When I would worry about my son driving, my therapist told me "whether you worry or not will have no impact on what you are worrying about" haven't worried since, and I was a chronic worrier. I am not in charge.

Be careful how you think. Your life is shaped by your thoughts. Only you can change what comes into your mind. Replace any negative with forcefully positive thoughts. ☮️♥️

I _really_ like how playing her game gently sucked them into having a deep and engaging exchange after only a few questions! 🏆

I appreciate her honesty and transparency so much. It really humanizes the healing process which seems to go on forever.

"I AM LOVED. I MATTER. And, its ALL going to be okay." Thank you Lewis. ThIs matches me.

Ester Perel’s episodes are my favorites 🙏🏻🌹✨

nothing about recovery from heartbreak...

I'm 49 years old and I have found out through my own journey that there are some experiences from the past that even we may not be conscious of it they are traumatic and it is not as easy as the expression says:: "just let go & move on" In my own experience I have learned that I need to go through a long & painful process in order to first of all understand what happened and eventually understand how my past experiences had effected my emotional/mental health. I tried many times to just reason and say : "i NEED JUST TO LET GO" but the pain came back again, over and over again affecting my new relationships. It takes more than just reason and be willing to let go. In my case it been taking years of psychotherapy & medication.

A man who dont drink or smoke .And stays single.Has got brains.Better off with a good car.

11:34 The moment when she expresses that sound and says cringe 😂 I loved it! You see these brilliant people are also humans, just like us.

thank you for this video and it brought me to tears when you shared the conversation with your younger self!

There is always going to be some residue from last relationships it now becomes a part of our human and soul story.And if you have done enough healing yes it won't be as triggering.Personally it is the inner peace I found from acceptance and awarness as to what I have learned from heartbreaks that has helped me move on and working on growing and elevating in my life to the point that I realize that I'm grateful for those experiences but that I actually couldn't see myself again with men I had relationships with.When we heal and evolve it becomes just a lesson and triggers become less intense and more manageable.Thank you for this interview 🙏🧡

Such a great show! ❤😢😊

Seek, forgive, live.

I have been for single for 25 years.I live a lonely life.I have never bothered again.i don't trust.To many men getting ripped off.Thats why we stay single.My car is my woman.more faithful.

I love when you have her on your show. Ester, Marisa and Jordan Peterson. ❤️💙❤️

@15:00 to 17:00, it’s so deep. Anyone who’s faced their inner child and done shadow work, knows how pivotal this is to not only understanding yourself, but the beginning of understanding others, and brings on a new found richness to life.

I'd whisper to my younger self "you're worth it just as a simple human being nothing more to it!"

Loved this honest and raw conversation, you guys are Amazing 🙏

I really loved this chapter. I cried a little when they talked about our inner child and I imagined talking to myself...uff it was beautiful

What a wonderful and so moving conversation/ connection between two vulnerable, strong and courageous people....

OMG! Lewis is so inspirational! What a show!

Wow, what an authentic moment there Lewis!🙏🥰

Give others the CHANCE to help ya ❤️🤗

So the topic of this interview they talked about "how to heal from past relationships" in the first 15 minutes...I don't know what the answer was..

Not one mention of how to move on from past relationships….

I love both of your energies and knowledge!! Thanks for sharing❤

I love both. Energy don’t lie even through the screen. Lots love ❤

Thank you both for this amazing video and your authenticity ❤️ Thank you Lewis for sharing your story! It's so honest, brave and big of you! 🙏

These episodes with you both are amazing!!! I enjoy them very much.

Ester inspires me 🌹✨️🙌 Great espoide.

That's true how do we remain grounded. I can just go get drunk but I don't want to. I can also call off but I need to work. I wish I could scream but it won't take away this feeling.

9:59 being playful is an important part of relationships 😂

Thanks lewy

I didn't know that there was a word for how I have been feeling for the last 3 years! I've been in an almost, constant, state of "languishing"... Lol😅😮😣

Post a link or name of the game pls

23:36 "What irritates you or triggers you? Bureaucrats, rigidity - which is the opposite of playfulness. Not flexibility. Arbitrariness - rules for the sake of rules. Rigidity which means that you don't listen to others.... What's the opposite of curiosity? Fixed, certainty but certainty is the enemy of change."

Superb 💯👌

Esther. I am at 20.23 where you consider what it might feel like to live without dread. I invite you to spend more time in that space.

I have worried about my daughter my entire life.. and she is a grown well educated happy married adult woman of 35… but I still find myself lying awake worrying about her. This is my issue and it comes across to her as overbearing.. bring too involved in her life. Need to let go!

love y'all two! where can I buy those cards?

No chance. You can not erase memories.

Where can I purchase this card game.

how would Ester help someone that lives with dread ? hmmm?? Job 3:25 for the thing which i greatly feared is come upon me, and that which i was afraid of is come unto me. it happens. i feared my husband dying before me, and he did. i tried not to fear it or to live with that fear , but i did and it happened.

Dread is fear’s cousin

Why have a companion .You are going to get ripped off.Everytime you get with someone.I got hurt once.Never got over It.Single 25 years.I dont trust.never will.Stay single.better off.

.... Really like all yr work but triggers might be a poor word choice given that it suggests we react to the environment. When its clear from the principles of neural design we preact.

My car is my companion.

How can i get The game please

in my experience, when you tell your story, people use it against you at some point and if it is something more extreme than they can handle, you just lost a whole bunch of potential friends...

So....where is the answer to the question in the title? 🤔

Dread brings fear.

I can watch these female gurus all day they sound so wise but I never and really never what to do exactly as they say let go and all the million advices, but how to do it? 🤷🤷🤷😮

They are both great. 💗 I wonder if she's an INFJ.. 😊💗

Ask her how does she deals with frustration. (Yell, through cups (or pots) swear, slam doors, spin the car) And anger And disappointment

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To avoid relationships and past.Be like me. Stay single.I rather play my drums .Or drive my car.To many problems.All causes heartbreak.No one wins except lawlers.Money is creed.Stay single.Better off lonely than sorry.

I will never trust a woman again.I rather have my car.At least she is faithful.

Stay single.Have a good car instead.

Thank you, your timing again is beautiful. 🤍 I did that too with a photo of myself at 5. So helpful. I am getting so much better at asking for help. 💚🇨🇦💎

How to heal from a past relationship.Dont get into in first place..Stay single.Be a loner.That way you won't get ripped off.Relationships are doomed.To many problems.Have a good car instead.