😂😂😂. It's okay it happens someone else might have to motivate himself or herself to finish this video in a single time

LITERALLY SAME LMAO. Why am I like this

Literally omg

Yea cuz my friend told me motivation is overrated.

Omg 😂

i love your positivity

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@@passerby4278 that's all we can offer each other that has value, thank you!

It's up to 2300 comments now.🙂

Aw im proud of you too 💖

thank you

@@izzymartin8518 You're welcome! 😊

Army💜

@@mikachan2631 I'm ARMY too! 🥰

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me with the pack of cookies i bought today 😔

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I had just opened up a pack of m&ms when she said that lmao

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Edie Pasquini I really liked that! So simple but powerful. I had the idea to time how long it actually took to do chores around dread. I need to pick this up! Thankyou .

@Kathy Myers Good for you! I didn't realize until I wrote that, the reason I had such a negative feeling about doing dishes. I thought it was because I had all ready done so much a as kid not realizing the fights and manipulations of my siblings had caused such negative feelings. My mom was not a good house keeper so I couldn't have friends over so I would have to clean the house too then I could have friends and it made her look better. When I was 21 I asked if my future husband could come stay for the weekend. He was visiting from RI University. No was the answer when I asked why, the answer from her was I never did anything around the house. This was my reward for cleaning the house every week so my sister could bring her boyfriend home from college for 4 lousy years. Needless to say I hate housework. So now I know the reason for that! I love it when my home is all cleaned and pretty the problem is my family does not care the time and effort that goes into making it nice, this is basically the same reaction all those years ago from my mother. She then, and my family now have someone to pick up and make a nice place for them but offer no positive feedback to me and consequently I feel used. That is negative. I don't know how to motivate myself to continue other than It pleases me to live in an orderly environment. I guess if I wait for someone to give me accolades that day will never happen so it is up to me to enjoy it the best I can.

This is so lovely, as simple as it is. Dishes really aren't fun to clean regardless! Studying too..... Though it really is incredible how subtle changes of habit can lead us to things we do becoming so much simpler in our minds! thanks for the tea cup story as I'd love to find something for my own situation too!

That's dope.

@@kathymyers7279 Indeed. A simple and effortless change of perspective can sometimes work wonders.

Rassini’s

Sometimes the difference between punishment and encouragement is only semantics. “Pick up your toys and you’ll get to have a have a popsicle “ vs. “If you don’t pick up your toys you won’t be allowed to have a popsicle.” I tease my kids and tell them if they don’t behave I will give them enCouRaGemeNt (said in a creepy way). Ha ha.

@@sklanguage589 yes! You're so right!

I always found telling them to do the opposite of what you want them to do works best. But I think that might have something to do with my family genetics.

By the way I completely agree with you! Good job!

tell us more about that please

Yea can you please tell us what this “game” is

@@itstek ah I get it I’m gonna try it because recently procrastination has gotten the best of me and it’s not great😬

@@aishabah9401 I read recently that “perfectionists procrastinate”. If you always aim for 100%, maybe aim slightly lower and you may find it easier to get the task done. 🤷🏻‍♀️

You should also try reading 5secondrule by mel robins

Push and pull

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thanks for this brother youve helped me more that you can imagine i can write my report now

Appreciate this a lot

@@gauravb5740 hi. could I help to write a report? This has bing my favourite topic since tow years ago

Rizal Malawi yea reward cost a lot of money

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Rizal Malawi I have had a trouble with my learning at college. I am not sure what i will gain after finishing it. Will i have a good job? Will i earn enough money for myself? for taking care of my old parents? for taking care of my younger sister who is 10 years younger than me? For my future wife and kids? Instead of feeling fear, i have played game to get away from it. Until a day i reallize that i have become really addicted. I can't be able to study focusingly. My learning progess is getting worse and worse. Now i know that i have to come back to live my life helpfully. The immediately reward i get from playing game isn't what i should be into it.

Phúc Thiên Hà tiếng anh tốt thế còn gì!:d

Yes Sir. You are in control of your words, the series you watch on TV, and the people you spend your time with. :)

Thank you for summerize this for me

Naresh Gupta no problem! 🙂

Khanda Hussein great summary!

