Understanding Men and Their Trauma with Dr. Gabor Maté

Understanding Men and Their Trauma with Dr. Gabor Maté | The Man Enough Podcast

День тому

Men aren’t toxic, they’re traumatized. Renowned physician, author and speaker Dr. Gabor Maté talks about internalized rage, our toxic world culture, childhood trauma and reframing our approach to mental illness.
New episodes every Monday 🎙️
The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.
#gabormate #drgabormate #mythofnormal #mentalhealth #adhd #mentalillness #toxic #toxicmen
The Myth Of Normal
Dr Gabor Maté’s newest book The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, is a groundbreaking investigation into the causes of illness, a bracing critique of how our society breeds disease, and a pathway to health and healing.
In this revolutionary book, Maté eloquently dissects how chronic illness and general lack of health are on the rise in Western countries that pride themselves on their healthcare systems.
Over four decades of clinical experience, Maté has come to recognize the prevailing understanding of “normal” as false, neglecting the roles that trauma and stress, and the pressures of modern-day living, exert on our bodies and our minds at the expense of good health. Now Maté brings his perspective to the great untangling of common myths about what makes us sick, connects the dots between the maladies of individuals and the declining soundness of society-and offers a compassionate guide for health and healing. Co-written with his son Daniel, The Myth Of Normal is Maté’s most ambitious and urgent book yet.
Gabor’s new book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture -- drgabormate.com/book/the-myth...
About Dr.Gabor Maté:
A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several books, including the New York Times bestseller The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and has co authored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in over thirty languages.
Guest Social Links:
Instagram:@gabormatemd
Twitter: @DrGaborMate
Show Notes
UKposts/Audio mp3 (slightly different after ad break holes)
00:00 Episode Begins
02:32 Introducing Dr.Gabor Maté
03:43 Who qualifies "enough-ness?"
12:52/12:58 How does our culture impact women and men's health differently?
23:05/23:20 The Answer to Chaos is Harmony
25:20/25:33 The Culture Has Deprived Men
33:55/34:15 When do we begin believing the world is against us?
36:11/36:31 Vulnerability is Brave
43:54/44:14 Reframing Mental Illness
47:56/48:16 Mother's don't chose to get stressed
49:20/49:40 How do we achieve human empowerment?
55:00/55:20 Rage in the body
58:27/58:47 Recovering from Trauma
01:03:40/01:04:00 Owning your own healing
01:07:45/01:08:05 What does it mean to be man enough?
Key Quotes from the Episode:
"Healing is actually about growth, it's about becoming whole and for most of us, that's a lifelong proposition" - Dr. Gabor Maté
HOSTS: Justin Baldoni, Liz Plank, and Jamey Heath
JOIN THE MAN ENOUGH COMMUNITY:
Follow: manenough.com/podcast
Instagram: / wearemanenough
TikTok: tiktok.com/wearemanenough
Twitter: / wearemanenough
Facebook: / wearemanenough
Subscribe to the Man Enough newsletter for behind the scenes, updates, and sneak peeks of new episodes, as well as positive masculinity content: manenough.com/newsletter
Read the book: manenough.com/books
FOLLOW THE HOSTS:
Justin Baldoni Instagram: / justinbaldoni
Justin Baldoni TikTok: / justinbaldoni
Justin Baldoni Facebook: / justinbaldoni
Justin Baldoni Twitter: / justinbaldoni
Text Justin: +1 (310) 845-6909
Liz Plank: / feministabulous
Liz Plank TikTok: / lizplank
Liz Plank Facebook: / feministabulous
Liz Plank Twitter: / feministabulous
Site: www.elizabethplank.com/
Jamey Heath Instagram: / jamey_heath_
Jamey Heath TikTok: / jameyheath
Jamey Heath Twitter: / jamey_heath_
Jamey Heath Facebook: / jameyjaz
Site: www.jameyheath.com/
PRODUCED BY:
Wayfarer Studios: www.wayfarerstudios.com
Wayfarer Studios UKposts: / wayfarerentertainment
P&G Studios
Executive Producers: Justin Baldoni, Jamey Heath, Tarah Malhotra-Feinberg, Marc Pritchard, Anna Saalfeld, Chris Corcoran
Producer: Kayla Nicholson
A MESSAGE TO OUR PARTNERS:
Thank you to The Lost Debate network for supporting our show!

КОМЕНТАРІ: 1 400

@cebee4464 Рік тому

I'm literally crying! I have read all of Dr. Gabor Mate's books during pregnancy and it changed my whole perspective about how to raise a child. My one year old baby is now sleeping next to me and I'm so happy because of our strong attachment relationship. So if you're wondering what you could give to parents who are expecting a child just buy them his books. A generation of deeply loving parents could change this society for the better.

@tamaragraham6859 Рік тому

👏👏❤️

@sharonrunning9317 Рік тому

I am going to follow your suggestion and the next baby shower I go to I will gift the mother to be with his book on this important subject. Thank you

@michelletruth9995 Рік тому

@@sharonrunning9317 This is so great. We so need a trauma-informed society and we are doing it from the bottom up. You might also like to look into the books of Aletha Solter :)

@meganbaker9116 Рік тому

Anything by Alice Miller. “The Continuum Concept” by Jean Liedloff.

@nexxdev3837 Рік тому

@Dalabombana Рік тому

I love this man. A gift to humanity.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

We agree!

@anz3694 Рік тому

Seriously ♥️

@lizzettorres1111 Рік тому

I agree 💯

@livelovelaughwithna1 Рік тому

For sure he is soo amazing n makes sooo much sense

@rul4522 Рік тому

You are so right! Gabor is a gift for those that are ready.

