How to understand & heal your trauma: Gabor Maté, M.D.

How to understand & heal your trauma: Gabor Maté, M.D. | mbg Podcast

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Gabor Maté, M.D., a physician, New York Times bestselling author, and internationally renowned speaker joins Jason Wachob, founder and co-CEO of mindbodygreen.
“95% of trauma is multi-generational. You unwittingly pass it on," he says. In this episode, Gabor and Jason discuss how buried trauma can harm your health, plus:
0:00-0:42 Intro
0:42-5:07 Gabor’s upbringing & his professional work around trauma
5:07-10:18 What trauma really means
10:18-12:47 Gabor’s personal experience with trauma
12:47-17:20 How trauma gets passed down from one generation to the next
17:20-20:51 How your personal trauma can affect your physical health
20:51-27:53 The relationship between stress and illness
27:53-31:39 How to start resolving your trauma
31:39-34:10 Why so many people have a hard time saying “no”
34:10-39:19 The real reason children start resenting their parents
39:19-44:00 Why you don’t actually have to socialize kids
44:00-47:04 How our culture makes us sick
47:04-48:40 What’s unique about our cultural trauma today
48:40-52:09 What we can do about a lack of social connection
52:09-53:08 Why we attract others with similar traumas
Trigger warning: This podcast includes mentions of suicidal ideation. You're never alone. If you or someone you know are struggling, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org.
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@BrownGeorge-pw2xo 8 днів тому

I suffered severe trauma 16 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting trauma. I got diagnosed with ADHD and suffered severe depression. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@Qing__001 8 днів тому

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

@JanetRichardson-mq5es 8 днів тому

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk 8 днів тому

YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Edennnn926 8 днів тому

100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma

@Wimruther-hk4zn 8 днів тому

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

@monikaj402 7 місяців тому

Wow. “ trauma is not what happened to you but what happened inside you” this was a great statement.

@claudiaschneider5744 5 місяців тому

Well I knew that already but that does not mean the healing is coming much more easier now - its pretty hard path - my whole life long already....

@estherw4396 5 місяців тому

😭😭😭

@Cristina08Kriss 4 місяці тому

That sentence hit me also❤

@johnrobertd748 3 місяці тому

But how to repair the damage???

@kimpabel22 3 місяці тому

@@johnrobertd748 you need to understand first what happened, it’s like a math problem, you won’t be able to solve it until you understand the problem once you understand you can try different procedures doesn’t matter how you chose to solve it the result is what it matters 😊 one beautiful tip I learned in my own experience is get out from the victim mindset and actually change my perception for example what did I learned from that experience? And now I became health coach helping others to change their perception about themselves 😊

@nandamaharjan2985 7 місяців тому

He makes everyone who has been wounded in their childhood feel heard and validated. Finally we can feel relieved for feeling the way we feel and to know that it’s okay to feel like that and that it’s not your fault. Something that strikes me is learning that a child should not have to work to make the relationship between them and the caregiver work. They should not have to be perfect, smart, beautiful and successful to be loved and accepted. I wish I knew these as a 5 year old child.

@bookbeing 6 місяців тому

Even if we were all these things, it wouldn't matter to the parent. They would just move the bar.

@AlpacaRenee 4 місяці тому

Amen! I wished the same thing when he said that.

@jcszot 2 місяці тому

Absolutely!

@lesleyadams2544 Місяць тому

Same. Same. At the same damn age.

@onlijnatfreeler 14 днів тому

We can still tell that 5 year old that we were! I do it all the time, teling her:" hey darling, you are feeling very scared now, aren't you? I feel your little body freeze up entirely. Why don't you come into my arms for a bit, come here, baby, I 'm here now, let me just hold you here a little bit. Here, feel my hand on your head, stroking your beautiful hair. It's all right, honey, you are all right. It's just fine, I am here with you." She just melts into my arms, these days. I am so glad that I can be there for her. Pick up the child inside you. Talk to her, sing to her, caress het little face, tell her how brave, how kind, how sweet she is. Tell her that you love her and that you'll always want to get to know her better and she can tell you anything she wants..

@robinbroad8760 11 місяців тому

Every time I listen to Gabor, I am newly healed and reclaiming all the needs that were were denied

@cs99 11 місяців тому

well said Robin. It's like Dr Mate makes us feel accepted as flawed wounded humans and it's our responsibility to heal for ourselves. ♥

@laraoneal7284 9 місяців тому

@@cs99. It is our responsibility to address our childhood trauma and to set up boundaries in our lives to prevent further abuse and harm from our families and so called friends.

@cs99 9 місяців тому

@@laraoneal7284 Thanks. AS you are aware, Some abusive people think otherwise. we can only take care of ourselves and God help us all! Cheers

@concienciaamplia1710 9 місяців тому

Psicolobim can work for PTSD ? I need help

@Stella-yc1ix 8 місяців тому

every single time....

@hd-be7di 11 місяців тому

I cant believe Dr Maté is almost 80. He looks like he's in his 60's

@anonime395 4 місяці тому

he looks like tired alchoholic. more legit than 10/10 supermodel influences and spirit channelers

@meawesome1651 Місяць тому

Indeed !

@nanabanana1983 11 місяців тому

Please pray for me to heal physically in my brain and all body systems and in my mind and spirit and soul.

@maryannbeeton2106 11 місяців тому

I will pray for you beautiful soul Nan 💛🤍

@chineduchineyeze4039 11 місяців тому

Pray for me as well

@LindaSzewczyk 9 місяців тому

Let us pray for those in need of healing. “Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; Save me, and I shall be saved, For You are my praise.” Jeremiah 17: 14

@jabe3780 8 місяців тому

Heal them, Loki

@waggna469 8 місяців тому

I will not pray but believe in you ❤️

@AlpacaRenee 4 місяці тому

Our society of “keeping up with the Jones’” where we feel both parents have to work, is the root of the problems we now deal with. Downsize your home or move to a less expensive area, simplify your life. Then moms and/or dads can stay at home to raise their kids, instead of strangers doing it. Then you know what they’re being taught, what they’re being fed, and materials they’re being exposed to. If you can, homeschool. The junk they are teaching in public schools is ridiculous. Thank you for this interview. This Doctor is a gift to humanity. God bless him!

@constanceh2752 Місяць тому

Thank you for explaining this . I don't feel that something's wrong with me I feel normal in perspective of trauma it explains to me why life has been challenging Thank you for the validation Thank you for this informative interview God bless you for the work you do

@saulbeiza7303 Місяць тому

Have y’all ever asked who are the jones? It’s probably not who u think. That being said do you know how to think?

@robynhope219 5 місяців тому

“The attempt to escape pain creates more pain”...very true! What you resist, persists.

@robynhope219 3 місяці тому

Yes, but there comes a time when enough is enough. Smell the flowers!

