Move to my country (Finland) :D We really want to hear the truth to that question, and we tell the truth. But we ask it only from people we know, we don't do small talk.. Foreigners don't expect that when they first ask it, so soon they learn to not ask, or to actually listen what the other person has to say :D

sky blue oh my god i want to move to finland. i hate small talk and my parents would like the good education aspect ;)

cecilia will brb she's at her kitchen sink Perfect, welcome! :D

Lauren Hayes Same here, girl, same here. all we can do is be what we want to see around us.

Lauren Hayes I know right

For what it's worth, you've survived whether unscathed or hurt, 100% of the challenges in your life so far and made it through. You can tackle tomorrow. :)

+TheJust4lolz You too ;) even if you didn't need me saying that

How are you today? :)

how are you now?

yeah me neither i feel like a complete turd.

I do this but heard the phrase “trauma dumping”, made me fear I was doing that to people but I can’t do small talk or lie about myself 🤷‍♀️

Well said, however they are just politely asking. Not really asking. I watched a great interview with Les Brown in Impact Theory. He said, if you are struggling, 80 % of people don't care, and 20 % are glad it's not them 😂 Us real people are in the minority. Although the good news, it's changing. Stay blessed.

@@Thefunksoulbro I understand that they aren't really asking. Which means they shouldn't actually ask. I just help them realize that. LOL

@@SilverFlame819 Ohh how real of you 😂😂

I don't ask people how they are. Because the odds are they will tell me a lie. I prefer to not shame people. So they will be themselves and show me how they feel.

Emi Bethers totally agree even more so in this day/age

Interesting because sometimes you have to act like you are ok so that you do not get put on more medication. You have to be very careful and selective as to who you share your heart with because it is very easy to be misunderstood in an upside down broken world of pretenders or people who think they have all the answers and know exactly what you need. I am very thankful that I learned the Joy of leaning on God and believing that I could fully rely on Him. I know that God healed my heart and continues to heal my heart and that because He healed me and set me free that He can do the same for others going through the royal bumps. With GOD I can be TENDERHEARTED and TOUGH, "Totally Operational Under Great Heartship". I praise GOD because with the help of the HOLY SPIRIT I am 29 years completely drug free and healthier and happier than I ever was on medication. I did alot of research on mental illness and that helped me to be drug free as well. ROBERT WHITAKER a science journalist who did extensive research on mental illness wrote 2 books. * Anatomy of an Epidemic * Mad in America He has some excellent lectures on utube. Yes I to can say that I learned lessons in the psychiatric ward in the hospital that I value and have a bigger heart for those who suffer with mental illness who are often thought of as CRAZY. I remember a Psychiatist saying, WHEN I SAY CRAZY I SAY IT COMPASSIONATELY. I AM GLAD I LISTENED TO THIS LECTURE BECAUSE IT HELPED ME REALIZE THAT THE MENTAL HOSPITAL CAN ALSO BE A PLACE TO FIND HEALING AND HOPE ESPECIALLY WHEN GOD IS A PART OF THE HEALING PROCESS. GOD HEALED ME FROM THE INSIDE OUT AND I GIVE HIM ALL THE CREDIT.

Yes the more we all are able to realize that we are All Love the easier it will become. We don't need to be loved, we are love. We have been kept from knowing this ultimate truth, even from the church. God love you

In my school they do it but it's two weeks of very bad information and they chose teachers who are judgy and use there own opinion. They tell us lies and dont properly educate us on mental health and how to deal with problems. They just go past what it is being sad and that's about it. They dont get in detail and it pisses me off because I wanna tell the teacher to stop judging and lying

That’s what family is suppose to be for.

+Minty Yeah I like the way she said that our feelings are our guides. Although I don't really know what JEALOUSY guides us to do other than act crazy on our partners. ;-)

+Minty i've imagined this. touching.

