Is addiction a choice? | Big Questions with Gabor Maté

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Dr Gabor Maté joins us at Penguin to answer some Big Questions on addiction, 'normality', and becoming your true self. Order your copy of 'The Myth of Normal' here: amzn.to/3UbbKA0
Western countries invest billions in healthcare, yet mental illness and chronic diseases are on a seemingly unstoppable rise. Nearly 70% of Americans are now on prescription drugs. So what is 'normal' when it comes to health?
Over four decades of clinical experience, renowned physician and addiction expert Dr Gabor Maté has seen how health systems neglect the role that trauma exerts on our bodies and our minds. Medicine often fails to treat the whole person, ignoring how today's culture stresses our bodies, burdens our immune systems and undermines emotional balance.
Now, in his most ambitious and urgent book yet, Dr Maté connects the dots between our personal suffering and the pressures of modern-day living - with disease as a natural reflection of a life spent growing further and further apart from our true selves. But, with deep compassion, he also shows us a pathway to health and healing.
Filled with stories of people in the grip of illness or in the triumphant wake of recovery, this life-affirming book, co-written with his son Daniel, proves true health is possible - if we are willing to reconnect with each other and our authentic selves.
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@NunoAlexandreMB Рік тому

It's such a blessing to the world that Gabor is being "mainstreamed".

@teamtoken Рік тому

Been following Gabor for a few years now, he had quite a few videos but he wasn’t getting the views he deserved. I was worried he was going drop off and be forgotten. So happy he’s been mainstreamed. His message needs to get to as many people as possible

@Spiranic89 Рік тому

Ah men, Yeah, people need to open their mind to change perspective on things he talks about.. He is not god, but he gave it a lot of tought and i think he is a pioneer to new steps in psycholigy (this is spelled wrong i guess?) Cause, its insane how we can cut people open, replace a broken liver with another and such, but psycholigy is like dark matter in a way.. you cant see, feel or hear, were u cut, what will help and what will make it worse... And yet whole systems are build like: WE KNOW THIS.... NO, your jumping a leap of faith to make the profit... Money, the worst addiction their is... Im blessed im not addicted to that scary stuff....People do unspoken things to get more money... Never chase that dragon omg!

@jimbobb3509 Рік тому

Well, he is Jewish

@whotelakecity2001 Рік тому

Yes, perhaps there is hope for the world. Gabor thank you for giving us hope.

@sunch4352 Рік тому

I agree! First saw him interviewed by Tom B

@TraxisOnTheLines Рік тому

"For people to change who they are, they need to become who they are" 16 seconds in and this guy has my respect.

@user-yy1uu9kw5l Рік тому

It's quoted from Nietzsche

@AadhilRizwan Рік тому

Who am I?

@HIMYMTR Рік тому

People are suckers for dumb cliches that don't mean anything

@stevetheiii477 Рік тому

what does that even mean?

@E1M16 Рік тому

"To conquer fat, you must become fat" - George Washington

@thetorontogirl Рік тому

When I became authentic, my weight started to disappear. I've dropped 43lbs so far and it's all thanks to me being truthful to myself. My addiction to food has gotten better.

@lauraashley1 Рік тому

🙏🤍

@whotelakecity2001 Рік тому

Amen. How did you do that?

@thetorontogirl Рік тому

@@whotelakecity2001 I started cutting toxic people out of my life and I began to do what I wanna do

@Dzanarika1 Рік тому

@Xander Niks families and education system need to learn this so that society can heal altogether.

@coreaccountingservicesltd2890 Рік тому

Why else did you do to become to your true self.

@matthewoberton1830 Рік тому

This man has peered into the depths of the human being and is basically a doctor of Love.

@DockyardDiva Рік тому

The Healer. OneLOve

@dorijoe Рік тому

You're right! ❤💜

@thegrinch0614 Рік тому

His son Aaron Mate is an exceptional true journalist, but it’s no surprise when you were raised by this man.