Mike Davis thank you

@@kaycali4912 Thank you your the best.

Thank you for your post. I have been "working" on my doctoral degree since 2015, it is now 2024...I need a change in my behavior to get it done.

I had to watch this 2-3 times to really grasp what she was saying. She is not saying HOW TO motivate ourself rather HOW WE get motivated. 1. Social incentive- we are motivated through the positive actions of others. Ex. If we see our friend post a picture of themself at the gym then we want to do the same. 2. Progress monitoring- We are motivated by seeing progress. Ex. If we start working out too and we see progress by weighing ourself then that helps motivate us to continue. 3. Immediate Reward- reward your good behavior. Ex. If i workout this whole week then I will treat myself over the weekend. Maybe some pizza or ice cream 😉

Epic quote.

Truer words never spoke.

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People can be logical, if they're raised right and have logical teachers

this is literally my favourite quote of all time

it's deeper. When you learn something in steps it is effective to stop for second or two after each successful step. brain literally needs moment to save new progress or it looseses it in continuous steps skipping it and overloading.

I had to watch this 2-3 times to really grasp what she was saying. She is not saying HOW TO motivate ourself rather HOW WE get motivated. 1. Social incentive- we are motivated through the positive actions of others. Ex. If we see our friend post a picture of themself at the gym then we want to do the same. 2. Progress monitoring- We are motivated by seeing progress. Ex. If we start working out too and we see progress by weighing ourself then that helps motivate us to continue. 3. Immediate Reward- reward your good behavior. Ex. If i workout this whole week then I will treat myself over the weekend. Maybe some pizza or ice cream 😉

@@barbiegirl5657 good breakdown. I put a mirror up in my room a while ago and I think it accidentally transformed my motivation to work out. because now when I do pushups and see the difference in the mirror I think....hmm good stuff......imma do a few more! progress monitoring and an immediate reward all in one!

it'll never gonna get lost

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Thank you

I'm reading your comment in 2023 and it's not lost )

Some places use that here also. Texas, USA.

are you a demon?

lmfao

LOL

Me too but after this sentence I have to admit, I failed.

You can do it. I can do it.We all can do it. LOL

u r the best

I suppose checking the comment section for a recap is immediate gratification 😬

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Thanks!

Indeed, both straightforward Operant Conditioning techniques and for what its worth, works with imagination too even at abstract musings and could potentially therefore be useful in lucid dream states too ;-) If one then approached that path with keen intensity to planning ans support mechanisms such as feedbacks then we could accomplish virtually anything we wanted - it's the management of negative emotions and also through operant conditioning which should put the icing on that cake. Classic postive feedback issues...

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@@sleepy-cg4ug Thank you. Your support means a lot

I'm going to start being a procrastinator. Tomorrow.

Just subbed you. You are interesting and watched some of your videos

Procrastination exists: @@Pwecko : I am about to end this man's whole career

Thank you

Thanks 🙏

Thx

i couldn' t finish watching this it was too sloooooow and repetitive... the notes were helpful thank you

Dear Tania Abi Azar, i would like to thank you. Because your resume is really useful for me (obviously for answering my final semester exam) . Your resume trulyyyy safe my life. God Bless You!

Good for you dude

I quit 7 years ago when I saw my one year old boy look up at me from the other side of a glass door. I decided right there that this is not the life or environment I want for my child. Both my wife and I quit within weeks after that.

That's good calculation though. You might have got a lot of time to do whatever is necessary to be done. 👍👍

Imagine what you can do if you spent 50hrs per month! Like learn an instrument, coding, meditate, sports. And if you spent it with sport you benefit twice as much!

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Love it. Like to copy but can't

I want go to the gym but it’s the fear inside of me.

ikr, she didn't even use "um" during the entire speech

She's on crack.

