This is like a psych 101 for the masses. Thanks for doing this: not everybody can be enrolled in higher ed.

Love bombing is my first warning sign. Unwarranted, excessive praise early in a relationship.

I am a public health professional from India. Your videos have inspired me to work in the field of mental health and to pursue a Phd in this field. Thank you so much for taking the time out and inspiring masses

Main difference between psychopaths and narcs is anxiety. Psychopaths don’t have any (fearless). Narcs have lots (disregulated emotions). That’s one of the main ways to differentiate between the two.

If you’re not already a teacher/professor at a college, I hope you’re considering it. You’re very well spoken, intelligent and knowledgeable. I think you’d be great at it. Just my 2 cents. Thank you for educating us here on UKposts ☺️

I discovered I was a narcissist and have used DBT to recover. I was literally the last to know! I am still working on it but since I was diagnosed (worst day of my life, lol) and began working on it - my life and those around me - is much, much better.

From my own experience, I think that from the perspective of someone who's interacting with a psychopath is, that the psychopath somehow doesn't induce fear, he's just friendly and well adapted, but seems invincible to any kind of attack or manipulation. I have the impression that a narcissist is very intimidating from the first second on, but is oversensitive for attacks and falls easily to manipulation like flattery.

What makes it even more complicated is someone who is psychopathic tend to be high in narcissistic traits

The Airplane example really helped. That form of narrative learning I found easy to digest and retain.

And the psychopath can switch from charming to evil in under a second.

1:26 - the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath (primary vs secondary psychopath). 1:45 - ASPD and Primary vs Secondary Psychopathy 2:18 - Two types of narcissism - Grandiose vs Vulnerable 2:40 - Things in Common between NPD and Primary 3:00 - Primary Psychopathy Traits 3:11 - Secondary Psychopathy Traits 3:23 - Grandiose Narcissism 3:39 - Vulnerable Narcissism 5:30 - Features of Narcissism you wouldn't expect to see in Psychopathy 5:35 - Envy 5:51 - Need for Admiration 6:25 - Sense of Entitlement 6:37 - Arrogance 7:16 - Hyper-Sensitivity (Covert Narcissism) 7:45 - Features of Psychopathy you wouldn't expect to see in Narcissism 7:53 - Lack of Fear of Punishment or Consequences 8:22 - Low Neuroticism (low negative emotions) 8:52 - Unemotional decision making 9:12 - Lack of guilt 9:39 - Cold and Calculating 10:10 - Features that appear in both (but manifest differently) 10:28 - Grandiosity 11:06 - Delusions of Grandeur (fantasies of success, wealth, power, etc.) 11:37 - Airplane Movie Example of how delusions of grandeur might manifest differently between NPD and Psychopath (NPD First) 14:31 - How a Psychopath might handle the situation in the Airplane Movie Example 15:55 - Continuing with Overlapping characteristics (Manipulation) 16:47 - Lack of Empathy (callousness) 17:27 - Dominance (NPD social vs Psychopathic physical) 18:39 - Pathological Lying (NPD vs Psychopath) 20:01 - Video Wrap up / Closing

My step sister was diagnosed as a psychopath. She was very manipulative. She was always the victim and viscous! I have worked with a narcissist and they do exhibit similar behaviors. Now that you mention it, the narcissist is looking for attention whereas my step sister had no problem with exploiting people for monetary gain.

I laughed so hard when you said the psychopath takes the passangers belongings and jumps out the plane 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that's the funniest thing I've heard in a very long time

Very clear and helpful- thank you I don’t think anyone has ever addressed how charming and socially gifted a narcissist can be with most people while privately inflicting hell on helpless, honest, innocent people. I wonder how many heart broken, shaken, defeated victims are left in the wake of these monsters.

Psychopaths are in my experience more cunning and have an analytical mind that isn't inhibited in and of itself. Where N.P.D often seems to be it's own worst enemy. Narcissism seems to to trip over its own contradictions.

In a nutshell: Narcissist: "I am so much better than everyone that they need to worship me." Psychopath: "I am so much better than everyone that their worship is utterly meaningless."

I use to be a Narcissist, but now I'm perfect.

