Esther Perel: The Power of Relational Intelligence

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Lost at work? In this talk, Esther Perel dives into how relational intelligence can guide us toward well-being and success.
Esther Perel at CreativeMornings New York, November 2019. Free events like this one are hosted every month in dozens of cities. Discover hundreds of talks from the world's creative community at creativemornings.com/talks
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КОМЕНТАРІ: 153
@sarah-anneperry6932
@sarah-anneperry6932 4 роки тому
This woman has taught me more about human relationships than my Bachelor's degree in Psychology ever did.
@nomzalicious8075
@nomzalicious8075 4 роки тому
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Don't bother repaying that College loan then...🤯
@giannamancini7297
@giannamancini7297 4 роки тому
Same
@staceyshively4478
@staceyshively4478 4 роки тому
SHe's amazing!
@kaalmansur
@kaalmansur 3 роки тому
Your bachelor's in psy is also not meant for you to learn. It's meant for you to become a functioning cog.
@IdontspeakBro.
@IdontspeakBro. 3 роки тому
Last Christmas I gave u my Fart someone has been burned and hates the world.🤣
@gtrplaya1
@gtrplaya1 4 роки тому
"A criticism is (often) a veiled wish. Why not say the veiled wish?"
@marvelousmrsnunya
@marvelousmrsnunya 4 роки тому
I adore this woman's brain!
@indigoblue4791
@indigoblue4791 3 роки тому
Esther is so vital and her energy is so contagious!!!
@ThierryC2373
@ThierryC2373 4 роки тому
I loved the moment she caught everybody by asking "who is sending a check to the family"! That was such a cultural revelation moment.
@smurfiennes
@smurfiennes Рік тому
Indeed. It opened up my eyes, why we have such a different view of life. Eventhough my family and relatives are way better of than me, but at the back of my mind, I still feel responsible to ‘take care of them’, just in case.
@dericflairmultiverse4952
@dericflairmultiverse4952 3 роки тому
Esther Perel is to relationships what Steve Jobs is to technology
@milliejohnson-realtorandla1475
@milliejohnson-realtorandla1475 8 місяців тому
I found you by random search and I am so thankful.
@silenelandim8385
@silenelandim8385 Рік тому
This woman is amazing, I can just stay here and listen for hours. And let me tell you I will need to hear this more than once’s.
@nedsantos1415
@nedsantos1415 Рік тому
Thank you for this. Esther has been a blessing to those who take relationships seriously and seek answers to their challenges in their relationships.
@richardeliasjames5190
@richardeliasjames5190 2 роки тому
Relationships are harmony-disharmony-repair, connection-disconnection-reconnection. It's in the reconnection that the trust gets built. You have to have a rupture in order to actually build the trust.
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
And to find the Truth of the relationship, whatever it IS.
@storiesofblue
@storiesofblue 3 роки тому
If i ever go back to studying psychology, I want her for every class.
@dericflairmultiverse4952
@dericflairmultiverse4952 3 роки тому
no need you got youtube lol
@caribbeanqueen1389
@caribbeanqueen1389 2 роки тому
She said something really powerful. She said trust doesn't come from security, Trust is built in the reconnection after a riff
@sophiakh9590
@sophiakh9590 3 роки тому
This is why so many people are unhappy- the unrealistic expectations that people place on jobs and relationships to fulfill them and provide them with meaning. What we once got from a village/ faith, we're supposed to get from the aforementioned
@cerenyasar3914
@cerenyasar3914 3 роки тому
On top of her expertise I just LOVE her body language and accent! 😍😍
@user-to6mz8xb8g
@user-to6mz8xb8g 4 роки тому
always, always, always a pleasure to hear you speak, esther
@elmarehuman237
@elmarehuman237 3 роки тому
Gioo.ooò p
@lianaschill6132
@lianaschill6132 Рік тому
Esther Perel can articulate complex relationship dynamics well by recognizing patterns of behaviour and communication.
@lihlenyathi732
@lihlenyathi732 3 роки тому
She's right, I'm from South Africa 🇿🇦 and we work to feed not only our immediate families but also our extended families as well.