@lettyrising9130 Рік тому

“The antidote to chaos isn’t order…it’s harmony.” I love that. It reminds me of something that someone I worked with once said “From chaos comes order, but not without the cost of freedom.” Harmony would solve the problem of lack of freedom.

@xikano8573 Рік тому

Yea, that one blew my mind also.

@davisx2002 Рік тому

I dont think rules for rules sake ever solved anything...I would love to hear Jordan Peterson respond to what Gabor is saying here. That would be worth a listen.

@chuckpowers569 Рік тому

@@davisx2002 easy to respond. What is harmony? And, how do you do it? What are the rules to harmony, and who gets to make those rules? You want harmony? Enslave everyone and make the rules they have to follow. You can enforce your new harmony with violence and the threat of violence. This is not a Utopian world, and you can't wish one into existence. The idea of harmony, like socialism, communism, and all of the other empty words is dependent upon the goodwill of every participant. If some people (criminals, opportunists, grifters, zealots, those seeking power) refuse your rules for harmony, there will only be the illusion of harmony. People have to start thinking deeper than this man's anger the patriarchy and Jordan Peterson will allow him to go. He's selling ideology while being critical of ideology. Interesting.

@lenavoyles526 Рік тому

Hi Chuck - a more technical way to approach the concept of “harmony” might be to look at systems theory. That might give you something you can actually sink your teeth into.

@chuckpowers569 Рік тому

@@lenavoyles526 I'm familiar with systems theory. In systems theory a negative system can be reinforced just like a good one. That doesn't answer any of the questions I proposed, and it risks dying in Utopian fantasies. Of course when every member has great intentions, a lot of systems can work--even a harmonic one. But, what happens when we bring our imperfections into the equation? Stuff goes sideways fast. That's where the questions I asked really surface.

@barabara2127 4 місяці тому

Love how Dr. Maté is roasting Jordan Peterson ! Priceless and so so true. JP is full of rage. GM is grounded, humble, wise and a blessing to everyone who cares enough to listen

@alanarturdemitrovfernandes1161 25 днів тому

Well, that's very contradictory... so you are saying that as men we should supress our anger so you can get happy while a supposed humble guru passive aggressively roasts somebody that is showing rage and has every reason to while preaching that we should not supress our rage? I think you both need therapy😂😂😂

@barabara2127 24 дні тому

That is not what I’m saying but if that is what you took from this then I will leave you with your opinion, no point in arguing here. You can watch some more of his videos to get a clearer picture of Dr Gabor’s work, e.g. Dr.Gabor Mate on how to process anger and rage | The Tim Ferris Show.

@Cv_224 Рік тому

My inner child experienced a ton of boundary violation, trauma and dysfunction at home and she is angry. My anger was suppressed for soooo long! Believe me, anger has a place in your healing. Embrace it!

@malakai79 9 місяців тому

Hiya, for what it is worth, I totally am hearing you. Although our stories are different, I too experienced a tonne of boundary violations, abuse and trauma at the hands of both parents. I was shown and told in various ways that any anger was bad and it was bad to be angry because people around me suppressed my anger. At 43 years old, I'm giving myself a space for all my anger and it's scary but right. I'm doing my best to allow the little girl in me to feel that anger and express it. People still try tell me my anger is bad and intolerable but I now know that their feelings about my anger has nothing to do with me. It's still hard and I still feel unseen. I wish you the best on your journey.

@gwenerwin4552 5 місяців тому

Great show, great man. Having recovered from childhood trauma, I now embrace my mother's memory instead of excoriating her for being a bad mother. I am free in a way I could only imagine. Lots of AA , lots of addiction, but 40 years of joyous sobriety

@shaneibbs4439 Рік тому

As a male therapist, still healing myself, I want to say thank you so much for putting this together. I have been aware of Gabor for several years, but i have avoided reading him for fear of retraumatising myslef having worked in the caring profession for 24+ years, as well as my own traumatic childhood. I am now going to order the book, The Myth of Normal.

@annaprana8004 Рік тому

I think it’ll make a huge difference in your healing. It did in mine! 😊

@tamaragraham6859 Рік тому

Bravo to you for facing your own vulnerability. ❤️

@DS-rd9qn Рік тому

Check out "When the Body Says No" too, its awesome

@thiccletics Рік тому

HIGHLY recommend his other books and interviews! Best wishes 🫶🏽

@virgee.5263 Рік тому

So validating! I was avoiding Gabor Mate also! Timing is everything, thank you for your honesty.

@ecemwashere. Рік тому

I could listen Dr. Maté talk for hours, what a treasure of our time! 🙏Thank you for having him on the show 🙌

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thank you for being here! We could have talked to him for hours as well.

@abundance_crystal698 Рік тому

Yes, the way he talk sometimes could be defined as rude for normal society but I just cannot get enough of his "carelessness " talk

@ericmhowardii8410 Рік тому

Believe system Questions Who is asking the question ? Why do you ask the question ? What can you do ?

@SpectrumOfChange Рік тому

I DO listen to him for hours at a time, and gratefully. Dr. Maté has a book on ADHD that turns some central things on their head in the most expansive, wholesome way. HIGHLY recommend the read, Scattered Minds. It seems less known than his other works, for some reason but check it out.

@ecemwashere. Рік тому

@@SpectrumOfChange fellow ADHDer, hi! Im planning on reading it as an audiobook on my channel soon :)

@adamgorelick3714 Рік тому

Imagine a world in which medical doctors and mental health professionals learn these truths; in which everyone is taught this sane approach to existence.

