love to you🙏

It’s wonderful that you are here on this site, you will get so much help here from real life situations, both from Rich himself and his amazing guests. The many books that have been written by them are very helpful and definitely worth having, but there is nothing as powerful as two human beings sharing their own stories, their insights, and the many ways they found to move towards healing. Sending all the love I can to you and your children ❤️🙏🏻

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I'm sorry for your loss, have you got a solid support in place?

My father committed suicide 30 years ago when I was 27 and somehow this anniversary of his death has brought out many feelings I still had not dealt with. I'm getting help but it absolutely blew me away that it came up again.

Dr. Leaf has a podcast, book etc, she's studied and has great ways to move on. I've never heard anything like her, AND she tells how to do it. I pray your life will head a different direction, your mind is a big part of how you do that. Others can only be so supportive. Please look her up Hugs

Sending you love 💕! Sorry you had to experience life in such away. I am glad you are doing better

❤️❤️❤️ you are strong! Wow

Bravo!

May God Bless you endlessly over and over again

yes! Thank you all for posting this! i think the main reason most people don’t seek help is because we have and lost trust in therapist and the medical system in a huge part - You Tube has been the most informative way to get insight 🙏🏼 thank you

Andrew, you have given me an education in neuroscience over the past year, in a language I can understand, and thanks to you I now understand what happened in my body and my brain during and after the many traumas I have experienced. It’s a joy to see you here, on the ‘emotional’ side of things - this coming together of both sides will bring a lasting solution for our woes. Thank you so much ❤️

Right it’s so great

I second that Andrew, it is the most important thing in the world that we all need to learn as soon as possible - how to process our traumas, tap into our own wisdom & enlightments throughout the healing process and discover our own authenticity, allowing it to develop naturally in the newly learnt skills of creating safe and healthy conditions for us to grow. I am deeply grateful to all of you gentlemen for been so committed to this field of work and helping the humanity to learn, find answers and heal. We need more people like you to counteract the toxicity in our culture. I love your work, the way you are delivering it and the incredible vibes, thank you for caring Andrew.

Agreed! The three of you are incredible human beings!

Here goes, thanks for sharing

Me too. I suffer from cPTSD.

Yes, most of us have a buildup of a lifetime of large traumas and micro traumas that are nervous systems deal with. The work of Irene Lyons explains these effects and stresses how small doses (titrations) are necessary in order not to overwhelm our nervous system when healing, just as you experienced. Baby steps is correct,

Well done on making it through so much … and the fact that you’re here listening to this conversation is a good sign that you’ve no intention of giving up. The journey towards healing is tough but very very rewarding - when you’re in a state of healing, as opposed to a state of suffering, the world starts to😮 feel like a wonderful place again, full of promise and endless possibilities. I hope you inspire many others. ❤️ Meditation is life-changing too 👍🏼

@@valtracey6180 Loves your response

Suffering through loss was your teacher. Time to read The Power of Now, you are onto something there.

@@Misslotusification great recommendation - and the follow-up, ‘The New Earth’ … really inspirational. Start with learning to live in the present - respond rather than react - this will prevent new hurts being added and give you space to process the old ones.

Your experience is pretty much the same as mine. Minute by minute sometimes is so true! Feel it was meant to be I saw this video and your comment. I come away with a feeling of purpose in healing my own trauma. Trauma is affecting all of us and our world as they talked about.

That sounds horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

I hope you go on to have the healthiest life you can in part helping others as well. Any moment can change one life, there's no reverse. It's time to move on... Hugs

My grand daughter killed her best friend in a drunk driving accident. She’s in jail for 4 years and is having a hard time but getting therapy

God Loves You & so do WE !!! I know how difficult it can be to Truly Forgive YourSELF. 💔 Tragedies may occur & survivors are left with the responsibility of Living with The Aftermath. We are ALL IMperfect, as Human Beings, but We also are able to extend the truly miraculous GIFT of Forgiveness 🙏💛 🐦 ......to ALL. 😘

@Jim Parsons I'm so sorry that that has happened and it makes me realize that I got away with it with nothing but pure luck that I didn't kill anyone in all those terrible occasions when I drove while drinking. Wishing your granddaughter a good recovery and that she can move on.

@jay pritchett wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

@jay pritchett Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

I can relate to what you're saying. Chances are you are trauma bonded to her and I realize I'm operating without any specific information but I wouldn't be surprised to find out your ex-wife has a character disorder of some kind.

@@watchin_kc That’s exactly what I’m thinking too.

Pro tip: thoughts are like cars on a street. You need to stand back and let them go by... or else you're gonna get run over!

