pov: your therapist told you to watch this

"You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle. But you are worthy of love and belonging."

Still watching this TEDTalk in 2023. It blew out my mind. Thanks Brené Brown. 🙌

This is the first video I watch in 2024. I learned how to accept my emotions whether they are good or bad. I learned how to accept my vulnerability and imperfections. I think I'm ready for a new me in 2024. Happy new year to anyone who reads this

i saw the other day a comment on her book in amazon that said that the book was not good because she uses really common language for a woman with university studies. I'll never understand how people pretend critical and important information to reach a large population using really specific and confusing terms just to give the image of profesionalism. This woman is really good at communicating and is explaining something useful and important.

Up until 24 hours ago, before I watched this video I made fun of people who loved so recklessly and willingly gave into the vulnerability in order to experience something beautiful. And I know now that that judgement came from a place of shame. It came from a place that had been hurt and rejected and not chosen multiple times by multiple people. It came from a voice that told itself to harden and be strong and don't let people in anymore, be you're own happiness, your own love, don't be weak or vulnerable to men because that'll get you hurt. But this Ted Talk changed my life. It changed my perception. And although it took some brutal self analysis and judgement, I instantly felt a sense of relief as she spoke of how it's okay, NECESSARY even to let that in, to live your life with vulnerability and compassion and boundaries so thank you. You probably saved my life and future college career.

I'm a therapist. I still watch this for a reminder for not only myself but my clients I serve. It never gets old.

1:40 - a piece of her research that expanded her perception 3:14 - connection ````~ 4:40 - shame 5:24 - vulnerability 6:53 - worthiness 8:05 - whole-hearted 8:45 - courage 9:43 - vulnerability (embracing it) 11:17 - a "little" breakdown 12:43 - vulnerability is the core of shame & fear but also the birthplace of joy/ creativity/ belonging/ love 13:51 - people embrace vulnerability, but that's not her (lol) 14:31 - why do we struggle w/ vulnerability 14:39 - numb 16:21 - you can't numb hard feelings w/o numbing other emotions 17:03 - making everything uncertain, certain 17:34 - perfection 18:31 - pretending

always come back here from time to time because... well... it's necessary.

Content aside, this is an inspirational talk for any scientist. This woman is a SCIENTIST - think of all the detail, methods, metrics, statistics, alternate theories, debates with her peers, that could have been brought into this report of six years of work. That huge hammer of science has been honed down to a razor edge of a few crisp points, delivered with calmness, conviction and humor, in an 18 minute talk. WOW. I am inspired.

I just started a really intense program in college and had a tough day in the lab, went home and felt unmotivated to study. My relationship is a mess and most importantly, I felt extremely lonely. Wanted to change things up so I searched for this video, which I have initially watched 6 years ago and I remember it was inspiring. Watched the whole video, tears run down my face and I realized that I was being too harsh on myself and forgot to be grateful for what I have. Thank you Brene, you have taken me out of the dark place and I will rewatch this video for the stormy days to come. Life is not easy but gotta have fun and enjoy it while we can. If you are struggling like me, I genuinely hope things turn up for you and you can find the light in your life. Best wishes!!!!

I love this message so much. To be vulnerable is to be open, to allow your emotions to be set free. To be vulnerable means to be authentic, to remove any masks you are wearing because you don't need to pretend to be someone you are not. You are worthy of love and belongingness, you are worthy of being seen, you are enough, and you matter ♥💜💙

9:32 that's what I'm doing now. I'm a shy, introspective person, and the last few years I put on my mind I had to try to be more extroverted, talk more, but this latest months I realized that this was making me feel worst, because I'm not the way I wanted to be, and when I tried to be talkative I couldn't, so this made me sad and disappointed. So now I'm accepting myself, I'm a introspective person, and I'm fine with it. I don't care what people think about it, because people tend to judge us.

So resonated with the last episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog. "There's no such thing as perfect. You are beautiful as you are, Courage. With all your imperfections, you can do anything." said the bathtub barracuda.

POV: you keep coming back to this video because it once changed your life and you need to remind yourself that it’s okay to be vulnerable! And you keep sending it to anyone who struggles with vulnerability

‘Blame’ in research is defined as the way to discharge pain and anger on somebody else. Loved it!!!

