So true. Stay blessed, brother.

Yes! You are correct! Catholic Tradigal ✝❤

Coercive control is legal in the US and encouraged in the south. I thought if you are a harm to yourself or others, you need to be institutionalized. BTW, narcs seem not only mentally but soul challenged as well.

Do you believe in God? Anyone who keeps saying the word demon

Demonic is true. The last time the narcissist emotionally eviscerated me, he sounded like a demon from the pit of hell. That was it. Haven't dealt with the demon since.

Same here

That... is...... 100% true...

Yep I had heart attack, narc wouldn't stop word salad!! Then shingles. Evil to their core

How does a child “block” a parent who is doing this to them?

How old is the child may I ask?

I had a similar experience: I was crying because I just found out my husband had cheated all throughout our marriage....he was apologizing and offered to cuddle me when I saw in the reflection of the window that he was showing his middle finger. I think cruel, cold hearted narcissist like him are actually psychopaths.

i think its them taking pride that someone needs them so desperately like that. it's almost like they're a new born baby crying for mom but mom wasn't there. they reduce you immobile like a baby and take pleasure in the fact that someone could need them as bad as they need someone. i think they there's an important aspect there of them needing you to be completely immobile. completely overwhelmed. she was so cruel. i begged her to stop

The smirk yes I remember it, I was trying to go past him but had a bad feeling and became afraid, as you do when he had violently attacked me on numerous times. His latest was to push me to the floor while he ranted over me, I would be terrified because he had previously put the boot into me. That smirk made me take the kids and leave.

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@@kitkat186 Thank Goodness you took your children to safety and got away. I didn't.. Your kids will hate you if you stay and keep them in Hell. They suffer so.bad. Both my boys.. omg.. I can't begin.. Don't go back, don't go back, don't ever, ever, ever even LOOK BACK GOOD FOR YOU!!! I'M SO GRATEFUL 🙏

Neither are you if you're with them. Plain and simple

​@@chayo4537You sound like one.

So true...I was raised a foster child. My foster parents were evil. Not just to me but their farm animals. But trying very hard to break me; they did not successful. It's why I'm a proud loner. Thank you for your comment 🪶

@@janicedeeter577 Bless you, Janice.

@@gloriacoleman7012 My goodness, did not expect a kind response. Your words are indeed the Truth. Thank you from my heart! I fear you always suffered childhood trama. All we true empaths can do is stay true to light and kindness; no matter what the World throws at us. Please stay strong, and give encourage to those not so strong. Gloria, you are a Shining light in my world🪶🌟

A lot of them are with narcs tho. So same shit end of the stick

Pray for all the foster kids daily please.That God will help and lead them.❤

You've been there done that got the t-shirt and you still don't know anything. Youre loitering around for answers. Just cause you were 'up close and personal' a.k.a making the choice to be in a relationship and be intimate (if thats what you wanna call it) doesn't mean you know anything. It just means you're emotionally damaged and a lost cause. Knowing more doesn't mean knowing better

Statistically speaking, I think we have all experienced one with or without realizing it.

@@chayo4537Knowing more IS a step Towards Doing Better!

Hope they never do!!! Amen

​@@christinebuckingham8369 I think he's a narc visitor, don't you?

haha...yep.

Whoa!

Brilliant

Thus the plethora of "sob stories" and "woe is me" happening in the comments sections of these videos (a form of narcissistic supply). Narcissists are so utterly oblivious to their own narcissism that they _honestly believe_ they're victims of narcissistic abuse and will proceed to point the finger at others, calling them "narcissists" or "toxic" etc., as part of a smear campaign against a family member or ex. To the narcissist: even negative attention is attention and getting "likes" and sympathy (even online) feels good to them. ...that's why predatory narcissists love playing victim in these communities lol

Too bad for them, I will keep shining even brighter.

This is soooooo terrible!! Just wicked and evil. My recent ex was I believe doing this to me and making me totally frustrated for no reason.

@@adinevanhulst Hi, yes frustration is the feeling most Survivor's would describe when they have had a narcissist in their life. The narcissist's negative energy can bring even the strongest of men down to their knees. Very sad.🕊

@@steadypace1262 yeah everything said is like just yeah. unfathomable. to even try to get a grasp of what just happened here wait. what was that for? (kind of thing.) it catches you off your guard but smacks you hard across your face almost.

