Is dating older women just a trend? | Men, Explain
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День томуIs it still a stigma to date older women or younger men in today’s day and age? The modern dating scape has changed drastically and people are now more open to meeting people from different backgrounds, cultures, and ages.
In this episode of Men, Explain, Sonia and our guests, Brandon and Kaykay, will share their experiences and views on dating older women/younger men, and how they navigate the stigmas and stereotypes of such relationships.
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0:00 Introduction
01:33 Brandon and Kay Kay love story
07:01 The age gap between Brandon and Kay Kay
09:04 Ghosting Kay Kay for 3 months
13:05 Financial difference in a relationship
17:12 What was the biggest concern regarding the age gap?
20:15 Compatible values
21:10 Are there more people dating older women nowadays?
23:26 Does older women wear the pants in the relationship?
29:00 Is communication more challenging in a large age gap relationship?
30:14 Compromising in a age gap relationship
32:14 Mean comments on age gap relationships
35:01 The biggest lesson Kay Kay and Brandon learnt from each other
36:02 Conclusion
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@dawn7491 2 місяці тому
lol the amount of effort Sonia made to make Brandon feel more comfortable when KK was like… interrupting
@ambertran1736 Рік тому
Its so sweet the way he looks at her. KK is a smart woman who knows how to make a happy home and Bran is lucky n wise enough to realise that at such young age !
@TMM-N Рік тому
She is queen control She will control him
@richevericheve5156 Рік тому
great nice to hear and see this couple having a happy relationship thx for sharing
@rhywia Рік тому
I relate so much to Brandon, literally how i think and act exactly. I've also thought about dating older women a lot but I just don't know still. But I totally get you Brandon. Thank you for making this video clarity!
@carolinawu6951 Рік тому
Wow, what an insightful interview. Honest and sincere opinions, love it!
@elitesquad13 Рік тому
first time listening and great insights all around. wonder if there are any filtered stuff since it is already pretty raw
@melthegreat645 Рік тому
Sweet couple :) And Sonia is so respectful with her questions and at the same time I love how it is so transparent
@heyasoniachew Рік тому
Glad you enjoyed it 🥹 I really loved recording this ep too!
@aishanchan2229 Рік тому
My parents have a wide age gap and I personally don't think it's an issue. Feel encouraged by your story
@yctang3430 Рік тому
Great interviewer! I give a sub :) I like how she is very mature, classy, very straight to the point and understandable compare to the other interviewers I seen on sg UKposts who over laugh, loud and sometime a bit inappropriate.
@heyasoniachew Рік тому
Thank you so much 🥲🥹
@ZhenZhen1704 Рік тому
Inspiring story and Sonia is such a great host as usual!
@TheFactWhisperer Рік тому
From the way the guy thinks and talk about the RS, I say Kaykay found a great spouse.
@mrschhim Рік тому
This is my first time listening to your postcast and I've enjoyed it. My husband is 13 years older than me. I actually hid my relationship from my family for 6 years and we've been together 24+ years now. I was so young when we met and I wear the pants in our relationship ☺️ Kaykay & Brandon are so cute together!
@KOREATAIWANJAPAN Рік тому
you wear the pants? thats funny
@Snappypantsdance Рік тому
Ohh, you might want to rethink that wearing the pants thing. I think that causes a lot of issues for men and even affairs, because they more naturally want to be in control..
@Blinkonceifyougay 7 місяців тому
Men being older is not the same thing as the women being older lol
@Louistan99 Рік тому
She always intercepts his speech(dominant)…… Sonia so kind in commenting “you look young”
@cryptowalkers Рік тому
Thats what i was thinking when i was watching this
@glenc1415 Рік тому
omg always felt that Kaykay had a really soothing voice since her clicknetwork days, she should really do podcasts!
@jwon5614 4 місяці тому
So glad to see this! They seem very happy and very compatible! Healthy relationship❤❤🤗
@pychow13 Рік тому
As someone in my late 40s and have dated mostly younger guys with age gap between 10 - 15, i've also been at the receiving end of many unsolicited nasty comments from close friends. Been called a paedophile, nanny, sugar mummy, desperate etc. Some even suggested that the younger men were interested only coz they were looking for short term fun, and could get laid without risk of unwanted pregnancy. These comments used to hurt, a lot, esp coming from close friends. I've learned since to keep my private life, absolutely private.
@supremeleaderkimjongmoon Рік тому
@@leisurecontentviewer age gap..that means 30s onwards.
