Keep fighting brother, you shine brighter than stars

Congratulations ! Me 2 months and 11 days :) I lost 10 years of my life in C. Noboby will give me those years back but I'm learning to forgive myself everyday.... Ayahuasca in Peru helped me a lot. And before that therapy. Now I'm Bali to pursue my healing process....

You got this, you can do hard things. If by chance you fall, try, try again. You’re the little engine that could. (Childhood book) You’re much stronger, braver wiser and more loved than you know, now it’s time to take care of yourself for once. You took the first step in admitting it, the second step in withdrawing physically, so now the mental part. That part is also very difficult because I feel like it’s never ending even after 11 years, so you have to fight for it daily. It does get easier though, but life in general is a trigger. Been there, done that and still fighting for it 11 years later praise God! Addiction runs in my entire family. I’ve lost two siblings, an ex and dear friends already. Thank you for speaking up, because that takes so much courage in such a judgmental world. I still feel like docs and others look down on me because of it, and that’s so unfair, but I’m actually okay with their ignorance because I’m proud of myself. I am praying for you and I’m grateful you’re seeking more information about it. It helps tremendously to have support, so you have mine.

27 days sober for me. We're getting our lives back.

@@davidhperry keep going man. 76 days for me now. Find local AA meetings, they help massively

Yes 🙌

What they are using to cope with abuse. What they are using to cope with something indescribable and almost unbeatable.

It's kind of hard not to look down on the drug addict when their actions have created a pathway of damage and you're the one left to pick up the pieces.

@@Anon99anon ...still the Dr says how he look at the reasons why they continue their addictions and what benefits they are getting from it despite all of this perceived damage. Nothing to do with humans is so straight-forward, especially things like addiction and human actions

@@Anon99anon you should read up on addiction. There's a lot of literature out there.

Very sweet said

Thanks that was very nice of u

I second that. Well said.

Have you read any books by Thomas Szasz? He explains a lot too!

Yes everyone needs help

Gábor is so kind, caring and loving. Me, not so much, I guess. I’ve been saying for quite some time that the world is being run by psychopaths. Who else would want that job? I’m becoming a cynic in my old age.

@@shirleyclemmer3299 Sociopaths perhaps. Add narcissism to the mix as well! Psychopaths have no sense of self-preservation.

People in power can change the world. Look at all these great "men ... look at the wars... the revolutions....

Absolutely Spot on! This gentleman is a visionary mind.

Yeah, Elon Musk certainly is empty.

The co-dependent's creed.

The pain in it is depressing.

my father and my half sister

Yesss

Gabor, find it within yourself to understand the historical predicament that was the root of your trauma. When your fellow Ashkenazi did harm he did wrong. Why would he become such a megalomaniac? I think another Jewish man "Benjamin Freedman" may be able to join a few of those dots. Let's seek understanding and become a proper human family.

Congratulations! You are worth it!

Well done. So glad for you.

Yes he did! I have a month as of today actually can’t wait till I can say I have as many months as you but thanks to you I now know I have to add some new books to my shelf. Thank you. Would love to maybe talk recovery with you some time if you’re interested. Have a blessed and beautiful day to you and all. Happy Days.

God job! I hope you are still off..

✌❤

I wish you all the best.

Good on you, I recommend reading his book, in the realm of hungry ghosts. He really opened my eyes. All the very best.

:)

Im just over 500 days and its because I've come to understand what addict is. This helped me a lot too. Congratulations and keep going odaat

Best to you my dear. I’m on one year and it just keeps getting better. ♥️🙏🏻😊

What was his perspective?

@@MR-kc2re it’s a coping mechanism from childhood that you would tune out trauma

Wow I believe that I was abused physically for 26 years and a addict for 14 years and I have ADHD and I can believe it's a coping mechanism within myself absolutely amazing

Truth!

And that legend is called Naguib Mahfouz.

@@titan3854 Thank You

How profound is that

Beautifully said

I to am in crisis right now and I'm to old for this!! I'm tired of it but I can't stop..... I'm isolated from everything and everyone. I am going through the most difficult time of my life right now. All he has said is true but it doesn't change anything for me. I need help getting help. Thank you for letting me express my thoughts and feeling.