@@Jay-xx5pg Yes the narcissist gets excited when they see your shocked reaction to the crazy things they do and say. The covert Jekyll and Hyde types play mind games on you all the time, horrible people they are.

My narc husband told me I should cry more (this when I was crying about something he had said.) It is very rare for me to cry and he felt like he had hit the jackpot by getting me to cry. I think he enjoyed that more than sex. So glad I divorced him.

… to them.

does this include slandering one’s name to make the person whom he/ she is not?

@@mandycote5662 It did for me. False accusations were a trigger for me, and she knew it. So, going to our church to keep me from teaching an adult Sunday School class was a way to chip at something that I was good at (and the church desperately needed) and enjoyed. All she needed were baseless accusations toward me.

Aaron Then I’d have to state They had NO spiritual discernment to hear to see the difference What’s interesting about this the Kingdom of God demands it the term Church is who we are NOT where one goes to Holy Spirit being the Witness This sounds like a favor Tells you what they are not up to Growing UP! in the Spirit Ephesians 4 So much the More! could be said on that Thank you for a quick response though I certainly didn’t expect it All these faces of narcissism need to be separated Looks like I have a few type of them I need to discover the distinguishing of them Oh boy! God is good STILL Helping us through This treacherous road one walks in this temporary life 🎶Hallelujah!🎵 And thank you for your encouragement Your response did that YUP! ♥️

@@mandycote5662 I’d agree she had them (and not the building) buffaloed. So when our marriage ended, they kinda pushed me out to keep her. She wasn’t one to attend, give, or serve anyway. {shrugs} As it turned out, I ended up going to a great one (community), one I’d never have found otherwise. I the end, I won, my new church won, but she and my old church lost. I call that the price of discernment.

They are sick

And watching the ex narcissist's relatives accept their hateful behavior, because they are "blood". What a sick way to perpetuate this ongoing sickness.

OK absolutely, even laughing at my emotional agony, crying, and disbelief of the sick cruelty from someone I was married to. A broken promise on purpose, that was so cruel. and never sorry for. Yes twisted, emotionally. And many times, but a few that were the worst, and yes the horrific smile. Even me begging stop. Sadistic. If I argue, or call him some name, argue, call him abuser, I am actually called sadistic. 45 yrs of marriage and was he always this way inside? Sickening. 20 Years that I know of, impossible to believe, I didn't have a CLUE, what did he say just weeks ago, (about a women) "Oh get over it, it was "JUST LIES" omg, Im losing it.

@@gogi682 That sadistic smile, yes, I know that one well. When I told him that I would put a bullet to my own head, before I would waste another day with him. He dawned that evil smile, as he looked as though he had just had a revelation, when he said "Oh, that reminds me that I should move the gun somewhere else!" I just stood there, frozen in horror.

Narcissistic abuse = Nazi abuse

Like a Hegelian dialect playing out in a personal relationship.

Devastating

And they even worst part is, they know how they treat you, they just don't care. That's why going no-contact is the best option.

@@iononcantomascrivo yes

It's a hard pill to swallow

What's worse is the narcissist parent will demonize their children to unaware outsiders when the children mature and go "no contact" for their own protection and space for healing. The word evil doesn't do it justice.

What's crazy is learning about how demons operate and then you realize your dad does the same things, minus the supernatural powers such as shapeshifting and walking through walls. Satan means "adversary" and "the accuser". Demons like to torment, spread lies, and stir up trouble against you. They hate joy but love pain and misery. Now I see why my dad prided himself in being "the Devil's Advocate" and his favorite song is "Sympathy for the Devil".

@@dakoderii4221 What would you think if you met a person who spreads lies, stirs trouble against a particular person, and seems to enjoy tormenting that person? I saw my mother in law go from one person, to another, to another with this routine, then she landed on me. I have learned enough to recognize she is a narcissist, but it never crossed my mind that she would be a sadist. I don't know why I didn't realize that if she kept doing this thing over and over, that she was actually enjoying it!