@_ladiosanegra Рік тому
they are jealous bc you are attactive and attract younger men
@JB-do2ru Рік тому
Then they are not your friends girl
@pychow13 Рік тому
@@JB-do2ru yup, thats why I'm no longer in contact with them
@esmechin2696 9 місяців тому
Why should you care what people say its none of their business and as you grow older the more you won't care cos life is short, you do what you like
@bartonjoey Рік тому
Why does she keep interrupting him and answering his questions?
@asdff7279 11 місяців тому
“any words of encouragement for ppl who feel concerned about being judged by others? you have only one life if you spend your whole life caring what other ppl say, you might lose out on happiness ppl will always imposs their own fears insecurities on you, so just don’t bother about it” 😊
@JaniceQH93 Рік тому
👍👍👍👍Great sharing!
@michalphang Рік тому
There's one element that was not even brought up which I think is an important matter to consider, if the man is dating a much older woman - childbearing. I know of a person who had reservations about settling down with an older woman bcos she was almost past her childbearing age. When it comes to offspring, it will definitely involve getting opinions/blessings of both parents, whether they are okay without grandchildren. Regardless of how advance technology is, somehow the guy has to be ready and willing to give up the option of having biological children or else this could be a 'thorn' in the relationship
@atatur123 Рік тому
"When it comes to offspring, it will definitely involve getting opinions/blessings of both parents, whether they are okay without grandchildren." Respectfully, I need to disagree with you there. The couple's parents don't get to decide if their children want to have kids. Whatever the situation (grandkids or no grandkids), they're just going to have to make their peace with it. The decision is out of their hands. If they choose to antagonise the relationship for this reason (against the wishes of their adult children), then they're risking their children cutting them out of their lives. To your other point, I know of plenty of couples who don't want and are choosing to live childfree lives. Gone are the days where kids were a must for a "happy stable family". I also know that "egg freezing" has become more and more popular. A few of my single female friends have done that (once they got close to a certain age). That + surrogacy means you're really not on nature's clock anymore. The obstacle is the high cost, more than anything else.
@jaynetan3672 Рік тому
I loved this
@odechan9659 Рік тому
Would love to see more of them :) while I would also want Bran to answer more questions/elaborate, my husband is like Bran and this UKposts interview may be slow and boring if we waited for him to look at partner, think and answer/elaborate… so I can see why Kay Kay interjects a lot. However, my family and friends also like listening to him so I’ve learned to take many steps back, lose the control and be okay with momentary silences while he takes his time to reply. Usually he will reply and not need my help, only occasionally :) it’ll just be slightly slower paced lor, and he won’t elaborate too much unless probed further by host
@Banayaga Рік тому
Even if it was movie once a month, I would go for the cheaper one. So i understand him more. 😂 Different standards of living. As a woman, i wouldn't want my man to pay for everything either. To change my lifestyle to fit in your higher bracket is damn scary to know that if I get accustomed to it then that would also mean I may become reliant on your money. That's scary leh. What if one day I can't protect you and you made a foolish decision on money that I can never fanthom even having. 😂😂😂 I don't think its a gender issue... 🙄 How a poorer person uses money goes through more channels of thought. It is damn stressful to see how you casually spend $40 on something I wont care about while I try to save every bit I have to get something useful for myself.
@candetect7576 Рік тому
My fiancé 18 younger than me at first I don't fell comfortable I try to turn him down in a nice way he don't care
@lisachua9291 Рік тому
I used to date younger guys too and people will kept saying us and until one day we really broke off.
@hannahjoygemalaya3470 Рік тому
I really love Sonia🥰 Watching Men Explain really helped me a lot especially in weighing different opinions and eventually forming my own💞
@beautyofslowliving Рік тому
love your style, where is your black top from?
@John_Smith_86 7 місяців тому
She looks much older than when she was prominent in social media back then. I mean, obviously due to the passage of time. But kinda interesting to see the same person now after so many years
@esmechin2696 9 місяців тому
Ive been dating younger guys since my divorce and there are so many men out there that likes older women especially the under 45 guys as times have changed. However, I still find myself having to defend my preference for younger men with all my friends. They always have this incredulous look when I mention I am dating a younger guy.
@aimanazizul6479 Рік тому
i will marry my fiance next feb and shes 5 year older. Im overly excited!
