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@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
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@livnthedream123 Місяць тому
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@livnthedream123 Місяць тому
@@janesally271I think I have a few more days to get to work but I don't know if I can get it done before I get home but I can
@willdo2909 Місяць тому
@@janesally271Can you give comprehensible information about what is wrong with them beyond enigmatic shouting?
@crazy4beatles 29 днів тому
I love that you say USA. As someone from Latin America that is used to America referring to the whole of the continent not just one country, it’s refreshing when someone from here makes that differentiation.
@Hopeonfyre 29 днів тому
Hey! It’s totally understandable given your background why you would feel overwhelmed with picking up routes and moving again :-) keep going to therapy. Do not isolate yourself, put yourself on the daily routine, even if you have to make a schedule every day. If I were you I would get out and roll through Starbucks every morning and then come home and have a daily schedule. You follow until about 4 PM and then after that let yourself relax for the rest of the night and then take the days off on the weekend :-) do you guys go to church anywhere? Maybe you could start going to a church and build some relationships that way? I am about two hours from Chicago in the housing market here is tough as well. My son had to offer $20,000 over the asking price to get his house! Praying and sending positive vibes!
@barbara9840 Місяць тому
A reporter once asked a little refugee girl: "How does it feel not to have a home?" The girl answered in surprise: "We do have a home, we just dont have a house to put it in." I remember that every time I wish for another house to live in, because I do know we have a home.
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
That is so sweet 😭
@cynthiatarnasky38 Місяць тому
I love her answer, but honestly, reporters just suck. I hate how they get in people's faces and ask how they feel about something terrible that just happened to them, even children.
@catherinegilmore2709 Місяць тому
LOVE that! We're a family of 6 living full time in an RV as my husband travels for work. After a year, we really are missing having our roots spread out far and deep. Needed that sage wisdom, thank you for sharing.
@ivanpadilla4479 Місяць тому
That’s as beautiful as as it is sad.
@user-lk2nl9mn5w Місяць тому
Wow, what a great thing to have shared.
@anniep855 Місяць тому
I lost my eyesight - and then my dream career - at 35. I was blind, single and unemployed, but found my life again. It’ll get better!
@Ms.MD7 Місяць тому
Omg that's terrible. I wish you well.
@jerrychetty2524 29 днів тому
My prayers are for you dear ❤
@intherockies 29 днів тому
What an inspiration you are, I wish you nothing but happiness moving forward.
@Yasmin-jn8rb 29 днів тому
Wow! What you went through is unimaginable, yet you are still so positive! I pray that you will always be happy and healthy and be an inspiration for people! ❤❤
@Hjg936 28 днів тому
Wow you’re amazing!
@andreagibson7355 Місяць тому
Marissa, It sounds like moving has triggered you of your losses. I can't imagine losing so many loved ones so close together. No time for grieving each one. Take your time and be gentle with yourself. You will find the right home, but wherever you are is your home. I lost my oldest son to a brain tumor in 1995 and sometimes the grief still comes over me. Hugs to you sweet girl.
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Triggered is the right word! I even started having nightmares about my family and my old house when we moved back here, I guess the feeling of loss triggered it. I’m doing better now, but it’s surprising how long this stuff can stick around! Hugs and sorry for your loss as well. 🤗 ❤️🩹
@andreagibson7355 Місяць тому
@@AtoZenLifeWe try to put off those feelings when they happen but that just postpones the pain until it is unbearable. It will never be a convenient time, so knowing this will help you get through it next time. It does get easier with time (and I hate that phrase). Everything has it's place but where do I put the Love I used to be able to give him. In the words of Garth Brooks "I could have missed the pain, but I would have missed the dance". So glad I got to be his Mom. (feel free to delete this conversation if you feel it's too personal)
@lmillet Місяць тому
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@susanwelland1088 27 днів тому
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@MinkaSchlossberger4ever 14 днів тому
I agree ...as a German ...the scool-situation is often Not so good!
@staceyo1723 Місяць тому
“Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path” - Paulo Coelho. You’ll get through this and be stronger.
@raeraemillstone 25 днів тому
Oh my gosh thank you for this!! ❤❤
@elisam.5760 Місяць тому
Me, going through divorce, childless at 39, two miscarriages in the past 6 months which were my last shot at motherhood, now living alone in a 280 ft² rental apartment. It’s all about perspective.
