Can you please stop talking? I’m trying to sleep

Honestly Drew, your marriage must be a nightmare. I've been with my husband for 500 years and the way we live is pretty much the only way to have a successful marriage. It works for everyone because every relationship is the same. My advice to you is to do the exact opposite of what you are currently doing. Hope this helps!

This is like when you tell your parents a joke and they turn it into a lecture, except instead of your parents it's the entire internet

Drew, if you actually cared for your wife, you would divorce her, turn gay and find yourself a husband to engage more in her interest in men! Trust me, I know what I'm talking about, I've never been in a relationship.

This is also exactly what Twitter is like. original tweet simple as "I like oranges and bananas" Replies be like "Why do you hate grapes" "What did lemons ever do to you?"

I have been married for 6 years and have only seen him in person twice and that was when we both had to shit and the same time and he opened the door on me. Never been happier to have our own hobbies and space ❤️ neither of us have ever looked at our kids. I only know he still lives with me because he does the dishes and I’ll sweep to let him know I still live there.

What hurts me about this is, people can't even spread hate properly. They can't argue, they can't make a point, they can't form a sentence, and they can't accept when they are wrong.

i also find it interesting that every single one of these "takes" antagonised the woman in the relationship, no matter who was "more in the wrong" according to the video.

I once got called a scallywag over a internet fight and i couldn’t even be mad anymore it was great

Drew has gotten scary good reading the comments with terrible grammar with complete fluidity.

I genuinely love people who say being a househusband for a woman is gay. Not because I agree with them, but because we've gone from "Fella's, is holding hands with another dude gay?" to "Fella's, are wearing jeans gay?" to the glorious "Fella's, is having a relationship with a woman gay?"

My husband and I have the perfect relationship. He stays at home looking after the kids while I roam around the countryside looking for quests to complete. I haven't seen him in 2 years

People advocating for these codependent relationship dynamics are in for a shock when they experience their first break up and realize their identity was 100% baked into their relationship. It’s important to be your own person 😬

Man, Drew talked about the balance of chores being fair because he does the grocery shopping, and NOW he’s using Factor AND Hello Fresh so that he “never has to step foot in a grocery store again”? What a gross, obvious play to make Amanda take on all the responsibility in this relationship, we should all get upset about this.

One time I saw Amanda and her husband eat square food. She didn't say it, but I could tell from her eyes that she had been crying and was only eating squares because it was the only way to get her husband to spend time with her. Watching Captain Planet loudly on repeat in the living room just wasn't working like it used to. This is my fanfiction. Tags: Lemon, OOC, Crossover with Inuyasha, rated G

"Everything is a debate now", you are right and thats probably why I have anxiety.

I’ve seen people make fun of a little girl, like an actual 5 year old, for having a skin condition so nothing on the internet surprises me anymore

"Your relationship doesn't need to make sense to anyone, except you and your partner. It's a relationship, not a community project"

I'm starting to think we were never supposed to know everyone's opinion on everything all of the time

We've been married for 28 yrs. He used to go hang out with his friends & pursue hobbies in another room of our home. Then about 10 yrs ago, I chained him up in our home & forced him to spend time with me. I can say, I've never been happier. And he makes me laugh all the time with his funny jokes, 'Let me go!', 'These chains are too tight!', 'You're insane!'. I love our life ❤❤❤ The internet is right...spending every minute together makes a healthy marriage.

"The only 'gay' thing here is using a STRAW at HOME 🤬" is the funniest thing I've heard in my entire life 😂

"he based this entire rant on the assumption that she's pretending to like the movies" he based the rant on his own divorce

"How often do you even need to fix a toilet? Every couple of years?" actually my sims household has broken theirs three times in a week now

The fact that Amanda is stealing his pre-made meals is unacceptable and shows his relationship is toxic and he should leave her for me.

The "In what universe is this better than living alone" comment about the stay-at-home husband is so fucking telling. These men view a partner as someone who's supposed to do things for you so your comfort of living is higher. If they don't or GOD FORBID you do something for THEM, it's not worth it - living alone is better. Holy shit.

It's fucking crazy to me that Drew is always making these videos when Amanda clearly wants him to just stop talking to his computer and come play stawdew with her

14:23 I once saw a tweet that was like, "You're a grown man and you still use an umbrella?!" One of the replies was, "What, getting older makes me waterproof??"

Parallel play is a real thing, it's just existing near each other while doing your own separate things. It's a great way to hang out and spend time with a person.

Instagram reel comments sections are a hellscape.

Doing a chore your partner hates is an expression of love. That’s all.