@davidchandler6885 Рік тому

Very dangerous game with doctors being taught anything like this in already system where they apply their personal beliefs. Docs get rid tons of patients saying their psychsomatic systems already, which is one anxiety just get rid of patients n not look for real causes. This just would make things even worse

@adamgorelick3714 Рік тому

@@davidchandler6885 Gabor Mate never suggests that people's symptoms are psychosomatic, quite the opposite - he's describing how unresolved emotions can lead to actual illness.

@createone100 Рік тому

And the Law also!

@ledacedar6253 3 місяці тому

Currently, the obvious pharmaceutical mafia would advise we all fire the turds and grow healthy with these supports, counselling when needed and eating only food that heals the human body. That means getting off all junk crap never food filling your guts and ruining your body's ability to function like a Tesla! 5 yrs carnivore now & despite having Ankylosing spondylitis arthritis that was sheer 24/7 painful agonies plus, I no longer suffer any of that hell. The guts take a long time to heal so that remains the last challenge and I love my ND. She uses Vega testing (also called Electro Acupuncture, according to Voll or EAV testing) It uses the acupuncture points in the hands as access points to your body's sensitive electromagnetic system. From there, the machine measures electromagnetic fluctuations in your body in response to testing. you get Instant readings on my body's state: chakras, guts, organs & AI status; and then tests a plethora of potential products to help heal the issues,including chakras, organs, emotional turmoil and cortisol plus more. Sometimes what she thinks will help when tested shows it's not suited to my needs! This is the ND you know you want and you know your assured of immediate knowledge and what helps. Forget the Blood type diets, the Arthritis diet, the AS diet as none of these approaches are based in knowledge. Eat carnivore for thriving health and repairs to all body tissues from eyes, to organs, to energy fields and memory/brain triggering fear etc.

@ehlersdanlosmom6847 Рік тому

wow. i became disabled 5 years ago, and my boyfriend of 18 years shared a text he got from a 'friend' of ours suggesting he run as 'I'm not worth the extra effort with my physical limitations.' I thought this was a friend of mine too, happens to be female. He shared it because we're no longer going to engage with this person, but the insult lingered. It swelled up inside of me and started to consume my beliefs about myself. It was so easy for me to let her infect my beliefs about myself. I'm changing this belief right now. I am enough.

@jackdeniston59 Рік тому

She wants him for herself. You sound surprised, in fact this female behaviour is very common. You both are right to exit her. Beware.

@georgegray2712 11 місяців тому

And please tell your boyfriend how much you appreciate him. He sounds like really good man.

@georgegrote7836 11 місяців тому

In a world focused on outcomes, it’s hard to deal with the guilt of being trapped in a defective body. But, I don’t know you and I don’t blame you. Reality just feels the need to expand itself into the realm of all possibilities and we are cursed with the ability to perceive consciously. I hope you find comfort somewhere good. This is getting long, but I met a woman who, when she suffered a spinal injury jumping off a sailboat in the Mediterranean, was a VERY successful ballerina. I met her at a dinner with friends and she came in and said, “sorry I’m so late, but stairway to heaven was on and I had to sit in my car awhile and try not to kill myself.” A GREAT joke. But I couldn’t laugh because she was in a wheelchair and without knowing why, it felt wrong to make light of her situation. I didn’t know her injury history until maybe a few days later. Well, she did kill herself. 2-3 years later. It made me so sad even though I only met her that one time. Also, I lived with a bad hip for 13 years through parental neglect which devolved into self-neglect. I now have nerve damage that will need to be resolved through,probably, many surgeries. Plus, type 2 and/or(would need to consult dr notes as I basically freaked out when reading post-op notes) type 3 degeneration of my load bearing capacity of the hip. I’m 31. I was an elite athlete when I was injured at 17-18. And I mean, professional athletes were encouraging me to pursue an athletic career, post injury, which I knew I couldn’t fulfill long term as this was the phase where I did all my nerve damage trying to rehabilitate myself at any cost. Well, it cost. So, I’ve just rediscovered Gabor and I hope he brings you comfort. Be a brain or be a hand or be an understanding and honest and genuine friend. We are not static. And I hope you, stranger, will find your way because, if you do, you bring hope to the world in a million ways.

@daniel51020 10 місяців тому

@@georgegrote7836 Sorry to hear about those losses. It sounds like you needed to share it. There are so many different kinds of abilities that we humans have. Physical ones are just some of them, yet far from all of them.

@ppc5174 9 місяців тому

Thank you!❤

@ronitgreenblum7182 Рік тому

He said he is 5 foot 7 , however, he is a Giant. A giant in humility, in knowledge, in wisdom, in compassion and vulnerability. I think I am addicted to him and his wisdom but I am just fine about that.

@asantemungu9820 Рік тому

😇😇

@ledacedar6253 3 місяці тому

Short people result from under nourishment and under feeding of children from an early age, especially where Neglect exists.

@ragacats Рік тому

I love his epitaph: “It was a lot more work than I anticipated.” As one who has spent a lifetime healing my own trauma, and then becoming a professional trauma therapist, I know this to be true! And his humor about it is much appreciated.

@shahnejad313 Рік тому

You have touched a lot of stuff I am going through at age 65. I survived a heart attack in 2016 and my wife cancer in 2018. I have changed so much. I am constantly afraid about living I need more community to help me and not to be alone. I happy to hear your stories.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thank you for joining us. We're glad you survived and have found your way to us.

