Simply and beautifully put … yes, exactly and more, to love ones self as beautifully human; profoundly, unconditionally loved.

And this is why contemporary women have ruined relationships....

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I couldn't have said it better myself! 👏👏👏

@ -- what are you talking about? How is that definition of self-esteem a bad thing, in any way?

Amazing

The main interviewer seems almost enamoured of her!

That's the style of this interviewer with eveyone

That lady has such an energy. You just can listen to her by leaning back and just listening. :)

I love when she was talking about her parents and give them as example how people should act to result a agrumet. I love when she she was honest and said the truth how her parents resolved their arguments.

Ooohh i love her too. I admire her. I love her work and the way she explains human behaviour. Relationship are a wise way to see how we are indeed. Our partners are able to show us as a mirror how we really are.

Tai Chi jjj

I've just discovered her, and this chat show. Wow. I can't believe this is a chat show on television. Such amazing conversation. So much wisdom from this woman.

Tai Chi I love your pic design and colour what does it say ?

Most of us are not LGBT though

Me too

sweetsalara I feel the same. Brilliant!

You are an angel!😊

Nice notetaking man

Vladimir Goodness Thanks Vlad

Nice recap. Thank you for sharing this summary

Farahnaaz Oemar Esther knows she only has 10 seconds of real attention 😄 I totally agree with you! She is absolutely amazing in how precise she is in her words!

you have good role models. bless your heart

We also cannot fix broken women. That is something they have to do for themselves.

Michael Jensen What did you mean with „broken woman“? Every woman has there story, exactly like men. I think you searching for a perfect one, with no argument and no reply. It’s better to buy an robot for your holy family life. Otherwise learn to accept others who they are and especially yourself with all your shadows!

@@stephaniedorst5233 no, many women are deeply broken by feminist ideology and debauchery life to the point they don't know how to be a strong feminine woman without trying to be masculine, and therefore dont know how to treat their men as it's supposed to be, western women in general are entitled, confrontational, insecure and miserables, they just do not worth the effort, there's way better women in eastern europe more capable and more feminine who know how to treat their men. Western women think that being told what's wrong with them by a man it's patriarchy

cardett75 Are you scared of strong women?

@@stephaniedorst5233 yes i'm scared of fake strong women, most women in the west are weak and miserable on the inside but act strong on the outside, which is pathetic, you can tell when a women is genuinely strong and authentic and it's pretty rare in the west

@ Rubbish. Homosexual relationships have existed for all time and continue to exist not only in humans but throughout the animal kingdom as well. They aren't SO infrequent that they are an anomaly. A variation, I'd say. In any case, Esther works with ALL kinds of couples. Gay, straight, even deals with familial relationships that have nothing to do with romance. You may want to drag your head out of the stone age and read up a bit.

@ Used this video to assist in my homosexual relationship, so I think that's about time to simply shut the fk up about things you've clearly no knowledge on :) xx

@ Laurica Andrian A peaceful place is a place where the woman knows her place . But you can tell this cunning female does not know it without a doubt.

@ u are 100% right!

@@simonearmstrong6126 why dont u shut up yourself i can bet u the straight people ,by enlarge, are'nt interested in ur so called "knowlegde" its also not suprising that you have or will have relationship problems because the marraige or family is'nt design for "man and man" or "woman and woman"

bodybalancer too bad

@@joeldwest I think bodybalancer is saying that this is the perception people have of man vs woman and not that they believe that themselves. The point is that this is what we women are always up against and there is a huge disparity there.

@velveteyes79 I'm going to disagree with you but to a point. I will disagree on generalities here. Part of the problem I have with your explanation is that you are just as conditioned by societal gender expectations. Women and girls may be allowed to express their emotions more freely. Men may be expected to repress. On that we agree. That comes down all the way from the antiquated idea about men and women having separate spheres. Men deal in public, while women deal with domestic. Provider vs nurturer. These are outdated roles, though. Furthermore, women have often been accused of being "hysterical" simply because they ARE able to express themselves more freely. Being passionate in a debate isn't the same as being hysterical. Men and women can definitely both crack and lose all reason....which is what hysterics mean....Hell, look no further than the White House if you want an example of that. Hah! My point is this....These differences have been modeled and cultivated to a point. Then there is the individual. No one fits into a box. We are dealing with stereotypes all around. So, I can't fully agree with your point, but only some of it.

@velveteyes79 I have disagreed with your words. They may be reality to you and that's fair enough but you cannot speak for men and women on the whole. I explained my position. Just because I disagree doesnt mean brushed your words aside. I challenged them. That's different.

@velveteyes79 Implicit in your statements earlier is that women are somehow inherently given to hysteria more than men. I disagree. Furthermore, there may be certain differences between the sexes but do not forget that gender is very much a social construct. What is feminizing or emasculating is entirely a matter of opinion. You are using societal ideals of womanhood and manhood as a litmus test for such things. See, that is where such an argument would be flawed. We'd do better to focus on an individual's strengths and weaknesses and cultivate a more balanced approach using these individual traits as guideposts. Not - a man is this. A woman is that. Everyone has their own emotional intelligence and requires fine tuning specific to their needs. That's important.