@SC-gw8np Рік тому

He’s a metaphysical healer, what all doctors should be.

@dwilson6769 Рік тому

Because he asked why? Don't you know how to ask why? why is it always one person that got to figure out what everyone else can figure out?

@kierlak Рік тому

Well said. Number one human need: being authentic

@paulduffy4585 Рік тому

@Kareen Curry I know what you mean. Someone once described it as not so much changing who you are, as stripping away what you're not.

@duncanself5111 Рік тому

Thank you for giving this guy a platform. People need educating on these issues more than ever

@FleurPillager Рік тому

He said almost nothing about the science of addiction in this video.

@stoonookw Рік тому

He is awesome

@blondthought5175 Рік тому

@@FleurPillager Science, of course, is the end-all and be-all. A booster awaits you.

@TheDavveponken Рік тому

@@FleurPillager But now you know of his books on the subject. There are plenty of more videos with him on the tube btw.

@SC-gw8np Рік тому

Not education, enlightenment.

@Palmieres Рік тому

I am the child of two people who suffered from addiction for decades: alcohol and gambling. Both of them caused immeasurable pain to themselves and their children. And no, it was never a choice, it was just a tragedy which befell two incredibly intelligent and kind people, who were themselves victims of their own past, including their childhood traumas. I love them both for who they were supposed to be - and often tried to be, without their pain.

@patriciadocherty1445 Рік тому

❤you have a beautiful soul x

@litty4553 Рік тому

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@davidowen1191 8 місяців тому

Wow, thats some emotionally intellectual stuff. Well done for coming to such profoundly difficult and accurate conclusions. You have the bravery of a lion and the spirit of a zen master my freind.

@Andre-gj6ny 7 місяців тому

Damn dude you made me cry.

@Anonymous-km5pj 2 місяці тому

one of the best wide angle views of parenting ive seen, maybe the best and yes, agreed. Here i am stealingl ur words now 🤣🤣🤣

@tanyapulliamtanya1343 Рік тому

Withdraws are a half of it...... I wanted a billion times to stop. The withdraws we're almost too hard to bare. The body.... The mind... I knew people who couldn't handle it and committed suicide. THANK GOD I'm 7 years clean. Sober. The depression and anxiety went with it. Thank God. If I can get clean and sober anyone can. I did everything. Everything.... Thank God I will never have another withdraw ever again. God bless anyone struggling....❤️💙💓

@user-uy2zt6nz4t Місяць тому

Yes sir. I was on drugs for 30 years and served 17 years total in prison time . Once i figured out my past i was able to move on and today i choose life and freedom. I was running 🏃 from my pain and regrets for over 3 decades . It took that much for me to look deeper. I had everything i needed all along. I was just lost and focused on the wrong things. Human response to stop terrible regrets and numb ourselfs. I am becoming the best man that i can. Its all lessons in order to heal and accept our past hell. God is real. Each of us have our own understanding of who God is. Call out to him. He will come. Hes allready with you. Hes in you.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 2 місяці тому

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@Jennifer-bw7ku 2 місяці тому

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651 2 місяці тому

Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@steceymorgan814 2 місяці тому

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence..

@Jennifer-bw7ku 2 місяці тому

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651 2 місяці тому

Yes he is. dr.sporesss

@marielleo4715 Рік тому

I am addicted by Gabor Máté because I am not able to stop learning from him! That's incredible!

@tatianacruz5013 Рік тому

same lmao!

@annajaworska3627 Рік тому

He is just refreshing your memory ☮

@mlhamiltonanderson5940 Рік тому

We all endure emotional pain. Some choose to deny it, repress it, suppress it, avoid it with substance use (alcohol, drugs, etc), some with workaholism, gambling, food, etc. Some choose to address the pain with therapy, healthy communication choices, and developing the skill set known as resilience- the skill set that enables an individual to handle, process, overcome and endure emotional pain. One of the skills of resilience is taking personal responsibility-owning your choices. You cannot overcome addiction until you can do that. Addiction is a symptom of a human being in pain. Addiction is an unhealthy coping strategy.