@kwww0306 9 місяців тому

I was abused by my ex-boyfriend when I was a teenager. He forced me to record videos of me masturb***** and I did that for him out of “love”. After that, during 4 years of the relationship, when we had fights or when he was jealous, he would bring this up saying he would blackmail me and blamed me with lots of rude words. I cried almost everyday. Eventually, I had him deleted all the videos and broke up with him. Now, I’m 32, thinking back, I want to say thank you for the lessons learned. I have learned to be more careful when taking actions and choosing a friend, and to forgive myself, to forgive him, and be my new self. 🌟🌞

@gojiberry7201 9 місяців тому

I wonder if your ex will just keep repeating the patterns ... I wonder if it was in his family, too. There are some people in my family who are in prison now because of sexual crimes that they just couldn't stop. Imagine if we could rehab people like Dr. Mate talks about. Your attitude is inspiring, thank you!

@kathyreiners6833 2 місяці тому

Sorry you We're so badly abusedañd hurt

@natashiacox3435 10 місяців тому

Listening to this really struck me. Wounds that have been always hidden are now so clear to me that I started feeling empathy for myself, as if I was looking at myself as a person who experienced so much trauma through life, all the big Ts and little Ts, I surprisingly and suddenly felt so much empathy and sadness for this person that I started crying. Very interesting. Truly cathartic moment for me.

@khanyinyembezi2944 10 місяців тому

I'm really happy for you

@dianacudby7290 9 місяців тому

That's wonderful. I'm encouraged by your comment. Do you believe this was a step towards healing your childhood wounds? I'm looking for direction to help myself without seeing a counsellor as I lack faith in them, plus they're extremely costly

@dougcoleman8972 8 місяців тому

I'd like to hear that too. Therapy is expensive but if you find one who you feel safe with it's amazing. I love my therapist and wish it wasn't expensive but that's issue I have with society. Wish you the best in your healing journey

@natashiacox3435 7 місяців тому

@dianacudby7290 it's definitely a part of the healing process. Keep listening and learning. I have hope for you too.

@salimamacharia1703 4 місяці тому

9 p

@user-hi4iy3wo6d 12 днів тому

Love this guy, i was browbeaten called a liar, told I was living in a fantasy world, my parents and siblings were horrid, I broke free from them finally and I am trying hard every day to heal my trauma, I have a lot of health issues but I try and stay strong, gabor helps a lot, making perfect sense but the main thing is that I wasn't imagining it ❤

@mustafakemalpasha983 10 місяців тому

My mother left our family for no reason for 15-20 days right after I was born and then came back. I learned this at the age of 25. Until then, I would intermittently lose consciousness for no reason and pass out. It was only after I learned this truth and listened to Gabor Maté that I realized the extent of the trauma. I felt incredibly inadequate, and I still do. And that's mainly because my mom is mentally unstable. Please don't have a baby without maintaining your sanity.

@mystifrost2030 8 місяців тому

There is a condition after giving birth called post partum depression. This is not a moral issue or a character flaw of women who experience this. They cannot control it. This is where family needs to step in to help new mothers. The more you know.

@user-ds5uj6mj9n 8 місяців тому

Sorry to here that the brain takes every thing in i hope you heal maybe therapy may help you take care x

@mustafakemalpasha983 8 місяців тому

@@user-ds5uj6mj9n Thank you. The past often comes to light as anger and guilt. I feel better every day, no matter how painful it is. I am doing the exercises in the last book of Gabor Mate, The Myth of Normal. it really helps me a lot.

@robynhope219 6 місяців тому

Sounds awful. Nobody with severe trauma should have children.

@claudiaschneider5744 5 місяців тому

@@robynhope219 : yeah, tell this to those people - my be they will take your advice serious.

@tinamarie9047 11 місяців тому

I had a very eye opening experience tonight that made me realize, at 50 years old that not only am I struggling to process multiple traumas from throughout my life but that I’m now filled with so much anger and rage that I’m barely a functioning human being. Sexual abuse, childhood neglect, a parent having multiple affairs and abandoning the family and returning several times, to as an adult not knowing how to express my own sexuality because I was shown at a very young age that sex is ugly, it’s manipulative, it hurts, it’s a dirty nasty thing to do and that I was a disappointment for having sex and not having sex. As the doctor was saying early on, I’ve now seen those traumas manifest as many different illnesses. Cancer, weight gain, Anxiety and panic attacks, eczema, oral canker sores, headaches, sleepiness, physical pain throughout my body and uncontrollable crying. I don’t function anymore. One of the worst symptoms of my trauma is passing trauma onto my only child. We are adults left holding the broken pieces of our pasts with out the directions to the store where that very special glue to put it all back together is sold. I took it upon myself tonight to research how to start to heal myself. I possibly, a way to send my child some tools to heal her as well. I was injured in a work related accident a few years ago and was unable to return to that type of physical work. With no education and a laundry list of learning disabilities, I have been unable to find new employment. I’ve lost my home, car, my ability to care for myself (emotionally not physically) though the desire to physically care for yourself is gone too. I know that something has to change within me. This is my start. I have no medical insurance and cannot afford therapy. So, thanks to UKposts, I’ve found some sort of start for myself. I’m also now living with the elderly parents that began a lot of this trauma and they continue to be a source of this pain for me. I feel stuck. Mentally unable to will myself free.

@vanyaveras 11 місяців тому

I feel you. Start by giving yourself love. An affirmation: I am worthy of love, i am enough. Get the GAPS books and heal your gut. Walk 20 minutes. Try once a day when you can and work up to once a day. Once you can afford it, start Hatha yoga once a week. This is self love. Thank yourself for doing these things. Healing yourself is the biggest help you can give to your child

@transcendentcooking 11 місяців тому

God bless you and your struggle. There is hope, sometimes just calling out the name of what ails us will give us the sense of possibility that it's possible to get better.

@elenabout3282 11 місяців тому

Wish you a pleasant healing journey 🙏🏽 reminds also of hope dispensa. Gives powerful tools. Big awareness and intention to heal are first powerful steps!

@chylieclark2414 11 місяців тому

Dear Tina, it is very apt that you have the same name as Tina Turner. Get her book on happiness. It may help you. What an amazing life. Just like Gabor. Your suffering will will turn into medicine and help many people. ❤

@nickturnbull4105 10 місяців тому

I'm so so sorry to read your story ,I sincerely hope that you can use these excellent videos to begin your new journey and healing . Best wishes Xx

@gojiberry7201 9 місяців тому

I tried to talk to my mom about my childhood molestation by my brother, and she just screamed at me to shut up. That's how it is in my family... so it's not just past trauma, it's continuous trauma when you're shot down by people whom you're supposed to love

@trudibarraclough478 9 місяців тому

I tjink that reaction comes from guilty feelings. Mine didn't believe me then blamed me, and blamed my sister too. "Why did you let him?"

