Keep up the great work

Exceptional content consistently 👍🏾

Steven you guys continue to get the best guests consistently of any podcast. Home run after home run. Keep up the great work mate.

Done, I think that labeling Masculinity as Toxic is just everyone's social acceptance of how to talk about people like Andrew Tate. If he was toxic and bad, people wouldn't gravitate to him, he's just a big head who talks alot, apart from that, he could be any of our brothers, fathers or sons. Understand that the people who labale it toxic are the same people telling men they have no problems. Kids are trolls and they used Andrew Tate to troll people, that's all, it could of been Kevin and Perry or anything else, we just trolled people based on what was relevant to the time. I used to use Forrest Gump to pick on dumb people, Kathryn Tate to troll chavy people with AM I bothered. Imagine how many teachers was abused with "AM I bothered though" "Face, Bothered", it's just that. Andrew didn't manipulate our children with mysognistic views any more THAN Eminem turned men into girlfriend abusers or serial killers. Understand how psychology works with all this and you will see Andrew is simply a target for mass manipulation of the population. Everything you know of Andrew that's negative was cleverly placed into your head and placed there in such a way that it triggers a negative angry response. We're basically just like Pinocchio before he had his strings attached 😢

Explain "Toxic Masculinity" first. If u literally want me to choose between degeneracy in today's day and age, specially online or being Andrew Tate and labeld as "toxic" what in the hell let's anyone think for a second i'd rather wanna be some dude who has 0 responsibilities in his life, doesn't work out, feeling sorry for being angry and telling everyone i'm bad because i am a white male? Are u kiddding?? How can Dr. K be so open and wise in general but when it comes to being a men became so off topic? I don't get it. And i understand Dr. K talked about the emotion anger for example and doesn't agree with what society does with it but doesn't provide any solution to it? I also listen to what he talked about being accepted with his needs as a men but at the same time he doesn't understand what the solution is? I literally don't see any difference to the woke cultures and Dr. K talking about "toxic masculinity" besides the fact he accepts anger as an emotion who specially men have.. Anger isn't a negative emotion. It matters how u work with it in a positive way. I get pissed off about my body but instead of quitting working out or eating healthy i just work out harder and optimize my eating as good as i can. I feel like shit because i don't have any responsiblity in life so i look for them and start taking care of them. I'm pissed about my financial situation so i'm gonna change it instead of whining about it 24/7. It's like talking about man's health without understand what most men need. Don't talk about it if u don't have solutions for it. "Do Men Need More Positive Role Models"? - JUST BE ONE I don't wanna have 10 women at the same time, drive a buggati, wear expensive stuff and live in a mansion. I'm healthy, wealthy, i work out, i'm having responsibilitys in my life and i live in a nice apartment. That's literally what all those "toxic masculine men" are pushing for me. And what has the left to offer for me? Oh it's okay if u don't work out, do what ever u wanna do depending on your feelings and this would be literally never have responsibilitys, eat trash all day long, don't work out and play video games all the time. Don't be delusional what "toxic masculinity" looks like. It's literally what helps men to become better and u don't have to copy somebody else to do so but everything the woke culture does is holding yourself back and making u weak as a human being. But hey atleast ur feeling good about doing nothing and don't even accept yourself.@@tenthlegacy1707

Very apt.

Wow, this is so wise, Thank you. Explains everything going on in society today

This is actually not allocated to any specific country, this proverb was made up in Hollywood.

@@jadengrant and how do you know dat? 😂

@@juniperstardust5549 Actually Capitalism does, but WHITE men ain't gonna talk about that. EASIER to blame women, minorities, and immigrants

That is a good sentence my friend.

This is what the world needs to hear

Living for the validation of yourself is the struggle. That's actually what everyone wants, but it's a path requiring you to constantly seek challenge and growth. Sometimes knowing the truth that you aren't enough, is the pain that people want to avoid.

Humans need humans it’s a fact it’s the way we were designed. Loneliness is a horrible affliction. The enemy wants us to be in discord and they want this it’s their design world domination starts with the destroying of society. Divide and conquer

Live for it? maybe not, but whoever claims that validation is not important is either a sociopath or just lies to himself. humans are social animals, we're physiologically hardwired to react to how the tribe views us.

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I loved that quote, people LOVE to judge people based off of one side they can see on a cube without trying to see the other 5 sides.

spread of information would come to an immediate halt. nobody would know ANYTHING goin on in the world because they wouldn't be able to speak about anyone other than immediate family and friends.

@@Sarkhan69 he was talking about imprinting a "bad" or good" label on someone, you can still transfer infromation without doing it

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not only is he articulate but very engaging too. i dont mind listening to him for hours, a real shrink normally pisses me off within the first 20 minutes

Me too! I'm really glad he gets the recognition that he truly deserves. What a collision of two of my "online words" - Dr K. & Steven.

Dr. K's method combines Eastern and Western perspectives. Depending on the issue, he can look at a problem from a monk, neuroscience or psychology points of view. That sets him apart.