When you talked about the narcissist inventing problems in the airplane scenario it was spot on with an experience I had while working in a large factory. There was a certain control room operator that would constantly exaggerate or find problems then attempt to make himself look good by solving them all the while attempting to make others who knew the problems to be fake look bad. He was constantly looking for any mistakes or weakness in others then exploiting it to make himself appear Superior. Even tho his behavior was constantly causing problems with others no one wanted to address it.

This is really fascinating. I have a parent who I may believe is psychopathic. He's virtually destroyed our family with alcohol and affairs, yet when he's been caught, he was very honest about his reasoning and gives what we thought were the most strange reasons for his actions. Reasons that completely lack empathy it seems. For example, he justified his affairs by telling my other parent, "but I still love you". We now have a good relationship but only after I stopped viewing him through the lense of a "normal" person. By trying to see him for what he is. These videos are helping me do that, and oddly enough, bringing me a lot of closure.

I love your channel dude. Seriously. So well spoken and well educated!! And i LOVED the elf on the shelf video. I think you should sprinkle more bonuses in like that with some humor put into real things. I loved it!

I’ve watched 1000s of videos on this topic, and I want you to know, your presentation is by far SUPERIOR to all the others! I’m sharing several of them w my narc survival ladies group :)

I would dearly like to see a DSM with all mental illnesses differentiated entirely by the Airplane! method. I think it would be a big hit!

I think my sister and mother are both. They are also sadistic. My sister since she was little love to tell lies on people to destroy relationships, and to get people in trouble. In elementary school she falsley accused even the school nurse of sexually touching her and got her fired. She was also able to get me kicked out the house lying on me. She also steals, and many more dangerous things I don't want to say. She and my mother are just alike. It's really scary how they hurt people and feel nothing about it.

An excellent video and very spot on. I was diagnosed many years ago with psychopathy and the awareness of that worked wonders to help me be better in the world. I think sometimes it is forgotten that there is a spectrum at play. Not all psychopaths are identical. In my case, maybe strangely, while I have a very flat emotional connection with most people I can connect with animals. I suspect that was a saving grace in my larger life, because it allowed me an avenue to understand intellectually there is value in emotional connection. I was wired with the mantra to do no harm and the therapy involved working off the connection I could form with animals. I can’t be cured, though, and I tend to warn anyone who gets close to me that I will never be able to be truly empathetic as people imagine has value, or divest myself for the very mechanical thinking processes that make us different. I am not a complete person in the normal sense. Having said that and agreeing entirely with the information in the video, I just want to reiterate that this isn’t spectrum of sorts. Not all psychopaths are evil criminal masterminds. Yes we are calculating, but with early intervention and some supports it is possible to be a functional member of society in some cases. And, in fact, in some social context we can actually be handy given that we have such shallow emotional context. In a crisis, a psychopath can be efficient. Still, I would probably add that we don’t deserve or desire sympathy, and we can’t emotionally bond like a normal person, and that makes even me advise people to be careful about imagining a world where there are friendly neighbourhood psychopaths. We don’t have a whole lot of social ability and value to bring to people.

Distinction between narcissism and psychopaths starts 5:25

You’re a brilliant clinician. You are the only person I’ve found so far that actually gets the ins-and-outs of more stigmatized (primarily Cluster B personality disorders) mental illnesses.

I applaud you for making all of these comparison videos. It can be very confusing trying to find accurate information on the internet in general.

This has been so helpful. I found the description and distinction of each very accurate. I was trying to understand the relationship I had with someone who had been presenting all these signs. This was very informative thank you!

Narcissist = Superhero wannbe... Psychopath = Super villain wannabe.

Could you do a video on narcissist/psychopathic parents? I would be really interested in seeing how they parent and the possible effects on their children.

This is seriously on of the most well-informed and informative channels on abnormal psychology out there. Thank you.

Im so happy I found your channel. I've been trying to get answers and you helped me more than anybody. Thank you.👍👍

As the child of a psychopath and someone who unfortunately spent every day for the last 7 years with a psychopath partner, I have to say the information in this video rang very true. In my experience, and as he touches on, the big difference between the narc and the psych is the lack of false self or protection of false self. The psychopath won't come across as overtly egotistical. They don't care. It's kind of hard to articulate, but they don't fear exposure of their despicable self in an emotional way. They're like robots. And, first hand exposure to this characteristic is extremely disturbing. They literally have no integrity whatsoever. They have no value, respect, or use for integrity in any sense of the word...be it integrity of character, honesty, loyalty, compassion...nada.