@robynhope219 7 місяців тому

Gabor admittedly is a workaholic...and shopaholic.

@lemostjoyousrenegade 4 місяці тому

Very well said! 🎯♥️

@danielbooth5035 Місяць тому

How

@rickywilliams1537 21 день тому

“Owning one's choices and taking accountability” are again not black-and-white issues, particularly when certain dependencies are blurred and described as emotional responses. It's a process that honestly is not understood without understanding bodily autonomy And the intersections of cognitive processing/emotionality! Frankly, there is a lack of trauma-informed explanations of how it manifests. By definition addiction is dependency. In Western society, many people don’t recognize that dependency starts as early as when our parents insist that we finish all the plate food on our plates. We are taught to not listen to our body, and for a lot of people that disconnection of listening to your body and honoring your body starts as early as when we’re kids. This is important, because chalking addiction to a choice without understanding how our personal agency is taken from us does no one any good.

@etherashe5164 Місяць тому

Dr Maté is so brilliant. I wish more people - particularly those in healthcare and addictions treatment - knew about his work.

@shaunmacready701 Рік тому

This guy gets it. "For one to understand, one must have gone through it" = someone wise

@cnut4563a Рік тому

This is fantastic. The point about ostracizing one section of the addicted population (people addicted to illegal substances), when everyone has addicted behaviours is so simple, so spot on.

@FleurPillager Рік тому

Everyone does not have addiction or addicted behaviors that is false.

@coreycox2345 Рік тому

@@FleurPillager If one has an addictive personality, they know it. I do.

@FleurPillager Рік тому

@@coreycox2345 There's a big difference between personality and having a biological addiction. People die from addiction every day, it's a very serious medical condition. Nothing to make light of or minimize.

@ballinout92 Рік тому

Never heard of anyone stealing from their own family to support their internet addiction

@YourHighnessssss Рік тому

@@ballinout92 no, the internet addicted person destroys their family by being unavailable to them, by showing their loved ones they’re destroying themselves and by not wanting to being helped from an intention of love. Not stealing a physical thing like money, but an internet addict steals the joy of their closed ones. Addiction is addicition, no matter the behaviour or substance.

@hillcountry871 Рік тому

At 68,there is hope!!! WOW!!!

@gma340 Рік тому

what can be so difficult to bear is how, after listening to plenty of Maté’s speeches for years, this understanding of addiction can come to be so obviously and objectively true, and yet the world still revolves in a way that’s completely blind to it. It’s as if we as a culture are addicted to seeing addiction in a completely false way. We can’t seem to shake antiquated senses of good/evil moral/immoral that are based on bullshit. Psychology and neuroscience are showing us everything we need to know. So let’s progress already!

@roadtostrongestmanever2099 Рік тому

Absolutely; I have sympathy for anyone that has an addiction of any sort. I myself had a severe pornography addiction up until a while ago. I pushed myself hard enough and well; I finally got rid of it by miraculous means. But any sort of addiction is nasty.

@adamcotton9657 5 місяців тому

Pornography is a horrible vice it destroys families, young/ old, men and women sooner they remove it all the better it will be for everyone.

@chesterwilberforce9832 Рік тому

God bless you, Dr. Mate. Last July 5th was my 34th sober "birthday" as AA calls them. I may have chosen my first beer, but I didn't choose my second. In the 90's when I began experiencing chronic back pain, doctors would have their scrip pads out before you could finish a sentence - 90 hydrocodone. No one chooses to become addicted. Who the hell would? Broken people choose to ease their pain, always have and always will. I have gone through the nightmares of quitting alcohol, nicotine, and 8 days of hell on earth going through opiate detox. Who... would... choose... this?? This video made my day much easier. We grow up thinking it is our fault and we are weak willed and intrinsically flawed.