@@celinamelendez8545 So sorry to hear of your pain. Try walking outside and find one person to smile at. If they don’t smile back, they are probably in more pain than you right now. If they do smile back, then you will know you have power to help someone else. Therefore, you have power to help yourself. Then force yourself to go to you local library or food pantry and say to someone, “can you direct me to a crisis center?!!!!”

Me to. How you doing? I hope this is the start of the change for me

@@celinamelendez8545 try going to a meeting. People are very welcoming and can point you in the right direction. If you don’t like the meeting you go to, go to a different one until you find one you like. I have 5.5 years clean now and it was really hard. I was also in crisis at the time. But I want you to know it does get easier, you just have to take that’s step to ask for help and follow what people tell you. They’ve been where you are. ❤

💓💓@kimberley virgint your not alone sis 🌷

I have his book the Realm of Hungary Ghosts.

This is the right comment 👍

Congratulations!!

Such encouragement!

Wow... that's awesome.. What did you do to heal?

@@ruthtavarez8302 went to AA 💖 saved my life 😇🙏

Congratulations sister ❤ I am 4 years sober but I'm struggling again so that is why I'm watching this

Well stated

Have you watched Dr Mate and Russell Brand's podcast? If not, I highly suggest👍

@@fabisobe thanks for the suggestion. I'll check them out now.

Totally agree with you!

I’m starting my journey now I’m owning up

people run on bigger platforms are empty inside so they don't want this. it's too revealing and wise.

Who wants, will listen to him. Who looks for his philosophy will find him :)

LET'S JUST KEEP TELLING THOSE WE KNOW

It is happening as we speak.

ish He and other like him are reaching ALL that are READY to recieve the TRUTH. TRUST THE PROCESS HOTEP

Amen to your insight.

Thank you thank you for seeing us as humans with pain and loneliness not just a worthless bum cause 99 percent of people in the medical field that I’ve come across over the last 30 years, I’ve had over 15 broken bones from athletics, were the worst and most judgmental, detrimental to my mental health humans that I’ve ever had to deal with. And what do you do when the Care doesn’t Care? You go back into the darkness..maybe you make it out, most likely not.. God Bless and thank you for researching these things, that is Angel like, knowing how to show compassion and empathy is the most powerful because so many in the medical field don’t and it shows 🙏🏻

I am so disappointed in what my ancestors did to people like you. I stand with you.

My heart😢

The story of my life 😔

Beautifuly, accurately, and kindly articulated.

There is a truth to what you say! I noticed today that a great number of people are super addicted to that infernal phone! Sad! I threw my phone away6 yrs ago, liberating! I have made up a new word ,,,Pheroin addicts' what that means is that people are addicted to their infernal phones.

@bill Bloggs of course, addicts have to take responsibility for their own actions just like everyone else. but this video is about what causes addiction in the first place. and whilst locking up the addicts who commit crimes addresses their criminal behaviour, it does nothing to address the causes of addiction.

+Montanee jo It is indeed. He explained exactly what I craved to understand for a long time.

+Montanee jo - This is indeed the most honest and resonating speeches I've ever heard also; hands down my favorite from TED Talks.

+Obiarshi link?

+Montanee jo TRUTH.

Jo Montanee I spent 17 years in active addiction, and during those years my addiction was only halted when I was in prison. usually, I went straight to score almost as soon as I walked out of the gate, despite being free from active addiction and physical dependence. the mentality of an addict is undecipherable to non-addicts, and I've rarely heard anyone articulate the intricacies and nuances of addiction (and its' causes) EVER. However, Mr Matê is incredibly astute regarding this topic and is so articulate in his explanations that I can honestly say I've been stunned into silence by the raw power within his words. he summarised the feelings and thoughts I had during my own addiction, and did so in such an eloquent and articulate manner that I am speechless. watching this footage here, I've finally found some answers which I have sought from the very moment I realised I had become physically dependent on, addicted, to Heroin. Explanations like the ones Mr Matê gives here are fundamental to recovery. 'We' [addicts] all seek knowledge on our behaviours and mentalities so that we can adapt our thinking and behavioural tendencies in such a way that we can begin to overcome the obsessions and compulsions which form the nucleus of our addictions. Thank you for posting this, and if anyone is interested in this field, then personally I don't think you could go wrong if you accessed Gabör Matê's extensive research on all aspects of addiction.

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Doctors need to work from the patient needs rather than fit them into the confines of their books.

