It was an honor to work with Dr. Anna Lembke on another important topic. If you tell lies, you won't be able to trust yourself...and neither will anyone else. Radical honesty is the simplest way to overcome addictions, build healthy relationships and live a balanced life. The other best way to improve your life is to support After Skool on Patreon ;) Thank you. www.patreon.com/AfterSkool

This so good! Anna is a remarkable MD clinician, public educator and person.

what i've realized from practicing this is that radical honesty is more than just telling the truth - it is about showing up in relationships as your true self.

When I started being honest, I felt so much better. You may forget all the lies and deceit, but the subconscious doesn't. Free yourself from the unnecessary burden of lying and you will feel lighter.

If you never lie to your children they will grow up stronger then you can ever imagine.

I have been practicing this since I formed a relationship with my husband, I used to lie and exaggerate about everything. Then my husband called me out on several things and I realized that I was a terrible liar and most people were probably too polite to question me. I have never felt so calm, free and uncaring about the judgement of others. I own my mistakes, who and what I am....and it's wonderful.

Radical honesty is the antidote to the false self we create in a world obsessed with curated narratives. It's liberating to be real and authentic. Fantastic video, thank you so much! 💙

When I met my now wife, I told her at our fourth date that I will never lie to her, and I’ve kept that promise and we have a fantastic marriage that’s lasted for almost ten years now!

This calls to mind the general philosophical idea of authenticity. Honesty generates the resources for new people to do so more easily, generating an authentic environment, instead of an inauthentic one that forces us to lie just to get by in certain scenarios. Amazing video, thanks!

Being 100% honest with the people in your life quickly sorts out the humans who truly love you and who is there to take your energy. All of my old relationships were created on lies in order to keep them from disappearing. I learned a few years ago that honesty and acceptance make relationships of any kind just so much more enjoyable and real... My ex hated everything about me, and I her, and yet we met lying to each other and to ourselves for years... Now the woman I am speaking to is just absolutely perfect. We have been honest with our feelings, our lives, our pasts... We fit like puzzle pieces. Ask for the right humans to enter your, and while you wait for them, improve who you are as a human being. If you discover yourself and become who you really are and are unafraid to show it, the perfect humans for you will find that energy and love you for who you are. And don't accept or keep toxic energy for the sake of comfort. It will kill you more painfully than a snake bite. Enjoy life! Good luck today.

I needed to hear this today. I have not been honest with myself and who I am. Thank you for reminding me of how important honesty is to me and my development.

I have always been radically honest my entire life and it's always been extremely hard for people to deal with. And I'm highly diplomatic also I don't just blurt stuff out well I didn't used to when I was younger I'm 70 now and just say whatever I want to. People have always had a hard time with me. I'm that one in the room that stands up and yells wow look an elephant! When everyone else is trying really hard to look in the other direction. The good thing about being radically honest is that you have to be honest with yourself also.

I'm 40 days sober and a month into intense outpatient treatment for alcohol and opiate addiction. I've been aware and ashamed of my substance abuse for years, but it took me losing my job and fully hitting rock bottom to finally get proper help. I've never thought of myself as a victim, I've always blamed myself. A lot of us have trouble letting past traumas go and forgiving ourselves for mistakes we've made. I can honestly say that getting sober has been the toughest thing I've done, but it's worth it. I still have a long way to go with battling other non substance abuse like too much internet time, but at least I can face life with a sober mind and work on healthier ways of maintaining a mindful existence to push forward to a brighter future. Honestly with yourself is so fundamental.

Radical honesty can only destroy your life in a world full of liars , nobody is more hated then the one who speaks the truth.

Radical honesty was the way I was able to overcome a big chunk of my depression. I am responsible for my happiness, I am accountable for my own well being which leads me to feel good. AA is a great place as well, I went to a number of meetings when I was starting to use alcohol as a coping mechanism. Higher power doesn’t have to be exactly God. For me it has been myself, my higher wiser future self.