Gives us an example of a lie that he told during this podcast​@@hailuong9295

he hasnt charged me fuck all to watch his youtube@@hailuong9295

His UKposts channel is real as they come

​@@maxpainmediahis live stuff is so good

One of the best ways I’ve heard someone dodge a messy topic, baller 🧊

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He said he doesn't talk about people he's not talking to. ❤

You are a Top G for sure, man.

thank you so much for your contribution to society, and I've learned a lot of new things and perspectives from you in this video!

Your existence and content has saved and touched so many lives Dr.K, thank you

We love you Dr.K! You've helped millions and continue to bring positive change! And yes, I also wish they taught yoga and meditation in school, had to pick it up in my late 20s XD

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This, It is REALLY hard to find friends as an adult, everyone is busy at work, or with their family duties that finding somene who shares similar interests as you AND has the time to share with you is like winning the lottery. Honestly at this point of my life I just try to have a decent time with the ones I have close, but having expectations about friend relationships is not in my list anymore, I've found really nice people at work but again, life happens, they quit, I quit, or things just change and all you can do is accept and move on.

Big lie

It gets lonely sometimes even when they are there. I know because Im 50 this year! thats a bar!😂😂😂

I have the same feelings at 24, I have tremendous personal success, but have experienced much pain in loneliness. I would never take my own life, but I've experienced that pain and learned from it. The best thing to hear is that I'm not as alone as I often feel I am.

Try Boardgames and Geek people who aren't addicted to cpu games too much :)

How do you feel about Jordan Peterson’s work? He is legit the only person who has ever helped me. I see a lot of mimicry in Dr. k. I hope he’s sincere, but after the reeducation episode with Pakman, I suspect not.

Unfortunately, men cannot be helped in places such as the United States, because the society itself is what is harming men and rendering them useless. To save men, modern advanced society must be destroyed, so that men can regain an important place again. Men have no worth in settings where women have most of the advantages, and that is in advanced societies. Women always have worth, just by existing, and in any society. Men only have worth in primitive conditions.

Jordan Peterson. The great Canadian hope

Jordan Peterson. The great Canadian hope

Jordan Peterson. The great Canadian hope

Thank you for this comment and your work ❤️‍🔥

He's a great guy. Extremely kind and focused on helping others. And many of his videos about how the mind works and addiction and behavior are worth watching just because they're tremendously interesting.

What is wrong with using the '' typical doctor voxabulary'' ? In a way, it can actually improve your knowledge of medicine. Perhaps these doctors want to encourage other people to learn some concepts of medicine, which is not arrogant.

@@mathias5578 because it sounds too clinical and not connected enough to a patient. When doctors say things like: diagnosis is, medications are, etc it feels impersonal and the patient can feel like a subject matter and uncared for.

@@JuliesWorldXo Interesting, I guess it is a subjective preference, after all.

Sorry for your loss, wishing you peace of mind and soul.

I am so sorry for your loss.

sometimes the people who appear on the outside to be the happiest person you've ever known or seen are the ones fighting the hardest battle with themselves, an they try to rationalize a way out of their struggle knowing that the solution they seek is not the one they should take rather they should see the errors and the mistakes, the failures as a strength as experience to help them deal with this struggle an grow as an individual. what we need to teach those we love is that its ok to fail, its ok to not be perfect, to be wrong, to be hurt, to not know what to do, and more importantly that its ok to inconvenience others if you need to ask for help. i am so very sorry for your loss OP and i will pray that your son finds peace an the light guides him forward, similarly i hope someday you also find the peace and comfort that you need an that you deserve.

@@DeusGamez this is very true. I thank you

Condolences

Think of it as an opportunity. Lots of time on your hands to work on yourself and become a beast! Hang in there my friend, kicking the bucket is never the answer!

@@jadedpaladin6685 The biggest hurdle is overcoming this not having job experience to get a job. Having worked these minimum wage customer service jobs have taken a toll on my mental health. Dealing with rude customers has only made my mental health much worse.

I believe in you bro, u can over come it and achieve whatever you set out to do don't let the failure define you and keep pushing 💯

You're not even ugly, especially considered your age.

@donnelly5757 I understand. I would work a minimum job temporarily whilst getting some training/schooling on the side, to work towards something better. If customer service has become too difficult, find something lone working with minimal customer interaction (Delivery driving, night watchman etc etc) just as a temporary fix until you find something better. Something you enjoy. If not, depending on what country you are based in, there are always well paid, professional jobs that offer paid training to get your foot in the door. As for attractiveness. This is subjective. You'd be shocked to see the state of some people who have no problem attracting a mate. Regardless, attractiveness is probably only around 50% genetic. The other 50% can be worked on. Hitting the gym, cleaning up, barbers, stylish wardrobe, carrying yourself with confidence etc can easily take a 4 up to a 6 or 7, a 2 to a 5, a 7 to a 9 etc. Take all this into account and you'll be fine, you'll see.

there are many kinds, so feel free to explore the options

I understand what you say but why? Why give them what you never had? It's a very oddly specific task. My parents have been like this and i truely respect them for what they did for me but over the years i realized that they were doing this for them, not for me. They never spoke to me about what i truely wanted which usually was the things that money doesn't buy like the simple fact of listening to me, to my problems or my fears, getting to know me simply. You are doing what you need to do to provide for them but you are also living through them as well in a sense. What about what you want? What about what they want? Now i'm saying this solely based on your comment so i don't know anything about you so take it as you see fit. Peace to you 👍

@@joebenzz I get where you are coming from and while the possibility of living vicariously through them is a POSSIBILITY it's more likely that he's talking about family structure and it doesn't deny the fact that he's not open to their opinions, heck he might even be more open. In your situation it sounds more like a lack of communication and what he is talking about is just giving them a more kind environmment, he never suggested anything about it being a more controlling one.