@ariaaske Місяць тому
Sending you a hug❤
@vivicadesign Місяць тому
Sending you a lot of strength ❤
@mtracy244 Місяць тому
I'm sorry for your sad losses. I hope your resilience will protect you and help you move forward.💙 Shanti!
@MyFocusVaries Місяць тому
That sounds so tough. Grief takes time to process. I hope you have support. ❤
@stephanie-fh5qv Місяць тому
Im going through almost the same (although it’s passed a year now) Had to move to a rental home, childless after miscarriage and alone. I’m the same age as you. Never imagined adult life would be so depressing and filled with suffering. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I thought I was until I read your comment. I wish us both to hold on to hope and with time find happiness again.
@paisleyhunter Місяць тому
I started a new life at 40. Im 13 years sober. I had to change my life 100%. Its so hard no matter what the circumstances. My heart goes out to you
@MyFocusVaries Місяць тому
That's a huge achievement.
@moeaves Місяць тому
Congratulations! I just got 29 months clean
@miriamroxana Місяць тому
5 months sober I really hope one day I can say 13 yrs too! Goals
@paisleyhunter Місяць тому
@@miriamroxana you can!! All the "one day at a time" really pays off! I'm so proud of you for 5 months!
@paisleyhunter Місяць тому
@@moeaves so freaking proud of you! That's a huge accomplishment!!
@DonnaMacDiarmid Місяць тому
Please give this a thought. You're not starting over. You're beginning something new.
@claudiaa.1591 27 днів тому
You're right, it sounds so much more hopeful.
@tracyreifkind3810 Місяць тому
40 is THE best age to start over! Enjoy as you move through this time :)
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Thanks so much for the vote of confidence, Tracy! 😄
@KarMa-ws3ll Місяць тому
I second that! I started over with 44 in a new field and its great!
@TLC717 Місяць тому
I had to start over at 44 when my husband left me for a woman who was only 2 years older than his daughter. I thought it was hard then, but I'm glad I was in my 40's and not my 50's.
@MmM20978 29 днів тому
@@TLC717I lost my house to the real estate market in NH, moved to a new state had my husband file for divorce ( which is a massive change after 33 yrs and a childhood together since second grade) lost my car bc it needed an engine. Than another vechile and lost work. Not to mention a son who went wayward and recovering from the trauma of a forced abortion as a teen. I think I'd lose it if not for my strong faith!
@kathleenhunt7613 Місяць тому
Marissa, may I point out, you DO have a home, right now. It happens to be an apartment not a house - YET. Don't worry, you will get your house, but please remember you are safe and sound and surrounded by the people you love most - that makes a home in my book. Much love to you from Massachusetts. 💕
@avaa7984 Місяць тому
Exactly! You do have a home. And if you make you more personal, you may feel better about it. Right now, it looks like a hotel suit where you live.
@breezybrookshire 28 днів тому
This is so true, and a comforting reminder. I’ve been renting and changing houses longer than I’d like, and keeping several homey pieces to decorate from place to place creates some continuity while I wait to buy.
@emiliaskreativeschaos9975 27 днів тому
I don't think that by "home" she was referring to a house specificly. I rather think she was talking about being surrounded by her husbands family in Germany and having that feeling of home. So this is more about the people than about a house or an apartment. Or at least, I think that is what she meant. 🙂
@dasia5479 Місяць тому
Dear Marissa, I won't negate the significance of your losses, past and present, but I wonder if you are simply lonely. it would be entirely natural in your new situation. Your husband and children are out amongst others, and indeed there is an echo at home. You are an amazing and very likable person, maybe you can start to build a community for yourself. Hugs to you.
@OdinsSage 29 днів тому
^THIS^ I believe it is both the feelings of loss and starting over compounded with the sensations of loneliness and isolation. I hope she finds a local community to spend time with to help with that.
@mydogismyheart23 Місяць тому
Im starting over in a different way at 40 because i had a baby and am now a single mom! Its been hard but im doing my best and loving my baby girl every day.
@crazy4beatles 29 днів тому
You got this!! It’s all worth it.
@JJ-nh1wf Місяць тому
I moved from a place I loved. When I miss where I came from I realize I’m homesick for a place that doesn’t exist. It’s a place ive created in my mind I miss and I had to realize that it was fictional and then I could live happily in the present. Good luck. Prayers.