Now I know for sure that my ex is a Sociopath, not a Narcissist. Thank you!

Dear Dr G. totally appropriate brown shirt for a difficult analysis. You are an amazing person who contributes so much to so many. Many heart felt thanks. We are all lucky you don't take holiday breaks, from your brilliant stream of highly engaging complex presentations, which are easy to follow! Clearly the result of your intellectual talent tenacity and application.

Dr.Grande thank you very much for your videos.. The sheer understanding you have given into these behaviours has given a sense of relief beyond expression..

I lived with a narcissist. We did not get along. I gave him absolutely nothing he wanted.

The Airplane analogy, is fantastic!

Your video is so much more articulate and comprehensive than most I have viewed. Thanks. (Widow of an Overt Narcissist who made life confusing and depressing!)

This is so interesting! I really wish I could remember all of this! Thank you so much for your hard work!

oh goodness i like watching these but i am starting to think my dog is a narcissist.

Hard to talk about, live thru, recover from, having one of them in your world. They leave a high body count. Thank you for the well crafted, concise , clinically correct yet totally understandable description of these demon spawn. How they work, what they do, why they do it. The pain they cause is overwhelming. 😐👍🐶

This is really helpful as a clinician. I appreciate you taking the time to differentiate between two differential diagnoses with specificity. Even in grad school we didn't have enough time to do this with every differential and the examples you gave made it pretty clear what traits to look for.

Thank you, Doctor. I am a recent subscriber and am avidly going through your back-catalogue with great interest - hence my commenting on a video from 2019... In my research for a true crime book, I've been interested in understanding the distinction(s) between psychopathy and sociopathy, and though I've looked in many other places, this video has finally and succinctly explained that to me. Your videos excel in this regard (succinct explanation, that is), as well as (particularly in the case of your various celebrity profiles) being highly entertaining. I would love to see an in-depth breakdown purely on the facets of Primary and Secondary Psychopathy as a stand-alone video - unless of course you can point me to one that already exists? I particularly enjoy that you have taken the time to cover various Australian cases! Some weird stuff definitely goes on down here, but most channels tend to focus on their own countries of origin, so it's nice to see your perspective on these, too. Your work is always excellent, informative and professional, and I - like many others, apparently - am grateful for all the time you dedicate to your channel, and to your subscribers. Keep up the great work.

Heres the thing.. Most therapists have no idea. Often times giving the wrong digonioise. Only a handful of therapists out there have the intelligence and understanding to give the correct assessment. Btw well made video, thanks.

This is spectacular. Even though I grew up with an ASPD parent, this is very effective in separating the two types of behavior.

This man so clearly and efficiently speaks on some illnesses and possible toxic people in our lives. It helps to wrap my brain around it through a factual, scientific perspective as opposed to a "feelings" perspective. Helps tons to make healthier decision when choosing people to become a part of our lives. Thank you

Good day Dr. Grande, I found your videos a perfect supplement for my upcoming board review (psychometrician licensure)!😀 Your information on psychopathy, narcissism and other constructs are worth to add no my notes for future reference!😁

super clear and useful information. I am oddly relieved that you helped me identify a narcissist and not a psychopath. still, the feeling of having been prey is overwhelmingly creepy. The term psychic vampire has new meaning for me now.

Thank you for this particular video. Because my ex has both diagnosed NPD and ASPD, the confusion has always been what type he actually is, psychopath or sociopath. Your analogy about the airplane really brought some clarity to my confusion. On two separate occasions when we were travelling by plane and two times a passenger was in distress, the flight attendants asked if a physician was on board. Of course my ex being a physician was on board, but both times did not raise his hand. They kept asking desperately for help on one of the flights and finally I could stand it any longer, I raised my hand to tell them that my husband was a physician.

I am SO glad you are taking on the whole Narcissism and Cluster B disorders topic. There is so much misinformation all over the internet. I know I can trust your information.

Excellent - I finally get it, way more. Thank you! The movie example was brilliant. Plus difference bw emotional/social-driven rewards and motivation of narcs vs psychopaths less caring of what people think or feel Nailed it, as usual. You're a total gift ❤

These are some excellent analogies and descriptions. Love the Airplane example!

One of the best explained to me yet. I've listened to lots of these breakdowns. thanks.