@@dakoderii4221 my narcissistic mother accused me of being possessed by a demon when I first started putting down boundaries. After one particular argument of her trying to accuse me, I told her "you're the one acting like a demon" and she looked shocked and scared as if I discovered her secret. I was really surprised by that strong response. I don't think she's actually possessed. But projection is a confession. She was projecting her own belief that she is possessed by a demon onto me. Which makes you think... how sadistic and deliberate are they in their own thoughts? If they fear they are being possessed? I've seen both my parents show zero remorse or empathy after knowingly pushing one of their kids into a suicide attempt. That has to be sadistic. And they would do it again and again, no matter how what anyone says.

You just described my father

That's usually the case. They won't meet any of your expectations, love being the most important. The pain becomes lessoned with time. Just have no regrets concerning your own behavior. You'll heal quicker. ❤️

I know exactly what you mean. I really loved her too.

Same

Yep, she sure did work hard to try and make us 'unlove' her. Not sure one can, but one has to walk

That’s why you stayed, LOVE is a very powerful emotion Just be happy that you experienced BEING IN LOVE Lots of people ever get to have that in their life

🙌🔥🙌 truth! You can’t unsee the abyss in the eyes or unhear that ghastly laugh. It’s like a hyena.

Yes, that is my mother too. I caught on to it as a teen, and called her out many times in all the years since. That will send her into a rage, screaming how dare I say that! A smirk almost always accompanied her saying something that hurt like a dagger, sometimes it was even a full-on smile. You can see the beam in their eyes like a child that's opening a present. I've caught her laughing, to which she'll lie, deny, blame, of course. There's a German word for it, schadenfreude, meaning pleasure derived by someone from another person's misfortune. I always felt she was cruel, but once you see behind the mask all hope is gone.

I've lived 2500 miles away from my parents for two decades and I heard that weird NARC giggle from my 81-year-old mom a few days ago. (BUT I'M PRETTY MUCH DONE WITH THE SIBLINGS OR VICE VERSA AND THERE'S NOT MUCH MORE PAIN TO COME)

I am so sorry..and a mother, no less. I had a friend whose bfriend literally told me that he liked to see her ex squirm. Like it was nothing. What's wrong with these people? If we can imagine a world w/o such crazy games..I guess now to knock it back. Who knew people thrived on such ugliness?

I now know what that narcissistic smirk is bc I saw it on my Mom when she was watching TV on the couch. When I walked in on her, that smirk was wiped off in embarrassment bc she thought she was alone. Idk if GOD wanted me to see that, to reveal things about her or not. But, I can't forget it now. No one would believe me if I told them. Recently, she got over the top mad at me for no reason and it was toxic energy. I know now to leave as soon as possible.

Exactly!

Marie Rose I'm really glad you mentioned this because I've noticed the laughing with many people, including counsellors etc, over the years and it has become a big red flag for me as well! It's totally inappropriate and I even talked about it to counsellors in the past, who explained that it's due to them being uncomfortable with what I'm saying, which I don't agree with since it's more like their lack of empathy showing. 🙁

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@@cyndigooch1162 Yes. It is quite shocking, at times. It takes you aback! In the past, having the defence mechanism of self denial and repressing my feelings, I would let such behaviour go ... but now I try to be conscious and not practice self- forgetting.

You're spot on.

I wonder if dark humor is a way of hiding sadistic tendencies.

My last ex narc would laugh at violent scenes in movies, where people were getting annihilated, like it was the highlight. It was a disturbing thing to witness in another human.

@@SteeleMagnolia It's good you are able to see that in people.

Thank you for your observation. I have serious trust issues but will remember this when I am getting to know someone. Maybe this will be one indicator to help to know who is deserving of being trusted.

That is an astute observation . Sadistic narcissistic love misery, causing it not living in it.

YES! And I pay attention to what they lie about.

Well, it's not funny!!

Good for you! Left my ex over 2 years ago. It's trauma, no doubt, but life is good again. (No Contact enforced by a permanent restraining order.)

The same thing happened with me. My sister was even worse than my husband.

That's wonderful. Thank you for your testimony.

Good for you ! If you can remove yourself from a toxic situation because they do not understand boundaries....good for you !

You go girl!....NEVER go back!

We choose within our free will to hurt others or not.

Totally agree

So agree!

Congrats on BEING the Warrior!!! I'm in the thick of the near ending. Court in 2 days for D/V charges. Not sure of the status of divorce. I feel like a rattlesnake scaring people off with his butting into my business affairs involving the home I live in. So much, the plumber walked away, he knows his lies from the past are piling up, and he can't hide his face any longer. Now that the gloves are off, not sure WHAT is next. Not loving my level of stress.