Anecdotally speaking, radical honesty has saved my life and that's understatement. I had domestically abusive childhood and I found my coping mechanisms early and eventually one of the coping mechanisms became drugs and I did that every chance I could. This would lead me to go into schizophrenic episodes that would last about a year. During that time, my usual sense of I, sense of self remained but I had to share my body with other consciousnesses who were some another versions of me. My mind was fractured and I was barely hanging on to reality. What I eventually noticed was that all the voices were LYING to me, so I surmised that to get out of my predicament, I have to be 10000% honest and that way, Id be sure that that was my original voice(because all other voices were lying to me). And eventually I got better and healthy again. Ever since then, I do not lie anymore. And sometimes telling truth has some immediate negative consequences but I have to still be truthful to keep my mind operating normally.

I have been following the simple, yet powerful, credo of “you can’t lie ever” now for about 16 months. It actually has not been hard and it’s been super rewarding. I feel better than I ever have in my adult life. For me, it took a massive crisis to get to that point. Hopefully, this video will inspire others to try it without having to go and hit rock bottom.

One of my most important steps towards a better, more conscious life, was (starting to) understanding my own responsibility, every day, every encounter, every reaction, inside and outside. Thank you for this interesting video and talk!

Honesty Is the principle I've lived by in the past 6 or so years, and I believe it's the secret to happiness. I do believe it is contagious to those around you, but it's really hard to share that honesty with those around you who may be incredibly enshrouded by their own blanket of lies and comforts. It causes my interactions with them to often feel unfulfilling and full of my own conversational omissions so that I don't burst their bubble. It's something I want to get better at so that I can share this great thing I've found, but don't know how to do.

As a member of AA, and having benefitted from working the 12 steps, I agree wholeheartedly! One can work the steps for any ongoing problem. My addiction was a spiritual sickness.

Shout out to all the artists whose creative illustrations add so much to these videos. Well done and thank you!

Honesty with others can be used as a tool or a weapon. But most importantly, we should not deceive ourselves

I feel this very hard right now. I asked my wife for a divorce one month ago because she does not want to communicate in radical truth at all. I have CPTSD from abusive adults growing up and wasn’t allowed to point out anything that was actually happening. For a year now, my hyper anxious wife has avoided all “real talk” of any kind, doing everything she can to distract herself. I feel very sorry for her as she’s going through a really difficult time but her refusal to connect with me by being truthful and opening up has taken a huge toll on me.

Once I was in that situation I met this one woman whom specializes in addiction. She told be about how addicted/mentally unwell people take the stance in one of three positions namely the victim, the hero or the complainer. I took this message home and assessed every conversation I had with other people with this in mind. it has been a true revelation and made me a better person after I noticed I behaved in such a way. I am clean, have a job, have friends and occasionally make new friends. it bettered my life and also gave me the ability to reflect on myself in order to improve who I am and how to express myself

As someone who made it a point to always tell the truth as much as possible (starting with myself) from a young age. I still don't understand why so many people lie so often about the most mundane things. Do they really care that much about what other people think? Is it the years of them lying to themselves that makes telling a lie seem insignificant? Along with the fact that lying is so commonplace. 9 times out of 10 I’m immediately distancing myself from someone when I sense any lies, deception, manipulation, etc. from them. It is often sooo easy to spot and I need people in my life like that as much as I need cockroaches running around in my bed.

As someone who has tried this repeatedly throughout his life and is suffering a burnout cause of it, i can tell you it's not all sunshine and rainbows. As beautiful as it may sound, complete and radical honesty is seen as a weakness in eastern european cultures. Exposing your "true self" like this makes you an easy target to exploit. Some see you as a sucker, others as weak or mentailly ill, or the traditional insult in the homophobic and toxic eastern/balkan cultures "what are you? gay?". Honesty may be important, but in a nihilistic culture or one of lies and superficiality, it's important to know who you can be honest with... and in eastern europe very often that answer is "no one". Hence the burnout. So.. yeah, be honest, but also don't be naive. Understand the world you're in and don't expose yourself to just anyone. Build trust first.