Well put, every detail of ones life is effected by trauma, the way that you look at yourself, the way you relate to others is major, so much of one's reality is distorted negatively. We are being triggered left right and centre.

Empathy is number one feelings matter reality triggering it can happen its happened to me after you block it out for years the ones who don't talk about their feelings are the ones hurting others physically and emotionally and spiritually somethings the choices weren't your own it just happened around you threatened

"Trauma is having a parent who doesn't understand their own emotional lives" - YES. Most people never uncover the "why", but I studied the mind/subconscious until I finally got down to the "why". My mom was very damaging, but it was done to her as a child (and her siblings), & just like he describes, they unconsciously run that same program to their children. I don't blame her, she wasn't consciously aware. I forgive, let go & work on myself. Life is a mirror reflecting back the patterns held in the mind. I just wish I had understood it a long time ago.

All those things sound very traumatic and is called abuse. I believe in naming things properly, and once we can name a thing, we can change a thing. Recognizing what something specifically is, is so important. As in this example Trauma is something we need to figure out how to explore and find help to work through our trauma that is secretive to us and/or held in, where as if something is specifically abuse there is a big difference on the action for abuse. For abuse you must tale immidiate action, seek help, and tell someone. I say this with the caveat that I understand I may be partially to completely wrong. And/or missing something all together.

Keep going!! You can do it ♡ and you deserve to live happy and healthy ♡

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to discover the best version of yourself and live life Alive! Your uniqueness is your superpower!! Much love to you on your journey. You may stumble in various ways, but the only failure is forgetting who you are....not daring to imagine a life you love. Listen to all that gives you reminders of who you are and where you Are going. ✨️

You’ve got this.

The key is never focus on shaming/judging/emotionally punishing the relapse but to have utmost compassion, love over that hurt part which drove your senses to intolerable threshold to drink … then focus on feeling, processing and healing that part… my friend. Don’t muscle through addiction and muscle in will power … go inside and turn that part of the nervous system that can show self compassion … my friend. Sending you much love

We make a decision to change and get the support to take it a day at a time if you want it that's great sometimes may need support from other sources some can trigger you if their trauma is similar to your situation

Good luck my friend.

Recognition of the pain is the first step and the willingness to take the next one, Will and its never too late to heal from when you start to realise how generational trauma has affected the family including all the societal and the cultural issues that affects all life to some extent. Very few come to understand it early in life for all sorts of reasons. All the best, trust the process and you will find your way to peace and harmony

Will, I hope you find a therapist you can connect with. Honesty aside, this is key to successful therapy... You may also want to look up HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) by Elaine Arons. Your last sentence of being misunderstood made me think of HSP, as I am one myself and often felt misunderstood. Good luck and I wish you well.

You've understood and resumed well the mechanism of your trauma and where your fear takes its roots. What else is there to explore? Or rather, after the exploration, grab The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.

mY biologically assigned "mother" lost her mom at *17* too! allegedly of course. And her dad died when she was 5, always allegedly. May The Lord grant me witness status over these rejectors upon The Day

Most definitely.. I took oxy every day from the age of 29 to 38.. every. single. day... I didn't even know "emotional pain" was a thing.. I didn't really take it to get high, I took just enough to feel "normal". The key is figuring out why you're altering the mind and go after that.. but I really didn't have any clue to the trauma I was trying to escape.

As a substance use disorder counselor, I wholeheartedly agree with you.

Yep

True 👍 previous generation had even worse.

My mother was completely unsupported, psychologically, as well. Once I began looking at what my mother went thru, thru my eyes as an adult, I cry every time at the amount of rejection and abandonment she experienced and how I cannot tell her I understand, she's been gone now for decades. Connie oct 2022

Same experience with my mom. Nothing but compassion for what she went through. The resources available to me are unparalleled in comparison.

There are places in North America where effective therapy is still not widely available. I recently left Vancouver, Canada where the government health system is crumbling.

Mine too 😔

Keep trying! Your brain can change💪

I'm sorry you dealt with sexual abuse, and especially that you were brave enough to tell, but were not believed and supported. You deserve to be believed, protected, and supported. Keep seeking healing.

Yes...me too!!!

The sexual assault was not your fault my friend… never was… and just because people didn’t validate or believe you doesn’t make you to be the cause of this . The adults around you didn’t have the skills to stand up and protect you… by not believing you… they don’t need to deal with the fact they don’t know how to draw boundaries, cut off toxic relationships, etc. So, please know you now can find resources to protect yourself. And please, hold this hurt child inside you with love… lots of love.

Im so sorry Dana. I believe you. You deserved to be protected.

