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I feel like I’ve never belonged in this world. Everyone is so mean to each other. Everyone is so sure they are right about everything and everyone else is wrong. 99% of jobs are soulless and pointless. 99% of my daily tasks are boring and repetitive. I’m perpetually exhausted.

"This society does not honor vulnerability." I agree.

Our society views sensitivity as a weakness when actually it is a strength and tied to emotional intelligence.

My parents and sister constantly shamed and humiliated me for my sensitivity, even beat me. They really looked down on me with contempt and let me know it through their unkind words and cruelty. 2.5 years ago I went complete no contact. It’s the best decision I’ve made, just wish I had done it 40 years ago. I don’t miss them. In fact the thought of ever hearing the sound of their voices again is terrifying. I am slowly returning to me. I love my sensitivity. I use it to find little wild birds who need help and nurse them back to good health.

"Manifest your awareness, and teach it to those that are ready to listen at whatever level. And don't be attached to the outcome." Dr. Gabor Maté. THANK YOU, DOCTOR!!!!!!

he really hit me with that sensitivity part. Kinda freeing to realise that your sensitivity is part of you and there is nothing wrong with that.

When my son was dying from a neuroblastoma, my now ex took off skiing for several weekends. This was embraced by the medical community as 'healthy.' Me wanting to do the palliative care - he had special needs, was 'difficult' - was seen as a bit, pathological. That I didn't want to go off for holidays while he suffered, that I preferred, no, needed, like air, to be able to be there to savour every moment, every little interaction, and, in case his pain spiked, b/c I alone could administer the morphine needed to get control over his agony, often a dose greater than the doctors at Hospice had prescribed, was seen as unhealthy. I didn't care. I knew what I needed. I knew what he needed. We needed time, and time was limited. We needed each other. And time was limited. I needed to love him as much as I could, because he was dying, an excruciating, protracted death, and the ONE thing I could do was see he died knowing he was deeply, deeply, loved. And the one thing I could give him was the promise, the joy for me, of being there, so he was not alone. Even the people at Hospice had to distance themselves from this raw, flayed suffering. But you know what? Fuck 'em. Fuck them all and their quiet, murmured disapproval and their wounded, stunted judgement. And bless them. Bless them for showing up and doing their best in spite of the fear it engendered, to bear witness to that naked, raw, suffering and try, in spite of the wounds that drove them to that compassion, to be present to whatever degree they could manage. To support me to the best of their vulner-ability, so I could do my, final, sacred, job as his mom.

From the age of 11 I became addicted to self- harm and suicide attempts. I stopped that at the age of 35 and took up gambling for the next 20 years. It took 3 - 5 years to give that addiction. I used journalling, affirmations and contact and help from my guardian angel. I have to remain in the present so that I remain aware that I am not looking outwards for love and acceptance, instead I look inwards for that love and acceptance. You are so right. You have to do the work everyday or it drifts away.

18:15 Sobriety is full awareness and being in touch with yourself.

It saddens me to see that so many think that being compassionate is a weakness. Being fair and loving does not mean one has no strength or bravery.

I love his heart. His spirit. His work. I love him.

..."I had a deep commitment to transformation and self awareness"... yes! there's no 'sure fire method' for everyone....what a great talk.

Gabor Mate gives me inspiration for reforming the rehabilitation of people damaged by our world

such a humble, authentic, grounded soul is gabor mate. thank you 🙏🏻

His voice is so meditative that it calms me.

Love his honesty...... there is no simple answer

Meditation and quieting the mind is a great way to learn focus and stop going subconsciously into disassociation. By finding out what you actually are, you can override the hardware.

Me and my ex girlfriend were both highly sensitive. We had troubles but the good times were beautiful. And I created a lot of beautiful art at that time that will last in memory.

You are so smart and sensitive! Your voice isso soothing and sincere!

This society is a nightmare. Just when I think it couldn’t possibly get worse, it always does of course. The people awake enough to fight it are fought by others who are oppressed too but still blind. What an unnecessary tragedy for everyone. The answers are there but I suppose at the end of it ideology prevails over truth, and our planet will pay the price along with all its beautiful life.

I'm addicted to his talks 😃

What a dear man. God bless him.

Love this comment section. Full of love and compassion. Love it. Thank you all for being kind in a cold world.. 💜

Got to have lunch with this great man a few years ago, humble guy. So many people looking for answers....look deeper.