@@Neroevelocity I don't doubt that it was about them having a better life overall. But in the offchance it was something like what happened to me, better to say it out loud to prevent this as this specific aspect is never talked about anywhere especially as it is a relatively common problem in families. But i am an alarmist in nature so i'm fairly sure that i'm looking at this a bit too much.

u got it big man take care of them kiddos

Congratulations!! You’re great and awesome 🎉

You’ve got this. This streamer believes in you. Be a beacon of hope for others!

Definitely give it up. You don’t want to view something that could be illegal & end up getting a search warrant. Happened to my ex

Praying for you to completely heal from this!

I pray you continue in your healing❤ as a mom whose son has suffered since very young due to our abuse and trauma from his father, I see his struggles and I am empathetic with anyone who suffers.

I hate those not allowed households. The whole idea is just messed up.

Even people born in 2000 grow up in that household. We all need to relax and be more vulnerable about the toxic ways our caregivers "raised us".

Its the plastic people family syndrome

At 36 I have everything else going well for me but dating. Had plenty of girlfriends in highschool and college…just things are different today. Every woman I meet is on psych meds, in debt, and generally doesn’t want to have kids or a family. Not much out there for us to fight for. I think this is stopping a Huge number of men from caring about society. Like how much “better” can I make myself before I just say F it.

The very fact we have Joe Biden. And Donald Trump as a President nominations, My Parents never drink alcohol, But they learned their behaviors from there.Alcoholic parenthat doesn't mathere if you're drinking alcohol or not, It's about their behavior, I think that my mother and father were deand probably would have been much cooler.They actually did drink a beer.Or they actually did smoke some ganja, They were way too update. And it's they never know how do relax. I am living with someone right now. That does not drink alcohol but can be very violent and act like a drunk peryou know you need some spirituality, Ali some way too. Get out your anger and Express it and sadness. Except for if you cannot communicate then it's just as bad as being an alcoholic and they call them ACC. Or adult children of alcoholics. I have been practicing radical honesty Along with boundaries with my mother and No. Okay, with her hang up, hurry ups her litteral phone hang up On the phone everyday, but at least I do not get angry Anymore, It's better that she can take a time out,

when he was talking about it, I was reminded of when I used to attend yoga class. At the end of it, we always had a few minutes of quiet time to subside into ourselves, kinda meditative I guess. My yoga instructor would instruct us not to think of nothing, but to let the mind contain every thought that runs through it, but don't pick up the thread of the thought. I guess you could call it floating in a sea of thoughts. It became this moment where I could have any number of thoughts running through my head, but my mind was almost completely divorced from those thoughts. These days, I still practice that to go to sleep even though I don't do much yoga anymore

YEAH THAT WAS EPIC

my question to him would be how does one apply this in the real world. i live in a town with 18000 people. i have a very hyper active mind. there is nowhere i can go where my brain would ever get overwhelmed or tired out like he explained. it did sound like a good idea though.

I noticed very similiar powerful emotional reaction to his adhd videos as well... its amazing how well he explains and connects topics to his audience

​@@jjg1501 have you tried it yet, though?

Check out his channel his lectures are awesome :)

Yeah and people there try to advocate for just living without other people and not caring about others for whole life. Hahaha! Likely they just entered their twenties and think that just because they were fed up with people during school years they won't neet other people forever.

That's true, but knowing this is one thing and living your life accordingly are two different shoes. It's very easy to lose track of that.

Well yeah, but one very important factor is lots of people literally being hostile to men and literally discriminating against men, and it not being socially acceptable for men to say that they have it tough.

How can you know? Are you all knowing? ​@@AhaOk2398

Only true paranoids understand the truth.

as long as it doesn't become another ego identity and 'dopamine fix'. Because I've done volunteer before for the first time because the place was near and I have nothing to do, and boy the ego is just oozing strong in the people there

What measures could one take to give themselves the best chance to avoid said pitfall/problem.

Totally agree.

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I have pulled myself out of depression multiple times by doing this. Volunteering with others for others is as necessary for me as moving my body and eating vegetables.

Me too. I don’t like separating men and women issues. We don’t live in separate societies, and we won’t solve societal issues separately.

Yaaayyy!!!🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

I only found him some years ago, hence i was already 40+ yo and had to find those things out all on my own. He would have been a huge help back in those days. Hence i'm happy he's here for current boys and men going through these issues.

