That would completely break my heart. I guess some people get used to it and live with this sickness of one of their family members, but for an outsider, like me, reading your comment was just a tough read.

I can relate, my mom is going through this, she went to live with her family who live far from me, my sister told me that should would keep asking where i am and if I'm alright and asking about our cat, my sister said i should video call her because she misses me and keeps asking about me, but when i called its like she wasn't there, she didn't recognize me or my voice and just kept closing her eyes and i couldn't understand anything she said, i could hear my sister in the background telling her who it is, i cried so hard after that videocall

I feel that man🙏

My mom just passed but she's been gone for 15 years.😪

@@laurayoung8001 my condolences to you, it is the hardest thing to ever go through, i wish you and your family all the best💐💔

ikr

Damn who's that in your pfp?

@@reesenaiyah311 Japan

@@reesenaiyah311 Japan

@@reesenaiyah311 Jonghyun from shinee

Its sad knowing your gonna forget that you even wrote this comment

@@spongegiovanna483 It’s just scary. And frustrating.

it's really terrible that you have to go through this. but thank you for sharing your story, i really wish there was better ways to treat mental issues like dementia!!

Prayers for you dear ❤.

God that sucks

I‘m so sorry for your loss

That period of lucidity just before death is called terminal lucidity.

So sorry for your loss

I heard that a-lot comes back to them before they die. Sorry for your loss.

I know I'm like a month late, but I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope you recover.

Why her son leaves his mother alone at home? That is so Cruel! They should live together. ⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️

@@londonoxfordstreet that’s not always how life works out, most of the time when someone is older they don’t want their freedom taken away because they don’t even realize something is wrong themselves. unless they are diagnosed then there’s only so much u can do

@@londonoxfordstreet Caring for your parents is important but sometimes life is much more important. You would lose a lot of freedom of things you could do, and a lot of people aren't selfless enough to care for their parents constantly.

Dont we all?

Who's Joe?

My grandma did that too, tissue, letters, paper, she used to give us all sorts of stuff. Right before she kicked the bucket she was giving heaps of lip, to be fair though she was great at giving head too. I miss my grandma.

@@----.__ Your grandma was great at giving head?? Wait... Wut...

@@kylejones8891 bruh wtf did i just read

@@----.__ lmao

@@----.__ great at WHAT???

Mannn…😖

I don't know why God allows these things in our lives but I believe He has a reason and purpose for everything. No matter what happens to me in this life I know He loves me and cares for me and everyone else in this world.

@@patriciatollison8655 shut up bro nobody genuinely cares

@@patriciatollison8655 God is within you. God is not deciding whether or not people get dementia.

@@patriciatollison8655 Right... A god which is supposed to love all humans lets them suffer an absolutely terrifying fate like this because of "a reason and purpose". Makes sense...

Never was on my side to begin with.

@@ianknowlton5172 haha

@@ianknowlton5172 truth

It's not turning on you, it's just sick and dying. This is important to remember when you're young too, mental illness is not your brain "turning on you" or "working against you" even if it can feel that way, it's just sick and you can work with it to make it healthy again. I made the mistake of thinking like that for a while and it absolutely makes you worse. Your brain is your friend be nice to it

@@j-skullz I still hold my beliefs. Your brain turns on you. And no you can’t always work with it since everyone is different. I don’t have anything wrong with me but at the same time I have a friend who suffers from schizophrenia. Which is literally your brain turning on you. Your brain is the most complex thing you have in your arsenal as a human. Please tell me how work with a patient in late dementia. If your brain doesn’t turn on you? Why do certain people see delusions and believe things will harm them if their brain doesn’t turn on them? I hold this belief to be true and I don’t feel much worse or much better.

I’m the same. More than horrific illness, more than torture, more than death, the thing that terrifies me the most is debilitating mental or neurological illness. The existentially terrifying thing about dementia, psychosis, schizophrenia, etc is that you usually don’t know you have a problem. So it’s not just your mind being destroyed, from your perspective these horrors are 100% real. But with dementia in particular, you slowly lose all conceptions of family, home, self, even space and time. And you’re painfully aware of how lost you are. The cruelty of life knows no bounds.

You're probably going to have to do the putting out yourself.

@@huntsman145 There are states that have implement the "right to die".