@mrburnout Рік тому

Religion (and AA) is great at making people feel weak and intrinsically flawed, and that they should be fixed (by the very structures that made them feel that way)

@richardthomasmirabito4197 Рік тому

Allergy of the body compulsion of the mind and a life acceptance problem. AA is the Wrench that fits every nut. AA the fellowship saved my life. 1994 I began the jouney " Trudge the road to happy destiny ".

@charlenewhittaker1674 Рік тому

But the worm is turning my friend!! i live in the UK and they still have no idea whatsoever over here... i struggled for 24 years and over that time the loudest point the drug centre wanted to drill home was that i was weak and morally devoid...they literally told me to 'punish myself' if i used with things like cold showers/ beasting in the gym and i kicked myself for every time i used and am still drowning in shame because of how they treated me. I started to use at 12 years old after a traumatic childhood... so i made a choice at 12.. one single life altering no turning back choice as a child and in my society that puts me along with thousands of others like me in a bracket with paedophiles and murderers. I have sat in hundreds of drug rooms over the years and every person i have ever met is up to their neck in some sort of sadness. I wanted to see the stigma removed before i die and i thought it was going to be another 2 decades before people started to understand the soul destroying dilemma that is addiction and show some empathy... i saw a clip of Americas got talent the other day where a guy got a standing ovation for getting clean after 10 years and it made my day. Well done on the opiate detox btw... and 34 years sober is something i can only dream of: you should be real proud of yourself

@ln5747 4 місяці тому

You are/were weak willed. Addiction doesn't exist.

@ln5747 4 місяці тому

@@richardthomasmirabito4197allergy of the body mumbo jumbo 😂

@charlesbrown9749 Рік тому

As a recovered addict, I did not consciously choose the outcomes of my actions that lead me to become addicted, but I certainly take responsibility for the choices I made that lead to my addictions. It’s unavoidable if one chooses to be honest. Addiction is not a black/white issue. Theres a plethora of factors involved to get bogged down intellectually speaking, but choices are certainly involved.

@johulu985 Рік тому

I think it's dangerous to frame addiction as someone else's fault. There's definitely an aspect of addiction that is influenced by things out of our control and our childhood, but if we see it as not our fault then how can an addict have any chance to recover?

@davidaugustine3686 Рік тому

@Johulu Christ, you're ignorant. They don't teach people "addiction isn't your fault", therapists lead their patients on a journey of self discovery which helps them identify the factors which contribute to their addiction. For instance, if someone who was assaulted as a child starts using drugs, they might not realize the reason they started doing so was because they were dealing with PTSD from the assault. Once the patient realizes this, they are able to identify the pain they feel and take steps to mitigate it so they no longer feel compelled to take drugs. This is an (abbreviated version) established methodology which has been scientifically shown to help addicts. Read the literature before you comment nonsense opinions based on your hate of addicts.

@johulu985 Рік тому

@@davidaugustine3686 I’m definitely no expert on the matter, just posting my thoughts and how it relates to my experiences dealing with addictive tendencies. Regardless, I never once said in my comment that’s what therapists were doing. Maybe instead of assuming things about people and calling them names you could attempt to educate without resorting to childish name calling. But then what would be the point right? At the end of the day there has to be some level of responsibility for ones actions in order to overcome addiction. A conscious effort to correct the behaviors that are leading to harm, regardless of the reason why they started in the first place. I don’t know what I expected from a UKposts comment section though, have a nice life.

@judipierry549 Рік тому

@@johulu985 as one who has been there, you had it right. I have no idea why that person went off on you.

@LinA-it9vd Рік тому

@@davidaugustine3686 I think he’s very spot on with his comment.

@paulwally9007 Рік тому

13 minutes of solid absolutely essential information for life. Thank you Mr Mate.

@paulwally9007 Рік тому

@Selina Kyle Perhaps you'd care to explain your position?