@cindland 27 днів тому
My husband and I had to “start over” in our mid 40s when he lost his job after we bought our first home together. The good part was it made us wake up to falling into “comfortable” and finding our best life. We realized we weren’t even really happy where we were living. We were just complacent and accepting. He couldn’t find a job where we lived without a long commute or moving anyway. So we relocated to the southern US. the cost of living was half while we doubled the size of our home and got land with it. We’re in our 69s now. We raised our own children to adulthood here and Lao added two through adoption. Hopefully you’ll find your forever home through this experience of loss and change.
@katharinaharvell9642 Місяць тому
As a German who lives in the UK, I almost grieved a little bit when you returned to the US. I always got excited when I recognised little things like the architecture, or Rossmann products in your videos. I loved the fact that you felt so at home in Berlin. However, I completely get the situation with your boys' school. The German school system is unraveling at the seams. There is an acute lack of teachers, leaving those remaining under enormous pressure, in a profession where already huge numbers were suffering burnout. The infrastructure is crumbling, and they are years behind in terms of digitalisation. I have friends and relatives who teach in Germany, and they are still using chalk boards, when here in the UK, we have been using digital boards for more than 20 years. With a trend towards selfishness and less respect towards others in all areas of society, it's a perfect storm. I have often thought about returning to Germany, especially as my mum is getting older, but the thought of working in the school system is not attractive. I hope you find your solution - the option of returning when your boys are older and can enjoy a free college education is still open. Meanwhile, I hope you find a home where you feel happy soon.
@baum7des7lebens7 29 днів тому
We don't use chalk boards 😆 but the lack of teachers is a big problem indeed. The speed of learning progress has slowed down significantly after 2015 and it has not improved since then because the system is not prepared to have classes with 80% students with difficulty understanding the language. Only the Ukrainian children got rooms, especially renovated and equipped with material in their language and teachers who taught them in their own language. Funny how things work once NGOs start spitting money for something. But not for all of them, sadly.
@patriciasauermann3805 25 днів тому
@@baum7des7lebens7 we actually do still use chalk boards. Not every room in every school is digital yet.
@Elliesauter 4 дні тому
Hi fellow German living in Uk!
@pixi78 Місяць тому
A home and a house are not the same. Wherever you are…is home. Be patient with yourself. Perfection doesn’t exist! Count your blessings for your wonderful husband and children. 💕
@itsHeatherKay Місяць тому
As a military family, we move all the time, and I FEEL you about wanting your own home! ❤️😓
@taniayoungson5614 Місяць тому
As a wife in a military family, I want to mention that it usually takes me 12-18 months before I really feel content with my new home. ❤ Also, I was wondering if you have a link for the puzzle mat that you and your boys were using while doing the puzzle on the floor. Thanks!
@LilyLightOne Місяць тому
I have wanted to say this on multiple occasions watching your videos, I really appreciate that you share your emotions and don't edit out the tears (although I'm sure you probably edit some of them ❤). I'm in my 40s and learning to deal with periomenopause. It is very helpful that you normalise the expression of emotions. I appreciate you and your content so much. Congratulations on reaching 300k! 🎉
@DeTodoUnPoco281 13 днів тому
Hi Marissa, I never comment and am a bit of an infrequent viewer but I have to say I always come back to your videos because they are just so sincere and honest. No poses, no trying to be perfect, just a person on a journey to self improvement who is sharing what she knows, I love that.
@AtoZenLife 13 днів тому
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! ☺️🙏
@Christine_GoBills Місяць тому
Starting over at 42 in a new state, new home and new job (once I get one) this summer. It's sooooo scary. I get it!
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Best wishes to you! 🙏
@joyindrelie6715 Місяць тому
A gentle suggestion: Don't wait until the next home to learn plants, maybe you can see it as practicing now and you'll be an expert when you have your next home? I feel like plants are self-care for the home, and sometimes we have to care for the home we're in until we have the home we want. ❤️ Maybe try getting any plant that comes in a container/pot with drainage holes and put it on a saucer and place it right next to a Southern-facing window. Try watering it twice a week and see how it goes for a month or so.
@sharilafleur3792 Місяць тому
We moved almost 2 years ago after we retired. We love our new home, but the stress of all the change took us by surprise. Time does help. Even happy changes create stress.
@victoriaberdon542 Місяць тому
Wow -- 300,000 subscribers! Congratulations!