@grahambooth3225
@grahambooth3225 3 роки тому
In other places it takes a village is a saying in South Africa its common practice for a huge part of South Africa. I sometimes don't know how people manage it but they do and it's amazing the selfless sacrifices people make for others.
@Sam-tz8ou
@Sam-tz8ou Рік тому
Yes, but in western countries often children never meet their real fathers. Which is on the other side of extreme.
@sachin1407
@sachin1407 Рік тому
Same with us ..people from India..
@rhondawilson5234
@rhondawilson5234 2 роки тому
Very intelligent woman. I love listening to anything I can find online from her and listening not only to what she says but the accent is very beautiful. Listening to her seminars & watching her videos have been life changing on many levels. Thank you for all your hard work and for such accurate information. Your an amazing speaker and have helped me tremendously.
@sachin1407
@sachin1407 Рік тому
So right you are... 👍 She is amazing 👌👌👌
@TonettaClay
@TonettaClay 3 роки тому
Thank you for creating this video and providing this information. I just found your videos yesterday and am learning much as I'm in the Relationship Coaching world as well as being a social worker for the past 20 years.
@bluesee2018
@bluesee2018 Рік тому
This Lady is so amazing, I love her presentation, the way she talk, body language and confidence, plus she is able to convey the message.
@toreyhill2024
@toreyhill2024 4 роки тому
I always learn from her! Great information!
@fikminipes7433
@fikminipes7433 4 роки тому
Absolutely fabulous. For those interested in this topic I recommend Esther´s book The state of affairs - that will help you understand a lot.
@ashwhitehomebro
@ashwhitehomebro 11 місяців тому
Please keep her here with us for as long as possible . I happened upon her other video from a TED talk she gave. It gave a lot of clarity, and was absolutely engaging. There's a ton of reflection when I watch any of her videos. Beautiful work, and look forward to more of these lectures from her.
@leratomphaka3832
@leratomphaka3832 4 роки тому
What a powerful voice. Thank you Esther. I needed this
@smurfiennes
@smurfiennes Рік тому
Thank you Esther. I wish I’d have found you last week. What a difference of a couple of days could’ve made..
@monikajhunjhunwala1948
@monikajhunjhunwala1948 4 роки тому
I love her ... fan girl!
@TheSukanya1984
@TheSukanya1984 3 роки тому
I just LOVE this woman!!! She has gifted the world a whole new perspective on Relationship knowledge!
@lianaschill6132
@lianaschill6132 Рік тому
Thank you Esther for a relationship-vocabulary and relationship-truths that have been illusive to me until now. Fascinating and inspiring
@jiksoo-modernpsychic1861
@jiksoo-modernpsychic1861 4 роки тому
I was hinted a lot with your book for my life as a father and a husband. Fire needs air, desire needs space! and I just knew that your book, the state of affairs was translated and published in Dec. last year in Korea! I am gonna buy it though I read the book with Audible~
@4635683763
@4635683763 2 роки тому
She said "South Africa" and my attention was sealed in.
@audreyflett8719
@audreyflett8719 4 роки тому
Brilliant.
@user-yk9sk7pg6v
@user-yk9sk7pg6v 2 роки тому
She looks beautiful here.
@mariambreed6259
@mariambreed6259 3 роки тому
Bravo! Belle présentation et logique. Merci.
@victoriap2519
@victoriap2519 4 роки тому
These days it is not anymore a job interview, it is a personality interview while understanding nothing about their own personalities, and having no self- awareness, trying to go with the gut, when raised in environment which has nothing to do with development of the senses of the gut
@elmarehuman237
@elmarehuman237 3 роки тому
Jkĺiiiķ Jjkjjķ
@sweetthings11
@sweetthings11 3 роки тому
Wow this is so mind blowing what you've said here.. You must have been through some stuff to talk so deep.
@GoogleAccount00
@GoogleAccount00 2 роки тому
💯💯💯
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
Self awareness is rarely taught in childhood. Self discovery is required prior to the ability to function well in society, work and love. Generally speaking we find a door to self awareness through teachers like Ester Parel. She is the voice of profound experience and wisdom.