It’s all free will …if you didn’t say no maybe you enjoyed it ..I hear many ppl do then live with the shame …

I am so sorry, my friend. This is so much to bear. I hope you can find some healing amongst the chaos. 🙌✨♥️

I am so, so sorry. Stay strong. You are loved and protected, repeat it to yourself all the time. I am sending a lot of love to you❤️

Hi Paan I hope you find a way with strength, there is a podcast I regularly listen to which I would highly Forrest Handson & his father took a lot about trauma, family relationships. The both of them are extremely knowledgeable very empathetic wise men they took the way that you can easily understand them, I'm patronising and not too highbrow. ❤️💗❤️. Take care Angie

So sorry. Sending you my ❤

My heart goes out to you, i can’t imagine the pain you are in

Keep going. We see you and we believe in you. NEVER give up!! You have it in you to conquer this.

I'm so proud of you for making the choice to recover, get better & try to heal some of the damage so that you can be free of the legacy put on you by people who, no doubt, were wounded themselves (in who knows how many ways.) If you can heal yourself, face the inner pain & process it & learn to change how you cope with bad days, then you'll influence so many others to understand that we can do somethnig about our inner pain other than reaching for a substance to obliterate our personalities to try to bury our pain further. It never goes away like that, whereas grieving the losses, the wounds done to us, with a therapist's help, can cause real healing to happen so that you don't have to carry it on your heart all your life. We all do that as youngsters, reach for substances to alter the way we feel so lousy, usually it's what we witnessed everyone around us doing to deal with their pain. In my case, doing that so young to cope, I found myself an adult, mid thirties who could NOT shove 1 more drop down ANY deeper & I had NO skills to cope because I always got wasted to stand the pain, never was taught any other way to cope. In my mid 30's, I found nothing held the pain at bay.anymore. I finally found strength & belief in myself & have learned to be GOOD to me, to nurture myself, listen to my mind and body when I feel bad and lay down ad feel it until it eases up. I've learned to use my critical inner dialogue to be loving towards myself & understanding, patient, suppoertive. It's made so much difference in my life, just learning that it was ME who had to learn sme coping skills and better ways to speak in my own head, I had to change the way I thought to change how I experienced the world and iI've learned to value myself enough so that I stopped allowing abusive people into my life. May you have the strength of the angels with you dear .

This is great , I like the spirit don't give up and you will be fine. I struggled with PTSD for years luckily I was introduced to albovegateway , now I'm on cbd suppliment and microdosing and it's been a great help .

sending you love from norway. You will heal, I pray

Blessings to you, Keep going

Is she still pushing your buttons? I thought I'd be free if my problems with my mother when she died but three years later, they still exist. Know what you mean about shame, guilt and avoidance but it has got to the point where I can't avoid anymore.

The book that opened my eyes was Will I ever be good enough by Dr. Karyl McBride - this started my journey of recovery

Don’t feel guilt shame -

You MAY have UNresolved issues deep withIN You ......which You may have been SO BUSY + SO focused on Caring for OTHERS, for so long now, that You've lost 🙏 SELF Awareness 🙏 I recommend You commit to the regular + long term practice of Y 🏵 G A. It goes beyond Words + Intellectual understanding. It may help You Experience YourSelf......perhaps for the 1st time in your LIFE ! Everything else You may possibly do to gain a more Compassionate view of your Parents will require some sense of grounding in Yourself . Y❄GA is the most Organic, Strengthening, Immediate, Healing + Enjoyable WAY I know to do ALL of these things simultaneously + effectively. You WILL gain INsights into Yourself & re your Family's Story FROM YOUR BODY, as You learn to B R E A T H E, 'Sit' with your FEELings as well as your Thoughts & Stretch OUT the Stress, the Pain + the CONstriction You've been 'living' with + under. God Bless You ! 🎊🎊🎊

You're an amazing person and daughter. You took care of your parents and you selflessly take care of others. It's ok if you feel you cannot do it any more. You deserve happiness :)

That is the key!