My mom straight up told me that if she ever gets dementia or alzheimers to pick a nursing home and never come back because she doesn't want us to live with a mother who doesn't know who we are, nor does she want to go through the anguish of forgetting her own kids. Shit's a rough conversation to have.

my vitamin b12 is very low and im so scared im going to have it in the future

That sounds like a stroke.

I wish we could see it too.

@@hherpdderp I thought that, I reckon she'd had a few mini ones.

That's real sad, my friend, I know he'd be proud.........if he wasn't lost......

No not really... My mother is going through it right now with my grandmother... Apparently over 7 years ago my grandmother had a stroke which started causing dementia and memory loss, my grandfather and mother and family basically just found out about two years ago, so my grandmother was basically living for 5 years with onset dementia without any of us even really realizing it.

But in fact, it does not move

@@BiggerThenKingKong Wish you and your family all the best through this situation.

Hahahahaha

On that day, Rikuto Kun discovered they are the one with dementia

xd

Lmao nooo

JOE M A MA

Joebama

Joe mama

Thank you, I'm glad someone else realizes how terrifying this is and isn't making jokes about it. I lost both my grandparents to dementia in 2018 after years of going downhill. They were married for over 60 years, one of the last things my grandpa ever did was reach out to hold his wife's hand while she passed. That memory brings me a lot of comfort. They must have been terrified having their minds slowly turn on them but they were able to remember each other. I'd do anything to make sure nobody ever has to experience this again. Bless you. x

Grow up.

@@redtortoise how about you grow up?

@@redtortoise You must be miserable.

@@redtortoise Eat dirt, dawg!

Words may not do much to ease your struggles, but hang in there. We took care of my grandpa and after he passed, are now taking care of grandma. Caretaking is taxing, and caring for one with a condition like dementia even more so. Regardless of disease progression, the fact that you’re sticking by her in her most vulnerable time is worth a great deal more than much else on this Earth. Of course, that doesn’t take away the pain of facing it day by day, nor of the struggles of earning a living. But it does rekindle one’s resolve after a long day. May we be equal to the burden.

Kudos to you for doing what you are doing. Don't let the negative people get to you. They sound pretty unpleasant to be honest. They have to be a bit defective themselves, to gloat about someone else's situation. How many of them offer to sit with her for an hour or 2 while you get some 'Me' time? Not many I am guessing. People are scared of it. Something I have learned through the internet is people project a lot. They accuse total strangers of things that are actually Their problems or internalise other's issues until they become Theirs. When I grew up cancer was the Big Taboo, now it is Dementia. People get scared of things they don't understand or feel they can't cope with. But you Will cope and may even get some good moments from it. It doesn't have to be all doom and gloom. See it as a journey you are taking together. Not one either one of you would have chosen, but one you have to make, nevertheless. But if you feel it is too much for you, don't feel guilty if you jump ship. It is allowed and she would understand. Are there any support groups in your area, who can provide practical or moral support?

And how's it going now?

You're a good person

You’re a good person.

God bless you for staying in contact and being there for her. I'm sure you brighten her day anytime you two speak.

@@franziskahuber9664 Thank you so much. And God bless and watch over all our brothers and sisters that have this dreadful condition. They are like innocent children.

Wow god bless you and her that sounds awful for her to live there instead of in a beautiful spacious home or at least a retirement home

I have a family member who suffe from Dementia

I don't even know what to say about that but that I'm sorry :(

how old are you and your wife

why are they afraid of puddles?

@@youtubetv1588 Perception...can’t tell how deep it is, might be a hole. Sometimes there is mo puddle, but she sees one anyway

@@xdtijnntssyu3314 mid 60s

I’m really sorry. God bless you and your wife. Your a good husband to her

Seems very early stages

My great grandmother had dementia too and even in the very late stages, until her death, she was still the most lovable person i have ever met. Her character didn`t change one bit. I am very thankful for that, since I was told that her demeanor would differ from her former self.

Why her son leaves his mother alone at home? That is so Cruel! They should live together. ⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️

@@londonoxfordstreet because her son is a young adult that also has a life too? it’s not cruel that he has to have space, but he should definitely hire a caretaker

@@wonyoungiesgirl Treating your elderly parents with care and kindness in their old age is a must just the way your parents treating u with care and kindness while you were a helpless baby. Loneliness / being away from your own kids is so oppressive in old age. Hiring a care taker is not prohibited. It can be done while keeping your elderly parents with u in the same house. Your kind treatment with ur elderly parents is a good example for ur kids to emulate. Be kind to them. Do not punish them in old age uncaring prisons that u call care homes.