@gojiberry7201 9 місяців тому

@@trudibarraclough478 I got that too -- "I guess we didn't teach you how to say no." Meaning, it's our fault, but not really, you should have said no, and it would have stopped.

@user-ds5uj6mj9n 8 місяців тому

So sorry you went through that abuse

@edhinsa 8 місяців тому

I feel for you. This is my story of the life too. Sad … and the scars stay forever. You can deal with it but you learn to understand why you act as you do.

@user-ds5uj6mj9n 8 місяців тому

@@edhinsa sorry i know it makes you ill the brain keeps the score these sbuses you should

@teschchr122 10 місяців тому

I was adopted and at the age of 58 I finally traced my birth fathers family, with the help of a DNA detective. It’s so strange because he had a traumatic childhood that scarily mirrored mine. In my case my birth mother abandoned me at one month and I was put into foster care. I was adopted to abusive parents who primarily seemed to want me to work on their farm when I was 3.5. I went back into foster care at the age of 15. In his case his mother abandoned the family when he was 2 and he and his brothers were put in and orphanage. At the age of 4 he and his brothers went with his uncle and his wife to work on their farm. I was blown away. He was deceased by the time I found the family but learned all this from his brothers. It’s so strange….I never met the man but I feel like I know him.

@gojiberry7201 9 місяців тому

Wow, that is crazy 😲😲 I hope you are healing

@lorrainew7529 3 місяці тому

This is unbelievable. I have trauma. I have rheumatoid arthritis and crohn's disease. Now fibromyalgia and trigeminal neuralgia. My dad passed 6 months ago with terminal cancer. My health has been affected. I have had flare-ups and now know why. This gives me so much insight. I do practice mindfulness and qigong. However i now know that i have been triggered. I have just bought your new book. I will continue my journey feeling more informed. Thank you Dr Gabor Mate ✨️🙏✨️

@Springsummerfallwinterrepeat 8 днів тому

Bless you. Im dealing with identical health but with lupus instead of chrons. It is something isnt it? Flares 😢

@monavis2356 9 місяців тому

Pure genius. Such a pleasure to hear him speak. Some people who walk amongst us are so ahead of their time and he is one of them. Respect

@karensimpson2112 8 місяців тому

I love him but ahead o his time? Ejust has an understanding of all human nature that cado this samething.. He seems a bit older but let thst fool you, so am I, nrot real young anymore but wisdome can cone at different times of life. Are we ready to reicieve this mind blowing guidance thaat e know we nee. I get widom from all types and olors of people. This i beleive will give me more thinks to talk about and DREAMABOUT..Much Love to all🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 God bless

@monavis2356 8 місяців тому

@@karensimpson2112 I do believe he is ahead of his time. His fascinating knowledge of humans nature/behaviour and effects of childhood traumas on our psyche / behaviours is beyond extraordinary. Specially when he himself grew up in the most traumatic of environments. I can only compare him to Sigmund Freud and Joseph Murphy, yes I have that much respect for him as he is a pioneer when it comes to childhood traumas specially when he has been through it himself and came out the other end as this magnificent professor and his aim it to help humanity heal.

@HelenaTeeter 8 місяців тому

I never let my babies cry and we cosleep. They are such balanced children, kind, healthy, homeschooled and never one vaccine. My 16 year old starts college this week! So proud of them!!

@madney0410 8 місяців тому

This made me happy.. we need to keep our children away from the corrupt system and refuse all vaccines.. I did the same ❤

@leftykeys6944 7 місяців тому

@@madney0410-- ALL vaccines?!!! Polio's made a comeback.

@endofscene 7 місяців тому

@@leftykeys6944I recommend ‘Dissolving Illusions’ by Suzanne Humphries

@chriscook9433 7 місяців тому

That's amazing what incredible results. I would urge to reconsider a few vaccines, one's that have 40+ years of data. I'm not saying they don't have risks, but In my experience disease spreads on campus very easily so there's a benefit to consider. I myself got scarlet fever in college which isn't a condition you can vaccinate for but it's just an example. Good luck!

@endofscene 7 місяців тому

@@chriscook9433 There is no genuine safety data for any vaccine on the childhood schedule

@juliemiller1151 Рік тому

I wish some of this could be taught in schools or at least given as information to pregnant women..I feel terrible for the mistakes I made as a mother out of complete ignorance. No wonder we're in such bad shape here..

@goldas.4624 11 місяців тому

Julie, I also didn't know but I have been learning amazing stuff for replacing the trauma affects by truly helpful soulful info & energy. After years of study & applying it I teach people. Happy to help, send your email

@DJBAMBAM13 11 місяців тому

He's definitely made me feel like a failure as a mother. But crap I didn't know!!!!!! I was told to let my son cry it out and now I feel soooo bad because my son is having issues and I feel like it's my fault

@cristinaevans139 11 місяців тому

You are someone,you did your best …..what else is there,you cared you tried…now it’s up to your son.just the fact you posted this shows me you are and we’re a loving parent .no one gets through life unscathed❤

@vasantipunchoo3699 11 місяців тому

I keep wondering how much trauma can happen even to a foetus ,i mean to an unborn child

@shorelined1 11 місяців тому

That would be great but it always goes back to the powerful entities at the top, enforcing societal changes that benefit their profits, like a stable workforce who "behaves". It makes one question who approves the books and curriculum. I've long wondered why nuclear families became the norm too.

@KarilynVS 11 місяців тому

Being abandoned by a parent is the most traumatic experience

@Cegorachthelaughinggod 11 місяців тому

No living with someone who abandons you emotionally every day is

@kathrynbryantkidd5931 11 місяців тому

I remember 3 years old trauma Confirmed by others I remember vividly

@Zainygreenstone 11 місяців тому

I think abuse is

@anhumblemessengerofthelawo3858 11 місяців тому

Realizing you abandoned the Creator (Father) to have your _separate_ existence is the most difficult realization. _You chose this._

@jakemorrison8507 11 місяців тому

Why are people arguing, its subjective and not quantifiable, affecting everyone differently to different degrees and two experiences of something will be the same

@Shakeel_81 11 місяців тому

"The connection between trauma and addiction became inescapable", so true

@RMillerMiller 11 місяців тому

If a woman is given pain killers when she is in labor ,the baby will grow up with a drug addiction

@kssgpv 11 місяців тому

@@RMillerMiller here is an example of a sauvinist man!

@claudiaschneider5744 5 місяців тому

@@RMillerMiller : Guess what? That´s just not true.

@shorelined1 11 місяців тому

When the host said "in closing", Gabor was just starting to talk about what one does as a traumatized person. I'd have asked HOW does one stop ppl pleasing and being afraid to say no when it's been so ingrained and used for survival one's whole deprived life? I'm trying to give myself permission to be ok with my needs since a couple years ago, when I first heard Gabor speak on childhood trauma. I feel like I've never known who I am so it's very hard to sort out the feelings of what I should do and what I really want to do. Making almost any decision is very stressful for me. I try to weigh everything out and still don't know what's best for me. I never got to just be me. I have no idea how to do that.