Same

wait till realizing how vapid and conflated most of whats said is of course sleep is a state of consciousness when we sleep we are not unconscious but privy to the whole 8 hours just like this 90 minute manure of cluelessness calling the mind an organ or acknowledgement of problems as something bad

@@starc. yeah but sometimes we need to hear it from others for it to make sense

Do not rely on others for self fulfillment, you set yourself up to be harmed. Explore what interests you, set goals, and community. Don't focus on the material as long as you have a roof and food, don't buy things to connect to others, save your money and build your stability. Community is huge, volunteer. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose while connecting you with people that have other interests besides themselves. I am 40, I was never more lonley when I thought the other half will complete me. You don't need anyone but yourself. Don't seek approval from anyone but yourself.

@@eduardoguzman-mu3wh My journey started with a wife wanting more money, a bigger house and more material things to make her happy. I divorced the unhappiness in my life and my perspective righted itself. I needed that experience, however, to give me direction to what made me happy. I was a simple man who complicated his life by looking for companionship.

If you haven’t by now, and you’re comfortable doing so should seriously consider sharing it someway somehow. Even if it’s the recipe that will work for ONE other man, it can change everything for him. I’ve known many a man that needed just ANY walkthrough. And certain things only help certain people. So in my opinion, the more out there, the better. There’s a podcast called other people’s lives. Just an example. Idk their criteria, meaning idk if they want current events in a persons life or if past events leading to now will qualify. But they just have people willing to share send emails and they get on calls and let the people speak. There’s bound to be many many others that are looking for stories just like yours to help other men reach true introspection and progression and peace etc. Thank you for sharing even this summary here for us to find. It does give me hope for the men I love.

@@bobeeman9730being of service is sooo unbelievably profound. Like really truly so unbelievably powerful.

When you divorced did you have to pay alimony ? Because that's the most dis-gusting law around the world

Find purpose and set goals.

@@humblecatpie4512 Well, yes. I've read JBP. I know the basics. I just meant, it'd be nice to get specifics from alleged professionals.

Check out Dr K youtube channel called healthygamergg

Honestly man, share your ideas on what you think may be stopping you. Having someone else actually try to empathize with you goes a long way in discovering what you value in life. It ain’t easy, but I’m rooting for you fellow brain. What helped me is understanding why the brain functions the way it does and realizing it’s an efficient predicting machine trying it’s best to make sense of the world. Don’t be harsh on your brain. Your experience is unique, but the emotions we feel can be shared and understand the pain you’re going through. Hopefully this helps you and others that happen to read the comment section. After all, it’s how I slowly built the courage to experience things that were out of my comfort zone by reading and emphasizing how others are experiencing the world. You’d be surprised how many share the similar pain. Hard journey, but with each baby step you get to build that pain tolerance. You will experience those high and lows, but know that you don’t have to be alone going through that. If you are then it’s best to sleep it off or journal about what you’re feeling. It’s not easy, but going through that lets you know that you survived the pain and have leveled up your pain tolerance. Keep at it you brains reading this. GL fellow human being. No matter what you did in the past, you deserve to forgive yourself and share that pain.

yeah me too. I'm in the same position as you. Absolutely no reason to live. Except my parents and my older brother. They are the people I owe my life to and are the only reason I'm still alive. They love me and I love them. It keeps the edges from all the negative emotions from killing me. I'm sure you too have people like that in your life. I live my life for three people. Who do you live for?

Yes. This is an affliction for people. Not one gender.

Relatable, ig, all over the world..

I've heard volunteering is an excellent way to calm fears, anxieties, etc., at least while you're working. You could try soup kitchens or animal shelters or thrift stores, etc. Exercise is also helpful for releasing tensions and restoring some balance and calm. Time in nature (jog or walk outside if possible.) Finally, meditation and the spiritual to understand self, life, existence can help you find your sense of belonging in who you are, what everything is, at the core of being. If none of that works, try to find a club or group or class that does something you're interested in. Maybe it's art, dance, music, sewing, cooking, dog walking, playing cards. I myself don't have any friends and this is something I'm always telling myself to do. Problem for me is I sleep all day and stay up all night so I don't have many social options.

@@brushstroke3733 Volunteering has always lifted me into a higher space of gratitude and peace

@@brushstroke3733 Wouldn’t it be cool to create a club that is a nighttime club; a bunch of people that dress up weird and meet to play board/card games and only meet at night. The Insomniacs club.

You hit the nail on the head. It's sad that our friends have devolved to numbers on social media.

100% Spot on. I thank god I grew up in the 80s and 90s before social media took over.

As someone who grew up and is still growing up in this generation… you’re exactly right with all of those. I feel there’s this massive “us vs them” mentality that makes it hard for people to discuss their differences

bunch of excuses. Churches, bars still exist. People still meet their partners through friendships. You just have to put your phone down and go out in the real world.

Just want to mention things like dating apps (which you mentioned) are only hard for men.

Yeah I love Steven too, my favourite charming good-looking good-natured and intelligent host ❣️

@@tamagotchi22 I mean, I didn’t say I love him. Don’t know the guy. Just impressed there is a different and v important convo going on that isn’t about bio hacking or diet.