Thank you Dr Lembke! I absolutely love your work and find you so amazingly helpful and relatable ❤️

I made a decision that I would focus on deep personal connections as my strategy for making new friends. I dropped all fake friends and joined social clubs that relate to things I like to do. I quickly found out that I struggled to find an abundance of new friends because they, like me, were still wearing the false self mask. I then met someone going thru a bad divorce she asked me some personal questions about my life and for some reason I shared with her the struggles of my divorce. I had not shared this information with anyone. It felt so good to finally release and share with someone on a truthful level. I had no idea how powerful telling the truth can be if you want to find friends that you are deeply connected to. Until watching this video, I thought it was the shared experiences that led to a deeper connection, but that is only part of the equation being truthful with yourself and others is the magic ingredient, at least for me. Thanks for the video.

I'm on my journey of authenticity right now and the way you've explained it was exactly the same way I've been going about it. When ppl in my life ask what the change is, I usually give a few words in response because its a lot bigger than that. I'm glad i was right in the thought that humans are complex creatures and there is more to our behaviors that we ourselves don't know " why" we do something unless there is a self awareness of what we are doing. This being a 15 min video is proof of that, and I'm so glad to have this as a reference to send others who I can see are trapped in the same version of escapism, dissociation, or "survival mode" as i like to call it. Because I genuinely believe this video can help people. What a great video, thanks for sharing your insights

That was an excellent presentation and illustration!!!! From my own experience, being an honest person starts (and ends) with making the conscious decision to being honest with yourself. And remember, you can only try your best each day. If one day you fail don't be too harsh to yourself; there's always the next day, it's a learning process and radical changes take time.

Radical honesty has gotten me in trouble. Its destroyed relationships and I feel despised by people I once appreciated for who I am. I realise that these are not good people for me to be around. The lesson here being. Just because you are trying your hardest to do the right thing, doesnt mean everyone will get that. And their admiration might turn to hate because you chose to live your own truth.

Dr. Lembke your videos are so encouraging! Thank you for teaching me as I pursue joining the addictions counseling space!

I felt called out so many times in this video, as usual. I LOVE THAT! I'm an ADHD-INFJ, so it can often be difficult for me to narrow my attention. When I watch these videos, I find myself tuned out, and when I say tuned-out, I mean that my brain is formulating/imagining those experiences the video had brought to my awareness; but as the videos continue to play, what oddly brings my attention back from being tuned-out in my thought cloud is when I hear something related to an answer/clue that winds up helping me better understand a poor experience from my past and current situation. My brain'll be like, "Hey go back, go back, go back, that sounded like something you've experienced. Rewind it and let's see what new connections we can make." haha

Thank you I'm honestly grateful to watch this

Absolutely loved this and will share with as many friends, colleagues and clients as I can. Your work is so profound and yet you put in such simple language, it's easy to grasp. It was a delight to meet you in Las Vegas last year at the Addictions Conference and I continue to use your material to inform my work. Thank you!

Thank you for this amazing information. I am struggling to find my words and path with someone whom I love and adore. This insight and perspective is invaluable. I downloaded your book and will be listening while at work and hopefully be able to connect with that special someone I have in my life. Thank you!

so well spoken

An extremely thought provoking episode! I had many self realizations during it. I am grateful for the insights from such an inspiring human!

This is a brilliant video. Thank you so much. The truth has become a truly rare commodity in the world today. Those of us who are honest are attacked by those who collude in preserving lies.

Fantastic. Inherent in radical honesty is the 'Principle' of humility, the two go hand in hand. Wonderfully liberating combination.