Vulnerability is the key to all and any human connections. Without that key ingredient there will always be something missing within a relationship. Being able to be completely transparent with someone you love is a gift that some people never get to experience.

9:20 "as it turns out we cant practise compassion for others unless we can be kind to ourselves"

I am going to the 30s and never in my life I have cried and laughed so much at the same time. I really can’t believe I didn’t watch this video earlier. Blessed by you, Brene!

It's crazy how true this is . About four years back when I passed high school I was broken , insecure and vulnerable. My best friend left me. The boy I liked rejected me. For the same fucking girl. I thought when I enter uni I'll change it all , I will not be this pathetic person I am , I'll change for good. That's what I did, I started relying less on others , closed myself off, had friends some really good people but I never allowed myself to get close as a protective measure. I tried to numb myself of all the feelings, good or bad. Everything was going well good grades , good social life but I was not happy. I couldn't understand what was wrong. I felt hopeless , without a direction. One day I broke down in front of a friend. Got everything on my mind out, showed her my pathetic side which I was scared to face. It was difficult. But I felt 1% better. So after watching this talk, everything made sense . I'm still not comfortable in being vulnerable in front of people. But I am trying .So anyone else suffering, you should give it a try too.

Needed this. I’m always building up walls. Not wanting anyone to come emotionally closer. But eventually I have to let it down and talk to someone. Otherwise you’re just built up with anger and sadness

She finishes with, “that’s all I have”. That was 8 years ago ... Her “enough” still moves the world We are all so very vulnerable ... and we are “enough”.

It’s crazy how my brain figured this out on its own over the past year & I randomly got the thought to watch this & now I can finally put into words what I have been feeling the past year! It’s sooo liberating to know that I am on the right track with my mental health & so happy I’m here!

what a GOLDEN video, i think this deserves to be seen by everyone, so many powerful lines of dialogue and key points. i have gone through my own "spiritual awakening" aka crying for 20 minutes on my bed while infront of my mums company who i would always hide emotion from because i was worried about how she would see me as such a weak person. but after that and followed by a few more tears in the coming weeks after that moment. and now im at a point where i just accept things for what they are and who people are and who i am as a whole, and life has been so much less stressful and worrisome. i have found a strong sense of calm come into my life and things have been up ever since.

My therapist sent me this ted talk when I was in college. I feel like I’m just now understanding what I needed to take away from it.

"In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be really seen." "The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging." "The origin of the word "courage" comes from the word "cour" which means heart, and it means to completely share your story with you whole heart". "Have the courage to be imperfect, the compassion to be kind to yourself first, and fully embrace your vulnerability to create connections." "What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful." "Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear, but it is also the birthplace of joy, happiness, creativity, belonging and love." "You are imperfect and wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." "Believe in yourself and say: I AM ENOUGH"

I learned about the magic power of vulnerability many years ago when i noticed that's what drew me into people. Being vulnerable makes you so like me, like all of us, and it stops the belief that others are different, better, more made for success. But, vulnerability is uncomfortable, and takes courage, as she mentions. It is what i admire most in people, and why I have always believed that vulnerability is what makes people hear you.

You can watch this talk at every stage of your life and you will always get something out of it. Note to myself went I am struggling come back to this...

love her warmth in this talk. I can feel her energy from here.

My college has a graphic design show every semester for graduating seniors to display their work. Next spring, I'm choosing to let myself feel very vulnerable by making my work themed on my autism and mild depression. Most of my classmates, teachers, even friends and family members, will have no clue I have either of these until that day. I doubt doing this constantly, but this video builds confidence that I am worthy to do it. Thanks, Brene Brown.

Found a reddit thread about not ever having a best friend (my problem at hand) and someone in the replies recommended this video. Wish me luck on showing my true self and letting my guard down.

"We accept the love we think we deserve." Stephen Chbosky in The Perks of Being a Wallflower

This TedTalk made me cry. I fight vulnerability so much. Something to work on.

She really calmed me down. She makes so many key points to being ok with who we are. Wonderful speech. Thank You.