@@ne5464 yeah agreed 💯 and I meant love in a generic way like I love stracciatella ice-cream.. yes he's a very current open-minded and perspective host!! I also hope he does an interview that covers the topic of the dark side of deep fakes, voice change and generative A.I. tools soon.. where do we draw the line between what's ethical when everything is permissible?

It's all cool to have the conversation, but the truth is that nobody cares about it. Otherwise we would be trying to fix it.

Yeah true... thanks for that Steve

Dr K's channel is such a good resource! Send it to your kids!

There were some good books written on similar topics 20-30 years ago that got quite a lot of attention at the time, pertaining to boys and their mental health. I don't know what's happened since, but clearly, we still have work to do. 😢

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@@etta5487 👍🏼 That’s a good idea:)

​@@cc1k435 do you by any chance remember the names of these books?

So true

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Yeah, he's grand. I still haven't quite kicked my nicotine and alcohol addiction. But at least I'm not smoking any more, and what's the harm in having a couple of beers to take the edge off at the end of the day?

​@@thossi09 Quitting smoking is awesome! Great work! The only thing that got me to keep off alcohol without mostly ever thinking about it, was meditation. I no longer (and I mean this completely honestly and also thought this was bullshit when other people said it) that I don't at all feel the need to take the edge off with alcohol. Meditation and journaling has been the only thing that worked for me. I go out all the time w/o alcohol now and don't feel any desire or weirdness about drinking. But that's me. If there's anything I've learned from Dr K, it's that you gotta do you bro.

Where did you learn to meditate? I'm trying to kick a couple addictions right now, but I'm not sure where to start with meditation@@ryanchattertonYT

Wow that's wonderful

Try semen retention.

I am not sure this is different from your grandfather or previous generations. Things get settled and 40's are nicer.

I don't know where I'd be without a relationship with Jesus Christ. I don't' know if you'e read the Bible but I recommend it - not just reading it alone but in a Christian community.

You touched my heart ❤ Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼

​@alexdingle7877 you wrote nearly exactly what I was thinking. Read some classic Christian works. The scripture of Jesus Christ.

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things....

always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters

this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her

You definitely should. You wont regret it

For now

He is quite skilled and also chooses great guests to learn from #SaveSoil

Agreed, he has become a skilled listener and thoughtful in how he engages. All around a pleasure to listen to especially when the Speaker is knowledgeable and has much to share with the world.

Same from experience. Don’t force anyone for change even if it can be for their good. It’s their journey and choice. If they choose the Abyss or peace, their call.

Well said.. I had a similar experience too.. You did what you were called to do😊

Stephen Stephen Stephen,please don’t say ‘toxic men online’ they don’t exist!

I think this needs to be said more. AA brings it up a lot, but it reminds people that they don't need to wait for some outside to start helping themselves. They can start immediately to try and change things for the better.

Self determination !

So good! Thank you so much for your support!!

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@@TheDiaryOfACEO what is the name of the person that’s doing the interviewing 5:29

FYI Johan Hari, who you are directly quoting without credit, has been widely criticised by the medical community for his false representation of anti-depressants

I am 40 and my brother recently died. I had several people suggesting that I go on a vacation or go do something fun. What kinda suggestion is that. I’m sad over the loss of my brother going on a vacation or doing something “fun.” Vacations are only going to make what I’m feeling worse. I can not believe the thoughtless suggestions I have received. I don’t want to be surrounded by happy people. People thought I would bounce back in a day or two.

@@FortunateSon-re9bh societies current solution is to push pills into you never helping you grapple with that loss in a healthy way. It sucks to lose someone so close and unexpectedly not many have the perspective to effectively empathize with it which is why you get the just 'go have fun' as a solution cause it sounds harmless enough. When really you need someone to sit down with you and make you remember the good things about the person you lost so you can be happy about the life they lived with you rather then anything negative about the person. I'm not a therapist or psychiatrist but I think its important to come to terms with issues rather then slap a band aid like pills on your mental issues stunting your growth as a person because a pill is basically masking your mental anguish by pumping some happy chemicals and suppressing bad ones.

@@FortunateSon-re9bh There is always going for friends with group hugs

@@frarfarf PSSD

He's gotta be, he could get cancelled😮😮

I unapologetically Potterselytize the magical new religion of Tadaism with no filter, but the non-magic world is mostly not ready to receive the magic truth form Good Wizard (G-d or short) that Harry Potter is the true magcial savior and all believers in his victory over Voldemort can go to Hogwarts on fullride scholarships. G-d still believes in all of us and the Bill of Rights.

I'm an atheist but even I agree that the loss of church and religion has had a tremendously negative affect on western society and the sense of community. We're no less tribal no in that sense, all we've done is changed out religious affiliation for political or other labels gamer/nerd/feminist/etc.

It’s cosmopolitanism

you said it perfectly@@Snake369

It's *valid* to hate others. Whether it's okay or not is opinion.