@paulwally9007 Рік тому

@Selina Kyle Addiction is not, TECHNICALLY, a disease. But it's a useful framework for viewing it. But addiction certainly IS NOT a choice. Who would CHOOSE to be addicted to something? And do you think people choose their SPECIFIC addictions -like I can choose to be addicted to gambling instead od alcohol?

@Dumballa Місяць тому

A world treasure. Thank you Gabor for all your work.

@merrylynnallison6922 Рік тому

Dr Gabor Mate is the very definition of a HEALER. Trauma =Addiction.

@robertafoginthemorning6678 Рік тому

This makes so much sense to me, for a longest time, I thought people ( family) hated me because I was born. A lot to heal, for my children are so broken, all because I was broken to pieces.

@Bojan_V Рік тому

All of you will heal💚in time...

@illicitleafcombuster Рік тому

Your family will forgive you in time as long as you work every day to achieve it. In fact they will be more proud of you than you could ever imagine.

@nicolaihilckmann4677 Рік тому

I met him numerous times in Vancouver, discussed the downtown east side of Vancouver and compared Amsterdam's and Vancouver's drug policies. He's a brilliant man.

@BartAnderson_writer Рік тому

Bought the e-book from Kobo a few days ago. I've followed Gabor Mate for years. I've always felt I could depend on him for a well-balanced and honest viewpoint.

@mariesaunders6137 3 місяці тому

BRAVO Dr.Maté ..... Such intelligent, compassionate, understanding, respectful human being.Bledsings,light and love to all.🙏❤️❤️❤️✨✨✨🌈

@sandracid4987 2 місяці тому

Life began changing since the first time I heard what goes out of his mouth. Thanks to you Mister G.

@stevencooke1027 Рік тому

One of my favourite speakers and thinkers. If only we had more Gabor Mates.

@Milestonemonger Рік тому

This helped me become more tolerant of others people's pain.

@bonbondesel Рік тому

A huge thanks Dr Mate ! You understand it all. My best friend died "committing" suicide after decades of suffering. He was an addict. Suffering from Big trauma. I tried almost half of my life to help him as he was to me a brother. So I had to understand him. And yes this is not a choice. This is never a choice. And yes addiction is a direct consequence of traumas. Including the stress of his mother during pregnancy. I met several addicts, several doctors and read a lot as what was happening to my friend was affecting me a lot. Much more than I thought. I wanted to understand and to help. THANKS DOCTOR YOU ARE THE ONE WHO UNDERSTAND THE MOST ADDICTION. REALLY. THE WORLD NEEDS MORE DOCTORS LIKE YOU. A HUGE THANKS FOR TRYING TO EDUCATE OTHERS AND THANKS FOR THIS CHANNEL TO POST THAT !

@Lemoncare Рік тому

Thank you for being a friend.

@Kitti_B Рік тому

when I'm listening to him I feel pride. He is Hungarian and we need more people like him to spread how loving and smart we can be. We are not just what you can hear on the news.

@Georgie3463 9 місяців тому

Me too

@mezak7988 Рік тому

Man...8 yrs ago I was struggling w heroin addiction and drinking. Started taking lsd, found this guy's videos talking about addiction, childhood trauma ect while on lsd, and he permanently changed my view on addiction. It became a much easier process from there. Forgot his name and how to find him. Years into sobriety, I began admiring Aaron mate's work on russiagate, us foreign policy, and had my mind blown several times. Quite surprised to realize these guys are related! So cool! I so deeply appreciate dr. Mate's work w addiction and childhood trauma.

@mezak7988 Рік тому

7 years sober as of today btw

@axlx2863 Рік тому

@@mezak7988 congrats ❤

@bradadair3757 3 місяці тому

Lsd helped me alot, and more people need too hear this!