@victoriap2519
@victoriap2519 2 роки тому
@@kirstinstrand6292 i am sure it is not abt teaching self-awareness, but rather stop interfering in it and its development with the process called education and raising kids, kids are not a cattle to raise. Kids to my opinion are very self-aware, until the society starts telling them they are not and how things should be, playing morality
@DesireeHoorzuk
@DesireeHoorzuk 2 роки тому
Brilliant! Thank you.
@andrearenee7845
@andrearenee7845 Рік тому
Thank you so much for this.
@HalidaSarahShahed
@HalidaSarahShahed 2 роки тому
I love this woman 💟
@vivienrhodes4248
@vivienrhodes4248 3 роки тому
Revaluation of a relationship is ongoing
@laurorap9232
@laurorap9232 2 роки тому
She is amazing 😍
@gigglesnz9
@gigglesnz9 3 роки тому
Why Values are such a core component on what you build your foundation of intra and inter relationships with
@deboratavares5625
@deboratavares5625 2 роки тому
I love her!
@Si-cw3fo
@Si-cw3fo 2 роки тому
Masha Allah... great clinical reasoning
@kindalindaable
@kindalindaable 4 роки тому
Amazing.
@preciousngulube2685
@preciousngulube2685 Рік тому
Love love Ester thank you so much for insights
@geemail369
@geemail369 11 місяців тому
21:46 Utter gold! ✨🙏🏻
@deborahamanda3157
@deborahamanda3157 4 роки тому
I ALWAYS learn when listening to you Esther! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. 🙌🏻
@mariadelosrios9844
@mariadelosrios9844 4 роки тому
@Last Christmas I gave u my Fart for someone who seems very hostile towards this woman, why do you spend your time listening to her. Move on.
@mariadelosrios9844
@mariadelosrios9844 4 роки тому
@Last Christmas I gave u my Fart Well, I believe that is my desicion to make. Why would you be the expert on what's good for me or not?
@haddynough8402
@haddynough8402 3 роки тому
All men should be required to take a course on this, and emotional intelligence as well because most men are emotionally constipated it seems.
@vcash1112
@vcash1112 3 роки тому
👎🐛
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
More so than females, it seems. Yet, deep, open, honest communication is a challenge for everyone. Edit: yet, it's like any skill, it can be learned with practice. 🙂🤗
@JacyndaMinor
@JacyndaMinor 4 роки тому
Yessss go off, queen
@rociocoboperez329
@rociocoboperez329 3 роки тому
Waiting for a book about work relationships. Hope it will be her next book!
@dericflairmultiverse4952
@dericflairmultiverse4952 3 роки тому
she got a "How's Work" podcast I think
@angrysackmagic4633
@angrysackmagic4633 4 роки тому
I love this lady! Thank you : )
@SleeplessinOC
@SleeplessinOC 3 роки тому
Lover her necklace
@saradelgrosso975
@saradelgrosso975 3 роки тому
Great woman!
@ibrahimhamada5751
@ibrahimhamada5751 3 роки тому
And also attractive woman ❤️🌹😍
@mariamkinen8036
@mariamkinen8036 4 роки тому
Relational n emotional intelligence n innate skills are all one . That's how things work.
@Souldesouse
@Souldesouse Рік тому
Anyone noticed how chic her style is? In every appearance
@vivienrhodes4248
@vivienrhodes4248 3 роки тому
Re evaluating
@icracomprehensiveschool2153
@icracomprehensiveschool2153 4 роки тому
Therefore we need to speak more about complimentary sexes rather than opposite sexes . we were programmed to compete during industrialisation, now things have to rethink because we are technologically connected and need each other more while we are still stuck with industrialised competitive vocabulary Mogamat Faadiel Arnold ICRA Principal
@DonMaseven
@DonMaseven 2 місяці тому
Complementary Sexes. 💯
@flowerspititlakay6433
@flowerspititlakay6433 3 роки тому
OMG!!! What a brain...
@arianamoore23
@arianamoore23 3 роки тому
I would like to hear a conversation with Esther and Jordan Peterson😍 could you imagine!!!