I watched this for the first time two years ago. Vulnerability felt like a very important topic but I couldn’t quite get a good understanding of how to achieve it. I’ve been going to therapy ever since, and today I decided to rewatch this. I am honestly surprised at how much my understanding developed, I can now recognize the complexity of the concepts attached to it which I am now more aware of. I can’t say I’ve reached a good point of balance within myself yet, but I feel closer than ever before. My life experiences, fueled by greater awareness brought by therapy, have truly changed the way I perceive myself and the world - the “perceptual expansion” she mentions early on in the video.

I was born decades ago with a really great musical ear, with exceptional eyesight , i was athletic and handsome. I still retain a lot and walk with confidence . When i watched this video i was momentarily distracted by the subtitles, when it said ''laughter'' etc. At that moment i felt great appreciation for those who could watch this but could not hear , how they watch it and can still enjoy it by reading the subtitles, not hearing laughter but they can imagine the audience laughing at what she said. I've been blessed so much in my life , despite many of my own problems over the years. I think it is a great thing to add subtitles for those who cannot hear. I can't imagine what that life is like, and it's good that we are connected with eachother in positive ways.

18:20 - “You’re imperfect and wired for struggle and you’re worthy of love and belonging.” 👏🏼 ❤️

This is why i stopped going to therapy. Im vulnerable af, and still lonely and disconnected. Too many therapists are just puppets

"DARING GREATLY" is her book that expands on this talk. It's a good read.

10 years later and I find this speech so emotional. Tears came out unexpectedly. I guess the power of authenticity and vulnerability are timeless. Thank you for uploading.

My therapist recommended me to watch her and im glad I listened very true!!!! 🙏💯🙏💋

This will never get old! Thank you for the conversation you started!!

I’m periodically getting back at this talk, rewatching it and getting a bit better at live each time. And I’m sharing it with all my friends. Thank you so much for this

This is the most transformative, insightful, and heartfelt TED talk ever.

"To feel this vulnerable is to be alive" Once you feel worthy, greatness will follow

a therapist that I had in 2017 recommended Brene's TED talks and books to me. Vulnerability is still something I struggle with, but I've watched these videos a few times over the years and they do help

I've always known that being vulnerable, and staying vulnerable is a strength, not a weakness, because it's never easy, but always worthwhile 💖 I fiercely defend my right to be me, whatever that means, at any given time, for who I am and who I am not, and then project that out, meaning I accept others for who they are and who they are not. I fully believe that this is necessary for me to have peace in my heart, and practicing having peace in my heart has changed my life for the better...it doesn't mean that I don't get upset or hurt, it means that I try to see what the upset is teaching me, which usually is to be kinder to myself and to have more understanding about my feelings 💖 I hope this is useful and/or beneficial to anyone. Namaste 💖

Brené Brown’s Netflix special brought me here. She is such a powerful and inspiring speaker.

"I lost the fight ... but won my life back." When two people lose, they win.

It's so hard to be vulnerable, but i agree, everytime i let myself be vulnerable even if i "fail" i feel better after

Today I am turning 22 and this is the first video I watch when I am 22. I love this speech because I am inspired and feeling love myself more. Thank you Brene, you have taken me out of the dark place and I will rewatch this video for the stormy days to come.

Here from Netflix. It’s baffling to me why anyone could leave hateful, hurtful comments about someone like her, sharing so beautifully from her deepest, most sacred places. I think she is gorgeous - brilliant smile and twinkling eyes and she presents herself with grace and confidence. Her family is blessed to have her ♥️ Thank you Brene for accepting your destiny to live in the big “arena” and for showing us a better way to “do life”.

“Connection is why we’re here. It’s what gives meaning to our lives.”

I love you Brene Brown, every time I hear you speak, it feels like I’m getting a hug.

I've watched this sooooooo many times and it just never gets old. Thank you.

I loved this talk. Being a 28 disabled woman (who was previously a fully fit dancer) I understand embracing being vulnerable. In the thirteen years I've dealt with my condition, one that leaves me in constant agony & using a walking stick, I can honestly say I wouldn't change it. It's part of who I am, and I'm happy with that person. Hopefully, this will inspire others to embrace themselves.