@mandy6860 Рік тому

Find what brings you peace and joy. I've had multiple health issues last 2 years stress burn out, past trauma and emotions surfacing. I'm on a restricted diet to heal my gut health issues, being doing kundalini yoga, guided meditations online, walking alone and with friends, and journaling my emotions /thoughts things I can't express. Also did some talking therapy which has helped too. I'm gradually getting better, feeling more at peace. Do more of things that bring you joy and be patient with yourself.

@doriannemosich232 2 місяці тому

Thank you for your comment, it's an antidote for happiness more community, since a very young age also attracted to animals wildlife nature, daily hikes in nature with 3 dogs is a lifesaver. Stay happy healthy Shane

@blissfulbaboon Рік тому

Right on Gabor..Until both men and women realize their strength and personal power is being fully present in this moment , allowing themselves to feel and express their genuine feelings openly, without fear of censorship, condemnation and repression,there will be no personal empowerment, harmony or authentic connection , both interpersonally and subsequently as a community and culture at large.We are emotional beings and our emotional vulnerability is our STRENGTH. Listen to your feelings.They will take us all home.

@careynazyeustt5841 Рік тому

So true love 🖖🙏

@JonasAnandaKristiansson Рік тому

YES!

@user-og6hl6lv7p 11 місяців тому

I think you'll find it's majority men that are oppressed in terms of being open about their feelings, by other men...and women! Say something nice to the next young man you meet.

@maijensen3317 Рік тому

He is describing me. People pleaser from a young age, diagnosed with ADHD, evasive and borderline personality disorders, anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue and Hashimotos. All of it runs in my family and it's now my mission not to pass it on to my kids. I'm in therapy now and have just learned, at the age of 47, that it is ok for me to exist, it is ok to have my own opinions and it's ok to say NO knowing it might upset other people. I'm terrified of making other people disappointed, angry or sad. I get anxious if I don't please everybody all the time, can't eat or sleep. My body then starts to shut down and I get even more inefficient. Luckily I have stopped working, it is a blessing 🙏 I can now isolate my self and use all my energy on my children. Focusing on them and my therapy is the best thing ever!! They have the best dad I the world and they all seem to work well. I am so thankful!! But the thought that they still might end of like me is terrifying. My heart goes out to those who don't have the same privileges. Please take care of yourself ❤️

@SpectrumOfChange Рік тому

💛

@heynicolekunz1 Рік тому

❤❤❤🎉

@wintergirll Рік тому

Proud of you

@ratherboutside2 Рік тому

Everything you're doing now will shift your children and give them a head start in their own healing. Heal together!

@Pokedawn100 Рік тому

You may already know this, but all those can occur because of Hashimotos. Stay feeling well!

@Jennifer-bw7ku 5 місяців тому

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 5 місяців тому

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651 5 місяців тому

Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 5 місяців тому

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651 5 місяців тому

Yes he is. dr.sporesss

@patriaciasmith3499 5 місяців тому

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

@janetlivingstone63 6 місяців тому

Finally, someone who makes sense of so many things! Modern medicine ignores the body-mind connection; our culture is brutal in its disregard for mother-child attachment, etc. YES! Such a monumental relief to hear these things articulated when we may subliminally feel them, but cannot put words to them. Thank you so much for this podcast!

@lostincredulity5369 Рік тому

Big fan of Gabor. I am a single dad with a 3 year old daughter. I have always sat and cuddled her through her feels and she is the best behaved 3 year old and is really kind and respectful to other people. Interestingly she has been winning awards for following all the rules at nursery but I don’t set many rules we talk and negotiate at home. I was/can identify with those men you talk about as I was treated very badly in two previous relationships so identified women as the problem. However, it was never women it was two abusive and one highly abusive individuals that did horrible things. Moving past this now as I look at all the lovely women in my life who have helped me through my trauma to help with my perspective. I think it’s the right time for me to be engaging with your content so I can be more how I used to be before those issues happened.

@theamberheardplaylist6768 Рік тому

-Come over and see-‘This Is The Only Video You Ever Need To Watch About Johnny Depp And Amber Heard’

@meganbaker9116 Рік тому

It’s very sad but unsurprising that anyone gives children awards for following rules. This is really all society wants from children: Sit down. Shut up. Do your work. Gee, whyever are young people depressed?

@susanharris3552 Рік тому

@@meganbaker9116 You're right, it is sad. Instead of society telling kids what it wants, society should listen to what the humans want.

@lenavoyles526 Рік тому

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

@human-ft3wk Рік тому

@@meganbaker9116 yeah. I was privileged to not have to work a job until I was 24. The first thought I had when I started working was "Oh I can do this, this is just like school". I don't think that I would've been able to go from full freedom, study whenever I want to, to: 8-9 hrs a day, 5 days a week you have to go to this place and do something you don't like consistently if I didn't go to school. School is designed to make humans familiar with being sucked dry for resources at a job, full stop. There is little thought put into that system to actually benefit the healthy living of our children.

@lauriewaitz601 Рік тому

Gabor has been my hero for a very long time. He reminds me what unconditional love means. This discussion kept me in tears for its entirety

@chaserofthelight1737 Рік тому

Y’all are making me cry just saying it makes you cry.

@ZsuzsaKoteles 4 місяці тому

a fellow Hungarian:) we all love him and always happy to see him in Budapest! Kedves Gábor, minden jót kívánok!

@MarkShepherd1 Рік тому

The antidote to chaos in not order - but HARMONY!

@jamesgrey13 Рік тому

It takes both!