@kaalmansur
@kaalmansur 3 роки тому
Not very fruitful I think. He is deterministic. She is progress oriented. Not so much to gain there I think.
@bearclaw5115
@bearclaw5115 3 роки тому
@@kaalmansur That's a good observation!
@Moonlight_Sonata19
@Moonlight_Sonata19 3 роки тому
I knowww!
@reahndaku2230
@reahndaku2230 3 роки тому
💥💥💥
@dhaliadestrange
@dhaliadestrange 3 роки тому
Why would we ever inflict that on her? 😆 No, we must protect this woman.
@vibhagurtu9632
@vibhagurtu9632 3 роки тому
Wow!
@psmylife6832
@psmylife6832 3 роки тому
Noooooo... I want to hear the Q&A session. Where can I find that?
@ashimasood7109
@ashimasood7109 3 роки тому
If anyone can answer my question . How do we balance the contrasting economies ?
@ushashibandyopadhyay9105
@ushashibandyopadhyay9105 2 роки тому
SHOT FR SURE.... 😊👍👌
@joanecinco57
@joanecinco57 2 роки тому
I hope to meet someday Esther!
@kathleensueoka3599
@kathleensueoka3599 8 місяців тому
I met her by accident in an airline lounge. Wow. I was so excited to speak with her during our layovers.
@Shark-Malark
@Shark-Malark 4 роки тому
. . .ugh, and now I have the unreasonable expectations that my family, relationships, and job will make me feel like Queen Esther does. . .
@starrynight67
@starrynight67 3 роки тому
God, I wish she comes to Dallas
@DeepConnectionswithAndee
@DeepConnectionswithAndee 2 роки тому
Yes I’m here too and would pay to see and hear her.
@mariamargaritis7743
@mariamargaritis7743 4 роки тому
12:43 👍
@missswann4234
@missswann4234 4 роки тому
Am wondering how long it will take me to be like this lady on the field of relship expert 😎
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
A lifetime; this is reality.
@viniciomattos
@viniciomattos 3 роки тому
Warning , if you want to protect your relationship, don’t watch this woman , you will fall in love with her , I warned you !!!
@seniorarubia
@seniorarubia 3 роки тому
Soulmate on an app 😂😅😂 these is a trip
@MarkDekkersLife
@MarkDekkersLife 2 роки тому
Yeah the soul doesn’t need an app 😅
@terec1111
@terec1111 Рік тому
❤ ❤❤❤❤❤
@hchafiih
@hchafiih 2 роки тому
0:23 is that Simon Sinek 😌
@jorutherford1632
@jorutherford1632 4 роки тому
Im in South Africa... it is very much the opposite what she described.
@grahambooth3225
@grahambooth3225 3 роки тому
At my work place there is a lady taking care of her brothers children and another lady who passed away and her kids are taken care of by the family. Less privileged parents and grandparents are taken care of by family. We are diverse you might experience it different than others and this is what she experienced, it's not a theory. Maybe I'm misinterpreting it completely?
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
@@grahambooth3225 Yes, life is complex, as are all relationships and intrafamily responsibilities. Some choose to participate, others disappear. Life's ongoing complexities are mind boggling!
@Sam-tz8ou
@Sam-tz8ou Рік тому
Haha yeah, I thought the same. Usually westerners think they are the only people with freedom.
@sophiakh9590
@sophiakh9590 3 роки тому
I often wonder
@CarloGonzalezTV
@CarloGonzalezTV 2 роки тому
“We’re looking for soulmates on an app; thats quite a trip” sometimes its just in the delivery of what’s said. Dont get me wrong, I’m still going to use them 👀
@danbahaushe
@danbahaushe 2 роки тому
7nuj21⁰0 David ⁰00
@danbahaushe
@danbahaushe 2 роки тому
Iqqqi1
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
I don't believe anyone will find a Soulmate until her/his own Soul is discovered.
@CarloGonzalezTV
@CarloGonzalezTV 2 роки тому
@@kirstinstrand6292 I *love* that
@Alejandrotrans
@Alejandrotrans 4 роки тому
Please translate spanish!!! Subtítulos en español
@miriamdelcarmenisraelbrizu9829
@miriamdelcarmenisraelbrizu9829 5 місяців тому
Miss guity, dónde and
@kaalmansur
@kaalmansur 3 роки тому
And where is the conversation?