As always many thanks and deep respect to After Skool along with Dr. Anna for this beautiful inspiring content! 🙏 My understanding for truth and lie is, Truth is 1 and a lie is infinity (as there is no limits for our mind to think and recreate) so basically if we are on a pursuit of lies, there is no finish line, therefore no peace to mind.

What a wonderful lecture. Thank you so much. I have been able to be honest with myself for nearly three years. It is a wonderful feeling that I don't have to fake positivity and lie to myself that everything is fine in my life. To be honest to oneself is the first step to make any change, and live a fulfilled life!!

Thank you so much for your consideration and presentation of the things that matter.

This video was great!!! I have been through a process to "find myself" and this video helped me to discover that I in fact stopped lying about 6 months ago. Now I don't do anything that doesn't feel natural. I dress, talk, behave and manage my time like "myself" and less like what I think is better for my image. I think that is great for me. I'm happy.

Thank you for the beautiful video. My awareness about Honesty is that, you Cannot SAY the truth, you can be TRUTH.. Our subconscious mind is a recorder that includes more than 80%, sabotaging believes and programs. Truth can't come from the mind, because mind is always a lack of awareness and truth. When you connect with our Real essence, Honesty is arising spontaneously, without any practice on it. Honesty is part of the pure Consciousness in the highest level of self realisation.. Blessings and love

This is an incredibly well articulated and illustrated video. So many of us need this wisdom, particularly the bits about empathy without accountability and for me personally, disclosure porn; if you’re over sharing for manipulative gratification then you are not really being truthful or authentic: You are addicted and indirectly virtue signaling. Featuring profound wisdom from Donald Winnicot, Lao Tzu, Friedrich Nietzsche etc: One of the best After Skool videos hands down. Bravo, Dr Lempkey. Bravo.

SPOT ON, DR. LEMBKE! After 25 years of alcoholism, snorting cocaine, injecting meth, I had to get seriously honest with myself, my family, my therapists, and my probation officer. It takes our own people to save our own people. RADICAL HONESTY IS THE FIRST STEP TO HEALING. (PERIOD.)

This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen. I am constantly seeking videos that will help me reach an aha moment and I never get one. This video has really struck a cord with me so thank you.

This was a great listen, thank you!

I honestly find this video amazing and powerful.

This is easily one of my favorite channels… and after this video, I love it even more ❤❤ Thank you so much for featuring Dr. Lembke, and (as always) for making ‘brain nutrition’ as digestible as captain crunch🎉🎉🎉🎉

I guess this is what I needed to see tonight. It reminded me of all the good parts of AA/NA that I’ve been missing since walking away from the fellowship in 2020. Still clean/sober, enjoying new experiences and living well enough, but kind of stagnant spiritually.

Thank you so much for putting out the best content on the internet over and over again! I just automatically get the audiobooks of whoever you do a video of and they are all life transformative if you put in the work to make the changes and make them permanent. I really can't say thanks enough! Absolutely love you all for what you're doing!