💫🙏🏼

@@denise1932yes but it’s very hard, are you perfect at your job? Even when it gets difficult? We expect doctors to be stoic and rational all the time, but they are human just the same.

@andrewmichieli1760 no I am far from perfect in any way. However, I do have an open mind and am willing to learn more than I am taught. We learn in many different ways. Not just from textbooks, but from experiences, observations, talking with others, trial and error. Even from our mistakes, we learn, if we choose to see not everything always goes as expected. There are many variables from person to person to account for. I'm only suggesting that people take into consideration the uniqueness of each of us in trying to solve problems instead of relying on quick fixes. But many just don't care to spend the time needed to take it to the next level. We as a people on the whole, have seemingly become, lazy. Very few put forth any more effort than is expected . Sad, but it is true.

The big question is how to do what u wrote

@@Mmcermes exactly

How do you teach a child your parents don't want you.

Governments wouldnt like that. They love addicted people.

@@ALEN1ful Imagine the entire structure that depends and thrives on dis ease collapsing.. nope because when there is blood on the streets there is money to be made.

Indeed

You can’t teach wisdom that’s something that’s earned

Yes, there was an attempted suicide at the age of 26. Come a long way since but it was not an easy journey. IT IS POSSIBLE.

Marcus Aurelius said it first, that people fear living more than dying.

@@Isadorka1 I wish you all the best.

I remember, over 20 years ago, in my early thirties, I was talking to a man I know, and I told him the same. Now, at 56, and addicted to hard drugs due to choices I made in my mid thirties, I a scared of living and dying. I force myself to be positive, I want someone who I believe, to say "It will all be ok", however, we sometimes need information when we seek help for other problems, like the ones I have, because of the choices I made, and, while they were just being honest, telling me how it is, they painted a grim picture.

As an addict myself... I wish you all the strength my brother!

Now shut the door. It's a simple thing. Plus you're letting the heat out, we're not heating the whole city. 😁 (said my dad)

Same ADD problems here, with addiction. I care too much and get mad at myself for having groceries that have gone bad. I was looking for my keys and apparently left them in my front door. It's exhausting isn't it? I hope you found a way to get some help.

3 thinks I like how he care about his clients and my view on addiction can come in different forms. Not only drugs also like budda said find the light be kind

You're a good man Asif. I wish you well!

💖💖

Asif, you are born and you certainly grew up in the same time as internet invades the lifes in Bangladesh. But, as far as i can see, you use it as a mean of learning and not a substitute of emptyness of relationship ( facebook, twitter). Internet is a gold mine, a library in your house, a fantastic tools to learn everything you want. And you catch that. Thanks

I hope you have the motivation to share all the experiences about your husband on people that are needing help on this kind of situations, maybe the life is not random as we think and this is a wisdom message that you can share on people that suffered this.

@@juancastrofranco9209 I appreciate your comment. I really don't know what to say other than, I know something inside him hurt so much he had to drown it with pills and alcohol. It was horrible to watch.

​@@cynthrlly4ever, Try to find an answer is so courageous, your husband should be proud of you, and I can imagine he loves you so much, I send you a hug and I hope the pain heals.

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Hang in there man. Your brother got a huge challenge, but he got you by his side, hope he appreciates that cuz he's lucky to have you! As an addict myself, I wish I had some1 who cared about me like that. Fighting myself has proven to be the hardest challenge ever

Ive never heard a more accurate explinaton of causes of addiction ....this man really understands this disease...with such compassion and foresight....his education is SPOT ON IN EVERYSENCE, and a really powerful understand of this subject!!!!!!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤

I am sorry about your dad. and yes I agree, Dr. Gabor he is the greatest mind in todays world. I feel. and yes my husband died from his addiction earlier this year. and I can honestly say he was the most beautiful man with a terrible disease. he was heroic to me. But the disease is deadly. and it devastates families.

KSangel180 I am sorry for your loss. hugs

KSangel180 Huggles. I am sorry for you loss. in a way it reminds me of Jung. people do not have ideas. Ideas have people. and the addiction seems like that. we don't have addictions they have us.

I was a junky living in the area he is referring to and yes my childhood was the same. He is amazing. He is local and my girlfriend knows his wife. He is now so busy it is impossible to see him. Good people like this and NA and handwork with faith saved my life. I am very sorry for your loss.... I listen to you as I imagine my own daughter saying the same thing. Thank you.