@rosesmith000
@rosesmith000 4 роки тому
power, trust, value... mmmm
@mariamargaritis7743
@mariamargaritis7743 4 роки тому
18:54 👨‍💻
@thetruther954
@thetruther954 11 місяців тому
Im not on the radar of men with massive followers. I’d like to get to know you, Esther, as much as that is possible. I hear everything you say, about the direct path to satisfying Esther be more about the obstacles that get in the way. That resonates with me, more than Bill Maher’s “that sounds crazy”, more that Esther’s mysterious ravishing she searches for being a man who will lovingly brush her hair. And, your husband Esther, I guess that’s why I wonder how it can be worth it. I mean let’s talk, let’s introduce obstacles, let’s masturbate in separate states, let’s send our emotions higher and higher as we get to that sweet knowledge we’ve never had and it seems impossible to share. Remarried to the same man 3-4 times? And that doesn’t do some real damage? I get what you’re saying, your husband wanting security, you still wanting to sow your wild Oates. Im not saying that’s my marriage, or my friends marriage, but it’s definitely your’s. And that’s how I understand the triangulation involved. Esther Perel’s marriage. Yeah, let’s get to it.
@SabineSchories
@SabineSchories 3 роки тому
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@hamzehamer4921
@hamzehamer4921 Рік тому
The Bible, the Qur'an and Science dr maurice bucaille AHMAD DEEDAT LECTURES Muslim Community Center (MCC) - East Bay is a vibrant faith-based organization that exudes a sense of community. Every day we attempt to love and worship God (great and glorified is He) and follow the teachings of the Holy Qur’an and the guidance of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).
@sharonthe
@sharonthe 4 роки тому
Nice analysis, but it sterilizes the natural love interest. Love has no real value. I cannot be in a relationship that is not based on emotion but only on understanding the changing reality.
@wilfredsmith9505
@wilfredsmith9505 3 роки тому
The obedient birthday morphologically bleach because cost arguably overflow worth a rigid carrot. previous, woebegone band
@renatanorcia1275
@renatanorcia1275 3 роки тому
She makes many blanket statements .1st one"We have never expected more from our partners than we do today..."etc.. But where is research to back up her statements? She's talking about her experiences with her patients and insights from specific towns and countries.It doesn't make it 100% so with everybody in the world?
@kirstinstrand6292
@kirstinstrand6292 2 роки тому
Some "blanket statements" are worldwide generalizations. Her WISDOM is arrived at from experience. Learn to think, dear one, instead of processing rote criticism seen in UKposts comments.
@reallity4122
@reallity4122 2 роки тому
It is absolutely nonsense to claim that what a village did for one he/she now he/she except from one person-- wife/ husband!!!! What changed is more women obtained freedom of choices due to financial independence and with that we have now two bosses in the household and company of marriage goes down the toilet! Woman lost their identity and act like a man.
@Cat-qo2mn
@Cat-qo2mn Рік тому
This woman has a background in art, not therapy. Maybe ask her how long she was actually practicing therapy - it's not 35 years. She waffles on with so much irrelevant information, and what is relevant is obvious to all of us - none of this is groundbreaking. Just because the dating landscape has changed, doesn't mean it's for the better. We are living in a world of narcissism right now, and we don't need more compromising of our morals and ethics when it comes to intimate relationships. I argue that she promotes and even encourages polygamy in relationships as well, and the way in which it is pushed in her books is nothing short of negligent. Lastly, psychotherapy is not backed by science, and they aren't taught anything about trauma, but only skim over the basics of the brain and nervous system. People like her are literally re-traumatising people by making victim-blaming blanket statements that are in favour of abusers. Every couple I've ever met that has subscribed her her nonsense, there is always one extremely selfish partner that cheats, and the other is expected to accept it and have an open relationship even when it goes against their values - all because this stupid woman says it's okay.
@anitoroyan272
@anitoroyan272 2 місяці тому
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