Spanish: "Honestidad Radical" French: "Honnêteté Radicale" German: "Radikale Ehrlichkeit" Italian: "Onestà Radicale" Portuguese: "Honestidade Radical" Chinese (Simplified): "激进诚实" (Jījìn chéngshí) Japanese: "根本的な誠実" (Konpon-teki na seijitsu) Russian: "Радикальная честность" (Radikal'naya chestnost') Arabic: "الصداقة الجذرية" (Al-sadaqat al-juthriya) Hindi: "राधिकल ईमानदारी" (Raadhikal eemaandaaree) Korean: "근본적인 정직" (Geunbonjeogin jeongjik) Dutch: "Radical Eerlijkheid" Swedish: "Radikal Ärlighet" Turkish: "Radikal Dürüstlük" Greek: "Ριζοσπαστική Ειλικρίνεια" (Rizospastikí Eilikríneia) Arabic (Modern Standard Arabic): "الصدق الجذري" (Al-sidq al-judhri) Hebrew: "יַשֶׁרוּת רַדִּיקָלִית" (Yash'rut radikali) Finnish: "Radikaali Rehellisyys" Danish: "Radikal Ærlighed" Norwegian: "Radikal Ærlighet" Polish: "Radykalna Szczerość" Hungarian: "Radikális Őszinteség" Romanian: "Onestitate Radicală" Czech: "Radikální Upřímnost" Vietnamese: "Trung Thực Cấp Thiết" Swedish: "Radikal Ärlighet" Thai: "ความซื่อสัตย์เชิงรุก" (Khwaam s̄û̂ s̄ạt̂h cẽng rux) Norwegian: "Radikal Ærlighet" Finnish: "Radikaali Rehellisyys" Portuguese (Brazil): "Honestidade Radical" Dutch: "Radical Eerlijkheid" Malay: "Kejujuran Radikal" Indonesian: "Kejujuran Radikal" Greek: "Ριζοσπαστική Ειλικρίνεια" (Rizospastikí Eilikríneia) Romanian: "Onestitate Radicală" Bulgarian: "Радикална Искреност" (Radikalna Iskrenost) Korean: "근본적인 정직" (Geunbonjeogin jeongjik) Japanese: "根本的な誠実" (Konpon-teki na seijitsu) Ukrainian: "Радикальна Чесність" (Radykalʹna Chesnistʹ) Swahili: "Ukweli wa Mwisho" Hindi: "राधिकल ईमानदारी" (Raadhikal eemaandaaree) Serbian: "Радикална Искреност" (Radikalna Iskrenost) Croatian: "Radikalna Iskrenost" Slovak: "Radikálna Úprimnosť" Lithuanian: "Radikali Nuoširdumas"

Excellent, Dr. Lembke thank you.

Always life enhancing here. Thank you from Vermont! ❤

I was very impressed with the inclusivity of a number of points, given the nature and reasoning behind why people lie could be a month long diatribe, if you talk fast, don't sleep, and embellish a bit to keep the flow moving. Many lies lack rhyme or reason, but the inclusion of social media exacerbating this behavior, and the effects of the AA stories that glorified and intensified an association to fondness of the periods one was intoxicated, is akin to the overall effects of the cleansing of history, and deification of pertinent figures. You forget the impossibly vast crosscut that was human, visceral, and negative. I was drug along to 2 AA meetings by a person addicted to them. Odd story. Both were two hours of just that, tale after tale, the glorification of a mental image one knew to be well scubbed of negative correlations. Both times. After leaving, never had I wanted a drink more. The nature of addiction itself, highly misrepresented. This device in my hand is the most ignored, socially accepted, and prosperous addiction that universally exists. And it's recognized on a legal level as a necessity. I didn't truly carry a cellphone with regularity until November 2018. Now, I realize I'm far too dependant upon it. But I digress, great video.

Love your videos keep it up 🙏🏽❤

Brilliant! I came across the concept through the book and workshops by Brad Blanton, and an Oregonian personal improvement camp back in 04.. the entire experience changed my life. In my early years I told about being sexually abused by my stepfather but was emotionally ousted from my family. Fearful adaptation caused me to be a people pleaser effectively cutting myself from truth seeking and telling..I couldn’t have divulged this before the camp but now my life is flourishing 🙏🏽

This may be one of the most meaningful videos on UKposts, where thousands of people make money by showing off, influencing and getting people to buy stuff they don’t need from their sponsors. Thank you ❤

As an ex 8.5 yeah meth addict, so much of this is true, especially the point on the denial mind trap that is at the foundation of ongoing addiction. That’s just how you roll in the addicted state. And yes honesty is both a preventative and part of the ‘cure’ of and for addiction. This is a very valuable presentation for anyone, addicted or not.

