Hold

Hold.

Hold.

I kinda want to keep up the "hold" thing going but I lost my dad in 2016 from liver failure, we think he may have had liver cancer but definitely had cirrhosis of the liver. I still miss him every day. But I'm sure our dads would want us to be happy, so we should try to live in happiness for them. I recently found your videos and they have made me laugh a lot, so thanks for that.

In 'Son', you say multiple times exactly what we all wish to say to our parents after they pass away. I feel like this is not a coincidence to why it is your channel video.

yyyeas!! 🥺✊👏

definitely.

I'm glad to be the 4th like on this, which goes to show that at LEAST 4 thousand people agree. Keep doing your old man proud! Rest in peace

I don't know what to add

He did actually get a hug

@@jacobcj408 Are you referring to the ending of "Pretend That You Love Me"?

Watching this breaks my heart

His dad must be so proud to see that his channel is finally getting the attention it deserves

hugs are really underated these days i think.

His channel was way less popular then

Real men have feelings. We don't let them destroy us, but we have to allow ourselves to feel them, cry, talk about them, heal and move forward.

@@sgtreynolds07 true, but it's sad how much society deems it as something we should hide

@@sgtreynolds07 we don’t let them destroy us? Fucking speak for yourself, bud. that’s toxic masculinity itself right there. “Men have emotions but we also strwwwong” Fuck off. When my dad died, I wanted to die and almost got there. I was lucky people helped me out of that. Men aren’t strong, we are stubborn. There’s a difference. (I’m not actually that mad I just swear a lot sorry).

@@the-engneer only old school people think that way, not all of society. It’ll be a long changing process, but I don’t see what this guy crying over his dead dad has anything to do with toxic masculinity in society. It’s weird to me that you guys even thought “how weird of this man to be crying”. Like his dad is dead lmfao

Hey Connor! So happy my dad could bring you both some laughs. So sorry to hear about your loss, sounds like an incredible man. Wish you the best❤️

@@Joel-Haver wow you respond to 1 year old comments with a million subscriber channel, thats so cool. Been binge watching all your videos lately, im a Haver kind of guy now

@@Joel-Haver Thank you for the kind words my man, your dad would be so incredibly proud of how far you’ve come

I like to think you ventured far from anime land to post a comforting message here. But really, youtube algorithm.

To see your comment here really represents the range of people he's now having an impact on

Agreed

I just discovered him a couple weeks ago. Did he just recently blow up? He has so much content and it’s all incredible, including his film, pretend that you love me. That filmed really hit me emotionally. His dad seemed like such a good father and neighbor to our community of the human species. I send on my condolences to his family and friends.

Great to see you here

Yeah, same boat here. Real devastating.

I just found this channel too. So sorry for Joel's loss 😞. His dad is legitimately so funny

Just discovered his stuff today. Miss my dad every day.

Same here man i love his videos

I was watching him and his dad last night thinking "Joel would have so many good memories", and then I discovered this video today.

Agreed. God bless you as well and everyone reading this. Any one need some guidance or prayer? I am so thankful for my father and this video alone really makes me not take that for granted... Thank you Mr. Haver

@Sam Manning I could use some brother, in the middle of a divorce and been fighting with my dad a lot during it. Need healing in my whole family, Saterlee's and Rose's. All great God fearing people under the hold of the devil for too long. We need to All believe I'm ourselves the way our Father in Heaven does this night. May the blessings pour out upon us tonight. AMEN

That was my reaction too. I'm hoping to be a parent soon. I desperately want to do as good a job as Jack clearly did.

Yep.

All you "gotta do" is "try your best". Involve yourself in your child's life, no matter what they are interested in. They won't be perfect and we are FAR from it ourselves. But as long as we can LOVE and UNDERSTAND them, hopefully they will reciprocate the same kind of love, and appreciation, like Joel. I want to be that kind of parent too. I'm sorry for your loss man, take care. Genuinely

Fuck yeah, exactly. I don't even have a kid.