@@londonoxfordstreet people got jobs all day and need time to rest when they come home. he might have a wife & kids or other responsibilities too it’s just not realistic I’m sorry

@@londonoxfordstreet Why'd fuck am I morally obligated to be forced to live with some stupid old people do literally can't get their shit together? Do you think young people don't deserve a life of their own or their own family? How do you expect someone to have their girlfriend move in with an old dementia patient? If you are fucking lonely for staying at home along, find a hobby or something. Also there is a placed designed for old dementia patients waiting to die, because at that point their life is meaningless anyway, and it's called a care home where professional caretakers are paid to treat adults like 1 year old babies.

The comment section on this video annoys me cause all I see is people trying to be funny when this video was to give perspective on how people with dementia live.

Dark humour is dark humour and nothing is stopping me.

@@liminalb1rds158 twitter stops you

@buzz magister That's true but most of the comment section just seems like your typical UKposts commenters

@@mohoodie8728 i mean i found a comment section once with all sad comments and it gave me nightmares of how horrifying it would be to forget all my families i could hardly sleep so this is way better than that most people are just trying to lighten up the mood atleast for me

Or, you have dementia as well so you keep forgetting she has dementia. Can I have your house?

Why didn’t people just talk to her and ask her basic questions?

​@@gottfriedhub dude some people that have dementia FORGET THEY HAVE DEMENTIA. So the grandmother at one point would thought, huh since everyone knows I have dementia,I must of forgot!

Wow. Omg... This is horrible... I had no idea... Thank you I've always been patient with old people and I will be even more now

That’s sad. I would never wish dementia on anyone, except maybe a few evil but

My mom doesn't even know who I am anymore..Worst feeling in the world just being called a f*cking liar and/or a b**** all the time trying to help her...Frontal lobe dementia caused by multiple strokes..Nursing center that she was released to didn't have patience/time to feed her so it's not an option..

@@owell4151 I'm sorry to read that, I wish people would know better and started treating others more kindly and even more in this situation, stay strong, sending a lot of love and good energies.

I grandfather starved because he just couldn't swallow anymore. He had lewy body dementia and it was terrible seeing seeing him in that state. :,(

Glad joe is weaing same fashion outfit as every man in the street or at least from "her" perception it looks like same outfit -_-

Thats about what it's like. Dementia patients call me by other names in the hospital and if I end up having to tell them I'm thier nurse the responses range from being embarrassed to straight up refusing to believe they aren't at home.

@@cinimatics *visible confusion*

JOE MAMa 😂

@@Demureu oh snap xD

I nearly fought you but then googled it and learned childhood dementia/alzheimer's is a thing... that's horrifying

I feel like it's better for children, although a lot sadder for outsiders. Children havent a clear and defined identity of themselves yet, while the older patients are trying to grasp onto the people they love with no avail.

@@_miobrot_603 yeah, but kid didn't even began a life and already doomed is scary in its own way

Yup. Seriously rare, but it can happen, and has happened.

One of my close friends has pseudo-dementia. She’s in her mid 20’s.

I’m shook

@@wiredmetalplant6125 metal piranha plant got shook by thunder from the" ?" item box

@@amandaclaireon4065 no I’m fucking shitting my self

Actor is a job title that isn't gendered but yeah true

@@RealFemale69 Yes, an "actress" is a female actor.

Why her son leaves his mother alone at home? That is so Cruel leaving his parent alone at this critical stage of life! They should live together. No medical facility can replace the love and care of one's family, children, grand children.. Do not throw away your parents in care homes. ⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️

@@londonoxfordstreet it’s what people from The West(Europe, America) do. They throw away their parents in care homes cause these people don’t want to spend their time on their parents once they are old. They put themselves first instead of equal with their parents. You can perfectly balance taking care of your parents and going to work or taking care of kids just like in the old days, but people these days are too lazy and don’t don’t want to handle the stress. So they put them in care homes where elderly people get abused without the knowledge of the children. I worked in a care home, and they neglect a lot of elderly people. Sad. No wonder some white people send their grandparents to Asian care homes as in Asia it is important to take great care of your ancestors and grandparents.