@amandajoynson2042 11 місяців тому

Same 😢 4:33

@debbi7591 11 місяців тому

I relate to your story so much!

@dianacudby7290 9 місяців тому

Please @Jason Wachob ask Gabor back to explain more how we can heal ourselves

@coda2197 8 місяців тому

How deeply I understand this! I highly recommend getting Gabor’s last 2 books. 1. When the body says no 2. The myth of normal Also rec The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Vander Kolk (probably misspelled his name lol)

@Irishcome1st 9 місяців тому

Childhood trauma has a profound effect on a person’s mind and soul. We all process traumatic experiences differently, some of us dissociate from it until it erupts at some point in our lives as it will always be manifesting or bubbling beneath the surface, we may have our box of tools to fight off those feelings until we can’t avoid them any longer and our tool kit is no longer effective. Others numb their pain through substance abuse to avoid the overwhelming sense of pain and suffering. There is always trigger point on life when we have to engage with those memories, emotions and thoughts, going back is often the only way to go forward. Toxic people or “stressor” family members that ignite those emotions and exacerbate the pain of the past must be extracted from our lives to help us achieve the peace, stability, happiness and freedom of the pass, boundaries are imperative in achieving a Better version of ourselves.

@dianacudby7290 9 місяців тому

What you said about toxic people that trigger or ignite these repressed emotions? My husband does and says a lot of things that trigger my own deep-rooted sense of inadequacy and insecurity; making me wonder if I should 1. be grateful for him bringing my trauma to the surface so I can hold it and heal myself, or 2. break our relationship and move to a place where I feel safer and can heal in a place where my emotions don't feel so threatened? Only I can decide this.

@daisybloom7907 9 місяців тому

@@dianacudby7290 Diana, why live in a permanent state of emergency and fear. Living With a person that triggers your emotions and causes you such deep anguish is not healthy. You’re living a punished life and you seem conditioned to thinking this is acceptable or all you’re worthy of. You deserve so much better than this and you should be allowed to process your passed emotions in a healthy manner, through therapy, time, kindness and support. You don’t seem to have any of these resources in place right now. You deserve so much better than this. Life is short, fragile and you don’t deserve to cut yourself short of peace and happiness. Don’t live in a state of despair and impending doom with a trigger puller.

@crystalH30 5 місяців тому

Omg …. Wow this was ment for me to read😢

@crystalH30 5 місяців тому

This is so spot on..

@annehedonia156 Місяць тому

@@dianacudby7290 Did you decide yet, Diana?

@katrinaseifarth6706 10 місяців тому

This is just so fascinating. 95% of traumas are multigenerational. "I can tell you your childhood trauma by the last time you got truly upset with somebody". Gabor Mate, how do we thank you for thus profound information you give to the world💜 Thank You 🙏❤️🙏

@user-ds5uj6mj9n 8 місяців тому

My god its like we have these mental health probs cause the abuse we suffered in are chilhood very sad

@claudiaschneider5744 5 місяців тому

@@user-ds5uj6mj9n : yes indeed - and there are some strange kind of new age gurus who claim - that our souls did make this contract with god and some other afterlife beeings bc we wanted to make a real earth experience? What kind of soul wants to suffer whole life through bc of this fucking trauma from all kind of abuse and violence in your early childhood and later on in life again and again....

@Blueskies7775 Рік тому

This man is not only brilliant, but he given humanity so much reassurance, hope, and understanding in the human “conditions”. As a fellow Canadian-he’s one of few Canadians I’m proud of. ❤

@leosun5952 11 місяців тому

He is such a gift to humanity. Such a brilliant mind and heart. I soak up his wisdom like a sponge and feel healing just listening to his wisdom. Thank you ❤

@mr.makedonija2627 11 місяців тому

Where in Canada is he from?

@jasminangel8079 11 місяців тому

He says it in the video.

@sarahmurphy-nf4yl 11 місяців тому

And Jordan Peterson.

@Pietro7383 9 місяців тому

He's Hungary/Canadian yet still proud regardless of ethnic or nationality!

@transcendentcooking 11 місяців тому

As a four year old my parents didn't protect me against horrific outside abuse. Then at 8 mom tried to strangle me. So, yeah, I understand this trauma thing. I needed to reverse the thoughts connected with both events. It's been a lifetime worth of work, but I believe I've done it. God bless you Dr. Mate for bringing this to the surface and your work. and yeah, I wish this was common knowledge, but for now it's up to those who can to talk about it.

@sophiarevel6952 10 місяців тому

What you've been through is terrible. I do remember my mother holding a big sharp knife to my neck. That was as a 20 year old.

@angelamurphy75 10 місяців тому

Also- the actual soul wound…ukposts.info/have/v-deo/roeVop6abH9empc.html

@sophiarevel6952 10 місяців тому

@@angelamurphy75 than you so very much for the video.

@MetallicDec75 9 місяців тому

I'm curious as I have had similar beginnings. How are you now later in life?

@transcendentcooking 9 місяців тому

@@MetallicDec75 I am at one with my stillness. In other words, I am doing great! I have found. a way to work through the difficulties and it has transformed my consciousness. I hope you have experienced profound healing as well.

@CICMCB 11 місяців тому

Trauma can be healed. I went through my own deep healing from severe childhood and early adulthood Trauma from 30-40 years old. My therapy was in-depth soul/heart healing from deep within to outward symptom healing. I then in my mid 30’s became a Spirit filled therapist. Only true deep healing occurs with the power of The Holy Spirit. It is amazing how God works because the Lord in the 80’s gave me the same teachings and words as Gabor. Depth psychology and John Bradshaw’s books, Healing the Child Within, Winter’s Past by Nancy Smith a nurse who became paralyzed on the mission field in South America brought back to the states to undergo therapy for repressed abuse as a child and was healed. True and lasting healing and wholeness is possible!✝️👑

@shorelined1 11 місяців тому

That's great religion works for you, but please don't imply one must pick a religion or believe in a god to heal.

@peterwu8471 10 місяців тому

Praise God! That's what I believe I need. God knows. He cares. May he fill me with his spirit!

@CICMCB 10 місяців тому

@@shorelined1 I was not implying such only sharing what God had done for me in hopes that even if one person may be helped. It’s the facts. My beliefs are not religion but about relationships with the God who heals. Religion is man trying to follow a set of rules to reach up to God. Christianity is about the Lord coming to meet us on our level. Experiencing such unconditional love is what heals us. I believe We only heal through love that transcends.

@CICMCB 10 місяців тому

@@peterwu8471 yes I pray so Blessings.

@peterwu8471 10 місяців тому

@@CICMCB Thank you!