You can certainly try, just don't be sad when you fail, cuz the best dad in the world was clearly Jack Haver :)

Couldn’t have been said any better

I’m sorry to hear that. Sounds like a wonderful man. My dad was the greatest role model and that I can carry with me forever. I wish you and your family well❤️

I also lost my dad to cancer. Sending love and hugs to you both xx

@@nxwxpxr6251 hope you gud and blessed and your family bro

Am very sorry for your loss. My sympathies and prayers go out to you.

@@hugejackedman7423 that doesn't hold up for those of us who don't believe in an afterlife, js. But I do think people who loved you that have passed on would want us to be happy.

same man his father was a fucking legend

Yeah, I feel really shitty for expecting a punchline.

The real joke is us

I knew it wasn't a joke but somehow kept waiting for some really out of the blue punchline. RIP.

I thought that this was just a dark comedy sketch and was waiting for some sort of punchline. I left with a new approach to see the world. May your dad rest in peace.

My first video was "I am comfortable with my sexuality, why do you ask?" I rewatched it like 10 times in 3 days

Same here. He'd be proud

bad times are unwanted, but they make the good times all that much better

i thought it might be a joke at first but then he didnt show up at the end and i was like oh. ok... *well fuck*... ok

@@SevenRedSunsOfficial yea just came up in my recommended now I feel bad

Beautiful sentiments.

I’m sorry to hear that, I wish you and your family well. It’s never easy, but do what you can manage to make it easier, both for you and others. Much love

@@Joel-Haver She passed... I came back to cry with you again. I feel like I'm losing my mind, but crying with you has helped me today... I miss her and my brother so much. Lost them both within 4 months of each other... If my son wasn't in this world, relying on my love, I don't know I'd be here anymore. I love you for expressing your human side, for reminding us all that we're all in this together. Love you.

Gods bless Lud and Lud's Dad

@@davek89666 thank you, it is appreciated friend :)

I like Joel's channel for this- he is real, scripted or not.

I'll keep him in my prayers. Hope things get better soon. God bless ❤️

@@Mosswurk2 thank you so much

Losing a loved one like that is one of the hardest things. I'm so sorry. I'll be praying for you and your dad.

❤❤❤ sending love and prayers

My dad died of cancer 6 months ago, like Dr Peterson said, you could be the one people can rely to after he's gone. Let him know how much he helped you be a good person, all the good times you shared and be kind to people you are now the adult of the family even know you may have brother and sister. Honor him by living a worthy, truthful and good life. Enjoy life because you gonna realize how short life is and you can't afford wasting time on irrational source of frustration. I wish you the best, with time things will get better but just like me, Im going to miss my father until it will be my turn to leave.

I lost my dad when I was almost 9 years old and that was in '98. I have precious little in the way of photographs and home videos. Fortunately I have something recorded with his voice in it, because otherwise I would have forgotten what he sounded like. I'm bummed I never got to know him as a person because all I ever knew him as was my dad. I'm bummed I never got to have a beer with the man. All I can do now is go and have a beer with a stone with his name on it. I'm somewhat grateful, however, that the candle burned from the proper end. I have a little brother who I love dearly and I would be destroyed if he were taken away from me. I am so sorry that happened to you and I admire your strength.

@@Pow3llMorgan I lost my dad when I was 13, and yea, the lack of photos and whatnot is painful. I have no video at all and cant remember his voice whatsoever. But he was a great dad. He'd play all-time QB for our neighborhood football games and would let like 8 kids spend the night while being wild as shit. He took me to baseball and hockey games and obviously got me into football, where we'd watch Patriots games(when they were terrible) on little 18" TV's on the rare occasions they'd actually be televised. He got me an SNES for Christmas, which I can still remember is the most ecstatic I've ever been for a Christmas present. I'm with you - I just desperately wish he was around so we could shoot the shit and have a beer. And god damn, he died right before the Patriots went onto to be *the* dynasty in football. How god damn cruel. He loved the Patriots. His whole side of the family is amazing, too. Such great people.