Don't tell your mum your father has passed. There is no need and professionals don't recommend it.

@@truehappiness4U wtf... i don’t know if you’ve ever been experienced having to take care of your parent with dementia but it’s not easy at all. plus, it’s a pretty broad statement of yours to say that this just happens in the west, it doesn’t. if you did a bit of research maybe you’d realize that people in asia are no different then us. normally people in asia will take care of their parents better because of their religion, not because they’re asian.

Professionals, from what I’ve read, do not recommend reminding them of the deaths of loved ones. All that you are doing when you tell them is putting them in immense pain that they will just forget again. It’s like being told they’re dead for the first time every time. They’re already going through so much, they don’t need the repeated pain of that as well. I wish you the absolute best, and I’m so sorry about what you and your family have to go through.

Are you a Minibrot…

What a kind person you sound like. 🌹

i'm sorry to hear that :( you're really sweet to ur grandma

Sounds like you took good care of her :)

That there sounds like the right approach. Humour and comfort them, don't try to reason when reason has fled.

This made me cry, this was exactly my childhood.. literally. I hope you’re doing okay, I know it’s hard, I still suffer with a lot of memories and sadness it left me. 💛

Me too. Today after i was leaving school and got to a public bus, a woman and another person (maybe a child) came right next to me on ny left as i was sitting on a seat. The "child" started talking in a hushed voice to the woman about going to the library or some sort. She repeated that thign ober 30. Times. And we were all silent as she was repeating herself, the woman answered her several times again and again, then lost a bit of her calm and hit the child (tho like not hard, in a sense gently and silently) and she again started bringing up the topic, the woman again answeted and after about 2 times she jjst told her that they're getting off the bus at the next stop. You're no idea how i symphatize with you right now..

Sleep well and often. It’s been proven to help tremendously. Also look into Loins Mane, it’s a natural supplement that aids in neurogenesis, it regrows the “insulation” around the nerves in your brain preventing misfiring that can cause a whole slew of illness.

I think everyone find this video scary. They just cope with humour

Same here I pray that never happens to me it’s such a scary thing I feel so bad for anyone or their family members that have to endure it .

frrr

Have schizophrenia, went through fits like this (+ Alex Jones conspiracy upgrade pack), and I gotta tell ya, once you're in the shit, you realize why people with the condition are at such a high risk of killing themselves.

Just overdose on acid

You arent aware after stage 3, thats when post awareness rolls in, heck stage 6 track one in EATEOT is “a confusion so thick you forget forgetting”

@@apeanut2833 That's fukin terrifying....

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Thats sad..

Better to keep them confined in their homes under strict supervision until their brains rot away? Honestly if it were me, I would rather take a quick death in the wilderness from hypothermia than endure years of suffering in hospice.

@@PatrickPierceBateman I understand what you're saying. I've felt this way myself. I still do sometimes! Sadly lost my mum to Alzheimer's just a few weeks ago but was blessed to have her living with me for the last 8 years. Just prior to her diagnosis I realised she had stopped going to the shop or even her church which was literally around the corner and had been an almost daily activity for decades for her. On discussing it with her she said that she'd stopped going to either of these places as she was scared of getting lost. Hearing that was heartbreaking and helped us to seek a diagnosis etc. I'm with you though, I would much rather find ways to help them engage in activities they love but first the caregiver needs to understand what their loved one is experiencing (and be aware of some additional risks involved in what to us seems fairly benign tasks/outings) sadly with the fear and stigma attached not everybody is forthcoming or able/willing to articulate what is going on from their perspective. These videos are informative and may help carers to navigate this stage from a place of understanding. There are ways around it that can enrich both their lives, give a sense of confidence to the patient and to help both the individual and their caregivers feel reassured, build memories (even for the patient - I was stunned that up until the last 6mths of her life many of our daily activities worked there way from her short to long term memory and I blame lockdown for her final mental deterioration, whilst she was housebound so was I so we both took a knock to our mental health. You can't pour from an empty cup right?)

@@RevolutionAndPeace Very true. My grandfather died of Alzheimer's last year and the past two years of his life he was non-verbal, unable to walk without assistance, needed to wear diapers, and had to be constantly cared for. Basically our whole family agreed that it would be better if he had just passed away from a heart attack or something quick. Alzheimer's is a hellish disease.