​@@Snake369 that's some strong character in you to say this. I am not a religious person, not atheist either. I believe there is a God . But I despise the commercialization of churches. Years ago (1999) when I was trying to change my ways, ie get sober and quit drugs, I sought out a church. Went to 4 different ones in 4 weeks and gave up. Every Single One wanted money for "3rd worlders" and it truly pissed me off . Even then you could see where our Country and communities were heading and these people wanted something like 7% of your income every month to live large and bring foreigners here. I do agree, the more they remove God the further our Country and communities turn to crap in every way. Looking back , it was and is intentional.

Well done! ❤ Keep going! You've been 100% successful at survival so far... just keep focused on being whole and going forward.

@@Venusbabe66 So true although I have to give credit to everyone who stuck by me during these times. If it weren't for them I'd probably be dead. Not that that would matter much on the grand scheme of things.

If it's not too personal, what helped you get over those issues?

​@@user-lk3gn4dn9o Well at first I was so down that time was the only thing that could heal me. Had to just tough it out for awhile, and then once I felt capable, I started understanding how other people operate/ think etc. which also helped me learn how to be a better person, but also how to forgive certain people. Putting time into improving my own life financially, socially, and physically. Figuring out how to make meaningful connections with others. It's a very complex issue and I went to therapy for all my problems every day for 1 year and I can't say any of that ever helped. I basically gave myself self therapy lol. Realistically I would say time is the best healer. If you're feeling like you want to give up you just have to remember that there will be better days ahead. This doesn't mean you shouldn't take action to improve your life in some way in that recovery time, as that can be equally detrimental to your mental health. If I were to go back to my 18 year old me, I would have forced myself into the world to experience as much as possible instead of sitting around.

One thing I should note, is that the reason I say the self reflection helped a lot, is because it's possible I picked up some narcissistic traits along the way after I was sexually abused, so once I saw that maybe I was part of the problem that allowed me to work on myself which, in turn, let me heal myself from all the trauma essentially, which is basically like breaking out of that little world I was once stuck in. I can now actually see reality for what it really is instead of the delusional mindset I used to have.

Same!

yesss!! he is epic

what has he done for you so far?

@@sebastianmuller4298 helped me understand my depression triggers and how to not fall into the depressive mindset again If you suffer from clinical depression and listen to him you'll understand how he helps. If you don't, then you're lucky you don't have to fight your brain every day of your life

I agree best podcast I've ever seen

Frankly, he's awesome

...the one I could have done without...

@@PlanetJeroen another 'dr.' from 'Harvard'. that's a red flag for me.

right, and this was one of the best, i wish it was longer

@@PlanetJeroenreally? i found it perfect he nailed it man. the only part that was hard for me was the idea of humans evolving to give up on the things we used to care about to pave the way for technology and stuff, but i think hes more just pointing that out that its inevitable.

great work!

Its cause ur a good mother that actually cares about the well being of her children. Such things are rare today and I appluaded you for that. With a mother like you your children will go far in life.

"a decent size group" of men in their 30's & only 1 has a girlfriend? I get the not married thing but whhhhaaaatttt? R they just perpetually dating? I guess they can continually date a few women @ a time w/out calling any of them their girlfriendnd. if it IS only 1 girl, then y not call her his girlfriend? I can't imagine that many men just having continual 1 nite stands??

@@juliebraden There is a thing in modern western society called "hypergamy" - look it up!

@@juliebradenno, no one night stands, no perpetual dating, no one’s interested. There’s 1000s of great guys that r swept under the rug.

I don't agree at all! Its actually the helicopter parents who teach no responsibility ...nothing to do with government.

@pie0ful who are you not agreeing with? Dr K?. His words not mine.

@@Courteny283 I don’t agree with his notion that we rely on government … I don’t think we rely on government at all .. we have the most individualistic society in the free world and THAT is not working. We have very little help from the government for health care / mental health / education .. and the countries that do like Finland are doing FAR better than us by every metric!!

@pie0ful ok, well contact Dr K and let him know how you feel. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@@pie0ful The government can fund mental health services via public healthcare like in the civilized world (aka Europe), but even here, the problem isn't about that. We as individuals need to care about other individuals in our friend/family circle.

He's doing it for everyone❣️

im not a gamer but im a fan of his channel too. i first watched his interview he did with a murderer and found it very impactful.

I'm 46 yo woman, never a gamer, and this doctor explained me dopamine issues like no one ever!!! (I highly recommend to check out his 30 min. podcast about dopamine - it's just great & easy.)

You're welcome here.

@@Zmiana_Pogodycool I will check it out, thanks! From a 47 yo woman , perimenopause struggle is real!!

That demotivates people lol

​@@Joel-uc5lo It is acceptance. The 1% of men that make millions is the 1% for a reason. It is fine to aim high but at the same time, it is not for everyone and you got to accept life is like that. Living fairy tale dreams is worse in my opinion.

You are a happy sort!

@@Joel-uc5lo Happiness is an elusive fish.......................

@@iLAGnDC Why not act like a child and pout? It works! Look at Trump!

@@angelicaromero2488 No I didn't. But she had multiple mental ill

I am so sorry that happened to you. I know the same feeling unfortunately. How a parent could ever think treating their child like that was effective or helpful to them is beyond me. I know the feeling of stepping outside of my mind and going numb until it was safe to return again. Awful.