@JuzNicky Рік тому
I have dated older and more successful ladies. but I also understand him, it feels so bad that I can't do all those things, but is that just social norms on conforms on genderism bias ? Even then the ladies just picked up the tabs, as the waiter just approached me to again the gender bias. Clearly, this isn't a rich or poor issue more than a gender issue as to what most podcast over the world are skewing towards. I prefer the to each their own bank accounts and contribute where they feel like its best to help each other grow ideal. Its tiring to put social norms to everything, I`ll be the house husband, and i`ll tell my kids OF paid for your diapers. So be it. Or go " This Iphone14 is so expensive, now mom has to sell 200 pictures and videos on OF to get this for your birthday present. " just to combine the all the recent topics covered so far.
@maddyong9714 Рік тому
Am I the only one irritated that Kaykay keeps interrupting Brandon repeatedly?? Girl!! Just let him talk!
@Ntwadumela1 Рік тому
Yes, it's quite irritating.
@96Kyubi Рік тому
Well it is an aunty, when aunties let you talk hahaha😂
@mrschhim Рік тому
@@96Kyubi lol flash back to my auntie!
@girlosophy Рік тому
that's the reason why she had to tag along for this interview?
@Iac12m Рік тому
I feel that deep down she might be very sensitive or insecure about him. Caz now that he is also successful and still very young. And that he cares a lot about her. But men will come to a point and get tired if their partner are so sensitive.
@madsammadsam2899 Рік тому
Yes why not. Age difference it's not the problem actually It's about How you felt about him .
@David-ve8pk Місяць тому
I know this Post is from a year ago but if I knew now what I didn't know then, and understood the complications of being younger than my wife. I would have not made the decision to get involved in the long term. I haven't had any intimacy on over 3 years. She asked me the other day if she should be concerned about me being involved with another woman. Repeatedly being shut off and berated by the way I do things and not seeing any interest in intimacy like she used to be, turned me off in so many ways. After many years of therapy, it has been a very mundane relationship. Excitement comes from outside the relationship. Married almost 30 years. I wish you all the best.
@daisydoo3669 Рік тому
my husband is 20+ older than me and he is more outgoing than me lol. Whenver we go out I also am the one who wants to go home haha.
@RL-yb1ee Рік тому
If you guys realised the two ladies kept interrupting the guy lol;;;;;;; let the guy speak!!!!!😂
@babyg3491 Рік тому
Because he's the bb there
@izzuddinmnasir4884 Рік тому
Im almost in love even shes 6 years older than me. Too bad im not ready financially
@lauramorgan27 Рік тому
If you show true potential, she'll be willing to go the distance with you.
@andreamorrow77 2 місяці тому
What is the age difference between these too
@admin670 Рік тому
KayKay has a very strong personality. The opposite nature of Brandon suits her hahaha...
@dj1835 Рік тому
Let be honest...they are winning together because she didn't care about his financial situation!!! Unlike American women!! I appreciate this woman👍🏾
@waterfoker8558 Рік тому
she's older, she better not care about his financials or she gonna b single, she has to lower her requirements
@dj1835 Рік тому
@@waterfoker8558 #facts and she did that
@karlamendozakipps8144 Рік тому
I'm 43 he is 29. 14 year age gap
@karlamendozakipps8144 Рік тому
1979/ 1993
@musico3415 Рік тому
Since women generally live longer than men, it is good for women to marry slightly younger men so both would die at about the same period.
@bre6651 Рік тому
Im so weak lmaooo
@Fupdernom 11 місяців тому
For real though
@trinityp8575 10 місяців тому
That is so generalised. No one knows when someone will die… you can’t plan these things… or look for someone younger cause he is going to die around your age… he may die much earlier or you much sooner… we can’t predict death.
@Fupdernom 10 місяців тому
@@trinityp8575 it's understandable to generalize as in almost all populations around the world, women live 6 to 10 years longer than men
@Fupdernom 10 місяців тому
@trinityp8575 It's not letting me post the source, but look up PRB "around the globe women outlive men"
@sansoo4976 11 місяців тому
they always say age is just a number , NO its not just a number, as a woman there are a lot more considerations when they get older
@yilianglow5101 Рік тому
my gf is 9years older , how to tell parents sia, im 26 and she is 35
@rogerfaint499 Рік тому
Get her pregnant first, and then tell your parents. This is a diversion tactic, they'll forget about the age (difference) when they have the expectant grandkid.