@mypianonikki8704 Місяць тому
Dear Marissa, Reculture shock is real. I’ve been there and I know it hits you harder than you’ve expected before moving back „home“. Just wanted to say - grant yourself time to adapt to the new situation. It’s okay to feel depressed, homesick and lost. Take good care of yourself and hug your husband and kids when your lost. They are your home wherever you might be. Please know that it might take some time to adapt to the new situation (in my case it’s been close to three years), but the dark feelings are definitely going to end. Wishing you only the best. Warm regards from 🇩🇪
@rebeccaroussel3405 Місяць тому
I'm 30, never owned a home, grew up in the country... and i am here living in a very small apartment with 2 small kids and a third on the way in a very busy city... and I am grieving along with you. We have been looking for a home for the last 5 years. It's tough... because we had so many people move in our province in canada.. and our houses were the cheapest in the country... but now, they are very expensive because of low inventory. And any other larger apartments are unaffordable for us. I get it ♡ i hear you ♡
@thankfulelaine Місяць тому
I had to leave Berlin (Stralau/F’hain) a few months into covid, and I used to watch your videos to feel like I was at home. It was like a taste of normalcy for my brain. My oldest was also in Grundschule there. Even as I type it brings tears to my eyes. Just wanted you to know there is someone else out there longing for a home and for Germany, too! ❤
@R_DLF Місяць тому
My mom is starting over 74. Her husband of almost 30 yrs left her one day. Never talked to her again and was served divorce papers on their anniversary. She had to sell her home that was almost paid. Now, she living with my brother and is unable to purchase a home bc everything is so expensive. Life will settle just give it time. Home is where you feel safe and comfortable and a house you live in.
@k9khodi363 Місяць тому
Thankfully, 74 is closer to being done with life.
@klg9127 Місяць тому
@@k9khodi363 are you serious?
@katsilver3 29 днів тому
My heart goes out to your Mom.
@R_DLF 29 днів тому
@@katsilver3 thank you.
@R_DLF 29 днів тому
@@k9khodi363 Well, she hopes to live long and well. I hope she does too.
@GratitudeBelief1 Місяць тому
Thank you for your vulnerability. These feelings are all so normal. We will all have curveballs thrown at us at every age. Go easy on yourself.
@PippaPippaPippa Місяць тому
Thank you so much for sharing this. My husband and I have been so good with money. We've saved up a decent down payment and have been looking for a home to buy for 5 years. And it seems like the bar just keeps getting raised and we keep getting priced out of any home we really love. You're not alone. It's truly hard out here.
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Fingers crossed for you too! 🤞
@jackimanley3056 Місяць тому
Oh girl same.... My husband lost his job in 2022. He searched for 4 months before finding a job that moved us 6 hours from all our family. We also thought we wouldn't have an issue buying a house because we have excellent credit and a down payment. The problem is, there's no homes in our budget! We just signed our rental lease for another year.... However, I look at my kids and my wonderful husband and I know I'm home. It wouldn't matter where we were. I think the thing I struggle with is making the space feel and look how I want to, when I can't because of rental policies. You're not alone! I homeschool 4 kids in 1000 square feet and I love minimalism! :)
@Amyavalon1844 Місяць тому
I’ve started over multiple times… seriously over 125 times. Sending you warm hugs in your new life. ❤
@janethunt4037 29 днів тому
Life feels very weird with no parents, no matter what your age is. My heart goes out to you. I lost my last parent (and my son lost his only living grandparent) 18 years ago. I do have a brother, that I'm not close to, and my husband is an only child, so I feel the sense of "no family" at special occasions and holidays. It does make me appreciate my good friends.
@lmo4879 Місяць тому
I noticed your fresh look before you mentioned it. And tearproof mascara is good for us sensitive girls :)
@KCallaAK Місяць тому
You look beautiful with your new makeup. And really, you are beautiful inside and out.
@shannenmcdonald6238 29 днів тому
I knew instantly this was Author Morey and he is one of my favorite voices from a book series I listened to The Good And Beautiful Life.... I loved listening to him :) not boring or robotic at all P.S. your make-up looks beautiful and natural 😊
@georgina4874 Місяць тому
You can fill out your library's "request to purchase" form. They are always looking for suggestions. Or do an inter-library loan. Your library can search all of the libraries in your state and locate a book for borrowing. 😊 Amazon is cool, too.
@lbar9720 28 днів тому
I think you're mistaking what a Home really is; it's not the brick, foundation, or ownership, it's love and safety. You have that. You have your health, love, respect, and intelligence. You have been Blessed.