I wish it was just as simple as making a decision to not leave them to care for themselves. My dad refuses to return to the neurology department that diagnosed him with “mild cognitive decline” 3 years ago, and it has progressed wildly. I made the decision to move in with him because its the only way I can keep him from driving and make sure his bills are paid and he eats enough/doesn’t eat anything that’ll make him sick. Hes extremely argumentative, paranoid, and just angry at me all the time, when I’m the only person in his life willing to help him. My life is at a hellish stand-still and I have no clear way of getting him to accept live-in care or go to a home. He’s in too much denial about his situation, and attached to control, and his own independence. Similarly, my half-sister is a caretaker for her mom and dad, the latter of which recently had a stroke but couldnt stay long in the hospital because of the cost. They also cant afford assisted living. As their kids, we’re put in a situation where we have to put our lives on hold indefinitely so that we don’t end up feeling responsible for a result like Mike here has described. It’s pretty awful but I don’t see much way around it

only it's real life with real consequences to the nonsensical shit you do in a dream. Horrifying.

Stop peeking at me….

Oh man, I hate those dreams. Yea, I'll be walking through town or in my house, then open a door walk into a room, go back through that same door, and the whole place is different. usually its a shopping mall, and I cant find a store, because the layout keeps changing. Thats really sad for those suffering from this.

Guess I'm lucky to have extremely consistent dreams, lol

Wow.

Pretty hard to cure the degradation of the mind since there's no virus or bacteria making happen but still I hope that at some point in the future technology advances enough

@@orangegradient4309 it does seem that some forms of dementia could be detected years before symptoms appear due to build up of proteins in the brain. In the future at a certain age a person may be recommended to go to the doctor and have a test done to see if these proteins are building up. If they are they could be prescribed a medication that helps them.

There's research being done with certain mushroom species that have some kind of chemical in them that can stimulate neurogenesis.

being dead is better than this

@@EpreTroll hey lol surprised to see you here. Uh if you see this I like your Touhou piano videos.

This is so interesting and helpful. Thanks for sharing 🤍

Yup you sure do. We all do

They were patient with us when we were snotty brats, its only fair we give back in their golden years.

@@noneisallminussome371 my lord, what a simple and totally true statement. You're so right! Next time I visit my mom I will remember your straight forward reply. Thank you

My dad suffered from Alzheimer's as did his sister and 2 aunts. Now, I'm going to go through a mini mental stress test in a few days to see if I'm in the early stages. I always tell my husband to be patient with me and I tell my family to remember what I say. The last time I saw my dad, before he died, he thought I was a nice lady. He has been gone 14 years now. They say that, when you have Alzheimer's, it is like being trapped in a dark closet and the light that shines in through the floor slowly fades away.

@@sumame47 wow! Thanks for the visual re the light and the closet. These illnesses are complicated because as we age, we all get forgetful. However, there is a real difference which I must try to pin point. Sometimes my 71 yr old mother is so irrational with me but, then she acts totally normal with other people! It drives me CRAZY! I will try to be more calm and understanding and perhaps, will try to put common sense aside and just smile. A very difficult situation. The most recent - in early July, took my mother to a grocery store 25 min away. Then, it started to POUR rain! I asked "do u want me to drop u off at the door?" ... she replied "no take me home, it is storming too much!" I almost LOST it! YOU wont walk 3 seconds outside but u want me to drive us 25 min away to be SAFE?!!!! Logic and common sense gone ... I drove us home :(

Underrated comment

@@vincem3748 what is

@@Average-Cacodemon-Enjoyer your comment. It's underrated!

@@vincem3748 my comment asking what is?

@@Average-Cacodemon-Enjoyer your original comment is underrated

Agreed.

Not necessarily. My grandma who also had dementia had issues with the stairs leading up from the front door, it was too tiring and such an obstacle you had to help her walk up. The one leading up to the bedroom was no problem though, despite it being almost double the length.

@@Reflox1 I think it has to do with the safety of being at home and feeling safe. The outside stairs are scary because well they are outside

She didn't freak about the 5

Watch the father. Much better illustration.

I thought it just meant that you have bad memory. Im so stupid

@@johnheng1040 Memory is one of the first things you would notice but yeah, it's a lot more than that. It's a pretty disorienting condition. This video is not a very good representation but there are good resources out there if you want to understand what it's like. They did a great job with "The Father". I highly recommend it.