@NicholasPR Рік тому

When I heard that, I felt something important was missed: harmony is the end result that we shoot for, but order is the mechanism that bridges the gap between chaos and harmony - and harmony itself is order. A balanced order. Order is the scaffolding that builds the framework for the building of harmony

@jamesgrey13 Рік тому

@@NicholasPR There can be harmony without order, but it's aimless! There can be order without harmony, but its tyrannical and unstable! By themselves they just breed different forms of chaos!

@MarkShepherd1 Рік тому

@@NicholasPR yes, I believe many of our human instincts or impulse is to apply order without much consideration to harmony.

@chrissietom123 Рік тому

“To be a human being, in connection with myself in the present moment” - I was overcome with emotion hearing that, took my breath and tears.

@JonasAnandaKristiansson Рік тому

This is The Way

@sunyoungpark910 Рік тому

I didn't finish watching this yet but I want to say that it is not just Gabor who is amazing but also the whole crew...I absolutely love how Jamie didn't put a smiley face and stayed with his own feelings because he had a difficult day. It shows his strength. I love all of their insights and honesty...Their sincerity toward humanity really shows...Thank you for being who you are...I am so moved...

@gwenwalker6925 Рік тому

Really feelin this too 😊

@chocolateradiance7216 Рік тому

Black ppl have a separate set of trauma especially bm..they typically are suspicious of therapy and therapist and don't like to be told if something is wrong with them. I am surprised he even showed up..bm can be very arrogant concerning their own issues but use women as a punching bag..not physically but to blame for everything. They don't usually take advice from wm and alot practice toxic masculinity. I am not surprised he struggled to show up. They aren't used to straight up talk about what's going on or what they could possibly be doing wrong..more being cuddled from the black community. They resent being told about themselves and see it as an attack which is funny based on how much they verbally attack women and sometimes physically too..

@startfromwithin8107 Рік тому

@@chocolateradiance7216 are all bm the same? I am asking you that as a bw. Jamie was honest and nice to Gabor. We need more men like this guys.

@vickieevans9323 Рік тому

Was recently introduced by my therapist to Gabor Mate' book the Myth of Normal, as soon as I watch my first interview on line with him, My mind/body immediately recognized the deep ancient wisdom Gabor articulates for us, on one hand shatters all I thought I knew to be true(painful) and on the other hand a healing balm. Thank Gabor for bringing us this wisdom ,the more I listen and read the more I cry my heart out from the deepest center of my core being, a grief and a lovingness so profound

@DocumentTheDownfall Рік тому

I would absolutely LOVE to view a discussion with Gabor and Jordan Peterson

@petrons5384 Рік тому

I started working in a Hospital and can relate to what you said about health anxiety. I get home after work and basically go to bed straight away. I am slowly learning to protect my energy and be self aware around my own trauma and what belongs to others

@guilhermegalante2869 Рік тому

Loved the part he says the opposite of chaos is harmony..

@mariaegervari6339 Рік тому

This is amazing! 2 days ago I shared Justin's TED talk with the Compassionate Inquiry community. Compassionate Inquiry is the therapeutic approach developed by Gabor and I am one of the facilitators in the course and use this approach in my practice. I kept thinking that Justin and Gabor need to be in the same space and talk. And two days later, voila, it happened. Thank you for this great conversation.

@asantemungu9820 Рік тому

Wow! How awesome that Your thoughts "attracted" the idea and it turned out as a reality for Justine and Dr Gabor in the same space and talk. I love this.

@dilufapy Рік тому

Googling now compassionate inquiry therapeutic approach! Thank you!

@loulh7899 2 місяці тому

Thank you for having Dr Mate on your podcast. He’s amazing and so full of wisdom and compassion. Please invite Dr Mate back soon. ❤

@Goodwill2010 Рік тому

Apart from loving dr. Gabor Mate, I would like to express my gratitude to the 3 interviewers: your honesty, vulnerability and curiosity made it a really creditable and fascinating conversation. I loved your questions and special thank to the lady saying "köszönöm" at the end! As a Hungarian listener this gesture warmed my heart. ❤🙏

@NiKi-ij2ln Рік тому

I would say the answer to chaos is awareness, and only through awareness we can have harmony.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Well said.

@sueemmel9109 Рік тому

This could well be the conversation of the century. Why do I say that? because the emphasis on the equality of women alone has left men out of the equation. Talking about the needs and rights of women without including the needs and rights of men is unequal. It takes two balanced wings to fly anywhere. Rarely do men open up to examine their reality, in public, for all to see and hear, with such clarity and vulnerability and fairness as this. These are the champions. This conversation is the forerunner of a new and better 9.0 society.

@lenavoyles526 Рік тому

If you enjoyed this inclusion of men’s vulnerabilities and needs you might also enjoy some of Warren Farrell’s work, for example, The Boy Crisis. Farrell actually started out as one of the first outspoken male feminists before turning his attention to men’s needs.

@stephaniejones1316 Рік тому

Having a child with ADHD helped me become a more balanced person. I experienced trauma when I was young but was not able to process it. I was very angry as a young mother. I have had to apologize to my children now that they are older. The damage is done. They carry trauma now too. I try to help them as best I can to share my conscious awareness journey. I pay for their counselling and any other thing they need. If I could go back I would not make them pay. I used my anger on them in a negative way. I work with people who seek to have emotional mastery. I loving helping people now. I thank my family for helping me to get to where I am today. I owe them my life. Love all.

@chocolateradiance7216 Рік тому

Same...I was a very angry young mother. My kid's paid the price and my son was very petrified of me. I wish ppl wouldn't have kid's until they are healed and happy..