Just wanted to say to you, after reading this your comment: I love you, brother or sister from another mother. I'm sad for your father's unhappy childhood.

I am a survivor as well. Blessed i am..

Awesome! I too am a survivor.

@How About Some Hardcore? have a look at "Nil by mouth" by Gary Oldman

I am happy for you 😊

Congrats 🤗

I've been having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress..not until I met Myco.spore.. he really helped me

I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol

I'm glad myco.spore is mentioned... I've been having situational depression for about 4 yrs plus now but I had to hit him up last week and he really gave me some of his product..they work like magic.

Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction.imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone.Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues

@@andersonjemma not surprised u mentioned his product are nice...and pure..

PS... but if their addiction causes then to steal from friends and family, they should pay for their crime.

So true addiction is a health issue and should always be treated as such

@@jamesrobertjr8002 no.

@James Robert Jr...you have not concept of addiction, and obviously have not listened to some of Dr. Mate’s first points in his lecture. If you punish an addict for showing symptoms of the disease, it’s no different than shaming a diabetic for low blood sugar. Look beyond the behavior...look beyond the ugliness, and see the person who is suffering. So much are they suffering, that they will do unspeakable things to get their medicine. I think holding people responsible is important, but punishment isn’t always the best teacher. Every addict feels so lonely, whether it shows externally or not. Society disconnects them from themselves as if they are contagious and crushes the self esteem more. We need to be kinder. Self preservation is important, but altruism is divine.

PS YOU GOT THAT RIGHT!!

You can do it!

U are amazing and u are great dont forget that. No matter how Old are u, amazing thing will happen to u. Im really sorry for all the pain that u endured, but don’t forget u are a piece of art created by God and I’m convinced that u will do good and u are an amazing human being! God bless u

You got this!!

Love you dear, god bless you.

Good for you, some people never come to realise. Never acknowledge the issue long enough to recognise the impacts it's had on them. I hope you find some peace I'm your pain

He conveys divine truth and wisdom. All perceived addictions and/or escape behaviours whether via substances or any other compulsive activity searched for from outside of us is simply avoidance of just being our true self in the moment. Power is within us all waiting to be awakened for our personal and collective benefit ✨️

😊😊😊

Agreed. I tell people this regularly.

I know it's been 6 months but I hope your friend is doing ok, I also hope you're doing ok as well !

Indigenous communities are hit so hard by colonialism and capitalism and all of the structures causing current and intergenerational trauma. Canada does not want to admit it but we're still to this day committing genocide against indigenous peoples. Cultural, environmental, and literal due to the MMIW absolute Crisis that has been around for far too long and persists today. I stand beside you and your friend in solidarity if you will have me as a white woman. Land Back. And that barely even begins to rebuild all of the damage and atrocities.

Feel you bro. Peace and love!

He is a jew, of course he's a genius.

I really love the name you’ve chosen

I hear you bud..I hear you. Story of my life.. What to do? What to do... I love how you compare 'us' to type 1 diabetics, brilliant analogy. I hold on- by a thread at times, hoping, 'praying' clinging on to the 'tomorrow' will be different...ffs..its been twenty years of 'wishing' now...literally doing anything and all to be 'normal'.. I DO believe there is something differently wired in our brains...as I know I fail- NOT for lack of trying...lack of back bone, effort...by God; the shit I have put myself thru to be 'better'..jeez..could fill a book. I love this doctor- I saw him in the Addemdum films I think; he is amazing. My latest attempt- and most interesting- is attacking my food..with the sayings of Hypocrites; let food be thy medicine.... I found this PhD in addictive nutrition, combined with my own doc a PhD in heroin Addcit; I'm attempting- with some success; longest last was 19 days, then 9 days, the last month- zero processed foods...0. (no dairy,- for it is loaded with opiate/dopamine, no nuts- why nuts? they contain tryptophan; apparently triggering for opiod addicts? no sugar. wheat-- anything made in a factory basically....Leaves me with, steel cut oats; soaked half a cup- 3 eggs and two fruits for breakfast... lunch and dinner- 200gm of meat (chicken, steak- anything, just not processed- like ham or sausage) 200 gm veg/salad (not peas, corn or potato)and 100 gm of UNprocessed starch- like brown rice, quinoa, millet, sweet potato kidney bean, chikpea) Also- and snack; one egg and one fruit. Water only..... I have to say- the first few days are tough; withdrawing off sugar/caffine etc...not nice...BUT- by day 5-7 I feel freaking amazing, like I am on best drug ever- crazy happy....and my craving for illicit substance virtually vanish....why am I not on it today-?? I am an addict, and self sabotage is my MO... I- crash and relapse; when I MISS a meal...or two...so that is KEY- I have found- I CANNOT miss a meal..and watch my sleep....that always screws me..etc; AND I MUST start a regimented movement plan...I start again tmw after this last lapse- again, cause I missed meals and stayed up late-yeah- my doc; is BIG on sleep- and NO screens after 10 pm...books only.... OH and I joined a boxing club last week. My doc reckons I need to take up boxing...;-) found a great club that takes small groups of 8 and trains together...Just sharing with you; what I am trying...as I hear you...and Its so fuicked. Good luck to you...I may post this on the main comments too. Being an addict - nothing worse...sorry, for the really ill people out there- but a life with addiction, is really no life at all.