@truthmatters1950 4 місяці тому

Gabor. Gentle. Powerful. Beautiful. Human. Wise, Respectful. Concerned. Yes, it's 53 minutes rather tha the 1 minute UKposts shorts. But you really should make the time to watch this and get some deep, fact based learning. Thank you Gabor for your effort in sharing your insights with us. Peace & love to all ☮☮❤❤🤗🤗

@altaerker5089 Рік тому

Dear doctor your face reflects all the pain in the world and I thank you for your deep understanding and compassion for humanity. God bless you beautiful soul.

@unanielson8837 11 місяців тому

Yes, definitely, his face seems in pain all the time.

@katerinapk7377 11 місяців тому

Hahaha very good comment to make for a person....

@marthamungure1777 11 місяців тому

Good revelation. Give it to God. Speak it out, then replace with God's love

@melisentiapheiffer3034 11 місяців тому

I don't even want to think of all the people this narcissist hurt. 😂

@melisentiapheiffer3034 11 місяців тому

@@unanielson8837 He is a collapsed narcissist, so he is looking for supply with his channel.

@julesleche6693 10 місяців тому

Wow! This is fascinating .. I just knew when my son was born yet every one around me just said you’re loving him too much. How is that possible 🙄🤷‍♀️

@DamarisNtale 11 місяців тому

As an African American, I am now so interested in diving further into this science of generational trauma. Imagine “the holocaust” happening over and over again to a group of people 😢 I feel it in ways I can’t explain

@sabinagal9953 11 місяців тому

I agree

@aprildawnmeans2663 11 місяців тому

So we'll said! Thank you 😊.

@shanicemaree 11 місяців тому

Health and Healing. Yes Bro. Continues battering from multiple sides/ppl. Generational, yes again in understanding and as you find out about it things become clear about self and our relationship to each other. Bless

@SeemsFutileNow 11 місяців тому

The Psy Ops are very effective. Dr Sowell makes more sense to me than any one on the Cultural Oppression of every Race

@clsicgrl81 11 місяців тому

Many peoples experience generational trauma. So true. Why the 'holocaust' in quotes?

@harremsis 11 місяців тому

Amazing insights! Gabor Maté is an absolute gem. We need more voices like him to get to a more holistic perspective on human health!

@CSIS25 9 місяців тому

I so agree !

@CP-pt1ot 8 місяців тому

He lost me when he started speaking woke. "two main genders", women of colour suffering intersectional derived illnesses. I mean defining actual trauma from actual events is one thing, attributing group based pathology to critical theory based narratives is another...

@postcard9889 9 місяців тому

It's an eye opening.."when you repressed the emotions, you repressed the immune system"

@c.schuster7353 11 місяців тому

Gabor Mate reminds me of Chiron from the Greek Mythology. The story of the wounded healer who healed others, but carried himself a deep wound that wouldn't heal. To all astrologers out there, Gabor Mate has a Moon-Chiron aspect in his birth chart. Studies have shown that some of the most influential healers and therapists have a dominant Chiron in their birth chart, and/or Chiron in aspect to the personal planets. Their own suffering and wisdom is what makes them capable of healing others.

@iloveFreedom. 11 місяців тому

Beautiful🌙🌟

@kssgpv 11 місяців тому

wow interesting

@nelliejo23 9 місяців тому

I have questions but he makes so much sense.

@actanonverba6670 8 місяців тому

We all have a Chiron in our Birthchart. Every one is a Healer. Astrology can help.

@willowtree9 Місяць тому

Im vedic astrologer! You are right. Chiron myth is one ofnthe most insightfull i ever read and understood. Great point from you. Yes we all have chiron but not in all chart the chiron isnmaking aspect to personal planets or kendra ( 1,4,7,10th house ) May you all have a space to feel it. I love you all ! Shiv Narayan

@CJScrol 7 місяців тому

Dr. Maté brought tears to my eyes when he told his story of his early infancy. 😢 The human condition is full of trauma. But sometimes we find a way to understand our wounds & let some of them go. Great discussions. Thank you!

@RapKrider 4 місяці тому

It would be useful to have a list of the books Dr. Mate mentions during this valuable podcast. He is a gift to humanity.

@marygrogan6101 Рік тому

Love this man, so wise. He has helped me so much. Bought his book The Myth of Normal and it is excellent.

@EvesRevenge 11 місяців тому

Me too!

@Davebro38 11 місяців тому

I want to get it too

@unanielson8837 11 місяців тому

What did you find helpful in the book?

@skippykaufman4436 11 місяців тому

Fake

@maggiep265 4 місяці тому

Awesome interview. Luckily, I learnt about the importance of attachment as a parent so I tried and managed to send my kids to institutionalised daycare (nursery)as late as possible. I've made sure that my kids knew they could rely on me. I also met a very smart lady when my baby was about 1.5 years old, who was homeschooling her kids with her husband. She opened my eyes to how unnatural it is for kids to study (be in groups) with their age-group, when in it is never the case in society- family, workplace, university, church, NGOs, leisure clubs, etc. From then on I always tried to make sure my kids were part of groups made up of different generations as my own family was broken. At age 13 my son's teacher personally congratulated me on the way I was bringing him up and said he was years more mature than his peers, with a unique and great personality. He's 21 now, and we're still watching films (good, funny and mostly, inspirational) together. And when I'm in trouble, both my kids are there for me, fully standing by my side and say that they have great childhood memories- ones I never had. And I did it all alone with and then without my abusive ex-husband, their father. Not without a cost though cause now that I'm alone and older, I suffer from serious mental health issues. In a way, I believe the time has come for me to deal with my own traumas and it's excrutiating. It was so much easier when I was in full lioness mode- both a mother and father for my children, who needed ME.

@claudiaschneider5744 5 місяців тому

Understanding trauma is one thing - to really heal trauma is much more difficult to handle - even when I do watch many videos or read books from Gabor Mate.

@hew195050 11 місяців тому

I love that Gabor calls Justin out on the inference that he's about "managing" stress and corrects him.

@molekyyli 11 місяців тому

Yeah, my sister believes she (or we) had a happy childhood. On the outside, it looked ok. Both parents, fed, clothed, toys, some hobbies, attended school as expected with reasonable results. On the inside, a silent dysfunctional family, so no violent fights and not much screaming but very lacking communication. I can't ever remember being told that I'm loved/how am I doing/what am I experiencing. I don't think my parents understand the concept that parents are responsible for creating a safe and trusty relationship with the child and not the other way. Depressed, anxious, highly insecure, low self-worth, frozen, lonely but probably unable of deep connection and intimacy... Haven't yet figured out how to start to heal. Wishing I was never born.

@amandajoynson2042 11 місяців тому

I could’ve written this 😢 EXACTLY my life 😢 have you watched this video and did it help? 4:33

@molekyyli 11 місяців тому

@@amandajoynson2042 I'm currently watching, I stopped to write that comment cos it triggered me. I don't think it's as easy at to just watch a few videos but his approach resonates with me. I'm unsure what to do (and where muster the energy to try something since I'm so scared of failure that I end up doing nothing but whining to myself. Are you also in a situation where you feel you don't have anybody to talk to about this?