Vulnurability needs to be addressed by us all. As a 18 year old college student surrounded by guy friends in my dorm, we have all become experts of pushing down our fear and shame and deepest vulnerabilities because it's easy to blend into the crowd. It saddens me. Recently I've noticed that I have shame for just having emotions. And that needs to stop!

The most authentic human being i have ever listened to,

Over a decade & likely a hundred watches later, this is still the most impactful TED talk I've ever come across

The courage to be imperfect, thank you.

“We pretend that what we’re doing doesn’t have a huge impact on other people” okkk nah that hit differently that is so true

Im seeing this 12 years later. I always noticed I cant feel love or much of other emotions and I thought something was jut wrong with me. I learned about vulnerability and did some reserch and I've found out that thats whats been my problem all along. I want to be a man, strong, blocking anything that hurts me before it gets to me (that explains the not feeling emotions or disapointment) And I dont allow myself to be open to the negatives, which in turn blocks the positives like the love I cant seem to ever feel. Im going to implement vulnerability in my life and see if that fixes me, Im still going to be strong, masculin, and not let people get to me. But this time im going to let the hurt get to me while im vulnerable and build a stronger mental instead of blocking out all love and emotion. Im 16, 10th grade. Ill come back here in five years to tell you my resaults. With me luck and as always, shock the world. ( Hurt in private, heal in silence, shine in public)

This video helped me so much tysm especially the part about numbing I realized I was numbing my emotions and I cried but I feel much better tysm for being vulnerable! We’re all people vulnerable!❤️

To be vulnerable is to express true intimacy with someone you truly love and care about.

If you have Audible, I'd HIGHLY recommend downloading the entire book, "The Power of Vulnerability" narrated by her. It's amazing!

I've watched this regularly since it first came out and it never fails to move me. It's so timeless. I always learn something new and have been changed for the better because of it

I'm here sobbing my heart out. Thank you for this

You're imperfect and you're wired to struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.

To those saying she is not being vulnerable: the very act of being on stage is vulnerability. Talking about such a taboo subject is vulnerable. Vulnerability does not always take the shape of a crying face in front of others. It is simply us being authentic in spite of the fact that in doing so, we allow others to demean who we really are, authentically. That is vulnerability. I will attain this one day soon.

As Brene said, believe you're worthy of love and belonging. You are!! You deserve good things!

“We can’t selectively numb emotion.” 🙌🏽

im in tears right now. this is beautiful, hit me in every level.

How can you not LOVE Brene Brown. She was the reason I came out of the Mental Health Closet!

Here are some of the highlights from the video that resonated with me a lot: 1. 3:26 - Connection is what gives meaning and purpose to our lives 2. 4:45 - Shame is the fear of disconnection. Is there something about me that if other people see it, I won’t be worthy of connection? 3. 5:15 - Shame is underpinned by this feeling of “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not _____ enough” 4. 5:30 - Excruciating vulnerability = For connection to happen we need to allow ourselves to be seen 5. 7:00 - People who have a sense of worthiness have a strong sense of love and belonging 6. 7:20 - People who have a strong sense of love and belonging *believe* they are worthy of love and belonging 7. 7:35 - The one thing that keeps us out of connection is the fear that we are not worthy of connection 8. 8:15 - People with a deep sense of worthiness are wholehearted people 9. 9:00 - Courage originally meant to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. 10. 9:10 - Wholehearted people have the courage to be imperfect, and have the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others. 11. 9:20 - We can’t practice compassion with other people if we can treat ourselves kindly. They had connection […] as a result of authenticity. 12. 9:30 - They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were. 13. 9:50 - They fully embraced vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. 14. 10:15 - They didn’t talk about vulnerability being comfortable or excruciating. […] They talked about it being necessary. 15. 12:40 - Vulnerability is the core of shame, fear and our struggle for worthiness. It’s also the birthplace of joy, creativity, of belonging and love. 16. 14:40 - We numb vulnerability. 17. 15:50 - You cannot selectively numb emotion. 18. 16:20 - When you numb hard feelings, you numb joy, gratitude and happiness. 19. 17:30 - Blame is a way to discharge pain and discomfort. 20. 19:10 - Let yourself be seen, deeply seen. Love with your whole heart even though there’s no guarantee. 21. 19:55 - Believe that we’re enough. “I am enough.”