Minty >>> I think it´s also strange that when we are emotional society in general stigmatize us. It´s like they want us to be BRAIN! BRAIN! BRAIN! All the time, and if we dare to be the slightest emotional it´s like Hell has broken lose. And when they say BRAIN they mean everything that has got to do with numbers, logic, rationality, statistics, thoughtprocessing and reasoning. Art, creativity, dance, music and everything of that kind is regarded as irrelevant, meaningless and out of touch with reality. We´re raised to be supposed to know and to think instead of to feel and to sense. I have a saying about this that goes: " - With math you put on the right hat! With art you´ll get yourself scared!" It´s strange that at the same time they tell us that the path that doesn´t begin in our Heart is ending blindly, or that delight is the feeling that should drive the work we do. Yet it isn´t what we experience in everyday life allthough it´s said.

Minty I agree with you 100%. It is unfortunate that our society equates emotion with women (except anger) and assertiveness and intellect with men. These traits are prominent in both sexes and it truly is called being human. Like it or not.

Minty The language always sounds awkward, became we're discovering it for ourselves. This is partly a legacy of oppressive authoritarianism.

I'm so happy to hear this..most people are just wasting time wearing masks of, 'toxic fine-ness'--our society teaches that it's impolite to be anything less than 'camera ready', at any given moment. UGH. Let's stop pretending to be happy or something we're not for others..it's pathological. Life is so much richer than that, and it's beautiful just the way it is. Exposing your true underbelly, like this woman, is the path to true happiness. True joy comes from sharing and authenticity! This is a beautiful TED Talk.

Sparklytank j

Sparklytank "Camera ready" LOL! This reminds me of the movie Sunset Boulevard (1950), in which Gloria Swanson, who plays a former washed out silent era screen actress, declares "I am big! It's the pictures that got smaller". At the end, she declares "I'm ready for my close-up Mr. DeMille". This is the epitome of what Ms Melton was speaking against!

I know that film, hahaa! YESSS!

Thank you

Hoping that day has come, or is coming soon ♥️ either way, it’s coming ☀️

Get up and go outside! Hoping and praying you find your strength. Let the past go. You are not there anymore. Life is hard. But you are more than able! You are enough!!

I’ve been there before for a long time and sometimes It gets really cloudy , let me tell you when you are out of it you are so very grateful to life we just feel too much and way stronger

+Sarah Delaney She spoke beautifully through it all.

Sarah, I noticed the same thing. She is a wonderful speaker. She makes you want to listen to her.

Agreed. 😊

Oh Gosh; I am loving this woman right now t00!

wow

TopHatKitty same here

Me too.

Unfortunately our world is so super unbalanced in favor of all things masculine: loud! strong! hard! tough! Thinking, not feeling!! Doesn't mean for one second that being soft and sensitive is a fault, just like being strong isn't a fault. Everyone has value, the world just has a very screwy perception of value right now.

Newsflash: We are ALL sensitive. Some of us are just not as afraid to be vulnerable.

One time, my friend and I were jokingly talking about who could beat each other up physically. I was laughing along saying I could give him an uppercut and stuff. Everything was fine until he said that he could beat me up in two seconds. He said he could first beat me up emotionally, because I was so weak and sensitive when it comes to emotions. He said that once he got me on the ground crying then he could physically beat me up and that would be the end of it. That’s when I stoped joking. He really had hurt my feelings but I didn’t want to tell him because then I would be made fun of for being “too sensitive“. I hate my vulnerability. I hate how it’s perceived as a weakness and how I have to paint myself a mask every day to get through the day.

As a nurse I find this overworked underpaid environment is similar to teachers. They’re worthy of greater respect and pay commensurate with they’re experience and skill set. The managers don’t actually work when they’re short staffed instead they ask everyone say doing a 12 hour to pull another 4 overtime. Get the next shift off as 16 hour shift in the ICU can be draining, exhausting and my feet would hurt a lot. It’s not for everyone 🤷🏼‍♀️

How's your sister?

I agree with you 100%. Teachers, and hospital workers ( specially mental hospitals) are the true heroes. They are pushed to their limits day in and day out. It must incredibly difficult to stay grounded surrounded by so much vulnerability. I hope your sister is doing well.

Too many sadists and psychopaths in this field.

Nursing homes too you know who the gems are cause the patients love them.

Is it Borderline Personality Disorder?