Disclosure porn? You decide. Awareness of my own inclination for lying by omission and plausible deniability have been eye opening for me. Reflecting on my strategies for avoiding vulnerability led me to realize the incredible strength and fortitude I had applied towards avoidance and doubly so, the effort to cope with living unauthentically. Turning those efforts towards simple acceptance with love for my own experiences changed my perspective inexorably. Noone knows us better than ourselves and no other (that matters) expects us to be anything more or less.

Thank you for acknowledging at the end that you deal with embellishments/lying yourself. It was like putting the cherry on the sundae: now it's complete. Great video that made me cry.

She's awesome. Beautiful insights. Grateful to have heard this.

Be completely and utterly honest with yourself, but be-careful of how honest you are with others. Honesty comes at a cost.

Love, love, love. Thank you for sharing & the extraordinary effort that goes into these beautiful creations. It is all appreciated and noticed!

Thank you Afterskool for another informative message. To Dr. Anna Lembke thank you for sharing your healing with us . Sincereity with yourself and others will always inspire ways to heal each other. Much Love and Appreciation.💖😊🥰🤗💞🌌🌈💎🌍✨🙏🏾

A great message! ❤

We live in a world where people prefer comforting lies over unpleasant truths. Fortunately for me, I prefer the latter over the former and it has changed my world and those around me for the better. Great video.

This is so good. Amazing work, Dr. Anna Lembke!

Telling the truth is not painful. We are not wired to lie. The system of judgement and punishment is what's painful. This is what encourages children and adults to not speak their truth.

The world does not like people who speak their minds, it prefers compliant individuals. People who speak truth get jugded.

thank you so much for all the good you do in the world

The Algorithms brought me here. I stayed, listened, reflected then shared… Thank you so very much Dr. Anna Lembke. This is chocked full of nuggets. Please continue to share…

Thank you so very much for this, this new generation needs this message!

That part about empathy without accountability could be a video all it's own. Beautiful video. Seriously.

Thank you!! I just sent a note to someone who acted inappropriately during a work gig. They’ve been avoiding me. I feel really strongly that with both friendships and in intimate work relationships, honesty is essential. It took me so long cause this person rejects criticism. It’s funny, I’m generally the person people doubt, so it’s not always beneficial for me to be honest, no one wants to hear me. In one situation, 9 later someone unexpectedly came back to apologize. Redemption is truly bitter sweet.

I called my ex promiscuous as she lied about posting certain pictures and was on multiple dating apps. Broke my heart and still does, and I love her over everything but logically I know it will never work. Life hurts man, and I don’t know how to completely let it go. Don’t know if I ever fully can even a year later. But I don’t regret this learning experience but the only two words I can think of to describe a golden tongue without actions to follow is “soul crushing”.

Being a radical honest person, i can tell that it makes you incompetent in a world made out of lies. Yes, you may get close friends but there would be none in your buffer zone. Further there is a direct opposite relation between honesty and social accountability. You feel guilty of being honest, when being open about social reality.

I've never been able to lie and always been honest. Yet I find that I'm alone and people don't like me. So nice to know that honesty isn't always the best policy

Amazing video. Living an honest and authentic life is the best way. The hardest part is learning how to be honest and authentic with ourselves. ✅

Amazing, the way you describe it makes it so understandable. Keep up the good work ❤

YES!!! Telling the truth is VERY PAINFUL. An Buddhist once honestly said, “Start knowing what you really know, and stop believing what you really don’t know. Somebody asks you. “Is there a God?” and you say, “Yes, God is.” Remember: Do you really know? If you don’t know, please don’t say that you do. Say, “I don’t know.”. . . False knowing is the enemy of true knowledge. All beliefs are false knowledge."