@janicecass2713 5 місяців тому

I'm a woman from the UK, who had server early S.A. and other abuse. Can I say thank you, this is the best interview with Gabor Maté I've ever listened to. Sincerely thank you. Thank you Dr. Gabor Maté.

@WeAreManEnough 3 місяці тому

Thank you. Glad you're here with us. Sending love as you heal from that past.

@ManiMohanty Рік тому

I am crying so badly I have never thought about childhood trauma can be so scientifically proven Thankyou Dr. Gabor Mate for making me understand everything so beautifully your knowledge giving me goosebumps becoz we have never studied this in our education system ever. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thanks for joining us. Glad it resonated.

@leonhaiu9462 Рік тому

Gabor Maté is the Man! Lovingly Schooling them & exposes Jordan Petersen for who he truly is!

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Glad you appreciated this one.

@energybengt 9 місяців тому

Depression is hiding emotions that are not acceptable or receivable by parents, and turning these inward. I'm so grateful to have this person's studies available to reflect and consider and help to tease apart the inauthenticity that has flavored my person identity. I guess the time is right for this to inform and integrate. Thank you for all who contribute to this sea of awareness we are.

@keithwilliams7722 3 місяці тому

This literally has been an answered prayer. I have been watching several Gabor Mate videos lately and have been uncovering my own extensive trauma because of it. As a Baha'i I was questioning how much to dig versus just living the life. I so appreciate the last words. Songs that magically came over the gym speakers over the last few days have been Refugee by Tom Petty and Don't Stop by Fleetwood Mac which kind of sums up Gabor's last words in this interview.

@jolene8497 Рік тому

I would love to see a debate between Gabor Maté and Jordan Peterson!

@create2liberate Рік тому

This is everything. Dr. Mate is one of the most important voices of our time.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

We agree!

@hopenkwelle8874 Рік тому

Never have I listened to GM, MD and not learned something new new. You are one of the reasons I still hold my dream to be an MD regardless of where I am right now. Thanks again! With your tools, I hope I make a good father of May to make this world a better place fr fr. Arigato!

@johnlester4987 Рік тому

I'm subscribing. I found you all via Dr. Mate. You all give a great gift to the world and thank you. I'm feeling slightly anxious right now because of discovering Dr. Mate and your podcast relatively late in life (52) and feel that I have so much work to do to become a healthy functioning human and dad. Still. Thank you so much for being you, and for creating this podcast.

@krispate1558 Рік тому

It is usually in midlife that you wake up to this inner work. Some call it a midlife crisis. You are right on track. Your life experiences for 52 years is the only way you can now relate to these idea here. You are right where you are supposed to be. You are not behind schedule. Healing love to you!

@johnlester4987 Рік тому

@@krispate1558 Thank you for the insight and encouragement, Kris. Yes, I've thought a lot about the term "mid-life crisis" and what it means for people.

@joesyogafitness6085 10 місяців тому

Every effort is gold. Without new thoughts no growth. Being listened to is the beginning of healing, taking turns is priceless. Everyone needs to be heard in order to heal. No feelings no healing, it’s as simple as that.

@thecatsbackyard4833 Рік тому

I wish I woulda found this guy sooner. I wish more people could benefit from him and a psychotherapist assisted psychedelic experience.

@savvybytes3748 Рік тому

Old saying… When the student is ready the teacher will appear. 🙏

@daniel51020 10 місяців тому

Gabor Mate is not just intelligent and caring, he has that rare -- and much needed -- combination of compassion, practical understanding and wisdom. He is brilliant -- and well worth listening to and learning from!

@irenewallis5805 Рік тому

So unbelievably on point...I listen, I absorb and I cry...Thank you Gabor! An incredibly authentic depiction on not only our culture, behaviour, disease and addiction. Thank you!

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thanks for sharing. He is quite incredible, isn't he?

@saa9099 Рік тому

@@WeAreManEnough thanks for having Gabor on. I wish I had heard him speak a decade ago. He is on point. Maybe it's not too late to know his wisdom.

@dalialovesdoggies4361 Рік тому

@@WeAreManEnough normal human being. LOVE

@108things8 Рік тому

I wrote in my thesis a small piece about our history so we can remember that we are afraid of the feminine- terrified- 1 million and more burned for claiming their autonomy. Thank you Gabor, blessings.

@Skeptimystic Рік тому

You may be interested in the book by the late Leonard Shlain, titled “The Alphabet Versus The Goddess.” In it, he discusses the left and right brain values, just as Dr Maté describes, and how over-emphasized the left brain’s qualities have been for centuries, and the damage that has been done as a result.

@onlycorner5565 Рік тому

ukposts.info/have/v-deo/mZheoJqKrnxmyZs.html

@janetdiaz8916 9 місяців тому

I heard a Christian man say something admirable a few years back. He said that he puts his wife (stay at home) in charge of the household. She understands better the children, schedules, room layout and household needs, and so forth. He works his schedule around the family as best he can. He even puts her in charge of picking a hotel room when they travel, she has a knack for picking the best facing room and amenities. He says he does not have that skill. He still has a large list of responsibilities himself. But for those who do things differently, they should trust each other to do what they are best at in their home. But no matter what, I believe the man must love his wife. That is first on the list for a harmonious home. No matter how much a woman tries to do her part, it will be chaotic and a heavy weight without love from her husband.

@Georgiana400k Рік тому

This man is such a kind soul, Im so happy I dont have words

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

We agree!