@@jonathanpitman1 whats the father

@@Ok-ok3jz It's a movie that came out a few months ago starting Anthony Hopkins. It follows Anthony's character as his mind slowly fades away due to dementia.

You are a kind person Keep it up May God help you and bless you

What a story, thank you for your compassion! ♡♡

Meh, I'm not worried, I'm sure that by the time I get that old they'll hasn't already invented a cure. I mean, they get billions in funding every year, its gotta be found soon.. right?

Good on you for doing that, very kind and considerate.

In the US, current statistics show that if you get to be 85, you have a 1 in 3 probability of having dementia. If you live to be 90, the chance is 50%.

Yeah fuck that

No, that's psychosis. Alzheimers is way worse...

Maybe worse. You may stop taking drugs but not fix your brain... 😢

not really... you're not hallucinating in the same way, you just have huge lapses of memory which make you confused where you are or what you're doing. like imagine you got up to take your medicine, then all of a sudden your daughter is standing there like "mom, it's 4pm, you took your medicine this morning, what are you doing?" and you can't remember the entire time from that morning to that moment. in your mind you just woke up to take your medication, but in reality hours have passed since then and you can't remember any of it. it's much scarier than a drug trip in the sense that you're never quite sure what's real or not or what's happening. ime drug trips still have a level of control where you're like "my perception is altered because of the drug, but i can't control my perception" whereas this is like "i have no idea who tf i am or where i am or what's going on"

DPH

I only realised because of this comment imao

BRUH- this is my first time seeing a 360 video and i was wondering what this comment meant while the video was paused, then i accidentally moved the video and MY HEART DROPPED IT WAS SCARY

Right, when did this shit come out?

It's been a thing for years now 😅

@@inktoxicate I’ve legit never seen one tho

Damn, that hits hard.

oh my fucking goddddd

Damn... this is true

This is supposed to be funny, or..? I legitimately don't get the point of this comment, because it just sounds so mundane and pointless, especially considering the subject matter. Grow up.

@@raccooncityhunk497 jesus lord calm down mate it’s called a joke i get the joke was insensitive but you really didn’t need to say antything

@@raccooncityhunk497 you need to grow up.

joe mama sorry

@@richardgibson8403 💀

@MathematicalPhysics why do you think that? I don’t want to dismiss you as just being cynical because you seem like you’re speaking from genuine life experiences

I understand why they'd hate the character, but the actor? Man, they sound like fucking sociopaths.

Some of them are simply nuts or momentarily caring and virtue signalling. I wouldnt be surprised if they d forgotten commenting here

@@hotel_arcadia never underestimate basement dwellers who think they're morally correct.

Absolutely

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My favourite intro as a kid !

I’m am so sorry for your loss. Your story made me cry. The things we take for granted are always the things we miss the most. I hope you’re doing well, remember the good times and keep your chin up! Hugs from Canada 💜

My father was always a kind, quiet man. Never raised a hand or his voice to anyone. Then he started getting aggressive with my sons when they tried to bathe him. When he finally had to be placed in a nursing home, he would kick or try to bite his caregivers. This upset me because they didn’t know his true sweet personality. He lived with severe Alzheimer’s for about six years .near the end, when he could still talk, he thought I was his sister. With Alzheimer’s, it’s like your loved one dies twice. I’m almost 83 and I often wonder if it will strike me, too.

You actually did a lot. I'm sure that even sitting by his side at the last moments is a harsh challenge that you decided to confront anyway. You brave and strong and you gave him the opportunity to not die in loneliness