@fredhair Рік тому

Penguin have published some of my favourite books written in modern times. It's brilliant now that we have so much information freely available at our fingertips but the physical media of the written word is still a powerful and thoroughly enjoyable tool. For these books to be made at high quality and an affordable price is a modern marvel and I'm so grateful that such experienced and intellectual people as Gabor Maté, Jordan Peterson, Daniel Kahneman and many others have the opportunity to impart their ideas, explanations, findings and opinions by this medium. Thank you Penguin for not 'cancelling' these people on the whims of narcissistic bullies, but instead still encouraging each generation to read top quality books by top quality authors!

@BeingQuotient Рік тому

Information has been hidden from us, by those seeking power to control: governments, religions, corporations.We now live in a time of infinite information.This changed the game from a lack of information to an over abundance of information. Instead of ignorance by design, we are in confusion and delusion by lack of the ability to know what is true. We need a fresh mindset. Discernment, conscious and clear discernment is now the path to sanity and healing. One has to be in touch with authenticity to discern what is true from merely re-acting from our trauma. Gabor is pointing at this. Jordan Peterson is an example of someone passionately but blindly living in and from their trauma. Don't believe me. Don't believe him. Look inside yourself for the truth. Discernment. Compassionate Curiosity, not judgement. not anger. not blindly believing others for how they stir us inside. Find what triggers you. Defuse the emotional bomb inside of you. It is not "them" doing something to trigger you, it is how you are reacting to what happened. You have the power to become who you are.

@fredhair Рік тому

@@BeingQuotient You have the power to not post a load of nonsense, use that power! Become who you should be rather than what you are.

@Peace4All09 Рік тому

I Cheer out loud every-time Dr Gabor speaks because he is on point, we need about a million of him to become our visions of Peace. Any recovered drug affected person "if listened too" would high five Dr Gabor & feel like they see a light at the end of a tunnel again. All our doctors world wide, need to have The Myth Of Normal as a full time study module before attaining the stamp "DOCTOR" & before stepping into working with others. Love Your Work Dr Gabor, am a huge fan. 🙏

@SuperMsgeorgia Рік тому

God bless you Dr Mate.Your work in the 'trenches" make you a genius of understanding addiction, and then explain it from a place of deep, experiential wisdom. Your courage to witness and then try to understand the worst of the worst self medication that manifests as self destructiion, and then share your wisdom, is a profound gift to humanity. Thank God more people now know this man's work.

@BernardTaylor Рік тому

At last hope and release for vulnerable people, and a path to healing for all those in pain and who otherwise would be hurt and sadly often are by the so called 'normal' system. Gabor, through all his humanness bravely shares a message the World needs to hear, and hear now, especially at this time of personal and global turmoil 💗

@KimberlyJose-si2sv Місяць тому

I started drinking alcohol since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. Alcohol addiction actually destroyed my life. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@Qing__001 Місяць тому

Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.

@JanetRichardson-mq5es Місяць тому

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

@DonnHowes Місяць тому

YES very sure of Dr.medshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Edennnn926 Місяць тому

I'm really happy for you that your friend decided to help you...I hear about alot of family members or so called friends shutting an addict out of their life, which since most addicts do it to mask emotions to me is the worse thing someone can do to an addict.

@samhenry75 Місяць тому

How do I reach out to him? Is he on Instagram

@wallacepeeace6492 Рік тому

This man is one of the most intelligent person I've ever listened to. At a former drug and alcohol abuser I know exactly what he's talking about. I didn't find religion or anything like that but I found some beautiful people who cared about my health and directed me to an awesome trauma therapist who showed me who I really am! Yup...smart man.

@claresente Рік тому

I'm so happy to hear that you found healing.

@wallacepeeace6492 Рік тому

@@claresente I try to tell anyone who will listen about trauma therapy and the wonders of this little known treatment but people will never understand until they actually live it and feel the freedom I never knew was this comforting.

@francesbeth2077 Рік тому

God is a spirit. He lives and resides in us if we follow his teachings, commandments and guidance.

@lightworker4512 Рік тому

@@francesbeth2077 when you awaken, you realize you are an infinite eternal spirit of the Creator as everyone is. Our humanity, our ego veils our true identity and we believe we are sinners and God is outside ourselves.