She makes some great points but then she contradicts herself by supporting behavior and attitudes which are incompatible with creating and maintaining healthy relationships. I find her to be devious and misleading.

You are right.

@@michaeljensen4650 Be specific. Tell us where she contradicts herself.

anders damin I agree, they are just waiting to ask the next question instead of listening and discussing her answers

Interviewers are working with time limits and the crew in their ear (literally) and a schedule of pre-written questions. They miss out on half the talk themselves because they're busy keeping to the schedule and trying to make good TV ... shouldn't interpret that as ego, it's their job.

YES. She's the Oprah of RELATIONSHIP!

I totally agree , so inspiring x x

that hit me differently

This made me teary eyed... well written. Thank you.

Sandra cristina lacoste interesting how poorly y'all listened. I found his comment very eye opening, and important. He stated the truth, he answered by stating I hear you, but can disagree with you, and understand everyone's reality is different. Look at least how he's reacting to the entire conversation as a whole before you make him out to be some sort of victim! Listen to the entire conversation!

Sandra You speak like a seamstress. Interesting because I was sewing by hand when I was listening to this. I use the same kind of analogies.

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Beautiful

Fundamental key groups of every problem in relationships: 1. Power & control 2. Closeness & care 3. Respect & recognition

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Kaloka gatija same here....i think we learn anyway

Lol that's the best time to learn this

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i fight with my doggie at times lol

Hehe ... same here! 😎

So true, she uses precise languaje.

She has a gorgeous smile.

@ AUk She has the beauty of the devil . The devil is like her , he dances around but never speaks the TRUTH .

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100%

Exactly. That is why we need to let the anger to pass and then try to continue the conversation.

It is true in a group dynamic as well: #metoo became toxic immediately, reaching its zenith (hopefully) with the Kavanaugh debacle. Other examples are polarization in politics; Leftism in education; victimhood culture (feminism, racism, intersectionality, critical theory, et al). Until these dynamics are addressed HONESTLY...we will remain stuck. If we remain stuck too long....God only knows the consequences, but they will be dire, no doubt.

You know what, Nichole? I always knew that was an effective way and always wondered why people (and when I say "people" I can't help thinking of men, but perhaps should include both) don't just do it! How come they don't feel/ think of this option. It's something instinctive to me.

@@cristinavillarino1718 the pain in some people’s childhoods can mean they need a lot of self-work beforehand. Love from another can help, but it requires a certain level of willingness to delve into the past to ascertain personal triggers. *(IMHO)*

But isnt she in a heterosexual relatiinship?

Jacob Tekhoa,Hi man

DarthYuYevon you do you. you can create the relationship (s) you want with like minded people. Just let it go man. Let yourself and others surrender to the love they want. As long as you're not hurting anyone and the relationship is healthy, mutual and reciprocal. for instance You can't assume that monogamy is best for everybody. Some people just can't do it. Or that homosexual relationships are wrong, defective or unnatural. Even other animals display homosexuality. Why are you denying reality that these people do exist? This woman is extremely helpful and truthful. She is simply speaking things you don't want to hear

Esther is profound and eye-opening. Narcissists are 1% of the population. yet what she says covers them too. for example: a. Power and control. b. Don't follow them if they go. c. Shame: I feel so bad about myself I don't want you to remind me of it.

@@ruthlfrancis Not sure nowadays narcissists are only 1% of the population, plus it requires empathy to be able to say sorry genuinely and be open to the needs of the other and of the relationship..Sincere Empathy is quite a thing narcissists lack of.

@@sylviamore1 The word Narcissist is used widely but the specifics of the diagnosis mean it's more narrow than many think. What I do find profound is Esters' ability to create rules that apply in all cases. Rules that apply whatever the %.

@@ruthlfrancis [EDIT; I wrote this before seeing your response to Sylvia- so never mind!😊] your comment is 3 years older than mine-so you may have already adjusted your perception of %population who are narcissistic; check out med-circle & other more recent shows… I totally agree with what you said. I know from past experience how difficult it is to stay in a relationship with a traumatized person who feels threatened while trying to maintain one’s own sense of worth. AND - your second statement: apply the rules irrespective of the %s. Reminding self for future!

Maritza Cardona Mejía same with my husband and I, married two years together six

Something wrong if isn’t argue in relationship...🤭😂 Well done

That's what I would want if I wanted to be in a relationship, that's souls in harmony. I believe some people are blessed souls who meet their other half and I am very happy to see people truly in love.

Today Training lmao bickering and fighting isn’t passion or love. It’s selfishness and not wanting to listen to the other person. It’s about what you did wrong and not me. She explained it perfectly how did it all go through your head?

Yes. This is resonating deeply with me.