I'm feeling sorry about your Grandfather 🥺 That was a sad story,really sad 😔

You can just swipe your finger on the video to move the camera lol

I’m so dumb lmao

@@megumi6953 happens to the best of us lol

I’m sorry, it’s never ever ever something you want. But let me encourage you that even when it’s hard and sad and awkward and difficult, still treasure the time you have with her. Be with her in the moment. Even if she brings up stuff that isn’t logical or isn’t real, it is real to her so it matters. Choosing to just listen and ask questions instead of correcting or arguing will go a long way, and will help you bond with her and form a connection in the moment, even if she won’t remember it in the future. For example, if she talks about her parents coming home soon, don’t try to convince her that they passed away-there’s really no benefit or point to making sure that she knows the truth-instead ask questions about them. Get her to smile and reminisce about her parents or grandparents, and that way you can even learn more about them that you maybe didn’t know! Having to take care of my grandmother while she is in the late stages of dementia and caused me to really treasure the little things. The other day I heard her sing for a few seconds for the first time in a year and i was so overcome with joy. I have it my goal to get her to laugh and it really helps me stay positive. It can be a lot harder if your loved one gets aggressive and confused, but in that moment I would say to have compassion and sympathy. Understand that their agitation is probably stemming from fear and confusion. Know that they don’t truly mean those hurtful words. Just walk away and leave them be if you have to. Play some of their favorite music as a musical therapy. Patience and compassion are the keys. I’m sorry again, it’s not easy, but there can still be joys and blessings that come from these hard times❤️

Greta Eder thank you for that. It’s hard when she doesn’t make any sense or blatantly forgets something important, it hasn’t fully registered to me the extent she will change and it scares the shit out of me. I’ve been trying to be compassionate and not correct her, it’s just really hard holding back the pure sadness I feel at the time. There’s really no worse pain than watching a loved one lose themselves slowly. I appreciate your advice (especially about asking questions to indulge her when she’s wrong) and I’m trying to treasure every moment. Your advice already helped this morning, had a long conversation about her brother (who passed away a while back) and got to learn more about him. I’m sorry about your grandma, just know your message brought me to tears and has helped. Thank you❤️

My grandpa has it too (not fully sure but I know he has pretty bad memory problems and my mom has talked about it to me a little bit) and he sometimes stops taking his medicines or forgets he already told us something and it really hurts my mom. I've never been very close with him but I feel bad for him too and my mom, since she helps him a lot and checks on him.

A_FinlandGirl I’m sorry to hear that, but it sounds like your mom is being strong for him and that’s all a person can do in that situation

@@gretaeder5996 this is a wonderful comment, thank you for helping him and others understand the situation. I am sorry for anyone who has to go through this and hopefully one day we will be able to prevent it.

I'm so sorry

You're strong, and I hope you're doing okay. That is heartbreaking. You're doing something amazing by staying with her to make sure she's okay. She's lucky to have you.

Stay strong 💪

I’m so sorry. It’s terrible to suffer though but, hopefully she won’t have to progress all 7 stages. When it is your mom’s time, she will be in heaven.

I want you to know that I am in such a similar situation as you. My father is only 58 and he's suffering from a rare form of early onset alzheimers. He's my best friend and it's really difficult to watch him suffer and get worse, all the while knowing that he'll probably get to the point where he doesn't remember me, his only child. Seeing it happen to your elderly relatives is tough but having it happen to them when they're still relatively young is heartbreaking. I'm really sorry for what you are going through with your mom. You are not alone ❤

Once into the more advanced stages of dementia, my 91 year old grandmother lived in a long term care facility. Eventually she could not do many basic tasks un-assisted. She was spoon fed a pureed diet in order to avoid constant choking and had lost the ability to speak in a way that others could understand. Her speech consisted of mumbling and slurring - sometimes combining parts of French and Italian that she had known in her past. You could tell if she was making a statement or asking a question based on her tone. It appeared as if she understood what she was saying but acted as if no one else understood her. She would mumble and stare at you, waiting for your response, and then give a look of confusion as if you had ignored what she just said or completely side-stepped her question or comment with something unrelated. At that time, one of her favorite items to hold on her person was a paper napkin that had a picture of different colored bell peppers on it. As I was getting ready to end our visit one afternoon, she was trying to eat the napkin and would likely choke so I had to take it from her. She protested once, mumbling something I did not understand so I waited. After a few minutes, I attempted to take it again and she burst out in a moment of clarity and said " I SAY NO! " in a firm tone. I was stunned but was eventually successful by trading the napkin for an empty paper cup that she became fascinated with. Those were the last words that I ever understood that came from my grandmother. After a few months had passed, she was totally mute and nearing the end of her road. I held her hand and thanked her for all of what she had taught me and for all of our shared experiences together. My grandmother squeezed my hand three times in a row, as if to say " I love you " and passed away a few hours later. I will forever cherish the time we spent together.

@@MAC.... I've heard some people with Dementia getting some kinda of miraculous clearance shortly before they will die. Such a terrifying and yet happy thing to experience. I offer my condolences, however long it may have been since she died.