@wallacepeeace6492 Рік тому

@@lightworker4512 Francis is going straight to hell because of these poor bastards being led to the slaughter! That so-called "religion" conducts itself exactly like any other CULT!!! All y'all are going straight to HELL to burn for all eternity that YOU idiots created for YOURSELVES...🙄

@katevanes4556 Місяць тому

I am 37 days sober. I am spending more time getting to know myself, and becoming my own friend. I like myself more. Focusing on AA meetings and homework from my sponsor is great! Also remember... the opposite of addiction is connection, im connecting with people who add value to my life and who actually listen to what i have to say.

@oe1freak Місяць тому

Wow, great content without disturbing "music"! Thank you so much!

@empowerempathsnow9192 Рік тому

He is just so riveting 🧐 to listen to and exactly on point with his wisdom on life! I love ❤️ him!

@katherinemoorhead338 Рік тому

Gabor is, without a doubt, the brilliant mind of our time. His understanding of addiction has helped me heal

@skronked Рік тому

"Can people change who they are... need to be who they are" G. Mate is my hero!

@DirectorHMAN Рік тому

Having worked in Prison I can tell you they are about 30-40 years behind with their methods of approach. It's not something that can easily change overnight, main reason is the lack of funding. The more they cut their funds the more they stop with helpful but expensive programs that help the prisoners.

@zach3409 Рік тому

I have lost my marriage and significant time with my 4 year old daughter largely due to a struggle with a behavioral/routine pattern that I somehow got myself rutted into bad (not drugs, gambling, sex etc). I couldn't understand it for the longest time until recently, when I chalked it up to it being something that's became so routine and engrained in my day to day that it became "addictive" because it became comfortable and familiar from the ongoing cycle...Despite simultaneously not wanting to continue that cycle and knowing it was causing hardship/strain on the bigger picture. As weird and upside down as that seems. Side note:You commonly hear people spew that addiction is a disease. I'd say it's more of some type of disorder than a "disease".

@AnnaDN76 3 місяці тому

I am afraid I am now addicted to Dr Gabor Maté's work. Since I discovered this amazing man a few weeks ago, I cannot stop watching his interviews ! I now need to get that book.

@9ersfannorth531 23 дні тому

You are my hero for articulating to the world how many of our "choices" are under psychological, biological, and social duress! It helps to alleviate blame for myself or others when we disappoint and promotes an attitude of understanding instead of judgment. It leads me to believe that whenever I catch myself judging another person, I probably know little about them and I should stop because I'm indulging my own ignorance. And we must not do that.

@Sarinhajd Рік тому

Absolutely amazing! Loved it! I'm going to buy his book!

@louisesumrell6331 Рік тому

Working with alcoholics in a twelve step program, I've found that most have made up wonderful childhood stories that some of them seem to have grown to actually believe. Those people become dependent on constant involvement in the program in oreder to stay sober. They never engage with the underlying causes of their problem. -weezi-💖🙏💜🙏

@larryc7209 Рік тому

many do seek professional help and then join AA or another program to get continued support

@sagebay2803 Рік тому

IDK, I used to BEG my parents to stop drinking, stop shopping, stop smoking, just stop it! but they would laugh at me and tell me to shut up and why can't I just enjoy things? We had to have the best of everything, so people thought we were wealthy. It was all smoke and mirrors. They were so arrogant and I was so ashamed of them and angry for having to hide the truth. So! They knew what they were doing...they CHOSE to keep doing it. So, I don't understand how alcoholism is not a choice? Also, we were very religious...had to show people how good we were. ugh. Now they are old and are begging to come back into my life. I am so disgusted. They are broke, in their 80s. I just don't see how it is NOT a choice. Thanks for letting me ramble.

@zaiphu 23 дні тому

He’s saying that it is a reaction to pain, and that we are not in a state of mind to make a sober decision on what’s best. I don’t think the point here is to absolve addicts of all responsibility, or to invalidate your personal trauma.