Now this really hit home w the description of the difference. I thought I was getting a fiod education into narcissism, but the levels of psychopathy is quite eye opening. I'm trying to figure out who I was married to all those years. I thought I knew this man, but finding out youre married to a LIE makes it difficult to put the puzzle pieces together of exactly who you were with. I'm so thankful I found your channel Dr Grande. Thank you. The psychopathy side of things majes so much more sense w the exe. Some things about him were just not fitting the types of narcissists id been learning about. My jaw is dropped right now. Chills actually. I was stripped of everything. Homes cars rights voice choice and I'm so lucky to be alive. I compare the exe to that Netflix series "Tell Me A Story" My exe abuser was similar to the blond English Teacher.

I'm working on my BA in Psychology. I really love your talks on various topics. Great information. Thank you Dr. Todd

"Surely you aren't a narcissist." "I am a narcissist, and don't call me Shirley."

Great job, Dr. Grande! The "Airplane" example you used really drove your point home. No pun intended. I really enjoyed the way you organized and presented this topic. The listener can follow along and make sense of your presentation as your well structured discussion literally pulls the listener along from one point to the next -- never getting lost or bored.

This is supremely helpful Dr Grande, thank you so much! I find your videos very interesting and immensely helpful in unravelling the very complex issues surrounding psychopathy and narcissism.

So interesting! Love all this information. You present it in a very understandable way. Thank you.

Very clear descriptions for the lay person. I truly believe such basic psychology should be mandatory for all high school teens. Far too many people become involved with personality disordered individuals without even knowing such individuals exist.

This channel is my new daily drug. 😊 I like your calm presentation btw. 👍

This is the best explanation I have come across to differentiate between the two. Thank you!

Regardless of time these videos are recorded, the learning of psychology is timeless. You, Dr. Grande, are far the best in relating to the public the complexities of the mind. I thank you for sharing your expertise in this field.

You are very interesting. I like the straight, educational method like this, but with deep insightful comments based on your experience. For the mental health videos, I haven't looked a lot to find the 'best' but this is perfect so far.

Good one! No one has ever explained this so thoroughly before. I finally understand. Thank you!

Excellent and very informative between the two! The airplane anology was super and really clears up the difference . It seems the one does things in public veiw and want for admiration and credit where as the other is just plain sneaky not to mention devious. Thank you Dr. for the best descriptions of the differences between the two!!

I was exactly searching for this. A comparison between Factor 1 Psychopathy and Narcissism. Most other comparison videos are of Factor 2 Psychopathy/ Aspd and Npd. In that sense it's a very unique video. Highly appreciated.

You’re the best 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🙏🏻 I’m glad I found your stuff ❤️

Glad I found your channel. This is excellent, well informed content. Thank you for sharing.

Dr. grande the effort You put into these videos is really appreciated. You make complex topics more easily understood and sometimes we now think we are experts :-)

Dr Grande, you are a very engaging and eloquent professional. Thank you so much 😊

Another great video dr. Grande! This is the first time I heard a dr. who diligently dissected these two types of mental disorders, their overlapping traits and traits unique to each other. Do you have any video that tackles on how can we have more people to understand, believe and empathized with the true victims of the subtle and insidious harm these horrible people do? Or though they could no longer change, how would it be possible for more people to know them, since their sadistic personalities are shown in the privacy of the home? So dangerous and slowly killing!

Thank you for explaining the difference between Psychopathy and Sociopathy

As suspected few months ago, really looking and digging deep in my ex behavior, we remained in contact, he definitely has both trades and its pretty scary. Me, as a extreme Empath, got sucked in it, but stayed, so I can also heal myself from codependency and extreme empathy. I must say that relationship with this man, and the way he broke up with me, forced me to put myself First on my list of priorities and start changing what I have been dragging from early childhood.

Love this. I'm a psychologist and have studied psychopathy but your well ordered description has made a very complex topic accessible and logical. Thanks.

A brilliant survey of two very complex "personality disorders." I understand a lot more about the dynamics of psychopathy and narcissism now than before I viewed this video. Really enjoyed how the prof grounded his analyses in science but kept his discourse straightforward and interesting. Great job, Dr., and thanks!

I'm so pleased to have happened upon your channel, Dr. Grande. I just binge listened to several with good content and presented in a way that is accessible to those of us who are "lay people"; if that's still a term. And thankyou for providing some clarity to the NLP trend. Cheers:)

Thank you so very much for sending this to us. Very good info on such a complicated subject.