Good for you, Elizabeth, the world needs people like you ! Keep going, there will opportunities to learn at some point and you're doing a great job learning outside of your residency. 😘

I'm sure it is indeed lacking. The psychological profession is, for some reason, absolutely dense on this subject and seems too committed to being unteachable, rigidly clinging to pretending the DSM is is the be all end all ... My experience most in the psychological perfection do more damage to people with trauma

Agree completely, and the medications used to "keep people sane" are the very thing that will pull them over the edge cause it's all part of pharmakia, Greek for magic pharmacy, it's all playing with people's God given phsyc ... try keep people informed before they fall into this trap...I did and escaped with my life...literally 🙏🙏

I understand. It really takes a village of a sincere family. Something I've never known, nor have my children. It can happen to any if us and my heart goes out to you. I hear what you are saying. And I feel it too. I have an adopted brother who I can never count on the system to help. Why we are ignored is becoming a mental health crisis. Just look at all the dirty laundry that's finally coming to the light. It's a joke that such a huge industry can't do better.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Yes the system is very very flawed. All my 💛

Nailed it. The only argument I’ve successfully deployed is, Why on Earth would I manipulate such a pathetic social system to make 25% of what I’m capable of? What does it do for me to feign a debilitating illness in a nation where healthcare is a commercial product that I can no longer afford? It’s just absurd that we see the levels of suicide we do, 95% of victims diagnosed with mental illness - which tells me that a professional saw these people and FAILED - and still persist on an antiquated path of shame and fear to “drive” people out of their pathologies. Absurd. My greatest fear is to be hospitalized against my will just because I tried to open up and some under-educated “professional” over-reacts. I’ve been hospitalized. It’s a level of frightening for a sufferer of CPTSD - many of whom have massive trust issues - to experience. “If your pain gets too severe,” we seem to be saying, “we will lock you up.” How does that address the pain? Might just as well tell victims, “Get over it. Or else.”

@coda creator you summarize my feelings about mental health exactly. A fear i live with daily and its so bazaar, you can see straight through the doctor's arrogance as they paint by number and act like god.

Beautifully written ❤️ Much love to you on your journey 🥰

@@valtracey6180 ❤️🤗

Another trauma is not the answer to the other trauma though. I don’t believe divorce is the answer to the traumatic experience of being in a dysfunctional family or being in a family with domestic violence or with an abusive dad. In my case, my parents’ separating and divorcing after choosing not to find their way to heal and repent from their own sins, is one of the most unfair devastating trauma that we their children suffered as kids. Its negative impacts also went on affecting us in every aspects and stages of our growth as some of us got married ourselves. It will prolly continue to unfairly impact us as we age old like studies have shown. It now depends on how each one are strong enough to face all its impact and grow stronger from it all. If we don’t have God, I don’t know how to have ever been growing from it, heal from it, survive it, and how to protect my kids from not experiencing the same sufferings and trauma of coming from divorced parents. If your dad was abusive, he is the problem, not the marriage nor your mom. He should have been pushed by every family members especially his immediate family to go get help or go for counseling. If your dad was abusive, it is unfair to judge your mom and unfair to condemn their marriage to total destruction. Their marriage is an entity to be honored by all and protected. It’s like their first child before you and your siblings are born. It is your ally as their child. And you as the child of that marriage wanting it to be severed to destruction, is like wanting to kill your sibling or an ally. It’s not gonna do you any good. It will destroy you also. Your marriage, your kids, and so on. You can only speak of divorce like that so easy coz you did not experience the devastating impacts of it all from when you’re younger. You probably take marriage so lightly like you can get married without giving your whole life to be one with a wife, and without knowing what marriage is designed for, and why it was designed to be for a lifetime and not only when it feels good or feels luvyduvy with someone. It is also unfair for you to judge your mom that she didn’t know any better. I believe she knows best for protecting you her children from the suffering of another traumatizing tyranny of coming from divorced parents. When most women want to go the easiest route of divorce as life becomes hard, your mom prolly went the road less travelled for the greatest good of everybody except herself. And that should be commendable because she knows sacrificial love and loves unconditionally. Your mom had all the reasons to leave and live a better life on her own or with just her kids, and your dad made it is easier for her to leave by giving her a reason. She can easily leave. Money is never a reason to stay (or any other reason you can make up for her) when you’re not safe. There is no way a woman would stay is she is not safe. But her love, her love for her kids, and love for the broken kept her in a hard situation, but also where she is in constant danger but growing stronger from every trauma this broken world may have unfairly dealt her. The least you can do is not to judge her like she has not unfairly suffered enough already. She prolly asked helped about your dad’s violence and abusive behaviors from proper people who should be helping like your dad’s parents whom he should be healing with but nobody listened. She was prolly judged by many people and heard all the negativities and lies being made up for wives who stay and fight for their marriage, kids, and fight for their hurting husband who hurts people. She probably is blamed for the unfair things done to her like she wanted and liked them at all. She was probably constantly lied about, malingered, belittled, and persecuted. She probably felt lonely, alone, ganged up on, betrayed, helpless, and all, but had hopes for her kids and hope for a better family, and hope for a better marriage someday with a healed and repentant husband in your dad. If you were your dad, I believe you wouldn’t want everyone loose their hope on you. I believe you would be wanting and needing love and help to get you out where you are at and be healed and be a better person for others. I believe you would be calling out to God to save you from the state you are in. If you were my son, and somehow you grew up the same as your father who did not know any better about how to treat other people right, I wouldn’t want my daughter in law to loose her hope on you or loose her hope in God for you when you needed help the most. It goes like this. If you are hurting others, that’s the worst indication that you are hurting inside. You need help from a lot of your brokenness issues but you don’t know you do, and so you are your worst enemy in so many forms. You don’t know you’re fighting against yourself to your own weakening. And so if your inner man is exhausted from constantly battling inside, the body eventually gets weak for demons also to take shelter in your body. Now your in your worst state than when you are your worst enemy. If you don’t find help, you will not just continue to destroy yourself but also others. God’s love only is the one that can save you. I don’t think any other else can help. If you cannot pray for yourself anymore, someone hoping on God can pray for you. God listens to a prayer of a person right with God.