@molekyyli 11 місяців тому

@@amandajoynson2042 Sadly, the interview ended before he got into any talk about healing it. Except saying his marriage helped him. Well, I can't hardly even imagine being in a romantic relationship with anyone...

@colleentoohey4450 11 місяців тому

I wish you the best! EMDR might work if you have the opportunity to try it. It is a long road to healing, but for me, it has been a hopeful journey.

@amber40494 9 місяців тому

Lots of problems but no réal specifics on how to heal. Except learn to say no..

@fimadness2066 11 місяців тому

So much empathy 🙌🙌 Let's build this world where we can look at each other as humans

@melisentiapheiffer3034 11 місяців тому

The pathological narcissist is not a human being but a monster who knows what he/she is doing. You must never feel pity for the narcissist because they will use it to destroy you.

@magneticcreatives 4 місяці тому

The myth of normal and Dr Gabor saved my life, I've been on a soul journey my whole life. I met my mother for the first time when I was 21 she and my father both have addictions and so did I. This awareness and healing work is hard but can be done. We work on healing these wounds. Pray for me❤ just had a baby and my hormones have me lashing out at my partner 😮

@charlottehewson9522 10 місяців тому

And Mate’s attention to how we use language is fascinating. OMG I’m always mind enlightened by the immense compassion and psychological understanding of human behaviour of this beautiful human being. For example, when Mate considers we don’t really want to ‘manage’ our emotions but better understand them, identify them and change them. Thank You - again! 😊

@rrusty_spoon 7 місяців тому

So many psychology lectures leave me feeling more overwhelmed by the hurdles of attempting to heal trauma. I could listen to Dr Mate for hooooours and actually feel like his words are healing my soul as I listen. Like I'm actually getting better in the moment rather than learning a new to-do list of things I need to "do" You are a treasure Dr Mate. Thank you for all you do for us with your teachings. I will continue to follow you and buy all your books ❤️

@mollusckscramp4124 7 місяців тому

I think that's because Dr. Mate really understands what he's talking about, and so can convey it easily in a manner that others will understand. A lot of other professionals in the field are guilty of hiding their lack of comprehension on these subjects behind technical jargon and word salad, much in the manner of how a parrot may mimic human speech, and in turn it continues to perpetuate the cycle of inaccessibility of mental health support for those who need it as you've described. We truly need people in this field like Dr. Mate receiving more recognition.

@katherineroth2310 Місяць тому

Right on❤

@katherineroth2310 Місяць тому

If I had had this knowledge I would’ve trusted all my intuitions and inclinations.

@princessak21 Рік тому

I had a narcissistic mother growing up and it was hell, hence why I grew up with so many undiagnosed health problems…

@Lyrielonwind 11 місяців тому

Me too. They ignore you when you are feeling sick or say you are lying and when your body collapse, they scold you for not saying anything. I had chicken pox and was forced to go to school for days until I was so miserable that I said to the nun I was leaving (without asking for permission) and I went to my father's best friend (pediatrician). He called my mother to tell her I had chicken pox and I should be in bed. I could hear her laughing; she was nervous that it was too obvious for him she didn't cared about me (her mask falling was her only concern). Take care ❤

@RMillerMiller 11 місяців тому

Wheres the healing part at in this video ? its just best to not have kids, no one has a perfect childhood, bad things will happen to you regardless, We are living on a prison planet ran by the demiurge

@MyrrhdeMarmion 8 місяців тому

So grateful to have found this today. Gabor always takes me to my next level of awareness and healing. Today the added gift of my right to say 'NO' to family assumptions of "my responsibility" for things that have nothing to do with me. Deep deep gratitude as always.

@ajcraft-belight 8 місяців тому

“Trauma isn’t what happened to you…it’s what you created inside because of it…” Thank you.

@johnrobertd748 4 місяці тому

So far, I've only listened to the first part, but this is something every parent to be needs to listen too

@yusufosman1518 2 місяці тому

So true but the parents that need to watch this video would probably reject this video as they would believe Gabor mate is spreading false information even though he is spreading the truth. Why would they reject the truth? Probably because they have a lot of trauma that they need to address themselves.

@hamletbroward3652 11 місяців тому

I’ve heard this before, but now that I’m dealing with the death of a 22 year relationship, I’m hearing this with fresh ears. “Attachments”, “Wounds”, embedded in the body’s physiology is resonating and why I’m not moving on as I thought is because you have to really understand what Dr. Gabor 4:04 is explaining about our beginnings and needs during development that are suppressed over the years. WoW! I’m not crazy for no reason, I’m longing for the love I missed, which drives my behavior for acceptance😮 Thank You ❤🙏🏽♾️

@nickcaption308 8 місяців тому

Dear soul. I am dealing with my own darkness, after trying to get my life few times . All started after heavy medication in hospital, wrong doings, and antidepressants. All started with this. For 2 years I became someone else. I did crazy things. I don't know from where and how I am still able to push it. I couldn't read, I couldn't understand the basic language anymore, I had lost my memory and cognitive ability. Physical I can't even describe what I went through. While dear familiy members tried to help me, after 8 months all discharged me. They couldn't take it anymore. I had to face something unbelievable. My body took control over me, all the repress trauma came to surface in such a way, that even now I am asking myself, how is still possible to be alive? So since then slowly, slowly, slowly I did progress. When beautiful people around the world, when I was in my desperate state, looking online for help,... Jumping from one topic to the other, looking for anything can rasonate with my situation, all of them kindly asking me to be patient, to take one step at the time. I hated all of them, because i didn't know that time how can I survive another minute. I hated their advices. Now 2 years later I am better. And grateful for all of them. I in my heart ask for forgiveness for what i was thinking. But i was desperate. I couldn't handle the symptoms. I don't trust medical system, doctors. Since i was young i was abused, and always given wrong diagnose, and heavy meds. Now at 39,i have to find a way to clean my system of all that dark.. Gosh. I am better. Not fully well. But at least my cognitive came back, memory 50%, amd and etc I now believe in holistic, alternative, mental, mind, amd healing the past trauma. I hate amd and don't wanna hear ever about medical system. All brain washed and applying from books. I can do that too. I believe just in emergency situation. That's all they can do and serve for me. Rest, is rubbish

@nickcaption308 8 місяців тому

You are loved and precious and wanted. Is a matter to meet the wright people 😊

@claudiaschneider5744 5 місяців тому

@@nickcaption308 : I feel you - but - there are people out there - incl. myself - which have to deal with all that trauma and bs on their very own - there is no loving people or family around me since decades - had to go into no contact bc of their abusive and violent behavor - and its much better to be alone than having toxic or false prophets around me - for sure.