The mask is never permanent. They’ve been manipulating the whole time

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You're very welcome, Michela.

@@muffy6774 The worst is when they call you controlling or narcissistic as soon as you try to set a single boundary. It's genuinely hard not to shut down sometimes. It's the only thing that gets you through them raging at you because how can you let yourself feel when they'll use that against you too?

They don't care about others pain because they're in pain.

​@@MichelaSave yourself.

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We were always the ones who did something wrong.

I grew up with this kind of sadistic narcissists. With my mother's family it seemed genetic. I was the black sheep too. For me it has been life long endeavor to be a healthy, caring, stable person.

My dad a malignant narcissist, my mom a victim or maybe covert narcissist please know you’re not alone

Yup!!!

Because even the truth , the trips, the smiling children,, the family, is a lie.

@@eadler5929 Yup!! When you realize that you can never go back!!

Yes because they aren’t only grandiosely pleased with causing you pain, they delight in harming your sense of innocence or naivety, as it feeds the overall feeling of their all powerful dominance and desire to crush you completely, as well as their somewhat obtuse uncertainty that you may not be intelligent enough to fully appreciate or comprehend the genius of how evil or horrible their betrayal has been; they want to make sure you ‘ fully get it ‘ 🙄

It a red flag for a fight or flight

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I was in 46.5 years knowing there was something wrong with him but thought I could help him. He just got worse and now I’m free and feel blessed but will never forget what I had to go through all those years.

@@suecleveland3226 Love to you, sister.

@@suecleveland3226 Hugs and blessings on ya, Sue! Every morning I thank God for simple peace.

​@@suecleveland3226 I'm not sure there are many of us in this 4 decade club, 40 years of guessing, hoping, hurting, but still, something in US was so strong, we felt the need to fix their hurt despite suffering our own pain. Such a ridiculous scenario, the harder we tried to be what they actually needed but wouldn't even consider "the fault" could be theirs or even more mysterious, the fear of compromise they have. For ALL your efforts, the only transparency they have is the ability to look through you, never any eye contact. Then the more devious they become. Mine loves the silent treatment (worse thing ever for someone who thrives on intellectual conversation!) 18 months divorce because my finances were at a major change by turning 65. I couldn't turn in financial affidavit without the updated amount I finally received on FRIDAY! I can now move forward with the last leg of my divorce.

I was discarded around the exact time my mother died

@@halocheetah6029 I'm sorry to hear. That sound like a difficult time.

I will not go to "my" "mother"'s funeral. I know what she has been. I know what she has done.

So true. My ex deliberately sabotaged the feed rations for the dozen horses in my care, and when I objected, he grinned and said "See, I did it because I KNEW you would get upset and say something!!!" He knew they were on specific different feeds and sudden changes could be bad for them. But he got enormous pleasure out of my getting upset.

@@lynnebucher6537 Hi Lynne. I'm sorry to hear you and the horses went through that. 🩷 Siri

My father had a weird circle of acquaintances- they didn't socialise much but he would from time to time visit with people who he seemed to have nothing in common with. 40 years later I have realised that these men all liked young girls. It's like an unspoken thing they give off that draws them together.

Donna, that's awful. My dad was sadistic , really mean, and I married a guy even worse. But my dad helped me get away from that psychopath husband. Probably saved my life.

Same with my narc ex-husband and my mother. After I divorced him, they kept in contact without my knowledge so I don't know if mother was giving him any information about me. (and here I thought I was totally away from him). I reminded my mother he had punched me and she said SHE had nothing against him......

@@Chahlie omg, this was my 2nd husband, except he seemed to pick up on other sex addicts vibes, male and female.