DREW I AM SO GLAD YOU TALKED ABOUT THIS!! I am part of a princess program that dedicates itself to bringing joy to kids that have cancer(its called the PrincessFoundation) and literally whenever we post on tiktok the amount of hate is so confusing? Some people are like "you dont even look like Belle!" or "that child looks so ugly" to LITERAL CANCER PATIENTS who are CHILDREN. It blows my mind. Tiktok is just an ammalgomation of hate.

favorite lines: - “what are you shitting, grenades?” - “you need to be dating your boys”

the thing about angry comments is literally so true. i replied to a comment on a tiktok about people making r*pe 'jokes' and i get people defending people who say in response to the question "if time froze for an hour at your school wyd" something disgusting that heavily implies r*pe. its so fucked up

fellas, is it controversial to have a healthy relationship

Hearing Drew say, _"And 5 people agreed?!"_ is my entire internet experience, and I've never felt more seen. Edit: stop validating me, its gross

How dare a person be in a happy relationship. Im actually happy seeing other couples happy. Its a nice thing to know healthy love still exists.

In my opinion, social media has become toxic. Everyone is an expert on how others should live.

can we talk about how drew is so good at reading grammatically incorrect sentences like they’re normal?

I’m worried for all the kids growing up on TikTok. Constantly seeing extreme hate comments is either gonna make them cruel or extremely anxious. I can’t imagine being 14 and navigating this mess

On the side of people trying to tell you how to parent, not posting about your kid online will not save you. You can be hanging with your kid at a park and you will have random ass people come up to you and try to tell you how to parent. I can't tell you how many times I had someone go out of their way to give me, a stranger to them, parenting "advice". AND I'M NOT EVEN A PARENT! My sibling and I are 10 years apart, so I often took them out to play when they were young.

If you're sad when you see happy relationships, you're just lonely and being reminded of that makes you sad. That's normal. Just don't lash out at people and pretend they're doing something wrong.

I love the moment when he assumes that people commenting on how to have a healthy relationship on TikTok have actually been in a relationship before, very kind of him honestly

I recently saw a cute, lighthearted tiktok by a single mom, basically joking about how she thought she would have no dating prospects since she's 31 with 3 kids, but ever since she started posting her life on social media, she gets a bunch of DM's and comments from guys in their 20s who are super into her, calling her a MILF, etc. To be clear, this woman was not bragging or acting arrogant, she was just making a funny observation about something in her life that she found ironic. I thought this was completely harmless, but apparently not, because the comment section was FLOODED with men viciously trying to tear her down, saying that single mothers are low-value women, damaged goods, etc., and insisting that any younger man who shows an interest in her was just trying to "hit it and quit it," not have a real relationship. Bruh I was shocked. She was just minding her own business, lip-syncing to a silly song, and making content about her life that other single moms might find relatable. But NOPE, the manly man man brigade had to show up and make it clear how much they hate women. Fucking disgusting behavior, honestly.

Normalize just enjoying someone's presence tbh. All my closest relationships (platonic ones too) include hanging out doing completely seperate things but like together.

You'll never convince me Tik Tok isn't the worst social media platform. It is quite possibly the single best place to go get misinformed on a topic of your choosing, someone who read the first paragraph of a Wikipedia article will be happy to educate you

I feel like people who nitpick, micromanage, criticize and psychoanalyze everything about your relationship are the ones who have never been in a relationship LOL

It genuinely feels like being part of some mass hysteria. I’ve admittedly caught myself a few times caring wayyy too much about someone’s opinion or lifestyle on the internet, and I think it’s just because social media has been training us for outrage. I pretty much deleted Tiktok once I realized what it was doing to me, and all my other social media I use pretty sparingly. but I LOVE the internet, it’s just too bad that it literally drives me crazy.

I've really notice in the last few years instagram comments have become really unhinged. Not only are people generally insufferable but there's so many trolls, bots, ragebaiting..it's kinda crazy

I hope you have millions of teenagers who watch your videos, because you are a net positive for impressionable people on the Internet (as well as a few other commentary video makers like Chad Chad, or Jarvis Johnson)

Big props to Drew for acknowledging the fact that "men's chores" have to be done like once every six months at soonest, but when women don't want to cook and do the dishes every single day for their entire lives, they're lazy and entitled. Fucking insane line of thought.