I swear by it. Even with my own sons to this day I use it. They're 19 & 17 & my foster son at present is 16 now. They respond well and even compete with each other. It's great for their confidence and self esteem. I haven't quite got to 100% results for the chores yet but I remain hopeful 😃

Gina Gutierrez what are the rewards that you give to them? My best friend is a new teacher and is looking for positive reinforcement ideas! Thank you in advance.

Did you see the News in LA when a teacher gave her class incentive reward for doing well on a project? She offered pizza for lunch for ALL. But she was shut down by the school Principal ! He took all ordered/ delivered pizzas away!! He said its a bad idea because other classrooms don't get any pizza. 😨😱 OMG! He certainly was a demotivating Principal. Negative thinking.

give me an example or solution on how to get motivation to change my behaviour on quitting my masturbation addiction?? can you throw some light on that?

@@DesertlizzyThe, I concur. That is a principal who just does not get "it." S/he obviously needs encouragement to pursue continuing education in the area of psychology of learning, motivation, and solution-focused cognitive-behavioral approaches. My question is who is the boss of this principal? Perhaps this individual too needs to lead by effective example.

I've been beginning to realize this these past few months and I'm beginning to feel like I can do whatever tf I put my mind to, again you know like I always knew. But the daily struggles in life sometimes eat you up. Bad habbits and addictions which you tend to really adapt to. Gotta remember who you are. Maybe consider the odds of your existence... Only god knows ! People are amazing!! Learn to love others and value their wellbeing as you should your own. I truly believe that the more knowledge that we strive to obtain, the easier it will be to achieve this. Just do what you love to do, as well as what your heart desires!

Pride is a selfish emotion.

@@scary85 but it's there, nonetheless. Vinegar/sugar? Too much of which this morning?

@@scary85 so according to you loving and caring oneself is selfish?

Ambi Cahira, you are referring to cognitive dissonance. You want your real self to move closer to your ideal self. You can do it. Keep up the good work! A higher level of congruence between your ideal self and real self too further reinforces positively future cognitive processing and behavioral outcomes. Do it.

I hope your meeting went well. Even if mot, i still support you for striving to be better. You've got this!

What happened??

[Also wants to know]

Uhh, you guys do know that he's saying he's gonna rob the bank... right? lol

I dont know you, so dont wait for any good wish from me please

Lol.. jokes on the imagination between two different people always get me :)

Bruuuuuuuh

No, no, no no no no no!

A very good summary, thank you.

Thank you! You rock

What a great recap. Thanks.

Thanks for the condensation!

For sure, we cannot move forward if we don't think "forward". If we are stuck in negativity thinking...as stuck in the past, we cannot move forward. Positive strokes folks

Exactly what I was thinking! Now how do we take that magic and use it in real life?

I am very guilty of playing cellphone games... I had this problem years ago and now it's back. I'm not sure why I'm at it again, but it's frustrating.

Yea addictive games ruin my social life

@@MyOver50 don't blame yourself. You probably need it. I'm in my game period now as well, just enjoying it.

Same thought came to my mind. She could have used that example 😀

“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.” ― Dale Carnegie

Some people are naturally good at motivating themselves, while others might need a push from someone else. I have ADHD and I work best when I'm forced to lol. So many interesting things in this world keep distracting me

good

It is great doctor 👍

exactly how i feel now thank you for existing

Hai hello how r u?

The faster you try to the slower you become. The more you loose sight of now, the more you drift beyond here and now. Building a plan a daily structure and creating habit of fulfilling list of goals with one most important in focus to finish that day to feel pleased helps a lot. it grounds you in the task at hand and limits distractions. But nothing like that will fix bad sleep habits, bad diet without enough balanced proteins and healthy animal fats, meat,fish, eggs dairy or chaos of thoughts left loose instead of organising them f.e. on paper especially before sleep (nsdr helps a lot).

Nancy Solari YOU HAVE A GREAT CHANNEL AND YER PRETTY . GOD BLESS YOU MORE !