@@l.5832 your mom sounds like she wasn't very supportive of you

they are no people, they are demons they only way is to defend and over come

Going thru this ...been 5 years ...i dont know what stops me from getting out ...on depression pills now .. please pray for me i get some sense and get out of this mess

​@@aishwaryaparthasarathy349A long time ago a councellor gave me a good strategy to Ieave a relationship. Ask them to leave you alone for two weeks. Either go and visut a friend, or ask him to do it, If tou can;t get away then pay for a holiday for him as a gift, He will LOVE that. Find a way. Give yourself sime time alone to see how it feels. You will probably feel immediate relief, While he is gone arrange ti get the helk out if there, Enlist friends to help you if you can find any one who will. Move Either that or change the locks. If 'you fear reprisal tell the police. Don;t be there e'when he gets home. Talk to him on the phone, Tell him you have decided that you don;t want the relationship anymore, Do ni'ot agree to get together and talk, Youvare too busyvfrom moving. Hard no. You don;t hsve time to talk anymote . Will call him later. Never csll him and block him from cslling you. He will think you are not serious, He will party for a week or two waitung fir you to calll him. In about a month the shut will hit the fan. He will call yoir friends and famuily to find you, Rhey won;t know because you won;t tell tgem Your cell will be private number so no one'will kniw it. Grieve the loss ( if you have any feelings left) Move on being careful and wiser. Better sooner than later, If you want him back he will come because you were the best thing that ever happened to him. It worked for me. Try it. You can akways go back if you decide yiu still want abuse in your life.🙋😥❤️

​@@aishwaryaparthasarathy349🗽🙏🍀🕊...get help quickly from a therapist knowing about this personality..a professional that will listen and advice you 💪💪💪

Thank God that you got away from your Monster ... I got away from mine in December of 1994.

Yes, it is. When we watched the series, "Inventing Anna," my narc husband couldn't stop laughing at all the people who were deceived by Anna Delvey, especially the woman who lost so much money and later sued her. He thought that was hilarious. I wasn't totally surprised at his reaction, but I was a little surprised at the complete lack of empathy. In other situations, he appears to have some, but after, I wonder if all his empathy is just a show.

Reading this jogged a memory I'd forgotten. Our power went out for a week one winter during a snow storm. A transformer had been blown. We could still use our gas logs for some heat so I removed the glass cover from the fireplace. I expressed concern about my granddaughter getting too close because my son in law had come to connect our generator. My husband just smirked and said if she fell in it would teach her a lesson. Sometimes you're so flabbergasted by what they say that you can't even reply.

@@Hatbox948 Damn that's really cruel thing to say

@@jelly.212 It was, wasn't it. The saddest part is he really meant it.

Wow😢

That's cold blooded.

@@SurvivingNarcissism That's just the tip of the iceberg. I'm no contact with him now!

@Amanda Liverpool - Those who share a bond of love with us know that we want to be there for them. I feel sure that your Mum felt your love, and carried it with her, even though you were prevented from being there physically. Love is more powerful than your step-father’s nasty little tricks, and transcends space and time. I believe you were there with her, after all. ❤🕊❤

@Amanda Liverpool - I know, firsthand, that the grief from that is hard to resolve, when you didn’t get to say goodbye. 😢

@@snowy4282 Thank-you. I absolutely believe that 🙏

Most of them are criminal. They are vey sick people, Not an ounce of love inside.

When I hear about MN , I know there is so much more than anyone will see, like those icebergs, so glad she can't hurt anyone again

This comment was sad. I wish you good vibes! I’m also a dancing farmer like your channel name😂 ❤ have a great day friend.

Yes it does hit hard. Then we learn that it is for the best that we get that person out of our lives.

@@denisguay4315 Amen to that . She def taught me a lot made me stronger from the experience. Much love !

@@ejp1925 The same for me. Virtual Hug.

it wasnt love, its an addiction, we want to prove we re lovable to someon who isnt capable of any love, just envy, sadism

For sure, watch your pets!

Yes, I have bad memories of trying to protect pet baby rabbits and ex preventing me from doing that, so they died. I made sure the next pet was a dog that could stand up for itself. The dog hated him. This is a terrible, terrible way to live and I'm so glad I was able to get away. The dog has had a long happy life!

@@kaymcintyre8013 so glad to hear you and the dog both escaped.

SO TRUE....

I'm shocked how alike all these people are

True!

so sorry

That's awful.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I had a similar experience. It was not our fault.

Hello, I am so sorry that you experienced this as an innocent. Blessings to you for telling your experience to our community. You are strong. ❤️

I'm so sorry, .... I lost vision permanently in one eye. I left after 29 yrs

My sister humiliated me beat me up physically on a regular basis in front of all the neiborhood kids no one stopped her I don’t know y n she continues to slander me to people in the congregation as well as our relatives I never fought back n never told my parents until I was 59 I’m now 61 n my mother actually questioned me if it was true n y didn’t she see all the times my sister beat the crap out of me n I said, u didn’t see it because you were always drunk

​@@louisahallman8304 How are you doing, I hope your healing with God's help. I know what it feels like to be slandered in the congregation, I'm experiencing that now, but relying on God to help me deal. Thanks for sharing, we're not alone😌

That’s cruel

You didn't deserve that. What an animal to treat someone like that. She needed a swift kick in the rear.