@jenniferfloyd8486 Місяць тому
My heart goes out to you. My child and I were dragged all over by my ex who did not care how his decisions were affecting us. I grieved so much with each and every move because I tried so hard to put down roots. I've probably been holding onto my current home (sans ex) with a death grip because I don't ever want to feel like a nomad again. I have definitely been in the place you are in right now. I'm praying you and your family find a wonderful home in the very near future!
@erinmarshall8887 Місяць тому
I have never felt so seen and validated as when you mentioned the grief you are processing with moving this time. We have a very similar story in terms of a move after job loss and all the grief that followed for me. I felt like you were speaking exactly what I have been feeling. I'm longer into the journey than you timewise, and it's still hard, but we're starting to feel that sense of home again and the grief is a little less overwhelming. Hoping you find that peace soon. 💞
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been going through similar circumstances, but I appreciate your comment and it’s always good not to feel alone in this! Sending hugs and hoping the best for your continued journey as well. ❤️ 🤗
@erinmarshall8887 Місяць тому
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@Erica-en2qz Місяць тому
I'm only a few minutes in, but I can relate. My mom died when I was in my early 20s, and all I wanted was to cocoon, to be surrounded with a home, close family and good friends. Seems like it's been what I've been striving for all of my life and more often lately it's been out of reach.
@jfraser9011 Місяць тому
Marissa, the 40’s are hard. Coming from a 51 year old lol. Perimenopause coupled with the sheer amount of everyday crazy stuff that is happening in modern life today is tough! I hope you get the support you desire and deserve❤️Hang in there!
@itchysheets1222 Місяць тому
The way you suggested the Swedish death cleaning book for a mother in law and just point blank period 😂😂😂 something about that was funny as heck.
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
I was mostly joking, but it does feel like this is EXACTLY the situation where this book is appropriate. It’s hard to work through these things with people who aren’t ready, though. 😔
@gen_o Місяць тому
I’ve read this book several times and I feel it is useful not only for mother-in-laws 😅. It’s actually a compassionate and thoughtful way of putting your life in order, and I feel is applicable whether you are a minimalist or not.
@frog90901 Місяць тому
Ugh, house hunting right now is a beast! It actually made me reconsider selling my house! Not much point to it if I can't find anything to buy. You've been through so much emotionally heavy stuff, it's no small wonder those tears creep up on you. Hang in there! ❤
@nicolea8046 Місяць тому
Thank you for sharing all this! I had a similar experience repatriating to America last year after almost 10 years in Australia (husband is Aussie) with my 2 young boys (2 and 5 at the time). It has helped me a great deal, hearing about your experience coming back. Reverse culture shock is real!! My hubby and boys seem to be doing really well but I really miss our life there. I look back and wonder why we came back here. But we had a different schooling experience and for us, the primary school we attended in AU was perfect. It was so hard to leave, and now I'm really dealing with sadness and regret about the choice to come back. Hoping that it gets better with time.
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Thank you for sharing and I hope that for you as well ❤️
@findingaway5512 Місяць тому
We are in a really great school district with caring loving teachers. You can really feel the love they have for their students. I am glad you are in a good situation now.
@carmybeggs7888 Місяць тому
Best wishes to you and your family.
@Amanda-932 Місяць тому
When you were talking about moving and the grief that it triggered, it resonated so much with me. Two years ago I lost my home and 90% of my belongings in a flood that devastated my city. It was an extremely challenging time, but that event forced me to examine what is important and valuable in my life. It was pretty much involuntary minimalism, lol! But I am still working on putting less time and energy into physical clutter and also mental clutter too. I always look forward to your videos, Marissa. I so appreciate your honesty, advice, and encouragement. Keep being your amazing self and best of luck with your continued house-hunting.❤
@ninijellybeanie6853 27 днів тому
As someone who has had to rehome myself (lol) unexpectedly many times, I learned that HOME can mean different things at different stages of our life. You have a BEAUTIFUL FAMILY and kids are super resilient. You are so blessed! Life is an ever-changing adventure. You’ve got this!!!! ❤
@rowddyone3570 Місяць тому
U can do this … my mom came here from Europe in early 50s leave a life and home that she had build for 50 years and she is doing great , close to family , just look at this as exciting new chapter in your family life, the future is ahead of u, focus on family and love ❤
@mommybreakdown Місяць тому
You are an inspiration as a mother, wife, and content creator. I refer often to this quote, “I ask not for lighter burdens but for broader shoulders.” I hope you find peace in the process. Cheering you on!!
@terryhoffmann8652 Місяць тому
40s the new 20s, I'm starting over in my late 50s.