I find it very strange that she goes to any church, has a speech like that, and never mentioned Christ. Is it a Christian Church?

she was just kidding

R u seriously judging this woman? You r invalidating her because she does not fit into your stereotypical idea of how she should worship of even care to worship .She has self esteem she does not deserve as she does not fit your what you think should be wounded n defected behavior or penance . Don't judge which exactly what she is asking u to do by revealing herself as honestly as she can.

You a cutie

Blessed are those who mourn,for they shall be comforted.

@@danielagreen1799 love you..God bless you..

Better people who can relate

I feel like Jesus definitely taught you that ❤

Bitter sweet

I’m about to read this

I just finished listening to it for a third time this year--- so freaking good.

does it matter who she is married to?

@@photoartnet no so why are you making it an issue?

@@photoartnet If nothing else, being married to someone "unconventional" means she's gone through more self-reflection that might be worth listening to, and is notable for that reason.

Take care Dana x

Sending virtual hugs Diana

Oh MAN Dana… you are like Clark Kent 💓 .. God Bless you 🙏❣️

Book recommendations: When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Maté, and The Body Never Lies by Alice Miller. Best wishes to you.

I hope you're doing well

Nirali Tanna i also loved it when she said she was brutaful.. me too!! ❤️❤️❤️

I was never invited

This

I picked up a user who transferred herself from her put up on daughter to me. I wasn't stable, I ran from her . She tried to break in my home and car and get a job near me. I was just roomed with her at hospital. I got away finally.

You enjoy your therapy work with people having mental difficulties! More like you please! My brother has been in and out of hospital for 15 years, and hardly anyone seems to care enough about their job to do anything other than prescribe (toxic) meds. I don't know if anyone has worked with him over his (our) traumatic childhood. Our mum has been working so hard to get him out of there and improve the system. It's a hard road but she is getting more and more support from professionals, lawyers, a judge etc. Old, archaic treatments need to make way for better, healthier methods. Lets start by telling the truth!

hey my girlfriend is in inpatient care I would love to ask you some things get back to me if you can

Envious of you, thats where i hope to be one day.

Michelle Ferguson actually i would assune you like being a psy doctor becauss its an easy job where you are free from the public. a job where you can unaccountably collect wages of a doctor while overseeing the imprisonment and abuse of people at least half of whom are much smarter than your post makes you sound, michelle ferguson.

Actually, I am an occupational therapist. I work in Canada, in our public and free healthcare system.

some junkies are like that, others are so nihilistic, what is the point of anything but dope?

Katie Dunlap perfectly said/wrote thank u! ❤️

True about taught to lie. We are trying to keep others happy

Your own truth is so powerful!! Beautiful!

Nnnb nop Zzghhm

Agree❤

Sad but true. People around me think: "if you don't talk about it, it's not happening/didn't happen." SO maddening!

Super sensitive people are special, it is a gift and a curse. Its hard but turn your pain into your passion. Beauty is everywhere and light overcomes darkness every time. Your spirits and guides are with you, you are not alone, they want you to shine and be you, you are allowed and you are supported. Believe.

me too. hope this comment finds you well. we are strong…and we will keep fighting 💪🏻🖤

Yes I work in a treatment facility and yes it is misunderstood

It’s been my experience with addiction, you take away the addiction and all you’re left with is pain. Still trying to get better though.

Me Too!

Sending you love!

Hope this finds you well 💕. You already have everything you need for your journey.

Hope you are taking one day at a time, living a meaningful life.

Hey girl your worthy i dont know you but can i say you are a big deal and super important to me just because of your expression thank you..

You’re not alone 💗

What was the movie? I could definitely use an uplift plus I feel stuck. Ty

A wholesome comment. *Commentpostbot*

Awwww this was so sweet!

Having been there myself several times, it feels good to find someone who understands and can relate. That was the only part of the experience that really "helped" - finding and getting to know people who have been through something similar. I hope things are going well for you now.

I Love You Too Scott. Be Well💜

because it's miserable and poor english language

It is a sick god who designed this loveless cruel life

@@eagyinjection you havent met God, have you?