Clean your room and mind and buy a beef steak. Good first meal daily, enough sleep with proper protocol to sleep well

i don't believe self-discipline is that simple. Motivation is like the engine that keeps us running. It's the force that drives us to produce desired results. It's our inertia. Without motivation it's easy for some of us to chose the less-productive or the instantly gratifying option-- especially when theres little to no consequences. When you grasp the concept of self-motivation , the discipline and commitment just comes naturally. From a book i've learned as humans, our biggest motivator is freedom of control. We want to feel in control of our environment and our lives and not feel forced. By giving ourself choices in our daily chores/tasks/commitments, we earn back that sense of control thus making us more motivated to follow through (because it feels like our own decision and not anyone else's). For instance, we know when we go into work we have an unruly list of tasks to complete by the end of the day; by simply asking ourselves "what would i like to complete first", "what time will i take my break?" or just simply giving yourself the option to complete what task and when, will gratify us with a sense of control we innately desire. From a person who lacked self-discipline for a long time, i had to re-teach myself how to motivate and learn long-term gratification is better than instantaneous. You sound like a pretty disciplined person and like you already have your big motivator yourself (self-commitment). For people like me, that's not a big motivator; i'm pretty okay with falling through on tasks because i don't care too much. If you're interested in the book it's called "Smarter, Faster, Better: The Transformative Power of Real Productivity". It's a great read and dives into the neurological science behind motivation as well as psychological.

@@akiliturner6204 i love your take on this, it made me feel much better about myself and was very well-written, thank u and have a nice day! :)

Eddie Spencer-Small perhaps you should review Briggs Meyer 16 personalities in which 2% only are INFJ.. Rare & Very Typical Symptom or Behavior. Let me know what you think. Please.

Wow, that's exactly what I'm doing now! Wasting my time and putting off the things I have to do later. I hope I can follow your good example.

@@speedytempo3819 It's getting started that's the hardest thing, but once you get into a rhythm it's much easier to continue with. Also if you can commit to just 5 minutes of whatever task you're putting off (as opposed to an hour), it's more manageable. Good luck. Procrastination is a horrible affliction.

@@craigwallacewilliams5534 Apparently I'm an INFP-T, and I've looked at the characteristics and they hit home: creative, private, takes things personally. It's like I'm reading a description of me! "The true friends of people with the Mediator personality type tend to be few and far between, but those that make the cut are often friends for life" That is me.

@@edwardspencer-small7021 I know. Thanks for the tip

Could you send me the PDF of her book??

What is the name of the book

This is my first time and i no am going to enjoy listen to TED talk it will help me out alot

I prefer more rational inteligence. Training mind to not get emotional and don't care about emotional, irrational people. Helps even better. Once it all was simply called controlling oneself and observing world. No big intelligence in that.

Don't get addicted though.Everything done too much is dangerous

Your totally wrong

Have you seen a doctor for your PTSD, yet? It would be a really good idea to discuss what symptoms are affecting your quality of life. They will be able to talk with you over the best prescription options (since I'm guessing you're not going because you believe they will only recommend therapy as the main treatment? Even though nothing is wrong with therapy. There are bad therapist, okay therapists, and a ton of therapists who read more research and have helped dozens with PTSD before. So, it's not a bad idea to find a therapist while taking prescription). They may offer an SSRI to boost serotonin (feeling of well-being)

Take care of yourself and remember to not see the world as a dangerous and dark place full of people to be wary of. It's good to protect yourself, but people with PTSD who do this relive their symptoms and this further traumatizes them (that's why it's sad that people with PTSD have to relive it in court. Side note: most therapists won't have you relive it. They tend to work on thinking patterns and behavior and how it affects you before and after). The world is better when you choose to believe the best in people. Rem: It's unhealthy to feel entitled to other's "proper" reactions that you want them to have (besides basic human decency)

Yeah, like toxic people and ones that don't want anything in life, but love to complain .

I love your comment. It's very inspiring.

@Maryanna Shvartsman you know that there are other people on the world outside of the US too, right?

Wow i wish i took me only 17 minutes to do my homework

@@zhabo3963 it does

@@rail7646 😂😂

I think they were laughing at the slideshow...funny images appeared before the lady spoke of them

they saw the screen images before we did, so laughed before we did.