@ellistea1024 23 дні тому
Heck, I’m in process at age 66!
@tannif7455 Місяць тому
I've lived in Canada, Germany and now Australia and people always ask me, which out of those 3 countries was the best country to live in? I cant say, as each of those 3 countries I have lived in and currently live in Australia, have their pros and cons. I have realised home is where you make it and fortunately those 3 countries are all wonderful places to live. All 3 countries are always with me and I fondly go back to visit. I've lived in about 15 different homes over the last 49 years and I actually get restless and can easily move on as moving was a big part of my growing up. However I had a wonderful childhood and upbringing so I alwahs felt safe and happy moving. It was our next adventure. I was and still am very fortunate and I am grateful for that.
@user-eb6pt6gz6d Місяць тому
I think the van down by the river is referencing an SNL skit with Chris Farley. His character talks a lot about living in a van, down by the river, eating government cheese. 😂
@MedusasFeelinSalty Місяць тому
Matt Foley the life coach was that skit lol
@user-eb6pt6gz6d Місяць тому
@@MedusasFeelinSalty Yep!
@jejrstans Місяць тому
Thank you! I stopped the video and scrolled to make sure someone explained that reference. Hilarious! Marissa, if you get a chance look it up for some laugh out loud stuff. 😆
@Undercoverbooks Місяць тому
I've switched countries myself and know how important it is to be gentle and patient with yourself as you adjust to your new location. There's no set timeframe for it. We don't always acknowledge that we're mourning a loss, but that's what it is, and sometimes that can also bring up previous losses. It may help you with the transition to find a local group, church, or club to join, where you can make friends and feel you're part of a community. It will get easier. We're cheering for you.
@hollykornegay3556 Місяць тому
Marissa - I so appreciate your genuine, witty, approachable, occasionally teary-eyed spin on the minimalist family lifestyle. You are strong, smart and just so wonderful. This family minimalism thing is HARD, but so worth it. My kids are proof of it. Bless you, friend. And yes, I do think we are (could be!) friends! Hope you guys continue to settle in & thrive in your new locale. Hugs from GA USA - Holly
@maryswanson2412 Місяць тому
Marissa! So glad to see an update but so sorry you’re struggling, We’re all here for you and never worry about not sharing videos weekly. Your story has inspired and helped me so much. Stay well and sending love and hugs from a very messy imperfect home and life in CT USA ❤️😍 #marissastrong ☀️
@thereadingroom5239 Місяць тому
We had to buy a home last summer, and it was rough. We looked for 6 months, made multiple offers over listing, etc etc. All of the houses we offered on were getting multiple offers over listing, like $50k over listing often, and sometimes they were purchased even before the first day of the open house. It's rough out there. And looking for a house is SOOOO much work! It's like non stop researching and micro decisions and every weekend is open houses or looking at a house. Holy moly. You have all of my sympathies, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you all.
@rhondatallent2396 Місяць тому
Bless your heart! Let those tears run down your face. I've lost several family members and I can't cry. 😥I will pray you find the perfect home.
@alanbotula7549 Місяць тому
I have seen several cycles of the housing market in my lifetime (I'm 66) and I can tell you: this too shall pass. I know that's not very helpful because your family needs a house now, not in 10 years. But I'm hoping earnestly for all of you young people that this passes soon and you can get into homes for a reasonable sum.
@OdinsSage 29 днів тому
Super appreciate your experienced and hopeful perspective on this otherwise disheartening topic. Thank you
@cindland 27 днів тому
Agree. We bought “high” when we relocated to our current location (see my comment above). There was little inventory in our price range with our specific need to house 5 children and be accessible to the highway system for commuting. Well our house value has more than doubled in the less than 20 years since we e lived here. They’ve added million dollar homes to our road that has increased the value of our home that was new build when we moved in. So It won’t require major renovating to sell it when we retire. The Lord will provide and give them the best situation they could not have imagined!
@rebeccaross1715 Місяць тому
I love that you wear your heart on your sleeve. Never change that about yourself!💚
@Myfreedommoney Місяць тому
40 Is the 2nd phrase of your life. This is a great time to start over.
@sarahselway9341 Місяць тому
Jennifer is your friend!? You two are two of my favorite UKpostsrs. Very cool 😄 Wishing you all the best in your journey to find a home. Praying for you and your family. ❤️
@hollyhenrey5305 Місяць тому
Marissa, I'm sorry you are going through this hard time. Sending hugs to you. Normally, I would never comment on someone's makeup or appearance in general, however, since you asked for feedback, may I say you look LOVELY, what ever you're using is just right. Thank you for being so forthright about your life story and how you are doing. (insert extra hug here).