+Olivia P I feel you. 23 years addicted to opiodes. I tried to taper down from 2mgs of buprenorphine but when I jumped I was emotionally & physically drained. I'm going to try again but this time incorporating daily meditation & yoga this time. Good luck..✌❤

Ellycat would love to chat; Hmmm. I am yogaolivia@gmail.com- we seem to have almost identical stories.

@@livp1835 how goes it now? Id love to hear back, thank you, I'm Lorraine

@@livp1835 I've seen research that says the brain can rewire itself.

Where from he is?

@@engr.hassanmajeed7278 Hungary

@@mayar76686 OK but one of my friend told me he is from Canada

@@engr.hassanmajeed7278 he isn't. Check it out on Wikipedia

@@mayar76686 OK i will , Where you from ?

I understand what u mean hey

You are enough. Just be there with and for your daughter.

My oh my .. it IS amazing ...

Yes and Having, finding, building SUPPORT, thats KEY.

He is one of the few persons that explains and knows how the brain of an addict works and acts ! Amazing !

That is an interesting addiction. You can be addicted to anything.

Addiction is whatever makes you feel good, but unfortunately some destroy life, be it financial or health or whatever good talk there's addiction everywhere you look the human brain always wants to feel good

I wish you all the best.

Truly wise indeed

Preach it!

Gabor mate

Wow. What an amazing man. Such profound words simply stated.

Had your natural dopamine receptors came back after 5 months in ?? Please respond when you see this.

+Ted Kirk Well said. Well said, indeed.

I found N/A to have too many hypocrites tbh.

Peace.....I will take it!!!

Ted Kirk who’s your sponsor ?

BRAVO - you just said everything I have been thinking myself and is a great addition to read along with this brilliant Ted Talk. Keep up the good work x

I’m really glad that you have also had the same idea.. I was trying to let people know about this. Because there’s some people who assume that I can easily give up... but it’s extremely difficult... I have no motivation and I am extremely depressed and lonely...

only compassionate and unconditional love can cure addiction. nothing else seems to work...

Unironically its also the rarest of all emotions.

@@chrisnoecker5287 rare and precious like diamonds, formed through heat, pressure and time.

@@writteninthesky ya but its nothing like a diamond. Ask anyone whose gone through a brutal divorce and lost children. Not even an anti-matter explosion can turn a diamond to ash so quickly.

Define love.

Rebbekkah Holt I was so lucky. I learned so very much from Dr. Mate. He was my family doctor and he fell my baby girl. She is 25 years old.

I have a very strong suspicion that a lot of people are addicted to youtube as a painkiller because I am one of them.

Urza26 me too....

You had the "Eureka" moment and as an addict I'm happy for you that you get it. Power and money are more important to most of the world than hunger, physical health, mental health, Dental care, children, law enforcement, education, prison system, doctors, pharmaceutical companies and the list is endless. How many times have you ever blamed your tires for the reason the car didn't start?

Urza26 Wow!! This is so true.....

So true

Graduate level and much earlier.

@@Zenigma217 yes. Teenagers who don’t know why they have such pain in their minds and need to understand where it is coming from.

Marie Miles ....not everything, you're still alive, while others have passed away. Keep your chin up.

Kilju Pullo me too

Kilju Pullo me to

It happens.

I cried a lot

Good