@Lassemiste Рік тому

I’m thrilled to see Dr. Gabor Maté here! Thank you for inviting him!

@sunnylove3521 Рік тому

Thank you sooo much. Love Dr Gabor and love you 3 for inviting him. I am a 70 yrs old female and I am so pleased with this knowledge🙏🏽👋🏾❤

@jessicali2082 4 місяці тому

I’ve been following both Jordan Peterson and Gabor Mate. It’s been weird every time after watching Peterson, I became more angry. While with Mate, it’s peaceful and I see compassion with me.

@prairiecherie5743 Рік тому

I am so relieved someone has finally described Peterson accurately. I’ve been saying he’s an angry man wanting revenge on liberals. He’s cultivating thousands of men.

@dalialovesdoggies4361 Рік тому

And very sore

@sunnygirl9691 Рік тому

One problem with opening up everyone to vulnerability with emotions/feelings as an operating system for society is the majority of people don't have a good "healthy" internal structure in place due to growing up IN the toxic families/culture/world. Their structure is defective. Immaturity, violence, and predatory behaviors all evolve out of "feelings" just like compassion, kindness, and harmony. We have to be careful of how we educate people about "feelings" and how to uncover a deeper truth of self.

@alixptn Рік тому

Totally. You can hear the hurt little boy in Petterson’s voice every time he speaks.

@dalialovesdoggies4361 Рік тому

Who is Patterson

@arturohull14161 11 місяців тому

I’m gonna buy all of Dr. Maté’s books. I’m starting on my healing journey. I grew up in a dysfunctional family. I survived a hazing incident, multiple assaults, psychological abuse, and brown bear attacks among other things. I’m starting my healing journey and I’m ready to heal.

@lizobasuke8765 6 місяців тому

That is one conversation that I have wanted to hear for years, Gabor Mate and Jordon Peterson, I think its very interesting that it still hasn't happened?

@maddie9185 Рік тому

Wow! “If you suppress your emotions you suppress your immune system “

@tamaragraham6859 Рік тому

I'm listening through this podcast a second time. And I'm getting more out of it than I did the first. My son turns 18 tomorrow and I want to say that raising him to be a man in touch with his vulnerability and his emotions and not being afraid of them, Is changing the entire dynamic within my family. I love the part where Dr Mate talks about talking to veterans. My dad was a Vietnam vetl and was raised to be a very toxic male to begin with, going to war and suffering from PTSD and not healing from it was incredibly traumatizing for my entire family. The toxic traits of what your value as a human is was instilled In myself and my siblings. I've spent my entire adulthood, I am now 52, working to overcome this because I know it is not the way that I am supposed to naturally be. And even trying to have the conversations with my brother who is 47 regarding his own toxic masculinity has been a challenge. He tries to treat my son the way that society treats men and I don't have it and neither does my son. And it's a source of contention for us. And I point out to my brother that the loving nurturing parts of him were given to him by the females in the family - his mother and sisters - and that's who he naturally is as a person. You can't control. You have to let people make their decisions for themselves and you have to raise children to be in touch with who they are as humans and not try to suppress any of it. It has been life-changing for myself and it is giving my son a true chance at being an incredible human being. His empathy and compassion for others is amazing and it is evidence for me that though this was difficult work to raise him this way in the society that we have, it was all worth it. ❤️

@btashinga.m 5 місяців тому

Dr. Gabor Mate is phenomenal.

@magiao880 11 місяців тому

Thank God he exists and talks!

@michellembarre5032 Рік тому

I wish I would have known him throughout my Social Work Masters and clinical. I was on his track and couldn't fake the hurt we are causing people in need. And we call ourselves social workers. we are social workers upholding the mainstream...Patriarchy

@MarkShepherd1 Рік тому

Amazing opening about understanding WHO is asking "Am I enough" and how this so called feeling is actually just another evaluation.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Yeah, that was a really interesting angle. Love how the conversation keeps expanding.

@MarkShepherd1 Рік тому

This guy is such a good listener.

@joshuawest3257 Рік тому

Dr. Gabor Mate's quoting David Foster Wallace: Priceless! 😏

@iincredibledible Рік тому

I was so proud to be a mother who didnt work. I did work, I worked with my children on a farm. I also brought my child up in the traveller community, where the whole community would look after the children. There was a massive amount of trauma because of how the system fought to dismantle our culture, and we were all traumatised from our own childhood, so our children didnt grew up perfect. But we fought for their rights to a happy childhood.

@ennybm Рік тому

Maté preaches harmony. Peterson actualises harmony. Both have their purpose. Standing on the sideline and judging, will grant a 'I didn't do anything shield'. But at the same time you just stood at the sideline.. Many people who gather behind Peterson, would not ever consider Gabor Maté's words 10years ago. Esp so if you have experienced a cold and hard 'manly' world all your life. Eg Go talk to some workers in the metal industry. Thankfully, Peterson is closing that bridge and allowing those men to get a glimpse of vulnerability and to allow their emotions. Gabor preaches the end goal, Peterson is working his way towards it. Seeing such a great voice oppose another, with the same goal, is disheartening. But if the internet needs a dichotomy, it shall be so. Great talk by Gabor regardless.

@simonwatmough8305 9 місяців тому

Obviously I have known about you guys before today but this is the first episode of your podcast I have ever come across. This podcast is amazing and Gabor's wisdom is incredible. Thank you so much

@Grandpa_Boxer Рік тому

Dr. Mate is a "gift" to humanity!!!