@maxwellhuanxinrong3154 Рік тому
@@rogerfaint499that’s seriously a bad advice
@GiGiSchnapps Рік тому
I think its just an evolution from focusing on the cougars point of view to focusing on the cubs point of view
@SXLEOPARDSKINNED Рік тому
What do you mean?
@GiGiSchnapps Рік тому
@@SXLEOPARDSKINNED I mean its not really a trend if its been going on for a really long time! The focus used to be on the older women; why is she dating a younger man? Is she bored of men her age? Etc. Just as the focus used to be on Sugardaddies, now its on the sugar baby. Its just a perspective shift, but its still the same story thats been going on for a while!
@GiGiSchnapps Рік тому
@@SXLEOPARDSKINNED I mean it in a respectful way, with cub, cougar, sugar daddy and sugar baby used to describe a may-september romance. My observation is mostly on the shift on what society is focusing on now and how they are looking at it; from the lense of the September partner, to the lense of the May partner.
@Fakeslimshady Рік тому
@@GiGiSchnapps Then why is it in older men/younger women romances, the focus is still on the potential predator?
@GiGiSchnapps Рік тому
@@Fakeslimshady not in all cases. In recent years theres been a rise in discussion surrounding the sugar baby and why she chooses to be that. Also, if you noticed, the terminology used for older women/younger men relationship (aka calling the women "cougar"), also paints these women as predatory, so I don't really think its excluaive to either gender. In my opinion, the older of the two is usually viewed as predatory due to the percieved imbalance of power dynamics with one being much older and usually seens to be of authority and dominance over the other.
@Ravenonweed Рік тому
My bf is 6 years younger than me, my mom is not ok with it but I dont really care
@bertbrown1823 Рік тому
6years is nothing
@Ravenonweed Рік тому
@@bertbrown1823 To my mom its something
@juliuswang3424 Рік тому
Just ask him to buff up , grow beards and moustache. 7 days without shaving he will look older.
@84vietskater Рік тому
Facts you only one life why does it matter what people think! I always say they don’t pay our bills so why do their opinion matters! Keep living your life!
@Bill0102 3 місяці тому
This is exceptional content. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was absolutely mind-blowing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
@faitheylwong6055 Рік тому
such a sweet guy KK is lucky
@libraries144 Рік тому
im so called dating this guy 3 yrs younger than me he's 19.. i'm 22. i have also been paying all our meals and expenses. im doing a small business and he is still interning, so he has not much money. i feel ok paying for meals cuz i sympathise with him but my problem is that he does not even mention anything about returning the favour or thinking of repaying me back in the future. not sure if we would even have a future tgt but its the lack of thought that threw me off. such as, he rather spend money on his friends and family but not me. when i have alr spent $300+ on him for our 5 dates so far.. its also not easy for me also since my business is not the most stable and doesnt earn as much as he thinks i do.. our lifestyle is also v different. he is born rich and im born poor. he wants all the branded things and i do not care abt any of those expensive brands..
@ruthrecalde2858 Рік тому
Run, you are young also, you do not need to be paying anything for that boy.
@papercurrencyisascam3015 Рік тому
Some successful women love the man whom they could have more control in relationship. The "alpha" type is definitely a no to them. In this interview, it's pretty obvious when he said "YOU ARE!" ukposts.info/have/v-deo/omiYbKGfkKNkmps.html
@ditsygirl5409 Рік тому
This girl KK’s face looks very artificial. Like got Botox on forehead, some procedures to make her face very artificially v shape which is trendy now.. a lot of girls do that and they all look similar.
@John_Smith_86 7 місяців тому
She has the standard bulky upper cheeks of a older lady though
@asdff7279 11 місяців тому
21:40
@yanadre9154 Рік тому
What is Brandon and Kaykay's age gap actually?
@dancingtopurposeauthentica8337 11 місяців тому
11 years
@anpdgbe 5 місяців тому
My first thought if I saw him siam the other girl would be he’s not into girls, not become interested in him lol….
@SparksFlyNic Рік тому
3 months of ghosting?? tbf I would've been really been petty about it lol
@DarkPa1adin Рік тому
before even a commitment?
@lalalalaland84 Рік тому
Did they answer why he finally reached out after 3 months?