It's about the 4th time I've watched this and gained something new from it. I'm beyond grateful.

Please, read her book "Daring Greatly", the one who goes deeper.into this subject. It is lifechaning... Fantastic!

When I used to hear people say "Jesus loves you", I thought they were simple... But the idea that someone loves you exactly the way you are, is exactly what she means by "I am enough". I can say I am blessed without irony. And that in and of itself is a blessing.

This makes so much sense. If vulnerability is being unafraid to be uncomfortable or in the midst of struggling, blame is exactly the opposite. It “discharges” all of that without confronting or dealing with it

“Stories are research with a soul.” I love it 😍. People have been passing down knowledge through stories since the beginning of people.

Who else is watching this in October 2019? Omg I'm fascinated and getting so informed!

Watching this in July 2020 (10 years later), and it still feels like she's only given this talk yesterday! P.S.: I, too, am a PhD qualitative researcher, and I like the idea of calling myself a "storyteller".

Wow, this was absolutely mind-blowing, like literally i am trying to collect pieces of my mind out there floating in the ideas that she shared. Thanks a lot for sharing this, really appreciate it.

the gift that keeps on giving. Oh my. She helped me make a decision that I should have seen a long time ago. Love her. She is so sincere.

No wonder they say, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." :)

I can't believe there are negative comments on this video. It was absolute gold. Vulnerability is something all of us need to learn and accept and she articulates that perfectly. In her own words "Don't try to win over the haters; you are not a jackass whisperer."

Saw this in 2020… needed to come back to it again recently and it now rings more true than ever before.

I found this talk inspiring and eye-opening, if a little long-winded. It made me realise how I've grown scared of showing my vulnerabilities in recent years and that I should try and reconnect with them and my music in order to live a happier and fulfilling life. When I used to regularly express my feelings through music, I had people who travelled from as far as Canada to watch my concerts. I believe this is because of the courage i had in showing my vulnerability. This is the kind of connection I believe Rene is talking about and I only realise this now.

True vulnerability is courage to say "I love you" first. To open your heart, there is no guarantee that you will be accepted or loved.

She is awesome, I have never seen someone smile so much during a Ted talk!

“Shame is universal, the only people who don’t have it , are the people who have no capacity for human connection” That quote just brought me to my knees , it is possible, I didn’t think a professional would ever say that . I perceive that there was not possible not to feel shame or empathy. So anyone who ask how could this happen to me ? I hope this can bring you comfort as it has to me in some way, we can have some compassion for multiple offenders , As i ounce heard. No one does anything just ounce . Connect the dots backwards . The is always going be not just one victim , God bless only eat for healing is to ask the questions everyone is scared too from fear of feeling alone.

I did something that’s vulnerable to me. Thank you for encouraging me today Brene.

“Maybe stories are data with a soul” ❤️

"we can't have compassion for others if we don't treat ourselves kindly" so true and dope. I am learning to be fully myself and vulnerable.

This is the best Ted talk I’ve seen in a while. This was like poetry. So grateful for this.

My therapist recommended me this video, as I'm struggling with vulnerability, shame, dissociation and anger. Berne really opened my eyes. She's an incredible communicator and researcher!

This is the THING I wanted to hear in my life at this time. Fits so f**king perfectly into my life.

I love how Brené Brown puts it. I have watched her TED talk speech a number of times and I'm always learning something. I can't believe that after so many years of trying to fit in into a denomination, social group, or even family, I have to sacrify my identity to feel accepted and not judge. I came to realized that this is my issue and not of the ones sorrounded by me, so I need to be brave and change my perspective if I want to be happy with myself and the things I want to accomplish in life.

Absolutely love Brene! I have 3 of her books and thoroughly enjoyed each of them. I’m huge on making connections. She gives me courage and forces me to step outside of my comfort zone. Can’t get enough of BB!

Needed this. I feel like lately I'm building walls around myself because it feels like the easy thing to do. But I want to take steps to be more vulnerable with my peers

"I trust that every moment is perfect" Mino Netta