She's in hell now

Don't reproach yourself. You were a kid and kids always think they know Everything when they know Zilch! We have all been there. Dementia is a weird thing, even the 'experts' get lost. I have found the best way is just run with it. Enter the dream. If you try to drag them back you terrify them. BUT if you enter the dream you can lead them gently back. It won't last, but they will trust you and respond. I am no 'qualified' expert 'but I lived being treated s a geriatric for 3 years on and off. Complicated. I also worked in homes as a menial. So I had time to break through. Some are just gone into another universe, but some do touch base occasionally. And that is when you see Them. It is beautiful. You are never going to 'cure 'them or 'get them back' and why should you? Treasure what they have become. I learned a lot!

" I constantly wished I had looked after her better, had asked her more questions while she was still aware of who she was. " I am in my 30s and I have these exact feelings regarding my father who had dementia. I wish I had made more of the time that I knew was left. I think at the time I was too afraid to face up to the reality of what was going to happen.

​@@peepiepo Forgive yourself. We all react differently, especially when we find ourselves on strange shores. Perhaps you were in denial, hoping that if you didn't accept it, it would just go away. i think one of the hardest things for a person who has lived with a loved one fading before their eyes, be that physically or mentally, is Guilt. You Always feel that you missed something, could have done something differently, could have done More. Even if we know that we did all we knew how. Sometimes we are not even in full knowledge of the facts. The doctors, or the person themselves will hide them from us, in a mistaken attempt at protecting us. They don't know either, that will make it harder for us when they are gone. 'If only I had known A, I would have done B!' etc. I am sure you did whatever you could for your father, and he knows that, wherever he is. Just keep making him proud. You are his child; he is remembered through You. As you will be through any offspring you may have.

Don’t blame yourself, Chelnah. Try writing your feelings for your grandmother. That’s what I do. Write down memories of her, and keep them in your heart.

That sounds very logical and I believe you. Thanks for your insight.

really? i’m scared now because i never brush my teeth i’m not old tho i’m 18

@@xdtijnntssyu3314 might wanna start brushing, then

Thanks for the tip!

Wow this sounds very realistic but do you have a link so I can see all the details?

I agree, it's extremely terrifying 💔 I wish the best for you and your mom 💕

Some people were like that the entire time and this is why their kids don't talk to them. Lol

What are the small starting signs

@@bigmoose7 The first I remember are the hesitancies before doing small things such as trying shoe laces or speaking when answering the phone. Then other things like a vacancy in his eyes for a few minutes at a time, putting things in the fridge which wouldnt normally be there. After that he began to get moody and short tempered which he had never been before. My mum also developed dementia but her first signs were more of a gradual fading of her personality. She was always very cheerful but it became forced cheerfulness as she withdrew. Everyone I have since met says that the signs were different for each individual, which is why it is so difficult to recognise at first. With my parents it progressed very quickly so it became evident.

Not funny

@@YoungSavageLife Have a sense of humour, Dimentia is a serious enough issue without you making things worse

who's Joe

Indeed, Alzheimers is a cruel disease where loss I experienced many fold.

@@SpectreOZ yep. My Nan and Grandad both have it. My grandad has been alright for the last 4 years since his diagnosis, but now, at the age of 94, he's deteriorating much faster 😭

i’m just gonna say thank you for not treating him like a creep and understanding that what he’s seeing and saying isn’t what you’re living, it takes a human being with a heart to be like that, which is sadly very rare nowadays

@@goawayimhigh God is good and made me that kind of a person. Without Him I would be so lost. We need to become strong for our loved ones with illnesses or conditions like these. Our ability to stay calm (while overcoming grief) gives them a certain level of security that’s priceless.

damn dude, there is quite literally not a fate worse than yours. the fact that all your progress in life is going to be forgotten is insane. i reccomend constantly listening to your favorite music (it seems to stimulate memories), and maybe looking up some medication to slow the process.

I agree! At times, I've thought I was in a Twilight Zone episode. It never ends. 😳

what you just stated are all common signs of dementia, you should get checked out

I hope you are doing well! I could imagine that meditation could help pretty well as well, since you are training to hold something in your awareness for a longer time of period.

Man go seek help immediately. Maybe they can slow down the process in some ways.

Bless you for your service; not easy to witness that.