@RacLove228 Рік тому
The test of their relationship is when she is 60 and he is only 49! Then we will see if love will withstand age, look and everything 😂😅
@skdavidnba Рік тому
👍👍
@DarkPa1adin Рік тому
Brendon looks like a kpop or k actor celeb
@avrahamvidal4255 Рік тому
Totally Dude
@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Рік тому
😳
@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Рік тому
😳😳
@Jo-lz4ie Рік тому
Sound motherly
@jon14tv Рік тому
Firsst of all, why the host is looking away from the main camera? Very strange.. I know theres another camera but doesn't look nice. There is no audience connection. jusst my opinion.
@omega_3_998 Рік тому
How old is Brandon?
@DarkPa1adin Рік тому
29, means KK is 40
@omega_3_998 Рік тому
@@DarkPa1adin OHHH!! Thanks :D but ok la .. they happy can liao haha
@littlelily4 Рік тому
@@DarkPa1adin oooh he's my age !! I thought he was younger
@norman6499 Рік тому
Agent, as the way it is, always trying to think of fast shot to more money zzz typical low resilient men …but i believe the woman not stupid to give him money freely…the man is not young also…just got age gap….by the way both of them got plastic surgery just look unnaturally weird
@flurryheart1973 Рік тому
I saw him on tiktok before i tot he was gay sia JCIJSID i didnt expect him to be the husband
@darkdrift0r124 Рік тому
I think often older women DONT WANT to date younger guys
@avidfather1864 Рік тому
For long term, usually not but for short term or for a one night stand, absolutely. Older women may not like the mind of a younger man but they absolutely adore and crave his body.
@Noa...... Рік тому
Are you speaking from personal experience?
@bre6651 Рік тому
I'm not "old" but the guys I date are always younger. I game a lot so the men I'm around or connect with are typically younger. With that being said, We do. It depends on how you act.
@jemchan Рік тому
Joanna Lim
@Iac12m Рік тому
Wow how you know?
@ralphleon7698 Рік тому
OMG. What happened to KK? Face looks so aged and droopy. Body looks so out of shape. 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
@hrjehdj917 Рік тому
all i can really notice is how much bigger KK's face is compared to brandon's and sonia's...not just in the video but in her ig pics....O_O and also her chin and forehead filler which looks v big n swollen
@girlosophy Рік тому
looks like she did her lip filler too
@hrjehdj917 Рік тому
@@girlosophy nose job also...q botched
@anpdgbe 5 місяців тому
It’s her nose that bugs me 😭
@Tony.L9793 Рік тому
Regardless of age, singaporean women only loves the most perfect man in the world, no need to be good looking, but must be rich with a respectable career with high monthly salary
@lolopuppister1919 Рік тому
She literally owes a lot of ppl money by taking friends monies for money game.
@edamame5540 Рік тому
Did Kaykay undergo plastic surgery?
@Ravenonweed Рік тому
Thats what I thought of well looks like fillers and plastic surgery
@duriansssss6052 Рік тому
LOTS of plastic surgery. She looks totally different from last time.
@DarkPa1adin Рік тому
just thick makeup
@SynG4t3s Рік тому
there is nothing natural about her face
@anpdgbe 5 місяців тому
Very sad she used to be so beautiful. Dk why she did her nose
@queenbibiola Рік тому
Her interrupting him is more than too much. She's just not letting him speak....
@zg4181 4 місяці тому
The two women constantly cutting his talk was very irritating. Funny that the show is called “men explain”.
@hrjehdj917 Рік тому
hes wayyyyy out of her league bruh even if she were 20 idgi,....i mean we all know it was a shotgun marriage but.....tbh i think he closeted gay cause he is very effeminate and shes a coverup
@duriansssss6052 Рік тому
Yup my thoughts exactly
@electroluva4eva Рік тому
Hurhur some good looking guys like him like to fuck milfs. What do you not get. Milfs are hot.
@Noa...... Рік тому
Or you are dense to conflate gender, gender expression and sexuality. And too comfortable with gender stereotypes.
@vernicekristen6833 Рік тому
No wayyyy, Kaykay was really the OG of beauty with brains. Of course age has somewhat caught up with her, as will everybody one day, but she was mad pretty in her 20s. You can see her in "Babe of all trades" and all the other clicknetwork shows. But being pretty is not even the most attractive part about her, it is the fact that she is very intelligent and capable as well, not just academically but also in the way she speaks and carries herself. We will all lose our youth & beauty one day when we grow old but attractiveness that stems from intelligence will be something that will always stick to us for a long long time.
@SynG4t3s Рік тому
he's not even attempting to hide his gayness from the way he talks lmao
@ddu020 Рік тому
This is not such a big age gap as you are making it to be..
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