Through some strange family drama that happened b4 I was born, my mom raised me to be honest. I took that a step farther and became what i call hyper-honest. I think Its easier to learn this from an early age caz when friends have tried to adopt this, I have witness their struggle. How to act cannot be learned in an instant ! So, consider the fact that being honest in todays society all by itself even with a lifetime of training... then weigh in someone who has to undo a lifetime of behaviors at the same time as others are peering into your every motion... On anther note: if you're wondering, (but ur probably not caz my thoughts are in my head) yeah, being honest is weird. I feel like an alien in a human world. There are times when I think, "damn I shouldn't have told the truth." Those times it seems selfish to be honest, but I say ' why can't I be myself ? ' Just because the world is a certain way doesn't mean it's a good idea. On the other side of the coin, 90% of the time, being honest is WAY easier. Most of the time, it is hard in "the moment," but then easier for eternity.

I watched your video twice in a row. I love the way you have worded it, very insightful and truthful 😊

Everyone needs to hear this!

this social trend of victimhood is deeply corolated with covert narcissism. this combination is actualy a quite hard one, as telling the truth is nearly impossible for some of them as they are not able to be honest to them selfs. its a dangerous trend for our society because it sets a state of blame but not finding solutions. im still glad to see that this observation is not just in my head and other people see that too. it all starts with your self... honesty is a gift

I wish I could get my wife to watch this (she's addicted romance novel graphic porn 24x7), but it would simply be reflected back at me to protect the victim narrative. Key self-deception tactics to avoid accountability are to phrase everything as "I Need" instead of "I Want" (because who could deny your needs?) and saying things like "I'll run with you, but I'm not going to kill myself" instead of saying something like "I'll run with you but I want to go slower or not go as far as you because I don't want to exercise that hard". When you put everything in absolutes even to yourself, then your desires are the only valid possibility and anything else is an unreasonable demand or betrayal of your "needs". I've found that 99% of the people 99% of the time would much rather hear and tell themselves little lies than to see the world as it is. Its been career limiting to live this way.

Thank you for this. It helped me out metaphysically.

Thank you very much. Since I started to be radical honest with myself and with others I really started to feel a transformation of my character into the best version of myself possible

It's a very academic way of expressing basically the same message that some of the most hated figures on the internet are trying to preach, take FULL accountability of your life, the best and the worst, hold yourself accountable for your fuck ups, and also celebrate and compound on your seemingly minor progress daily, and before you know it people aren't that depressed anymore.

While i agree overall with this video, i take issue with the complete transparency about our vulnerability. It may draw people more closer towards us but there are some who would come awfully close to us because they would seek to take advantage of our vulnerabilities. So i don't think it's a good idea to be completely transparent about our downsides, atleast to strangers whom we initially meet in a gathering such as a workspace or a classroom.

I really enjoyed this video and shared it with someone who I believe could benefit from it & I hope they will watch it, although you can’t force these things. When you’re ready you’re ready, and if you aren’t ready that’s ok too.

100% agree, once I decided to stop lying because the worst version of me I hated was being a liar to others...... everything changed. How I saw my actions and experiences. I questioned myself and realized my authentic self wanted growth not fear. I lied because of fear and even quoted the Dune line "fear is the mind killer..." I've done so much work on myself and leveled up from therapists with each saying I put in the work and my being open and only giving honest words has transformed my mind. I'm currently watching this to help my partner as they are experiencing everything in this video and I can only point them in the right direction.

My work speaks for me. In Silicon Valley we were ignored for three years after the architect we work with won Architect of the Year: US Restoration. The custom home built in Santa Cruz was the best work and design that I have worked on. Why did Silicon Valley ignore an honest group over the hill? Very telling about the Stanford Community as well.

"When we hear another person's thoughts, beliefs, and feelings, it is more difficult to project on to them our perceptions of who they are. It is harder to be manipulative." - bell hooks (All About Love: New Visions)

Thank you Dr. Lembke and After Skool…great video!

This is a work of art. God bless you

"the more sophisticated the language, the more advanced the lies" is that why law is often written in Latin? :b

Balancing Truth with Grace. If only there was a book that's been telling us this is the correct path to helping others.