@robynhope219 5 місяців тому

What healing isn't: clutching the pain and resentments of the past, and telling everybody about it. We don't need to "get over" our pain and resentments. We just need to allow ourselves to be with it and letting it be. From The Gift, by Edith Eger. What I like so much about The Myth is that he quotes a lot of experts from their books. I've found myself countless times in a place of just letting it be, and feeling ok about it, only to find myself back in clutching mode again, and feeling sorry for myself. The healing path is rocky and uncertain, and not everyone can reach the endpoint, if there is one.

@Catz5 16 днів тому

What a lovely authentic human being ❤bless you Dr Mate🙏🏽

@ketherwhale6126 11 місяців тому

Love Gabors disposition and approach to therapy. He’s got the right touch. He’s calm and assured. ❤

@Sraybash 2 місяці тому

What I wouldn't give to spend half an hour over coffee with Gabor ❤

@onlijnatfreeler 14 днів тому

Even without the coffee!!

@ottifantiwaalkes9289 3 місяці тому

Almost any situation in our life i believe, is to give us the or an opportunity to learn and grow. Even trauma. We are here to learn and grow.

@Chanel15477 4 місяці тому

He's probably been through more than half the people he's dealt with. To be empathetic to those who are less damaged is amazing!!! I'm done, I was bullied my entire life and ignored, I don't even like to be around people and trust no one. I love listening to this Dr.❤❤

@LeonVerhulst 9 місяців тому

My wife developed Rheumatoid Arthritis in March 2009. I was depressed as my dad was dying and I stopped work and nursed pop. Later that year I suffered my first bout of Rheumatoid arthritis too. The doctor didn’t confirm diagnosis until they day after my dad passed in July 2010. We’re still both living with it and on heavy drugs. We need to get out of it but I can see we need to change.

@sarahdooley4432 11 місяців тому

Gabor is one of my heroes, I've just decided. Thank you for this "MBG".

@saraolsson-servais3946 Рік тому

Dr Gabor Mate, thank you for speaking the truth. I hope people in the world will listen to you. Love from Sara❤

@fortheloveofbrum3106 11 місяців тому

We need voices in the world like this. Thank you.

@droy589 10 місяців тому

This is a precious piece of information. I myself suffered rheuomatoid arthritis. Still need to understand the cause so that anymore disease conditions are avoided. And maybe I can help others too. The education system needs to be changed on many aspects according to today's world.

@mariacoronel2547 11 місяців тому

He is so right about authenticity and attachment....his work is amazing. For some reason, when he talks about how children were treated and the kind of support network they got in the dawning of Homo sapiens, it reminds me of Dr. Sarah Blaffer Hrdy (not misspelled) 😊 an evolutionist biologist who has written amazing books on attachment of children to their mothers and others in a family. She calls the “others”, allomothers. Allo meaning “other”.

@gojiberry7201 9 місяців тому

In elephant herds, there are several allomothers for the babies. The babies always feel safe. We humans could learn a lot from ellies 🐘🐘🐘🐘

@amberhartley4164 9 днів тому

Ive always been aware of my childhood trauma, but never did anything to deal with it. Ive had multiple abusive boyfriends since then, alchoholism since the age of 14- now (26) My abandonment trauma and co-dependency have plagued me but again, I never did anything to deal with it. I was go go go my whole life with alchohol as my cruch to relax and now at 26 I have been bed bound for 5 months with crippling anxiety, dpdr, flashbacks of every chapter of my life, depression and suicidality. Its all hit me like a truck and I dont know how to deal with it (im 9 months sober too)

@einmayim 12 днів тому

Great talk, so important for all of us, for our wellbeing as individuals, partners, parents and group's members.

@alute2589 11 місяців тому

to realize that you've missed being held, that you'll never know what feels like to be held , but Gabor's pain is unfathomable , uneah

@janiemorado 7 місяців тому

At 71 I feel like I have finally been understood. I appreciate you so much for Being You and bringing this to the light. ✨💖✨

@svevitta 21 день тому

“Your yes is only meaningful when you know how to say no.” 🤯

@adriandeutrom9092 Місяць тому

It's interesting why people can't say no. Very good answer he gives. Yes, I too experience this in relationships. If I say no to someone I am emotionally attached and love, I feel that this person will not love me and reject me I have just realized this. It's troubles me a great deal as I have based this feeling on my relationships on the false self.

@rethinking2023 9 місяців тому

ONE OF THE VERY FEW IN THE MEDICAL PROFESSION WHO COMES PUBLIC WITH HIS RESEARCH AND PRACTICE EXPERIENCES VERY PERSONAL COMPLETELY HONEST AND COMMITTED TO GENERATION'S SUFFERING. PERSONAL APPEARANCE IS MORE EFFECTIVE THAN STANDING BEHIND PUBLICATIONS.THANKS FROM THE HEART 🙏

@laraoneal7284 9 місяців тому

Expressing ur thoughts and emotions verbally is VITALLY IMPORTANT TO UR HEALTH.

@user-tk2wl6id3r 11 місяців тому

This is absolutely the truth! Thank you Dr. Louise Hay have been talking about this for years. You can heal your life 😢😊❤

@justathought...7271 3 місяці тому

I already figured out many things Dr. Gabour talked about here, but I found it very helpful that he validated things I already knew about. And I feel blessed that YT exits and people are able and willing to share this crucial information with others ℹ️ Thank you!🙏

@HodaMcClymont 10 місяців тому

Dr Gabor, thank you for speaking out about a reality that's hurting society. The Bahais are doing community building to move past this lonely approach and create vibrant communities in neighbourhoods. Your talk made me realise how important this endeavour is.

@susanmichel4814 Рік тому

Amazing podcast! The wounds from our past need to be brought to the surface for healing to occur. His story about his own abandonment issues was profound. Love Gabor's Course In Miracles analogy. There is so much psychological truth in ACIM.

@Leaning_Bear 7 місяців тому

one day my mother was dropping me off at kindergarten and i saw a little boy from my class start crying and his mother took mercy on him and took him back home. in my infinite 6-year-old wisdom i decided to try the same tactic.... sadly my mother left me behind with a smile... leaving me feeling unloved and disappointed, and worst of all, abandoned. it was a sad day of learning reality, still bothers me to this day 30 years later.

@erickanorris567 7 місяців тому

I'm in my 50's and the best friends I have are all over 65. My generation complains about loneliness via text but won't make plans or don't follow through. The older people know how important it is to connect in person and that friendships take time to build and maintain. Ever hear a millennial say " I own so and so a visit"?

@kathrynholland3558 8 місяців тому

Whilst I find so much of this so helpful. I worry there is a risk of it encouraging victim blaming. Sometimes an angry reaction is a reaction to an unacceptable situation (for example abuse), whilst trauma may influence the response, it doesn't always make it the reason

@cee7105 10 місяців тому

The last 5 minutes are key. What a great man 🙏

@lanalou2749 9 місяців тому

I love how Dr. Mate isn't a psychologist..... He's a family physician who cared about his suffering patients enough to investigate the root cause for their ailments. It also seems as though our traumas were necessary when we can use it for the greater good.