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To heall you have to cry. Get those 'painful emotions out if your system. Cry and cry snd cry. Until there are no more tears left to cry. Its painful but the only way toi shed the painful emotions. You will now be able to forget and move on. Don;t forget the crying will end and so will rhe pain. Its only hard while you are releasing those emotions. Start your grieving with a sad movie to get the tears flowing, It works to heal the pain.

I'm close to that and also haunted (but then it hasn't even been a year yet). How a woman can bring an innocent child into the world then completely focus on destroying it..... Because of what my sadistic, narc mother did I wasn't able to have children. I wouldn't have anyway. I had no healthy maternal model. But I've seen what my nars sociopath sister has done to her children. Another generation destroyed.

Indifference triggers them to start more drama…my experience.

Yes, wish them no harm If that’s who they are that’s their problem

True that

Yes, indifference often/usually provokes more drama from them. That has to factored in. And however they double-down, one has to be prepared for it and be totally indifferent to that as well. Up to a point. If the doubling down involves clear criminality then that’s where being indifferent is entirely the wrong strategy. Just my two cents, as someone with a vile streak of narcissistic misery for a next door neighbour.

And it's hard to get rid of them evan when you tell them i dont want to see you they still keep coming around.

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You have a bond & a family in other victims. We as victims need to organize support groups so we can support each other and be our own surrogate families. Especially holiday functions. I also want to create a nonprofit organization to help victims find safety, support, legal advice, education & access to resources. What do you think ?

"I miss the idea of a family"...yeah.

My N mother's parents were wonderful. Her siblings had no idea where it came from. Then, my son is a N, no idea where he got it from either (he did not spend much time with his grandmother). So not sure about nurture.

My mother would lock my sister and I (I was 3 and my sister 4 then) in the cellar with no lights, water dripping everywhere, but before she slammed the door, she'd say, "Don't let the rats eat ya!" And when I badly broke my wrist at 5, she said, "That's what you get!" I had fallen on it when I slipped on the ice. She refused to take me to the doctor. My aunt saved me three days later. And during those three days, my teenage brother would come up and grab my hand and shake it while I screamed (my mother was in the room). I had a fun childhood, lol, but I chose love. A few of my 6 siblings did not. We are not close.

We share the same exact story, with the narc mother. Why on Earth could a woman be so evil as to bring life into this world, for the sole purpose of inflicting harm on them? Because they feel "special" during the pregnancy, with the attention all on them. My mother felt special 6 times (my five siblings and I), and it seemed that her evil increased with each birth. So many times I had wished that I'd never been brought into this world. As an adult, and going no contact with her, I survived and thrived, despite her existence.

Mine too i dont call him dad i call him by he's first name now.

Same pal

Bless you...?

I'm in the same situation with mine for now

And which tribe owns the media, our financial system, and all institutions? Humanity better step up and confront the difficult truth before it's too late.

During the pandemic, I took a trip back to the 80's through tv shows. Displays of guns and shooting were very minimal. Many shows today are shoot em ups and we have become desensitized to violence and the suffering of others as a whole. I refuse watch any shows or movies like that. Quick story: About 10 years ago, my 92 yr old father went to the store. He tripped and fell at the door. He told me everyone just walked around him and nobody asked if he was ok or needed help. I think it disheartened him to see what the U.S. was turning into. He just didn't seem the same after that happened.

​@@Soothsayer937 I'm not the same either. I'm morslly disgusted with our sicuety. I''m so sorry your dad felt thst. It is truely horrendous behaviour.

Video games and porn too!!

The producers know that they can sell that. And it's as addictive as any drug.

True….!

I think many would love to drive you to end yourself.

Haven't you wasted eniough tine on them ? Why pray for the Devil ? God knows him.

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58 yo & living with a Sadistic Catholic mother WHOSE 84 and HEALTHY and I'm the PROBLEM ...

@@keithstewart7514 Are you going to inherit her house or anything?