I remember those slaps as a child. Mom was the same way. The last time she slapped me I had a newborn in my arms. She slapped me over a disagreement after recovering from child birth. Was visiting family after the birth of my daughter. I put my baby down slowly in her car seat. I sat on the side of my sisters bed crying silently. My face burning and red with welps. Left the room quietly & walked towards my mom. She stood there with my aunts and friends. I slapped her back so hard she fell to the ground. My sister runs in from outside and shields me. While screaming at my Mom. I called the police and went home. It's been 8 years and I never want to see that cow again. She can literally go to hell

I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. It speaks well of you that instead of becoming embittered you found became more empathetic.

Agree that Stephen is skilled at interviewing... an art that has been ruined by interviewers who want to be the star (as I have perceived them).

He is a marketeer and you are being duped

@@insidiousmaximusMaybe I was a bit over the top in my praise, but I don't agree

I have a similar problem I'm not a volunteer but the boots. I taped them to stop it and wore thicker socks sometimes twice but somehow it fixed itself it was painful for a few months though, way after I got them

Also a woman. While this is sad and all, he hasn’t tried and this is a common problem with men today. They’ll complain and complain but they won’t do anything about it. And this is odd because my grandad and dad’s generation would literally be demanding the boots or walking. Guys have become very timid and almost fragile. And that soon turns into resentment that you got the boots and you’re a woman and then he’s following Andrew Tate at which point he’s undateable. When in reality you likely got them because your need was greater or you asked better. It’s all rather ridiculous.

At my current work, i discovered after first month that they dont pay us extra for weekends (50% saturday,100% Sunday) whic is extremely fucking illegal, but nobody wanted to be "that" person, so I went to my boss and told him he needs to pay me weekends its in the law, so he started, but only me, now everyone resents me because I get payed more. Seriously, some people are just docile kids.

@@jaybee4288 Oh look. Men have problems and somehow its their own fault. Yeh not getting tired of this sentiment at all. I suppose you think men should just "man up", but then "toxic masculinity" is also the problem. Gtfo. Don't comment on mens issues unless you're willing to help. F off.

@@jaybee4288 Okay... But do you have to go on a schizo-rant about how every male nowadays is weak and follows Andrew Tate? Because that is far from the truth. And why does it even matter if he's dateable? Nobody has brought this up. This has nothing to do with this conversation. Also she wrote that he'd been asking for boots for YEARS. Which makes your statement completely wrong. You completely disregarded the original comment and inserted your own experiences and resentment for men instead of writing something constructive and helpful... Also you don't know that guy and wouldn't know if he would turn to resentment over such a minute situation. Only if you were to assume that all men are the same. But I guess most men are just timid, fragile and misogynistic in your eyes. You know we would be able to achieve so much more if women and men would just work together instead of bashing each other at every opportunity. But that's apparently very hard for some people.

His body language didn't match his words though :-/

I will adopt that tendency for sure

Just because he has a degree doesnt mean everything he says is 100% factual. Its much more sinister than this.

@@grapenut6094did he claim that he was 100% factual?

Yes, I know a lot of women who do not subscribe to that way of thinking. Unfortunately, men who do not meet these standards tend to be dangerous because they feel insecure and insignificant. So because their partner makes more money than them, they are more likely to cheat or be abusive to "assert" their dominance.

@@wendylou239 No, men who don't meet these standards are not dangerous in their vast majority; else you'd see murders by millions every week. Most men on the planet don't own a house, you know. All you're doing by deliberately not dating men with lower income is aggravating the issue of men suicide. Yes, they are violent with themselves (not with others) when they get heavily depressed by the absence of a romantic relationship due to people like you deliberately only dating men meeting these more and more unrealistic standards for a growing part of men on the planet.

Parents need to do better at raising men to be respectful and relaxed at whatever they choose to do. American culture of Wall Street neurotic bad values is not conducive of a good life, and should not be admired but this is the most important decision l of horrible values we have today and it needs to change. .

The crisis with males is that instead of taking accountability for anything and growing, they're looking for someone to blame AND doing nothing about it but increasing the femicide rate and starting sexist podcasts instead of going to therapy. Women, decenter males. Focus on you.

18 year old boys need adventure. Have to have adventure!

Snap. I see it in the British town I live in. Brits need to stop this polite nonsense of "how are you" "fine" and start opening up!

squeaky wheel gets the oil, when there's a need there'll be a market. women now have so many resources and so many people willing to help us because 1 we are naturally more inclined to look for help than men and 2 we've been shouting for help for a long time. I think now as we're more aware and outspoken of men's crisis and men are more inclined to look for help than before, there'll be more resources growing for them.

Thank the governments

We never lived by those values….

We need to live again in a Christian society.

I hope you don't kill and eat animals then

The West need wars to keep the living standards that they didnt earn

I notice this sometimes too. I have adhd so I’m constantly seeking stimulation but sometimes I get overstimulated without realizing, and I continue to seek out media distractions to escape the overstimulation… when really I just need quiet.

I feel the exact same!