Dr Garbo Mate did the work, used his own navigation system, and made his way. He did the work.

I’ve just recently found him and he described my life…I’ve always been maligned for being sensitive and after 25 years of deepening my awareness and at 60 years old I’m there. Not because I’ve arrived anywhere, but decades of work have accumulated into calm and personal peace, which is on going. But I no longer flail and wretch over all the pain and abuse that I went through in childhood. He is SO right that it takes SO many different things, they all matter and help. When I see him (though I’m not at all accomplished like him) it’s like hearing my own story. I had eating disorders, ADD, did association, chronic fatigue, cancer etc. Never give up on self love and acceptance. I love that he describes sobriety as the goal…in a few places in the Bible it says that we should be “sober minded” and to have a “sane” estimate of ourselves. So, self honesty. It’s sad an remarkable that people are so unaware of themselves, which is what has been pushed on all humans, in society. We may mourn for those in slavery or a caste system, but we are all in one, unless we sober up. I liked his point of being the change and it reminded me of this article www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/g201411/how-to-live-happy-life/ Thank you so much for this wonderful interview

I was listening to this and its giving me chills not gonna lie

I can appreciate what he said about sensitive people. I’ve had to learn to mask my sensitivity. It’s empowering to know that I would have been a shaman/healer in the traditional societies. Just as I cannot change my brown eyes, I cannot change my nature. I can heal from the trauma caused by a cruel society.

I am very sensitive, but liked to be the way I AM because I like to be different even if makes me feel alone at times. I see how the world is around me and always preferred to be myself because I did not like what I saw around me. My faith and my being stubborn helped me be liked by my friends because aI became the "listener" of the group and got along with everyone and be present to the moment when they needed to talk and open up and needed to feel understood. Thank God the fantasy in my "always dreaming mind" helped me survive the difficulties of my earlier years and found a way to go on and live my days the best way I could. Reading romance books and creating love stories inhead that helped me dream at night and would them in the morning. Angela Italy

Wow, isn't that the most important factor, a deep commitment to change

It is daily work to stay conscious. I'm very intuitive and highly sensitive to sensory processing and how I experience the outside world in general. Unplugging, spending time in nature, introspection, pilates, painting and disciplined self awareness help me maintain a higher deeper version of my Self. It's all continued work, and having high levels of compassion for self and others help too. Especially with addictions. Hold the space, and have patience you can only do so much in a day, rest is vital aswell . Gabor you are wonderful. And I can relate to you alot. Thankyou for your wisdom.

“Is there some emptiness inside of me?” Compassionate inquiry is an amazing approach to reclaiming ourselves!

Advice to 'How to Academy Mindset' : when you hide face and voice of the attendee posing a question, it would be easier to understand if you type the question on the screen.

Keep up the good work. Totally understand what you are talking about Have been doing a very deep, body based psychorapy for many years. Trying to remove and change childhood blocks, trauma and imprints. Which resulted in compulsive, obessive and addictive behaviour and lack of feeling. Very difficult but you can regain the simple joy and deep heart love and feelings you felt as a child. You are a brave man Dr Mate All the best

So true! I was diagnosed with autism and am now healing with ayahuasca as well as training to help heal others. Especially other people on the spectrum.

Such a unique individual Thank you for everything, dr Mate God bless you

11:30 This person’s question is merely spot on about our society as a whole. I wanna thank him for putting it on.

I knew I was different when at the age of 6 years old I saw Pocahontas and was saddened. This world has always been too dark and harsh for me. I've never felt like I belonged and this was magnified by my dysfunctional upbringing. Being alone with nature or animals is so much easier for me.

the reformed alcoholic part that the family still shuns due to it's a reminder of their own suffering that they cant face yet..... this video gave me more understanding and compassion for my suffering family members.... I love Dr Gabor! lol I'm not a religious man but have to say thank God for the words that come out his mouth. he is like a dentist that goes right to that nerve and u better be ready for truth.