Drew: Amanda does more cleaning and dishes, but that's because I cook and do grocery shopping! Also Drew: Thanks to Factor and Hello Fresh, I never have to cook or go grocery shopping!

i will find a IG reel of literally any animal doing anything, like a puppy is being booped or something and the first comment is *always" someone screaming ABUSE

even though Drew is always complaining about something in his videos, they’re such a beacon of positive energy for me

one of the biggest problems the internet brought about is people believing everyone wants to hear their opinion about strangers’ lives

The reveal of "we're not even halfway through" at 10:30 was more genuinely shocking to me than I'd like to admit. Had to collect myself for a bit lmao

exactly! people who are cronically online seem to see the bad side of everything. There's always something to be mad about, and its not like "hm i disagree" it always scalates to something like human rights lol

i posted a tiktok of my mother like 2 years ago and someone literally said “that’s not your mom” ALL BECAUSE SHES POC AND IM WHITE PASSING. i’ll never not be flabbergasted by some of the people on the internet. like what do you mean that’s not my mom😭 yes she is!😊

One common denominator in almost ALL of these videos and comments is that the hate is primarily directed towards the women in the relationship no matter what the situation is.

Parasocial relationships are out of control. I saw a TikTok made by a girl who lost 75k followers after revealing that she has a boyfriend.

I gave up social media, except for UKposts obviously lol, about 4 months ago. Not only has my depression and anxiety gotten way better, I have a more optimistic view of life. It took a week to get used to not looking at my phone all the time, but now I have *remind myself* to look at my phone! 😊 I will never give up my UKposts, or my Pinterest - but getting off of Facebook, Instagram, Reddit and even Bored Panda has been awesome. I'm more social in real life and I like people again 😂 highly recommend!

I kept finding funny or witty instagram posts by women, and go to the comment section to see if others think it was also really funny and yeah, it’s a bloodbath in there every time. 90% of the comments are men going „This is the problem with all Women!“.

I think one of the meanest yet most brutally honest and eye opening insults I’ve ever heard that just sums up these entitled people’s behavior is “When you die, they are going to bury your laptop”

And I really hate our relationship. Drew, I’m breaking up with you.

I feel like it’s gotten even worse as of late. Every time I see a cute post with a couple, the comments are filled with jokes about people wanting to kill themselves??? It’s fucking insane and I can only imagine how shitty the poster feels seeing all of that :(

i actually like to live inside my partners skin like a parasitic virus so i can be with them and around them at all hours of the day and life and forever. this is what a healthy relationship looks like! hope this helps :)

nothing like a drew gooden video to distract me from the ever separating distance between my parents

These are the rules of the internet: Every reddit AITA post must receive comments seriously telling OP to sue the other party, and every tiktok relationship post must receive comments seriously telling the poster to divorce their partner.

I just watched this after encountering a nasty argument online, and it made me feel so much better

What's crazy is that even in a long-distance relationship, my man and I will face time and do different things. He'll play games on his phone, and I'll be reading. It's still quality time.

I cannot express how happy I am to see SOMEONE make a video on how angry the world/internet has become. being online sometimes makes me feel ill for how much hate and toxicity is out there. everyone is so angry and it’s exhausting:(

This was actually so refreshing and relieving to listen to, the internet lately has been so tiring, and I’m glad Drew gave his take on the whole angry comment section phenomena that’s become so normal

I’m glad someone is talking about these comments and stuff. It’s so frustrating seeing all this hate, especially the hate towards women.

“Gaming is the worst hobby you could have” imagine gate keeing hobbies

Man if I ever became a therapist I'd ask every patient to bring me their social media comment history. So much of this screams projection that I wouldn't even have to ask them any questions.

Ive been trying to train myself to stop pressing the comments button on instagram because no matter what the post is, somebody is going to make it about how all women are evil, its so weird

My wife and I don't even have any kids and we often do our own separate stuff in the evening. We've been together 10 years our relationship is stronger than ever. Most people need their own personal time.

Your takes are always on point. The Internet is full of unhinged people who thrive on argument. I used to debate people on UKposts after they showed up to argue about the most unnecessary things and I had to stop and switch accounts. I would say innocent things and have weirdos come out of nowhere to project whatever they had going on. It's wild.

The amount of people who get super pissy because you as an individual has decided to not have children is absolutely insane, and they're always so vile about it.