@NathalieGehrold 17 днів тому
All the best to you to get over this grief phase.
@elenaiovenko4684 Місяць тому
Of course that’s tough and don’t listen anybody who says isn’t. Every place we’ve lived has a peace of our soul and heart. Please take care of yourself and give yourself time to let your sadness go as much as you need ❤️
@lesliedarwinobrienobrien1457 Місяць тому
Marissa, thank you for your vulnerability. Moving is hard. You are amazing and you bring light to me and to many.
@katwyskup5631 18 днів тому
Thank you so much for this video 🥰 All the best for you ! 🌷🫶🏻
@Yemma1990 Місяць тому
This is a little off-topic to anything you said in your video but I found it so wholesome to see that you, too, sometimes have a laundry rack standing around in your perfect minimalist home 😅 <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1409">23:29</a>
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Hahaha, I love that laundry rack! And the fresh smell of laundry drying is the best 😤👍
@melaniehoffman8512 14 днів тому
I have said “Thank you” so many times to items and it has helped me so much.
@Homelifelearning 29 днів тому
I have been listening to the same book recently I was amazed the author didn't read it as he has a beautiful, calm voice.
@KarMa-ws3ll Місяць тому
I am here since early suirrels of a feather times when you had like 1700 (!) or so subs. This is so, so great to see!!!
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Wow, you are a true OG subscriber - thanks for all the YEARS of support 🥰🙏
@alexanevin7917 Місяць тому
You are glowing. Make up is great as well 😊
@rbenjamin1429 29 днів тому
My siblings and I also lost our parents young and I have a lot of empathy for you! Also, years ago, I moved back to North America from Europe and the adjustment was pretty brutal. I feel for you! Hope things start to feel better. Thank you for your videos!
@kennethbailey9853 Місяць тому
I can't help but say I Pray You find that home You deserve and it is natural to be sad. What I have seen from You is how You continually make any where You are Home for Your family even when You are suffering such pain. Now That's one more Amazing thing about You! I know enough about You to know how understanding You would be if a friend were going through what You are now. As time passes All of You Efforts Will Pay Off. How do I know? By Knowing and Seeing Who You Are. The fact that You Care is just morePROOF of what a Wonderful Person You continue to be no matter what comes Your way. 😢😊
@AtoZenLife Місяць тому
Thank you so much for your prayers and your kind words - it means a lot to me 🙏❤️
@mydogismyheart23 Місяць тому
Also, im a real estate agent in seattle. It is soooo hard and soooo emotional trying to get a house. My least favorite calls are to tell people they didnt get the house. It sucks. I just want all my clients to get a nice house and be happy. ❤
@stefs3460 17 днів тому
All plants that come into my home die as well but I have a beautiful garden! When you get a house just plant lots of perennials. God takes care of them for you when your plants are outside! The only thing you have to get right is to put the plants that like a lot of sun where there's a lot of sun and you're good to go!
@ataylor3202 Місяць тому
Thank YOU for another fabulous video! I find them so uplifting, you are such an empathetic, great, strong, positive lady! Hugs 🤗
@angelicamason1650 Місяць тому
Hi Marissa. I really enjoy your channel. I am not a minimalist - I don’t like to label myself, but I do aim to live a simple life with a well ordered home. I appreciate the emotion and realistic approach you bring. You have helped me make declutterring a more regular part of my routine rather than feeling I need to set aside a large chunk of time and do a big job (resulting in putting it off).
@kennethbailey9853 Місяць тому
Where ever You start You Will Be Successful in Your Endeavors. 🙂
@freesiasage Місяць тому
Sending prayers for comfort & peace ❤.
@simini1837 28 днів тому
Hi Marissa, i usually enjoy your videos but this video really triggers me. You have so much: you seem healthy which is great wealth! You also have a loving husband and two great kids. You have a succesfull UKposts channel, still own the home in Berlin and have enough money to buy a house in the US. You are SUPER privileged compared to many others like people in poverty, chronic illness or war. Count your blessings!
@AtoZenLife 28 днів тому
Hi Simini, I actually 100% agree with you on that, which made me feel guilty and even worse for having those thoughts! That’s one of the reasons I still wanted to open up about this. I can’t change my trauma or triggers, but I wanted to show what it looks like to work through them! (PS, the video going live today is going to show one huge thing I changed that helped a lot.) Cheers ✌️
@simini1837 27 днів тому
@@AtoZenLife I think that relocation can certainly be accompanied by grief and I understand where you are coming from, but its always a good idea to realise things could be so much worse.
