah, but Ester Perel is great as well. They are both philosophers, psychologists and comedians...as well as many other things.
@steffanhegeman6351
@steffanhegeman6351 Місяць тому
Absolutely fantastic, both of them!
@JG-cq6ud
@JG-cq6ud Місяць тому
Esther ❤
@PureJoyJoyPure
@PureJoyJoyPure Місяць тому
WONDERFUL MINDS! Thankyou for posting. The volume was excellent as well.
@cfatv-gp4ye
@cfatv-gp4ye Місяць тому
What a combo 💯✨
@ZuzanaBzonkova
@ZuzanaBzonkova Місяць тому
Oh! My ♥always jumps with joy when the insightful people I have followed for years join to create sth together! This interview is,unsurprisingly wonderful! So mesmerizing that I've listened to it 5x in one evening! Thank you, Esther and Trevor, for all the content here on UKposts and also for this deep and witty interview, both enriching and funny!
@kidistgetachew7565
@kidistgetachew7565 Місяць тому
I love love love me some Trevor
@akara2137
@akara2137 Місяць тому
This conversation is very touching and intimate! I learned so much. ❤ I love you and your vulnerability, Esther!
@thescowlingschnauzer
@thescowlingschnauzer Місяць тому
To be a good listener, you have to know what to listen for. You have to not project, meaning not listen selectively.
@GloryDaze73
@GloryDaze73 Місяць тому
❤❤Heaven is Here! These are two of my favorite people, having a wonderful convo.
@CatCassandra
@CatCassandra Місяць тому
What a fresh approach from Trevor and delighted to see Esther! ❤
@lucierey574
@lucierey574 Місяць тому
Two of my most listened to podcasts atm! Awesome! Big love & much respect for them both 🙌🏼
@cocobloco5056
@cocobloco5056 Місяць тому
They are brilliant in their analysis' while making you feel more comfortable with our insecurities . I think Trevor Noah is a modern day philosopher. The use of humour is so key to dealing with life but he combines intelligence and insight with humour in a way that it does not deride serious issues. It makes one see another side to these issues and may help deal with them in a healthier way.
@OlegSidorenko1974
@OlegSidorenko1974 Місяць тому
He is a philosopher indeed, and all great comedians are. George Carlin and Louis CK come to mind, although both can be quite bitter unlike Trevor.
@cocobloco5056
@cocobloco5056 Місяць тому
@@OlegSidorenko1974 Exactly !
@desidimceva8907
@desidimceva8907 Місяць тому
I am a fan of both of you for years. I was expecting a fun conversation but you both outlived my expectations in the very first minutes and kept doing so until the end. I want to thank you for sheding fresh inteligemt ideas and profound thruths as you go. Keep up ! You are amazing
@321kush123
@321kush123 Місяць тому
Love them both❤ from Arizona
@anilenk2103
@anilenk2103 Місяць тому
Humour in the face of hardship is very familiar to the South-African mind....to tell jokes about things that are painful...I think it helps to process difficult events. I have seen that from Israel too recently....
@persephone_GreekMyth
@persephone_GreekMyth Місяць тому
My two favorite people! This was so good!!! These voices together- just magical!!!
@anagarciadiaz8549
@anagarciadiaz8549 Місяць тому
Such an enriching listening. Thankful for the people who being proffesional in their fields dare to expose themselves on the internet and share themselves with the world meaningfully❤
@cutemanager244
@cutemanager244 Місяць тому
What a combo!!!!!I am so thrilled👌🏾🤛🏾🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾
@mungiuri
@mungiuri Місяць тому
this was a delightful conversation!
@TamarChante
@TamarChante Місяць тому
Great conversation! Loved it!
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