Sensitve people were the shamans...love this

Question at 12:16 What to do to stay inoculated from these new forms of addiction?? This question resonates with me. In my industry, constant social media posting is rewarded. I just can't do it. It's too distracting and distressing and in many ways destructive to my mental well-being. Thank you for asking this question and thank you Dr Gabor for addressing it.🙏🏽

Thank you Gabor Maté., Your insights provide the catalyst to my personal healing, yet leaves me wondering 'can an entire dysfunctional society be healed'? Some years ago this specific page in ethnobotanist Wade Davis' book "Shadows in the Sun" caught my attention (I hope posting it here for others to consider is not frowned upon, although it does align with Dr Maté's answer to one person's question): "The agrarian transformation and the advent of sedentary village life, which led in turn to the first organized religious hierarchies, generally meant the end of shamanic traditions. As agriculture overthrew the hunt, so the priest displaced the shaman. With religious leaders serving as mere functionaries of established religious theologies, the shaman's poetry was turned into prose. For unlike the priest, who is a socially inducted and initiated member of a recognized religious organization,, the shaman is one who, as a consequence of a completely personal psychological crisis, has gained a certain power of his or her own. Whereas the priest is concerned with integrating the individual into a firmly ordered and well-established social context, the shaman seeks the release of his or her own wild genius, wherever that may lead. Almost invariably, an overwhelming mental crisis is part of the vocational summons. Indeed, for the seeker of shamanic wisdom, it is a fine line between mystical initiation and psychological breakdown. Yet, though this crisis may resemble a mental breakdown, it cannot be dismissed as one. For it is not the pathological but a normal event for the gifted mind in these societies, the realization and intuition of a level of spiritual depth that gives the World a sacred character. By following the solitary vision, the shaman breaks not with the other traditions of his tribe but with the comparatively trivial attitude toward the spirit realm that seems to satisfy the majority. In seeking this most difficult path, the shaman becomes a master of death and resurrection, of health and well-being. Before attempting to understand how extraordinary healing abilities manifest themselves in certain small indigenous societies, we must first recognize that a chasm exists between the spiritual world of the shaman and our own secular tradition . . . ."

One of the best talks I've heard. Thank you.

Dr Mate You touch my heart..

I am in Awe of your compassion and empathy of this important situation that alot maybe experiancing, also the realness and how relative your work is, Its fresh and articulate in such a manner of understanding. I study Psychollogy and counselling with mental health and have to say I would love to study your work in my lectures. Sending pure love and light

i cry whenever i hear him !!

developing skills as an empath and there are many types of empathys mental emotional analytical etc..just as an artist takes classes to develop their gift.

his Holiness Dr Gabor ! ~`~

Civilization thrives on coping mechanisms, not on healing. It just keeps shifting problems (defined as such by humans) while making things worse, compensating with new coping strategies. Today, because of the increasing speed of technological and ideological development, entire generations live in different worlds and are threatened to be ripped apart. This sounds bad but it does create awareness. It exposes the undeniable interdependence between not just humans, but between humans and all other existence. The fear of losing this connection is what drives modern civilization, but most of us are still looking outwards for more coping strategies instead of looking inwards, where we'll find this connection will always be there, along with courage, strength and happiness.

I agree, the sensitivity u transmit and deep, smoothing voice, kind of take u easy to looking at yourself and the world with sensitivity and honesty I really think we have to do a lot of self reflections of ourselves in order to learn and transmit good stuff to the next generations. Better people better future.

Thank you for this wonderful and healing video.

Simply put, it’s loving yourself first and foremost. ❤️

Is there some emptiness in me.. let me take on that void. Amazing words of reflection and inspiration, thank you Gabor.

Thank you for this post, as can so relate, I’ve become a subscriber, Dr. Gabor Mate’ words viewed and hear via you-tube as been a blessing and curse - yet it opens one eyes to the human condition and impact of those years 0-7. 🧡

I just love seeing him

The dissociation is wired in for me. I make it work, sometimes I wonder if it's a good thing because in a way, it allows me to skate through life without becoming too attached.

8:25 the question that incites the title

Brilliant man with a brilliant son 💎💜💎

Love this guy!

Many thanks for sharing this 🙏

I love how candidly you speak of your "short comings". Lots of people hate feedback.

Richard Bach, in his 70's book "Illusions", wrote: We teach best that which we most need to learn.

Love dr Mate 🙏 so grateful for his work ❤️

Fantastic stuff. Thank you.

Thank you so so much! ❤

one more part?? omg thank you

The Myth of Normal arrived yesterday. Looking forward to reading your recent work. Thankyou Gabor.

Question around 12 minute mark was brilliant.

What a beautiful being, I adore and have pure gratitude for your knowledge and wisdom, compassion and love. Beautiful human being.

Thank you so much for this!