I wish cancer would stick to child molesters and leave decent, loving people alone, especially children and their parents. This is heartbreaking 😡😭 I’m so sorry for your loss. Maybe I’m a bit weird but I find solace in finding beauty in this kind of grief, because it reflects the best side of humanity. Psychopaths can’t love somebody or fear losing them, and their internal world is impoverished because of that. They’re not lucky to avoid this suffering; we are the lucky ones, we who can’t escape grief. I send you guys a big big hug.

I also lost my brother to cancer, I feel you bro

Fuck man that's awful. I feel for ya. Hope your bro is resting well.

Hi, KB. I lost my dad just over three years ago unexpectedly. I just want you to know that the pain does get better, and one day you can use that pain to make you stronger and wiser. I really wish you the best, hit me up if you need to talk.

@@ludbud57 Thanks so much, buddy. I lost my mom 10 years ago unexpectedly, and now my dad (though he was a bit more expected). The deaths of our parents really do make us grow up in a hurry. All my best to you as well -- wishing you all the peace and love with regard to your dad too. And, of course, to Joel, who I'm sure misses his hilarious dad daily. It's so great how his videos bring together such a fantastic community.

@@KB-uo3nw No problem mate. Again, please reach out if you need anything with the wound being so raw. All the best.

Happy you’ve been enjoying the stuff with him, I’m incredibly happy I have it, nothing else could even dream of capturing his energy and humor. It’s weirdly beautiful that many commenters are experiencing his goofiness before learning of his passing, so they too can feel what a loss it was. Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment. I wish current you and future you well, roll with the punches and be open and honest with yourself and others but most importantly yourself.

@@Joel-Haver It took a lot of pain, but light shone through.

Will take that advice to heart when those kinds of things come around. Who knows, maybe this has already made up the mind of future me to do something similar and make a video like this for myself to have. Nice to talk to the man on the other side of the void while it's still feasible subscriber wise. I'm glad to have caught a genuine guy like you on the upswing. You (and your dad) deserve all the appreciation you're getting. Very rare to find someone like you two these days, and especially with such a distinct flavor of humor. Good luck with everything and maybe we'll have another unlikely exchange down the line. I'll be enjoying all your videos until then. Thanks for the love.

IM NOT CRYING, YOU GUYS ARE CRYING!!!! ❤️

damn onions being chopped somewhere...

Sorry for your loss

Me and a few long-time friends of mine decided one RANDOM day in 2019 that we would all pile in the car and go visit another friend of ours, Alex. We all suprised him, made his day, none of us had seem him in person for months if not years, it was an entirely random decision to go see him that day. We spent the whole evening shooting guns, drinkin beer and laughing, it was a great day. We all left later that day and the followong morning at 830am I got the text; Alex had died from an undiagnosed heart condition at 745 that morning, he was dead before he hit the floor. We were best friends for about 15 years solid, lived together multiple times and had been through alot. I miss him everyday, to this day, he was the biggest loss in my life to date. But we saw him the day before he passed, for ZERO REASON, we ALL went and spent a day with our boy, our brother, our Homie. He waited. He waited until he had seen us one last time before he died. The doctors even said he was born with a "death date", his condition was irreversible and untreatable, he was literally destined to die young. I fucking miss you Alex. I Love you. Rest in peace my Brother. Bastards4Lyfe. (Sorry. Got emotional. But I agree. People DO HANG ON, and when they let go it is only because they are truly ready.

@@deenanthekemoni5567 sorry about your loss man, can't imagine losing a good friend. It's so bizarre that those things happen, my dad visited his mother the day before she died too, oddly enough she died from a heart attack, he explained it like he needed to see her for some reason, and they lived quite far apart. I don't believe in fate but there's something unexplainable and mysterious about that

@@nate6144 Sometimes when I look up at the sky at night, when i am alone and its quiet, I feel him. He is out there, somewhere, probably another world or different universe entirely, but when I look at the stars, their brightness piercing the darkest of all shadows so desperately, I often feel oddly closer to him. Energy is never wasted, only recycled. Thank you for the kind words buddy, I also believe there is 'something' out there, but God? Who knows.. someday, we shall both slip into to the other side, and we will see for ourselves 🤨

I mean that feels like Jack's sense of humor. Legendary guy.