Wow, that was incredibly interesting and informative!! Thank you!!

A lot of useful info, thank you for clarifying a murky situation for me and my family. Hopefully we can patch a few things up over time.

Thank you so much for this. Emotion vs. Material, simplistic, yes, but such an important distinction. Thank you, thank you, a thousand times thank you.

Thanks doc. Confirms my wife is a self-righteous narcissist. Makes me even happier I live 400 miles away from her.

Fascinating, the nuanced difference between these two personality disorders. I honestly believe that I have met both face to face during the course of my life. I couldn't get away fast enough...

Thank you for this perfectly clear clarification.

What a wonderful channel! Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

I dealt with a combo of both during the lockdown and it ended up being the worse work situation ever. Thank God for my support systems. Being Complacent thinking it will never happened to me. Well letting my guard down could have caused me great danger. Thank you for breaking it down. You didn’t miss anything.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Psychopath: You end up in pieces in trashbags in a river Narcissist: You end up in court fighting. And at therapy.

Spot on! It really irks me when people use psychopath as a broad generalizations, and this video shows the distinctions!

Your way of explaining this was perfect!

This was enlightening and helpful. Years ago I read Cleckley and Thigpen's Mask of Sanity and later Wilson's My 7 Convicts. Doubtless the latter lead me into what became a 30 year career as a prison optometrist. Many charts have a diagnosis of PD. It seems that I'm seeing at least two different people with the same diagnosis. One enters the office and seems to expand to fill the room. Next comes the statement of what he/she expects me to do for them. The second type enters and tries to convince me that they are better educated than I am, using incorrect medical vocabulary and offering an impossible ocular history. When pressed to clean up the history, various, obvious lies are offered. Never a dull moment. Thanks for this video. I believe I almost understand a bit more about my patients.

I have seen numerous instances where there is a blurring of the difference between Narcissistic personality and Psychopathic personality. Thank you for breaking everything down to be easily followed.

That was very clear. I never understood itbefore, thank you for that well thought out presentation!,

Wow! This is so creativity done! Loved it!

Amazingly great video! THANK YOU DR. GRANDE! GREAT JOB!

Thank Doc TD. This is a beautiful distinction. I love the “physical” benefits as opposed to the “interpersonal” benefits. Spot on. Merci beaucoup.

You are a truly fantastic speaker and you come across as extremely knowledgeable Dr. Grande. Pkease keep up the informative and interesting videos.

Very interesting. ....I really enjoyed the way both the psychopath and narcissis was broken down in much detail.

Great video, these comparisons between narcissism and psychopathy are soooo needed. Thank you. In your Airplane! analogy, the sociopath I know well would have definitely had the fantasy you mention about taking all the money and letting the plane crash. He'd have told you he had this fantasy too, and he'd have justified doing it because he'd say the people were all morons. The psychopath I know best would not tell you her fantasy so it's harder to say. In my mind I see her fantasy being about defiance and deception and thrill. She's asked or told to bring the plane to a safe landing and she fakes a panic attack, pretends to have no knowledge of planes even though she's the only one who is a pilot, the fantasy would involve duping and deceiving people who are relying on her for their lives, and refusing to do what they needed and most wanted her to do (save them). She would not care that by doing this she will die too, she doesn't think ahead so death doesn't bother her. She'd only be interested in refusing to save the people, having that complete power over their lives, seeing them in such fear and terror, and pretending to the end that she was not able to land the plane even though she could do it. When she was faking this you'd see her eyes alive, and a faint smirk on her face. She'd look straight at the person asking her to land the plane and say innocently with a sincere tone of voice and sincere sounding panic, 'but I can't, I don't know how'. The person asking may even KNOW she can, so becomes insensed and confused. They might yell at her and say she is a pilot, but she'd just shake her head sadly and lie outright 'I don't know how to land a plane'. She would be particularly careful not to say 'I'm not a pilot', somehow the word play would be great to her. She'd be getting a thrill from word play even at the point of impending death for everyone. She would say 'I can't land a plane, I'm so sorry', there might be some tears that looked real. Her eyes would all the while be communicating 'we both know I can, but I'm playing with you'.

More of this channels are clearly a good point to start for talking about this interesting topic, I actually learn more about this interesting conditions.