A lot of love for you❤️

@@Gioia392 thank you ❤️

Too much for anyone to take. I hope you can keep reaching for the light so that you can find the peace you deserve. I hope support comes in unexpected ways. You are doing so well. Keep going.

“Chosen to recover from trauma”.. love that. Such a powerful declaration, because ultimately it is a choice.

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Yeah I have body dysmorphia also and most people don't know what it is I had to find out on my own it is similar to OCD though

where are you from? And how is your journey now?

@@gurpreetb477 I'm from new York city area and I'm up and down all the time I'm probably borderline my body dysmorphia isn't as bad but sometimes I have days can't leave the house still have to check myself in the mirror constantly also I'm obsessive over my skin because I had skin problems in the past and anything on my skin gets me OCD all over again

Yes, they are.. The more you undertake to learn about yourself though, the better. There ARE people who understand and when you find one, it's such a good, validating feeling I hate to say it but much of the psychological profession and should not be trusted when it comes to trauma. Almost all of them will tell you that they expertise in trauma and in treating it but you'll find that this is not the case mostly they are DSM worshippers. I learn more through educating myself and seeking out people who had been to the same things than I ever did by going to a person who deems himself an expert but does not even know how lacking their knowledge is because they don't like to admit that the psychological profession is not a hard science like actual medicine Seek to learn and understand as much as you can on your own. Smoking cannabis kept me alive for a long time too but that is not a cure-all... It's just better than the prescription pills they will try to throw at you.

Yes it’s a continuous acceptance and letting go and riding out the emotions

I LOST MY MAN SHORTLY AFTER I LOST MY LITTLE BROTHER MORGAÑ AÑD I have grief and guilt. Blessings to you.

@@jennifergalberth1240 Thank you so much and I pray you find peace. It gets better with time

Try private coaching… with a medical degree you can offer a second opinion or advice on other alternatives over zoom.

I'm right there with you. I'm furious about the beating providers are getting from Big medicine. Take care of yourself as the system doesn't care.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. But you made a huge, self-nurturing move! Be patient with yourself. This may sound strange and we don’t know each other but I feel proud of you for making that move, AND sharing it with others. All the best for you I sure wish!

Narcissists never apologize . The fact that you hope they will makes you 10,000 times better than they are as a conscious human being. You live consciously and purposefully. Treat yourself with kindness, mindfully.

God bless you.

I can totally relate to your experiences. Sometimes I think we can find more help online than trying to deal with medical professionals who only want to prescribe weird drugs.

Its not for everyone but it does work for some people.

Agreed! Not good for PTSD... lays down additional layers of trauma... reinforced triggers.

I agree. I was diagnosed with PTSD at 13 years old. I continued to suppress, deny, minimize for years and years. I’m almost 30, just had my first baby and all the traumatic memories came flooding back… it has been so scary finding the courage to heal and to stop denying the CSA I experienced… I’ve gotten past the denial part with the help of EMDR therapy.

You’re going to be just fine. I’m so sorry that you’ve been through these things. I understand how you feel. Please don’t ever feel alone. You’re not alone going through these things. Stay Strong and hang in there.❤

Doesn’t have to be … unresolved. You’ve already taken the first step - you’re here! ❤️

14 school and 3 countries! Dang. That’s incredible

Marta!!!

@@jimparsons4312 indeed.

Me too. He is realllllly doing good things. I feel like I’m taking college courses when I watch him --his exceptional line of questioning of his stellar guests!!!!!

Well Said!!❤

Been a victim of trauma and chronic anxièty for so long but after micrödsïng remedy it got rid of my anxiety and help me manage my traumatic episodes, look up albovegateway.

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