September 24th, My 22 year old son ended his life... Your comment is like HIM speaking to me..✨ Thank you

Rusty Clark you are a complete and perfect and unique masterpiece of a human being, don't let anyone convince you otherwise

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Hi Rusty, I know yours is an old post, but I just wanted to say I heard you. I don’t know exactly what to say, but your post touched me. Peace to you 😘

..Good! We all need that! I hope more people often their minds! 💜

You are loved more than you know

I believe you’re an empath! I’m the same way. People like us feel things very deeply which is why people think we’re “too sensitive”.

Too sensitive compared to whom? You can only compare yoursef with yoursef, because there is only one of you. You are you and that is fine. Writing a diary helps, because you release all those feelings :)

Oh I feel it, to be full of ideas yet able to say nothing at all

Keri Naidoo Who nominated you as the "thought police?" Just because someone dissagrees with you, they are labeled "Closed Minded." Great. I bet you went to college too. Get off people's back.

Keri Naidoo I apologize. Another case of "open mouth, insert foot.." I live with "stuff inside me" that never goes away. Medicine is not the answer because after 20 yrs they just don't work. Again, I apologize for saying comments without thinking. Another case where "anger" is the driver's seat and I am along for the ride......have no idea where we're going....

zoe tncampbells I apologize.

Mark Forquer Nicely done, Mark Wish Keri didn't turn off her notifications, so she could see that she behaved well in communicating her intentions and irritations to you, but mostly so that she could realize that people can have a second opinion, a second chance to be Real. She is ignorant to your revelation, but perhaps it was for others to see instead. Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity to express regret, forgiveness and eventually Love. Aho! Check out Mankind Project if you are looking for a safe harbor for me. We need the strength of men to hold their attention upon our frailties out of Love. Peace.

Bryan, I just re-read your posts. Choked me up. Thank you brother for being "real."

And the most healing part was we were together,talking about ourselves without being mean spirited.

I am a mom and I'm really happy that you just sat with your brokenhearted granddaughter. Our youngest people need to know that it's okay to express negative feelings.

Thank you for sharing your experience I'm sorry hard times you had. Reading your comment it made not feel alone about mental health issues. I appreciate you you.

When my best childhood friend lost her father to complications of heart disease, all I could do was go to her, wordless, and give her a long hard hug. She thanked me, said that was better than clumsy condolences.

That was a really nice testimony. Thank you

I'm happy you found your voice. You are important, please don't ever let anyone make you feel that way again. I live this, daily. I admire your truthfulness. Stay healthy and happy.

Brian, how did your return to work go? I hope well.

💙🙏

Very very great video thanku for sharing tbis we can learn from u god bless u always

Dont lose hope, the sun is waiting for you ☀️

@@eveangelyne2478 thank you so much, Eve..❤️

not even close

im more drawn to the ted talks that are based on statistics and data myself. But to each their own!

@@mudza92 she got 250 agreements and you got none

@@Candlewick14 What is important to me is that I can voice my opinion freely and no one can stop me, whether or not someone likes my comment is not important to me, I already know this is nowhere near the top shelf of best ted talks. That's all I have to say about that!

@@mudza92 Wich one did you enjoy the most? Or learn a lot from? I actualy like almost ever ted talk, including this one. Im binge watching the ted talks.

I hope you’re doing better now but even if you’re not, I’m rooting for you and thinking of you!

@@Liv-or5ci Thanks love..

Heard

This is extremely late, but congratulations on eight years of sobriety!! That’s a huge accomplishment, and I wish you the best in your continued journey. :)

8 years is an amazing milestone. Congratulations.

@@denny7403 thank you much!

@@denny7403 Thank you... One day at a time!

@@madisonschmidt7304 oh, Thank you so much for your kind words!

I am wondering if you have let go of your Cape in the mean time?

..no one is perfect, be yourself !

Hugs. I hope u find happiness soon. True freedom comes from letting go. Let that cap go.

Between superiority and inferiority lies perfection. Be on the mark 50 between them and simplicity is yours. Goodluck sis

Same here, but when the truth sets you free, you're free to be you

Try Napa valley

Sac forced drugs on me, BS worthless doctor and couldn't give a rat's backside staff. Plenty of worthless mental hospitals with nothing but usually overprescribed and unnecessary drugs.

A great book… the art of being a listening presence. :)

My fav too!