@careydixon8189 4 місяці тому

Thanks Gabor as academia & a human man, for setting the ideas of Peterson, straighter. I said in decent ways similiar remarks & was sanctioned for them! He an angry dude! Thanks again!

@bluesaildoc Рік тому

I just finished your book Dr. Mate, as a Pediatric Trauma Physician with over 35 years of experience working in the trenches caring for children with physical, sexual or emotional abuse AND now a Conscious Parenting Coach I have to say I agree with 95% of what you teach. Super glad you are calling Jordan Peterson out. Would love to discuss what I don’t agree with you about but I think the woman in this interview hit upon it. 🙏 for your work

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thank you for sharing and joining us.

@ellarach Рік тому

You are a blessing to all human kind. I’m absolutely inspired by your beautiful humility. Thank you.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

We agree!

@michaelclark2357 Рік тому

at 73 I was lucky enough to have a great aunt with my father and mother a R.N. my Godmother who would always tell me come and stay here when your mother loses it anxiety disorder, she had mitral stenosis

@emmaG0 2 місяці тому

This is my first listen to Gabor Maté (haven’t read anything either), I found it incredible, so beautiful and connecting and true and real. Thank you so much. Wow.

@sharonblair907 8 місяців тому

You all did a great job. Gabor is brilliant and you all are very brave.

@levib4149 Рік тому

Gabor Mate is a life saver. I really dig what you guys are striving to accomplish on this channel. Thank you!

@angiekitson-harris4257 5 місяців тому

I could.listen to Gabor all.day long, so full of wisdom and common sense. Brilliant human being. ❤

@divinaflamingarrow9556 Рік тому

Thank you again Gabor 💓! So much of what your share and teach rings true for me and many others who never express 1 % of what childhood trauma has brought and continues to wound in day to living.

@margaretmulligan1393 Рік тому

Gabor Maté IS a tuning fork - bringing us all together like some great orchestra! JP on the other hand... a gavel.

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Love that simile! He truly aims to create harmony.

@beautifultrauma3148 Рік тому

Brilliant talk. Would listen to Gabor Maté all day. Going to get some books very soon. Thank you guys ❤️ Tuned in from Limerick, Ireland 💚 🇮🇪☘️😁👌

@theracounsel5042 5 місяців тому

So grateful for this interview 😊

@MonkeyDIvan 6 місяців тому

Dr. Maté is a treasure.

@temitopeoluwadunsin2019 Рік тому

Humanity needs more of this

@FryNeedsCalm Рік тому

Thank you for this channel. As a woman I’m so glad to see channel and discussions like this. I’ll be watching ❤

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thank you! So glad you've joined us.

@barbaravalente5182 Рік тому

Thank you from my heart for this amazing interview. I love Gabor Maté for his humanity and his wholeness.

@AntoinetteMPetty 11 місяців тому

Thank you, Man Enough Podcast, for having Mr. Mate's on the show. Amazing 👏🏿 ❤💐💐💐💐

@captkimmy Рік тому

Thank u guys! This is so sad how our society is hurting! Love me some Gabor

@lisamarron7590 Рік тому

I’m so grateful that you had him on your show! For me, “When the body says No” has been one of the most influential books in my life and I couldn’t wait for his new book to come out. I’ve listened to this episode over a couple of lunch breaks now, because I had to stop it so many times to take notes. Every line he says is just so impactful. I got even more excited when he started talking about Bessel van der Kolk and Bruce Perry, my other two favourite authors and psychiatrists! I can’t say how much it meant to me that he was promoting their work as well. I wish I could meet all of them. Maybe they could be on the show too? 😊

@stevem1789 11 місяців тому

Completely agree! Thank you Gabor for all you have done and continue to do.

@Andre_Ons_Marshall 8 місяців тому

He’s right about who becomes chronically ill. As someone who has multiple chronic illnesses and cancer I can tick all those boxes.

@karenloveland1428 Рік тому

Every time I think I’ve heard everything he has to say there’s something new!

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Endless fountain of wisdom.

@christiorca4432 Рік тому

Thank ypu Gabor, we all are so blessed to hear your healing words.

@sayteekay Рік тому

Another wonderful interview with Dr. Gabor Maté. How I appreciate his wisdom and spirit.💖💖

@breathe.move.perform.health Рік тому

Thank you for sharing Dr. Mate's work and your distinct ways you asked him questions and insights. Best to you all.

@Louismangion Рік тому

A - Mazing ... Literally BLOW MY MIND This Guy. I am SO Grateful to have stumbled onto this Podcast 🙏 THANKYOU

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

We're so grateful you stumbled on us too! Welcome.

@sabrinaasgarkhan Рік тому

This was amazing. Thank you so much for all the work you do. This was absolutely wonderful

@WeAreManEnough Рік тому

Thank you! So glad you're here with us.

@macronomicus Рік тому

Great conversation, I've long appreciated Gabor Mate, he's brilliant & so giving. I also enjoyed your show format, you all have wonderful energy & insightful remarks, followed!

@janetadams3467 Рік тому

I've learnt so much.. Thank you for asking great questions, sharing your stories a bit and for Gabor's answers. One of the best podcasts... Remarkable insights and so helpful.

@alcirahernandez3351 Рік тому

Thank you very much for this interview, Dr Gabor Mate you are a gift for humanity,❤❤

@flyingmm7804 Рік тому

Thank God for Gabor. A wisdom and compassion so needed.🥲

@Simon_Hawkshaw 11 місяців тому

Thank you all so very much for this amazing discussion and sharing this with us all. Dr. Mate is an amazing human being and I still have so much to learn and heal.