It took me until adulthood to even know how to define what I had been going through. As a lifelong Christian I can say that as I prayed for guidance, God gave it. Some kind of an excellent journey from the darkness of obscurity to the light of understanding and strength. There are many hands involved in the pursuit of the frustration of the victims of society.

So true. Heartbreaking realization though 😢

I trained in High Andes Peruvian Medicine (shamanism) and learned about entity attachment, and I've dealt with narcissists in "demon mode" so I have to agree with you, at times it IS a different and demonic-feeling being in the body - you can feel it from 15 feet away, even not looking at them - the hairs on your neck stand up sensing a predator in the room. Then the level of malice is highly disturbing... it's a 'back out of the room slowly" moment just so you don't get raped or beaten. These entities aren't technically demons (those were all removed from the 3D level of earth a few summers back, by report), but they behave so demonically it's a very slight distinction to me. Usually the entities in the narcissists' biofields are actually viciously cruel dead folks - sometimes just mean as h---, but some also violent, stalkers and/or rapists, pedophiles and/or murderers who didn't go to the light when they passed. To stay alive energetically without a body, and refusing to turn to God, these nasty dead folks must glom onto someone's body, to feed on their life force energy by not just turning them darker in their thoughts and emotions but by inserting thoughts and provoking emotions to make them worse and worse so they hurt others. Occasionally they are beings from another dimension (people, PLEASE stop playing with Ouija boards, we have portals all over the place inviting in beings that shouldn't be here), but most are horrible dead folks. Like demons, they too feed on the pain energy of others, any kind of low vibe energy like pain or emotional pain, grief, rage, humiliation... it's because they are low vibe beings, they need low vibe food. They literally feed on fear, pain, suffering, rage, etc. of others, so they evoke it from people to feed. They seek to feed on loosh from the victim. (Loosh is what they call people's - or animals' - painful emotions that get emitted.) The mean person who gets the entity in their field doesn't often realize it, of course, because our culture doesn't recognize entities and because usually their third eye isn't open. We're also taught that all our thoughts and feelings originate with us, but many people have entities of one kind or another from lifetimes of pain. Some are about sadness and depression or hopelessness, for example. The delight of hurting someone, especially a child or disabled person, is absolutely "demonic," energetically speaking. Enjoying the pain and suffering of others is a key feature. That sadistic face reveals the glee the narcissists feel to cause pain even in their own kids, and it is more than a dropping of a mask - energetically you realize you're dealing with a much colder and more malice-filled being. That gloating look from causing you pain can never be unseen. Sometimes these entities take over a toxic person so completely the eyes will turn completely black. Then you really know you need to exit swiftly and permanently, and learn shamanic protection techniques (IMO). So no, you're not crazy. Certain medicine people (shamans) are trained in removing these entities, but if the host wants them there (enjoying the superiority and power trip illusion, for example), you can't force them out.

FaithHopeCharity, your mother may have unwittingly created your sadistic sister. Some kids will emulate and mirror a parent in an attempt to gain approval and avoid rejection. You kids who didn't got all the ill treatment.

No! ALWAYS defend! What is this stupid message? Why would you not defend yourself? They need to be put to their place unless they will not stop.

Looks like you're still in the web and you don't which way is right. Or you're out of web and you still don't know

You never come away unscathed...😢

The shocking thing to me was finding out, after all these 59 years, that narcissism was a "thing", and the torture I was subjected to by my mother, and then three ex husbands, was REAL. I've never felt so setup in my life, for more of the same treatment my own mother inflicted.

You never come away unscathed . Ever .

@@susanazinger2525 True. There is post traumatic growth. You'll be a stronger person. Everyone gets some adversity in life.

That's exactly what I'm talking about.

I dealt with a narcissist cousin all my life until the age of 30 when I started to study psychology. The final blow was when she wanted me visit her, but couldn't understand why my kids didn't want to go. When I explained, how they didn't want to visit because of how she treated us all the last time we did, she totally denied everything she did that was really abusive and nasty. She even went so far to call me a liar when I went back over the Insults and nasty behavior she did.

My wife has been acting this way for 4 months I thought It was strange to see her controlling a smile while I was describing me being upset. She got a charge from it. Weird

30% of the population has this disorder

Yikes!! My covert narc started testing the boundaries very slowly - starting with placing his hands around my throat during intimacy. No conversation beforehand about boundaries and whether I was comfortable with that, etc. I knew things were about to get pretty crazy, so I needed to get out - but wow, was that a shocker.

