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i wish i watched this 7 weeks ago

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Tristan Neal are you Nora’s husband 🤣

@@anamirchoff5049 no but I too agree with him personally 🤭

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I would add at the top: 1) Read and adopt Nonviolent Communication concept at first ;) Then anything else is obsolete.

My ex wants my address to send me gifts. I said I do not want to give my address because he blackmailed me and sexually exploited me before. He then asked for my friend's address to send a gift for me and I said no because you stalked my social media and contacted men in my life sending them private pictures of me, etc. Then he said he will contact stores he saw me visit and ask them to accept and hold my gifts for me. I said I do not know these stores well please do not. I said I will buy a PO box for $90 a year (only option in the area where I can use my music alias to keep my privacy) but he said no it is too expensive. Then he brought up this video here and said I am not doing anything she said and I said "and you are?" All these things happened this year, now. I don't understand how to apply this video. This man has a past of abusing women and being in jail for it and he has threatened to have me killed for $2,000 when he had some fight. I cannot let go of the red flag past and see him in a golden light and trust him with my private contact info. I have anxiety, depression and PTSD from childhood. I do not want him to send me gifts but he is persistent and I agreed to pay for a PO Box but he does not accept it. I like this guy but I only see a friendship. He is not like any other man but I do not feel safe. He told me he is bipolar with narcissistic tendencies but then shortly after he said he lied about having narcissistic tendemcies. His ex-wife is studying to be a therapist to help women who suffered domestic violence like her told me she feels he is a narcissist with psychopathy. Long story how I got to know her. He told me they had a great marriage for 20 years but it ended cause their son died. He gave me her contact and said I could ask her anytime. He was trying to sell me on a quick marriage to him. He just didn't think I would contact her and find out all the domestic abuse that led to multi-police calls and jailings. Of course he went bananas on me for contacting her and telling him. But after he told me he was involved in the murder of three people and then he later got mad at me and threatened to have me killed I had to ask her if this guy is for real or just talk. I feel his take on this video is we ought to forget the past and trust each other. My feeling is with a more "normal" person ok but with a "criminal" person I do not feel a future with "no thanks."

@@lilachan2703 I hope you got away from him Lila. Be safe

@@krzysztofprzygoda7635 I've encountered people who've adopted "nonviolent communication" and have found it incredibly frustrating and ineffective. Not sure if it's the communication style itself or the if they were utilizing it incorrectly, but it's not going to work for everyone.

@@theprousteffect9717 The long story short: NVC is a mindset - not a technique in fact. The technique is utilized to change the mindset, not to follow it strictly in everyday relations as if it was some magic trick to others’ hearts. And last but not least, people often associate NVC with being nice, which is wrong. These are common mistakes in learning NVC approach that lead to failure and frustrations.

Yuhan He Date her for 5 years and then talk

She’s amazing really !

Exactly! She is wonderful and no sugar coating it either! To the sink analogy...isn't that a huge contradiction on our parts. I feel so stupid expecting something good all hell has been brewing.

Waw 😳 , thank you

Good job! Μπραβο :)

if only 20 something women had Esther;s type of maturity and understanding. Insteady both men and women alike are becoming increasingly poorer communicators.

You can't change people no matter how much you love them. At the end of the day you decide all the things you can live with and the things you can't, and then make a decision. I'm close to doing this myself. I guess money is the only issue that's preventing me from pulling the trigger. And we have kids, and I'm up to believing I'd be a better father to them if I wasn't constantly stressed from being married to their mother.

@@garmisra7841 lol it is like my husband is talking ......

I feel you and can completely relate to it. It all boils down to how much of a co-dependent mindset she has and at the same time a fragile ego. A bruised ego is what leads them to bring in historical dirty laundry as troops, as they know that cannot justify their words or actions in that specific current topic. My sincere advice is to leave the relationship. Else trust me on this, it will manifest itself in so many different forms in future, you can’t even imagine. So, do yourself a favour and leave as soon you can. This world has enough problems and hardships and the least you want is in within your own house. Fighting and arguments are inevitable, but pay close attention to the patterns and how these fights are repaired.

You've described her brilliantly

LOrena Lorena did you guys break up?

One dish at a time

Perceived events, it would be nice to have a way to replay an event and put it beside a perceived event, so that it could be obvious to both parties.

I have this issue too! My guy has a strong temper, and I find that when I put my own anger/ hurt aside there is better progress. No one will listen to anyone when they are being told off, but if we do it calmly ... i .e. look i am having an issue with ____________ and i want you to help me deal with it so I don't feel so___________ about it. I start with something like that and it helps so much to come as a friend needing help, rather than an enemy bombing his brain and expecting kindness. It all goes to the whole sink analogy. We mean well, but the execution is a damn failure on our part. I hope Esther can reply to your comment with a video, but in the mean time, because I know how you feel, I am offering an option that seems to be helping me at the moment, but I am all welcome to more from Esther. ^_^ I need all I can get. If its me that needs correction so be it.

* reflective listening & = validation 😃☺😊❤