My problem is this, I dug a hole so deep and I have no energy to crawl out. I'm a single mom of three that made the decisions to keep having children with a man that wasn't good for me. I worked and worked and paid people to raise my kids. He refused to help in a healthy way. Just causing problems. I have a family that do dysfunctional that even Dr. Gabor would take a shot to deal with. Now that my kids are older 17, 15 and 11 I'm finding myself wanting to run and never come back bc im so stressed bc of my trauma and triggers. After 19 years of a dysfunctional relationship with their father I went through a 2 year bitter madness . I started dating, a guy and he opened my eyes to the things that were an issue to me. So I sought out treatment and learning alot but it seems like I have no energy or passion to deal with it. I've let my kids basically take over and I feel like I just pay bills and work. I know the biggest problem I make trauma based decisions on everything that gets me in trouble. Please help!!

Well balanced and engaging. Thanks guys.

Thank you for validating my thoughts, feelings and theories from self-study. A person of expertise that says what I believe, and is less conventional. Must be a lucky day for stumbling upon this and Dr. Maté. Also with caution and awareness not to place him on a pedestal. But thank you Guess I have to go to part1, just like me starting at the end.

Each of the books I've written have been to myself.. thankyou sir for sharing your beautiful soul and mind.....dxxxxxx

Thank you 🙏

Wonderful question about the business of addiction

Thanks life for human beings la Mr Gabor !

I learned how to live through AA. The steps guided me to healing and understanding of myself and others. I realized I can't give what I don't have. AA filled up my empty, damaged soul with love, patience, and tolerance, which I now can go out and help others. I stay close to my fellowship, pray, meditate, yoga, and help others to keep what has been given to me. I am healing. It's so amazing.

Excellent food for thought

11:30 Wow what a superb question.

It's why I have thrown in the towel. Nothing that used to help me through is helping and I am not willing to fix me because I am not the problem, the very sick horrific greedy cruel society I am in is the problem and I only see one way to go.

A Saint in the making, beautiful human being

Dr. Gabor Mate has given us much; however, there is more. Gurdjieff and Spinoza’s teaching give us keys how to awaken our mind and learn the power of understanding our trauma, addictions and face the problems that confronts us, then it’s possible to become free.

Watching & listening to ALL he did & takes on my thought was Taking on everyone’s trauma to his degree has to cause trauma & stress & here he is stating much the same.. wow.. one person alone cannot save the world but the world together can save its people 🤲🏼

A big advantage addicts like you and like me have though is that our addictions did not interfere with what we saw, heard, read, sensed or witnessed. Alcohol and many drug addictions do cause people to stay still in time which I think is why many stay immature.

Consider the reciprocity of the communities who have traditional knowledge and protection of the sacred plants/"psychedelics". Be careful not to use them for individual healing and really understand your intentions for wanting to use them, and be careful not to be apart of the western commodification & extraction of them

Really Awesome Talk!!

I find myself if I am not in my college work studying most of the day, I will watch the same show or movie. I can listen to the same song or classical piece over and over and it does not phase me. I know I began this to protect myself as a child for the alcoholic abuse at home and then with my my abusive ex boyfriends years ago. I have tried to break habit out of pure desire. I still find myself doing it. Same with my eating habit I learned from my mother. Only eating a meal at night and still need to lose 50 pounds. I really would like to get this accomplished by time I graduate military college so I can help them. My trauma therapist thought I would be great helping them after healing and conquering from all the different abuse I have endured since 3 years old. If anyone has any insight I'm here. Thank you.

Dr Mayte great!!

Thank you🙏💎🐝

The energy is overwhelming... Lavender, rose scent, perfume helps

One of my dearest hero's

Thank you

Thank you! :)

I can definitely relate to the heading of this podcast.

Wow! Thank you How To Academy and Dr Maté for this amazing session. The audience member who was an MD who struggles with constant dissociation really resonated with me. I was so hoping to hear Dr Maté's response, but equally understand it's not something that can be answered in such a short timeframe (and probably requires consideration of the individual's personal circumstances). If there are any resources or information that Dr Maté or How To Academy can share on this, I would be very interested and immensely grateful. It's not exactly a topic that many people have profound insights in. Thank you

"You're so sensitive" a snowflake became such an insult then people wondered why psychopathy is on the rise. Just being ignorant and emotionally unaware is a compliment now?

Thank you from Israel

You are so right. People that comite suïcide, actualy are saying that the world is wrong. Every body is meant to be here. We have to lissen to what they have to say. Love you all