@AtoZenLife 27 днів тому
@@simini1837 absolutely!
@jennifermarie8707 26 днів тому
@@AtoZenLifeperfect answer
@angelagouirand9312 Місяць тому
I am getting divorced -going on 2.5 years-and just sold my home and moved yesterday. I completely relate to being homesick already. I’m going through the same thing. Stay strong 😊❤
@jasminamatic Місяць тому
I am sorry for the losses of your dear parents and family. 😢 You are so brave, so entreprenurial and I am sure that you will find your dream house. Being a minimalist, you might also opt for some tiny house. Keep looking, keep us posted. Hugs!
@sherriepiechowski4556 Місяць тому
My heart breaks for all the loss you have had to endure but wow I admire the strength you have to keep moving forward and teaching others the valuable lessons of a simpler life. Thank you for sharing your emotions with us- we all have our crosses to bear and it’s ok to feel emotional about the things that didn’t work out as we hoped but you also show that you don’t stay stuck there! 🤗🌷💕
@susannee.colella6109 Місяць тому
I am sending hugs to you. I hope you find a wonderful home wherever you land.
@lctna Місяць тому
Thank you very much ..feel.inspired xx❤
@reneedumont2474 Місяць тому
You have definitely helped me with decluttering sentimental items. Thank you ♡
@tiffanyheger1429 Місяць тому
I know exactly how you feel and had to do the same several years ago when my family left Hawaii. It does get better. But it is like any loss and it’s healthy to acknowledge that.
@catherinetweats8050 Місяць тому
Thank you so much for this video, there were several topics that resonated with me and your advice/comments have come just at the right time. ❤
@msunshine4412 Місяць тому
Thank you for another great video! I watch you on Sundays, so, I missed you yesterday, but I was happy to find you today -yay! I welcome your helpful tips and ideas and your openness and honesty. And, don't worry, your new home will be there for you at the right time. God bless.
@NataschaFlamisch Місяць тому
❤you have no idea HOW well I understand everything you said, sending you the biggest hug!
@justine835 Місяць тому
Congratulations on 300k it's amazing, thank you for this long video full of helpful tips. I'm crossing fingers for you to find a home soon for your family. Take care of yourself
@stjabnful Місяць тому
Oh Marissa! I feel your pain! We decided that we would downsize our home to a condo. Mistake number 1. Our home sold in 6 hours. We had no place to go. We went to an apartment. It took us 3 years to find a condo. This place just does not feel like our home. I feel like it is starting over at age 64! You will find a place to make your own! My adult son said to me “ awe, Mom, think of this like a new chapter in your life”! I cried during your this video. I really felt what you are feeling! Promise it will be better! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@user-jw5zq2ml1o Місяць тому
I so feel this. Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing. Very brave of you.
@louisethurling2093 21 день тому
Paradigm shift - so hard but so exciting. Blessings to you all. 😊🤗🤗🤗🤗 Be kind to self.
@Coffeecup.0110 28 днів тому
I love therapy! I’m glad you’re getting some help. You’ve got this ❤❤❤
@sweetchocolatest Місяць тому
Bless you, this video was so special. I appreciate your honesty and openness. I wish you and your family all the best in your journey towards buying a home. I understand what it feels like to have goals, to be so close but so far from achieving it. Show yourself some compassion, keep being patient and I'm sure the right property will come along. You are relatable, friendly and honest that's what makes you stand out from other channels (its a good thing so please don't change it). Thanks once again.
@charminlindholm7779 Місяць тому
I like the idea of gratitude before the release of belongings. Instead of “getting rid” of stuff. We thank it for the service it provided and then pass it on to someone who needs it. The belongings are allowed to serve someone else. Thanks for the reminder.
@JimmieHammel Місяць тому
We bought our house in December and it was only on the market 1 day before we bought it. There were several times when we made appointments to see a property but the house sold within hours of the property going up for sale. It's really rough. Good luck with your search.
@janeendaftary8911 Місяць тому
Your makeup looks beautiful. ❤
@janbagdasar9165 Місяць тому
Change is stressful and often difficult. You’re doing great! Off-topic, can you put a link to your sweatshirt? It looks super comfy and the color looks nice on you. And your makeup looks great!
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