@@huntersigler9895 That's why I'm in the comments while watching. It felt to real when he started crying. Had to confirm :(

Me too. I am truly emotionally bankrupt. Love you Joel!

I’m young, and I’m naive, and I haven’t really lost someone that close yet. The best advice that I, a young and naive man who hasn’t lost anyone, can offer, is to live in honor of them.

@Juggling Llama Productions holy shit I’m sorry to the both of you

@@bellboy7809 And for a young naïve man, that's good advice to give someone despite. Always live in a way to honor those who have passed that were close to you, make them proud and you will to be proud in the thing you have done. Live in a way that would make them look at you with nothing other than respect and adoration, despite their passing.

I am really sorry friend. May she rest in peace. My sympathies and prayers go out to you.

10 years ago, when I was 18, I lost my boyfriend to suicide. I know how disorienting, painful, and hollow life can feel after something like that. And sometimes the last thing you want to hear is that it gets easier, but it does. It's a long, long journey. Don't make the same mistake I did and try to walk it alone. Keep reaching out, you're not alone in your suffering. Sending you love.

Oh. 🦊

Covid, or an underlying health condition triggered by covid? Distinction is important there

@@MrTonyBarzini Covid itself. Pneumonia, no underlying conditions.

@@MrTonyBarzini wow.

@@MrTonyBarzini Jesus, shut the fuck up.

I feel you. Both my parents are gone, and it was the same thing, the only ones who loved and supported me unconditionally. Hope you’re doing well

I'm sorry for your loss. My mother passed away last October and those are the exact words that come to my mind when I think about her. The only one that I believed loved me unconditionally. She was the brightest soul I've ever met. And now I feel very lonely in this world and very loveless. Parents should be eternal.

Bro its been over a year i dont think hes at the point where he needs a shoulder to cry on

@Nick Name fuck you grief is horrible and he’s not saying that the guy needs a shoulder to cry on he’s saying that if he ever needs anyone to talk to then his fans are there, get the fuck outta this comment section you fucking idiot

I believe the doctor's office and funeral footage in Pretend You Love Me was real. The hard cut to the casket really wrecked me. Joel really cares about authenticity, and it shows, and there's a good reason that he cares about it. It is potent and serves as a mine for real wisdom to be gathered.

@@nickname8619 True, I didn't actually notice the time stamp I thought it was relatively recent when I made the comment. What phrog said about grief is really true, but I don't think you're an idiot. I just hope that after all this time Joel is healing well, grief is weird and sometimes lingers longer than it should. Hopefully that's not the case here. A big "not-fuck-you" to you

@Sam K JC Denton doesn't deserve to go down with the ship like that. I get it, but he doesn't deserve it.

Yeah I started this video waiting for something funny to happen, dont even need to say how bad I feel about that now

@@proof4469 Living up to your username but also a douchebag thing to say

that doesn't really make sense when you think about the definition of the word rather than the connotation.

so did i, theres just something about the way hes talking which makes it sound like a skit at first

Yeah kinda cought most of us off guard because we are so use to his unusual style of comedy and wacky characters. We so used to see him oddballing it that this wasn't immediately a red flag

I’m so sorry to hear that. This year was my first holiday without him, things like that make it hard again. Take moments to really feel it when you can, the hardest parts this past year have been when my brain doesn’t let me feel at all. I wish you well❤️

Sorry, may he rest in peace

@@Joel-Haver thank you for your kind words ❤❤❤❤ God bless you

@@happyperson1513 amen❤ thank u❤❤❤

My dad died half a year ago now i miss him every day. Knowing you'll never talk to him again is the hardest part to come to terms with. I have so many regrets of not spending every minute i could with him, even just to hear his voice and listen to him talk again. He was the best person I knew and made my life so much better just by being there.

Sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace in these hard times, friend.

are you ok? 🙏❤

❤️ god bless you

Bless you, my friend.

It'll always be hard, but I'm in a good place now. Thanks so much. Merry Christmas my friend