King Ying Lau this, lacey Sturm's and Emily smart

eyeliner tears mine too! 💟

Thank you.

Joseph Sanchez I saw love in the comments tbh

Happy late birthday! And well done on your sobriety, it takes a lot of strength

+Bodyknowledge 77 Hear hear. It's the dictate of 'normalcy'. Don't waste any time over it.

agreed.

+Bodyknowledge 77 I'm the same way. I told people to fuck off because they were idiots and some guy told me to kill myself. Honestly though? They were being idiots and half of them told me I had no clue what I was talking about so I told them to F off. I was recently in a Psych ward to and I would have listened to this guy and killed myself but I've tried to kill myself before and it never works so I guess I'm here for a reason. So yeah, I too am also sensitive and am an expressive person, am told that I am wrong half the time to.

Mariah Conklin Please don't ever talk to or listen to idiots again. Just brush it off and carry on regardless. Life is difficult enough. They will find that out for themselves one day, I promise. Cheers!

They were just made because I called them out on their shit that's all. I'm over it but it only made me more depressed and not trust people.

Me too, Warren. Amen.

As a therapist too. I found the hospitals too focused on census.

Your beautiful ! 😇😷🤠🤗🤓😎🥰 Comment by Erick Guzman Garcia

This is beautiful

☀️Mornin in Jeddah

Hi 👋🏾 Nicki, yes that was also my experience! . Very helpful! But not all places, are good !? They can change, with the Stuff! For the better , or for the worst! Wish you all the best and stay healthy and safe ❣️🌹🙏🏾🤣😎

I enjoyed your talk immensely and I am so happy for your experience and outcome!

Lizzie Boss - Right 🙂 I wish I had the brain retention to sometimes remember the words that I need to express my feelings in times of stress 🤩

you know, I just had that lightbulb go on. you're SO right. I IMMEDIATELY felt safe there.

So true! They are the most genuine people you will ever see. Years ago I spent several weeks on a psych unit--over the Christmas holiday. Several family members and a friend that knew felt bad for me. I told them not to. It was the best Christmas I'd had in years. No one pretended to have it all together, no pressure to buy gifts for those that don't seem to appreciate it anyway, no pasting on a smile when you just want to cry and no one telling you how you should feel because "it's Christmas!" I was content to be around people that welcomed both tears and laughter, that asked about your day and wanted to know, a day where we were each given modest gifts from the hospital, a day where I could celebrate my faith and count my blessings but also hold space for the painful memories of past abuse.

Maybe y'all were in "nice" psych wards, as this was not my personal experience. It gave me a LOT more anxiety to be there surrounded by the severely mentally ill.

❤

YAy! Awesome.

This is SO true!! Thank you so much for putting it into words!❤️

Charlotte Dingle I would love to read it :)

Charlotte Dingle Post a link to the article! :)

www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/body/health/a30327/living-with-borderline-personality-disorder/

I'm a borderline too. 💓 Thanks for being true.

Great article! Makes me realize how the psychologists and psychiatrists I've met throughout my life always questioned my having been diagnosed with BPD and ended up focusing on other possibilities.. I have yet another appointment tomorrow and I'll bluntly ask the psychiatrist to talk about my BPD and DBT rather than dwelling on other issues. Eye-opener!

@Dee Ragland Navigating a huge struggle brought on by the professionals who are supposed to protect you must be the ultimate challenge. I hope the last 2 years (I'm writing this February 2022) haven't been too difficult for you. Sending admiration and respect :)

What about when these same people are at the point of active addiction in their lives, do you care about and cheer for them? Not being snarky, genuinely asking is all

Thank u so much ❤️

@Dee Ragland keep fighting 💪🏻 i am a work in progress re: addiction too 🖤

Thank you 🙏🏾

Brave lady!

Allison Tedford We have to choose between being hated or ignored! BUT, that is because we depend on the same people who put us in the box to begin with.

i can totally relate.

Cadence Rose Right?? If only i had friends who are not only there in the good times but in the bad times too

Allison Tedford ikr! i try to talk to them and they say something like "this is too much"

Yup, or they change the subject or give brief advice... at least someone understands