I feel like a big problem with Social Media discourse is ppl don’t stop to consider why something makes them feel a certain way and just vomit out their projected insecurities without thinking twice and the design of certain apps encourages it

Reddit is the worst for this (well, it's basically the worst for anything). "My car is making this weird noise, can anyone identify what could be causing it?" "Sounds toxic, you should get a divorce."

the whole “well he doesn’t like doing the dishes either” is such a weird point because like,,, maybe he does? like my boyfriend loves cleaning cause it calms him, but i can’t stand doing it, so obviously he’s gonna be the one doing the cleaning it’s just such a weird thing to assume lmao

Drew gives me hope that there are still sane people in the world 😭

I'm autistic and parallel play (both doing things we love next to each other) is very meaningful. It's frustrating when people assume we're ignoring each other or our relationship is not healthy just because it differs from theirs

Crazy people are easier to avoid in real life. Unfortunately they are in every corner of the internet. You can't go to any form of social media sites without interacting with them. The best thing you can do is ignore them because there is no way you can rationalize with crazy.

“It’s better to find eternal meaning through your children than temporary happiness thru a game. But you do you.” LOL the saltiness and jealousy just exuding from this phrase is insane. Like ok bro, you had kids and I didn’t, can we let ppl be happy? Go enjoy your eternal meaning with your children lmfaoo. One of the comments at 12:56.

People online have gotten waaaay too comfortable making wildly negative assumptions about relationships they’ve only seen a 15 second snippet of on TikTok

I remember seeing a tiktok of a girl saying she and her long term boyfriend slept in different rooms sometimes and people were PISSED. Telling her that they didn’t love each other and they should just break up…for sleeping in separate rooms SOMETIMES. I never saw the big deal. I’m sure for many people they love sleeping in the same bed, but i don’t see what’s wrong with sleeping in your own spaces if that’s what makes them comfortable. As someone who tosses and turns all night and gets hot FAST, I’ve shared a bed before and if i could afford place with an extra room I’d LOVE having a room for myself at night to go into sometimes when I want to sleep alone lol and also because I’m always up late and on my phone watching tiktoks or twitch and laughing, a separate room would be a great idea to avoid disrupting my partners sleep all night. Tiktok comments are just hell.

i swear Instagram was purposely recommending so many reels that induced the most anger, distaste and hatred i had to uninstall the app and just not participate in this bs

Loved the rant about the state of modern social media apps in the end. Algorithms are designed to make you pissed, because getting you pissed increases engagement. There is a way to not be exposed to this anymore btw - use apps without algorithmic sorting, like apps were in the old days. I recently moved to Mastodon from Twitter and boy, am I a lot happier than before. Just ... posts by my friends or people I actually follow, sorted by time. I love it. I hope we’ll have similar replacements for Instagram and Tiktok and stuff at some point. This algorithmic shit is not the way and it’s actively damaging humanity if you ask me.

I wished you would’ve talked about the lady who said she likes to drink coffee with her husband in the morning… Everyone was in an uproar. People were talking about their chronic illness and how she shouldn’t post cause THEY are sick, that the lady is lazy and doesn’t have a job, etc.

reminds me of people's reactions when I mention that my partner and I have separate bedrooms. I shouldn't have to defend what works for our relationship but I constantly feel like I have to. Same as when I have to defend our choice to be childless. People cannot wrap their head around the fact that just because you can't imagine yourself doing something doesn't mean it isn't valid.

your points about how having space in a relationship is important really stuck with me. for the past few years a partner and one “friend” i had were manipulative, guilt tripping me into ditching my closest friends and family to prioritize them, at some points even threatening me that they would hurt themselves or worse if i didn’t. when i first watched this video my mental health was at an all time low, and now that i’m here again, i’m glad to say it’s been a lot better and i cut off every red flag in my life. it’s weird for a random viewer to open up like this but i guess i just wanted to say thank you.

It's amazing to me how people who aren't in a relationship or who've had a bunch of failed relationships are out there questioning other people's relationships. Like if you're a dude treating a relationship like you're trying to maximize the most amount of effort someone can give you? Seriously, don't get into a relationship you're better off alone.

finally someone addresses the fact tiktok makes out every healthy relationship having a little dilemma into an abusive toxic relationship where their partners should go to prison lmfao.

Instagram reels comments suck so much man. So much negativity, judging and people thinking they know what’s going on in other peoples’ lives

I felt that "you're not in the relationship", because my friends started to talk in tiktok comment language that I dont care about my friends but rather take the time to listen to my gf. Its ridiculous. Great video 👍🏼

If Drew’s life was a movie it would be claymation

I like how drew doesn’t blink in the skit where he ends with saying he doesn’t blink anymore

SO TRUE the comment could be sumn like " i love sunflowers" and the latest reply could be from a thread that says " and thats why racism still exists " or sumn sh

My wife and I have the perfect relationship. She stays home coming up with uncreasingly elaborate tasks to keep busy the swarm of suitors awaiting news of my demise, while I tie myself and my men to the undersides of sheep to evade the cyclops I've blinded.