I too have wound up with similar types. After ending it mine would bring up I how I did such and such a thing that he was the one that wanted to do in the first place to make me feel shame about that. Total loser. It should be that simple if it walks like a duck...

@@kathk3203 or they just throw in your face, everything you've ever done wrong, to try to shame you.

Why would you even consider thinking about something that and participating. You're just as gross for doing it 🤮🚨

I so relate. All my siblings enable each other because that's what they learned is 'love' from our mom. As the scapegoat youngest of 5, I have become their enemy because I am a truth teller and have broken free from the sick codependency of our family.

Husband AND son....maybe that is something I should accept.😥 It's not just 1, it's both.

​@@lauriceday5976 How old is your son ? Husband and son is a hellish burden to bear . They gang up on you ...I hope you make the right decision for yourself .❤

@@susanazinger2525 My son was 25 when I left; he is now 31. I lost him to parental alienation 1 yr into the battle. My 25 yr old daughter is an off/on relationship. I'm tired. Rebuilding my finances at 60 needs constant miracles. There are good days and bad days. Your kind thoughts are comforting. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 😮‍💨

Listen to Dr. Craig Childress to understand why your children sided with your abuser. It’s never too late to recover your children.

Prayers for you. ❤

I got shingles from sadistic abuse too

My children told IRS that I illegally filed for tax benes while my eldest grandson was in my custody because the mother wanted to receive that tax benes to her advantage. The person that contacted me from IRS after making inquiry to validate the matters presented closed the conversation by saying that she was sorry that I had such ungrateful and malicious children that would attempt to do me harm without a cause. When I used the money to secure the residence that I currently occupy, they apologized. Since that time the oldest left six years ago while I was at school and has only returned twice since then. Her youngest son said that his mom said that I didn’t love them. I could only tell him that I have always and only loved them and will always love them and ask that he not forget this. I help the youngest with getting degrees and give job advisement that will not be accepted until someone else says it. Last Thursday night I was cursed out when the mask slipped. God The Bible says that in this later day children would be unmerciful, ungrateful and without the fear of God before their eyes. Thank you for sharing. It gave me solace to hear someone else talk about the unrequited love of a caring parent meeting the challenge of loving despite all. God bless you with a restored relationship with those that your arms long for.

​@@pepperjones7559 Why are your children so cold and malicious ? YOU raised them. I'm sure YOY had nothing to doi with it, They came out if your belly hating you right ? Its such a mystery. Believe me, your children were abandoned first.

This was my father - died young many years ago, my ex of 22 years and my older brother - now no contact I thank God that these men are no longer in my life and I’m now free from ongoing abuse, now just dealing with the trauma they all left

@@jennysims1910 I am very sorry. I understand the trauma. I still have it. Just had a nightmare on the ex last night. It is 12 years post divorce and my father died 4 years ago.

I love it - you had to laugh at that hornet's nest!

Exactly!

Like people in the comments talking about having bdsm nasty twisted encounters like it's nothing. That one

Violence is the way of the this universe, finding healthy consensual ways to express is not a red flag in my eyes

awe..that sucks....stay centered...and realize...people care about you..Gluck t

As soon as I see the term manic, has she been evaluated by a Dr? She could have bi-polar disorder. Narcs may not interact well with kids but don't usually neglect them because the public see the kids and that tarnishes their reputation if they are dirty and unkempt. Either way watch over the kids closely if this is how she is acting, she can't be depended on.

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@@joywebster2678 your assumption are correct I used the word manic for a reason. My kids are not unkept by here at all she’s is good with them “when she’s around”. The issue is she runs away from the responsibility every chance she gets. Claims she never gets a brake after coming back from a break. Bipolar 2 was the diagnosis after a suicide attempt then they flopped to PTSD., Then postpartum. Exploring every one these behaviors is how I found the narc videos. It’s the only one that has been verbatim the perfect explanation of my relationship, to the Tee.

No she's found her another TARGET to relieve her rage--- ONE of y'all's children. Wake up, get out with them, and sever ties . It NEVER ENDs!

Narcs are cold fish.

He knew you cared about him. You treated him right.