@IndigoPhoenix-wc9lh Місяць тому

I would like to here more about healing, I know about trauma more than I would like to, from my own experience.

@brianhoneycutt5938 23 дні тому

Appreciate the video, and lot of good stuff here. But please, I would ask that you change the title of the video to drop the 'how to heal' your trauma part. You guys don't really go into that much if at all. I found that frustrating and misleading. This video seems useful for building awareness of trauma and how society can facilitate or even perhaps cause that, but this isn't a how to video on healing trauma at all.

@alfredfequet643 3 місяці тому

I have Chrons,MS and have just finished chemo for breast cancer.I am very impressed with his blog. I now am following him.

@Springsummerfallwinterrepeat 8 днів тому

Im going to get better. Abuse and trauma has stolen so much from me and my daughters. It's sad but touching how there are others out there like me who have made it out or going through the same trying to rebuild. Those are the people who tend to be the most loyal heartfelt individuals. There are good people who exist that are trampled by chronic illness due to trauma and abuse. I know it personally. One day I will be able to help others around the friends I pray to make who are holy and overcome with me.

@angelafriedland4971 10 місяців тому

The information he shares can be absolutely heartbreaking. To think my son's ADHD could have been prevented through a father who didn't abandon him and if i had sought out more help. It was a risk to bring a child into a home with a burnwd out Mom and absent Father.. I would have given my life to change his diagnosis or prevent it from happening all together. After reading years and years of research on ADHD reading Gabor mate and his work has opened my eyes to generational wounding, tuning out, and how kids can pick up on a tired mama even though we try so hard to hide it. The lesson here is... Never end the estimate the power of two and their impact on raising a healthy child and the long-lasting impact it can have on an innocent child and the entire family for a lifetime 😢

@bellebolhuis6070 10 місяців тому

Gabor is appsolutely right When she says home taught children are a lot more healthy secure and stable than the ones you kick into a daycare thing or a sick school system!!!

@robynhope219 6 місяців тому

That's bull...kids need to socialize with others.

@gissensials2194 10 місяців тому

Love Gabor Mate, a gift to humanity 🌟🌟🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌟🌟🌟

@samdung5630 9 місяців тому

In one sentence- children being put in daycare young is a major trauma. Next sentence- women have a right to work and feel like they are contributing. Not to criticize him, but maybe a woman's contribution to society needs to be their kids until the kids are ok!! Or don't have them. That's called responsibility. This guy is amazing, and I bet he would agree. My comment isn't directed at him, it's directed at that part of our culture.

@sandratello7296 11 місяців тому

Thank you so much for the opportunity to listen to this conversation. As doctor Maté says we need attachment, I love listening to people’s stories and by sharing them, we discover we are going through the same things. Is not about finding a solution but been able to speak and realize that someone cares for you.

@suefroud7020 Рік тому

Superb, very emotional and so true about attachment and it’s connection to the physical body and illness. I must learn to say no much more.

@THEDUDE912 7 місяців тому

I'm so grateful to have found the somatic understanding of Mate and Levine among others. I've been so frustrated to again and again to just have positive thinking thrown in my face but experiencing what can only be described as a terrorist rage within me that wreaked havoc. Positive thinking is certainly helpful but for those dealing with trauma it is not comprehensive enough. Thank you for your work.

@RiaSubra 5 місяців тому

Dr.Mate ,your speech is eye opening and enlightening.you have unveiled what is unseen beneath disease and Medical practice.

@susanmccaffreykohr5101 10 місяців тому

I wonder if any one of these therapists on UKposts have a clue about how impossible it is to find a real life therapist. Everytime I try to find someone, the process is excruciatingly futile. Any therapist who is actually worth the price of admission has a waiting list that would take years to finally get an appointment. I contact some of the ones who promote their practice throughout their videos and always get the same thing, "I'm so sorry to hear that you're are dealing with such debilitating issues, but I am not taking on any new patients at this time." The search wears me out mentally and physically. It leaves me even more hopeless and deeper in despair. How do I find my way to the help I need? I'm lost in utter confusion!

@nancyadams4358 11 місяців тому

Thank You so much all this Helps me and my family so much understanding one another’s trauma experience can keep you out of that way of judging and cruel ness that others impose how we are suppose to be. I Matter even if No one agrees ha I pat myself for befriending myself threw some really awful life experience. I Am my best friend and I Adore my life and find my way now. You mean so much to me Gabor.

@susiewanng2285 5 місяців тому

Dr Maté, you are God-sent, your trauma has become such an important life lesson to our wholesome health! I am 73, married for 51 years. Your experiences resonate with me and my hubby. We watch your videos together and talk for hours sometimes about your message.😂😂 Inter-generational trauma is mentioned in the Bible. I value all your videos n interviews on UKposts made available to us. Thank you from Newcastle Australia. God bless you, your good wife and your family.

@maggiep265 5 місяців тому

Wow I'm in tears. I always picked up my kids when they cried simply because I loved them and I understood that crying was their only way of communicating. My babies slept well and were amazing kids. (now great adults with compassion). I was on my own with my opinion at the time. Now hearing it from you, Gabor, as good practice, I'm blown away. I hope many mothers can hear this. I see a lot of kids struggling with their loneliness in Britain as well as in Hungary because their parents simply don't care. God bless you.

@suecurry33 11 місяців тому

I live in area where people have been brought up differently.If you say no or challenge an abusive behavior you are subjected to the silent treatment,smear campaign and what I see as narcissistic rage . I walk away from this rather than give into it ...but I find it hard to process this and not feel hurt by their actions . Are they activating a wound in me also? How can I get to 'that's their problem not mine ' faster because It impacts on me negatively even thoughI don't want it to Maybe I should read the book!

@Lyrielonwind 11 місяців тому

You need a psychologist specialised in trauma. I'm on EMDR trying to change limiting beliefs originated early in childhood and reinforced all through my life. I'm the family scapegoat.

@jhina84 11 місяців тому

Hypnotherapy ❤️🙏🏼

@andrewhaywood3853 11 місяців тому

Maybe you should move.

@GeeksCalls 10 місяців тому

@@Lyrielonwindsame. I’m doing mentalization therapy. Emdr didn’t work for me as my focus was totally off.

@charlottehewson9522 10 місяців тому

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Gabor! Mental and emotional healing has just happened right here! I was (and I’ll never be able to prove it) sacked from a job because I started to say ‘no, I’m not happy to do’ that and because I just plain asked too many questions. I too always wanted to get to the bottom of ‘why’!

@nasrin-bird Рік тому

Fantastic talk. Thank you very much. It was sort of I k we these, but not very seriously or consciously! He just confirmed my intuition about all that.