@@recklessmermaidsame but I be too scared of the quiet too 😭

Your going to have a beautiful Zen baby 😊

@@Linda-fr4dj I hope so, thank you 🤍

he's just another narcy scam artist

I feel like he's just flowing with the tide, following trends. I stopped following his channel years ago when he made a video about men basically telling us that we're living life on easy mode and we need to suck it up because women are the ones that have it hard. Now he's here with a totally flipped script, just feels disingenuous.

@@sticks7857 Link to video? That does sound like something he would say.. but as some kind of example or get people to take their own responsibility. There are victims who aren't victims but say there are, those exist. However, when you said " Now he's here with a totally flipped script, just feels disingenuous. " To me, that just sounds like you have a hard time believing people could change. Anyone who is actively learning, will eventually always have a "totally flipped script".

​@@anonymousunknown8938 "addressing misogyny"

@@lukebruce5234 Ahahhh, how is he "just another narcy scam artist"? and who are you to be so pious? what credits do you have to talk about it?

Women aren't equipped to deal with anger. Not anger as men experience it. They don't have the neurology for it.

do you know any woman? do you actually know them, or you do but your stuck in a bubble in that regard?

​@@xBINARYGODx mate what 💀

What do you mean by "when it is pure"? I am genuinely curious because I struggle with anger. Both mine and others. The example in the conversation about the woman crying and man yelling unlocked questions in me because I am unable to accept anger and its manifestations such as yelling. Although I know it is just like any other emotion, if a person shows anger(Commonly, people around me yell and it's always the men who yell), it induces fear in me and I immediately detach from them. It affects my relationships too. Is yelling when angry the equivalent to crying when sad? How do I understand anger without being so afraid of it?

​@@jiminsbabo2614you can be sad without crying and be mad without yelling but man it feels good when you do 👍🏾 to me it sounds you have some trauma from when you were little and now cant stand when someone yells so you detach yourself from them

Preach!! 🙏🏼🙌🏼

Same! ^-^

Agree wholeheartedly!

"Success" these days are weaponized to trick younger people into thinking that grind through their programs, their rich lifestyle, their expensive cars will lead to escaping your miserable life, except its not how it always works, for most people, Its all a scam to make money off of these people.

we all feel success in our own ways their not real definition between success its just as long as you truly feel like you achieved your opinion is like droplet in the ocean

There's a word you used in there which hit the nail on the head for being TRULY happy... and that's "content". Being content is to be truly happy.

The game of life is individual, so the question becomes personal. How should my definition of success change, in order for me to get the most out of life? Most of us keep fumbling in the dark without ever changing our definitions. And even if we do, we never reach the point of our success anyway. Probably because we don't know how, even if we are convinced we do. But depending on our definition it can all depend on other people, at the end of the day we can't control everything. But sure, if we assume that everybody means material wealth when they say success, then yes, that is a poor definition.

If he actually knew what to do, he wouldn’t be who he is. You listem to strong people on how to be strong, not weak.

And who are you, oh mighty part-time UKposts commenter, that I should listen to you? It would be rude for a teacher to not introduce themselves to the class first, no?

@@tomevers6670 He WAS weak. Look at him now: insanely successful, rich as fuck, has a wife and a couple children... Where weakness?

​@@tomevers6670 if you suck at smth, best way to learn how to get good at it is listening to people who were bad at it at one point and managed to get good despite it. Not people who were born with a god given natural talent for it. Youll see how true that it is if you go try it yourself, ask around in your life. Thats why dr k is good at his field, and able to so effectively communicate these insights. Bc hes had to go thru the process of learning them.

Hurts because it's true. I see friends and people around me go through that all the time.

Oh yeah huh

Yeah, as a recovering addict, I definitely agree with that. That’s not to be confused with I definitely agree with that saying I didn’t need help- I did! But I needed to seek the help out myself and not have it forced on me. from what I seen an addict has much better success for recovery if they are not forced into it

@@ericgraham8150 Hi Eric. Out of curiosity, is there anything you think those close to you could have done differently? Something which might have actually helped prior to you becoming ready to stop. I recall one doctor telling me that any more than four drinks per day (for a male) would cause long-term damage to my health. That's true, but for me, having to stop after four drinks is the worst form of mental torture that could be inflicted upon me. Perhaps I could have stopped sooner if that doctor went on to say, "... but if you can't do that you're probably one of those people for whom complete abstinence is much easier than sticking to any sort of limit."

I know that when you decided that you didn’t want to live that life and you decided to change, it was your personal choice; but people make choices based on experiences and a certain environment. What were the external things that pushed you to look inside and make that choice? I’m asking to know if there is some indirect way of helping a person who is in that situation, a way to help them without pushing them or making choices for them

No one needs to use social media

That's my other favorite ww

All the best, reminds me about me, except it was lockdown that killed that relationship over time and that still stings

Asian women are desperate to please White guys so you had a really good thing there.

First gf at 22?? Ur lacking in experience. That’s sad

​@@sadscientist999523 no gf here T_T

@@sadscientist9995 Is there a need to say that? Some people it just happens to later. You're just being an asshole.