@kitnoCC Місяць тому

Man, that content is pure gold. Thanks for doing this interview and sharing it with the world.

@westerling8436 Рік тому

My younger brother had the exact same upbringing as me, yet he was a drug addict for years while I was studying in college and doing competitive sports...

@annekerotterdam7499 Рік тому

True!

@davidbaker8196 5 місяців тому

Even if your brother was your identical twin, it would be absolutely impossible for him to have the exact upbringing as you my friend.

@MrMeh23 Рік тому

becoming who we are as opposed to changing who we are. I was not prepared for how hard that hit me

@Acrycius Рік тому

Living in a time where the great contemporary philosophers, writers, thinkers,... Are exposed to common human in this way is a unseen and true blessing!

@acrez3260 3 місяці тому

Thank you Gabor for waking me up to my patterns. I’m definitely an internet addict, I use it all day compulsively to escape my feelings, but I was in denial for a long time because “everyone uses the internet”. I’ve quit pornography recently so I don’t think I’ll quit completely yet but I know which direction I need to go in. Thank you so much ❤

@aderodriguez3481 Рік тому

Amazing Guy, Finally somebody interviewed someone that exposed this problems with society, drugs addiction etc. He expressed super eloquent and just goes to the point and nailed all the problems that we have in society. Super smart and knowledgeable👍🙏

@user-ib2ri6up5k 2 місяці тому

I’m thinking that I’m very blessed person listening this highly studied contents. I am intrested in understanding the process who you are before the children Truma, it also helps to getting know about the multi-layered of human . I really honor to your research to heal the people who have the soul not to be limited and cared.

@user-go7zy3fc5f Місяць тому

I knew a psychologist that treated specifically men suffering from alcoholism. He said every client of his over his 40 years as a service provider was a victim of sexual abuse often times child sexual abuse.

@raymondblake5765 Рік тому

I am gonna be honest here: Gabor mate is the best!

@meganm4350 Рік тому

"Can people change who they are? They need to become who they are." I feel like my whole reality just shifted.

@NigelGrab Рік тому

Listening to Scattered Minds changed my life and confirmed that I should seek an ADHD assessment - leading me to start meds and realise there's a reason I am the way I am. Thankyou Dr Maté.

@annan4866 Рік тому

Thank you for sharing ❤️ everyone needs to hear this!

@englishwithneil Рік тому

Such a wise man. Thank you for sharing.

@puffing_bear Рік тому

This guy is a legend

@RikRoxbrix121 Рік тому

Awakening, more so for some than others. An addict can understand and relate to his teachings. Much appreciate your knowledge and teachings, brings understanding and hope to finally one day find healing and live healthier and pain free.

@kathleendelaney335 Рік тому

I love listening every week to this remarkable man it all makes sense its definitely not a choice

@jdewit8148 Рік тому

I love the message you bring doctor Gabor.

@noahbrown4388 Рік тому

Love this man! ☺️

@samturco4870 2 місяці тому

Speaking from personal experience, the short answer is yes.

@lorrainekrane2385 Рік тому

This man is so bright and loving!

@BeatheSommer Рік тому

I absolutely love this!

@kirchb Рік тому

Fascinating! Finally someone who has a grasp on what it is to be human.

@Dzanarika1 Рік тому

It is about time this gets talked about.

@kayladixon3734 Рік тому

This video, and the comments section, has restored my hope in society.

@brunoborce8951 20 днів тому

This men had a very big impact in my life when i first discover his revolutionary approach towards addiction. I was blaming my self so much thinking that this selfdistructive patters that made me disassociate was by pure free will and not as a consequence of our treatment during the vulnerable and fragile infancy. Now instead of blaming and shame i seek feelings of compassion towards my self and in moments of recession and i feel like i am going towards a learning curve that seemed to be stuck for so long. I also totally agree about autoimune disease and the bigger significance of our chronological negative emotions can impact these on oir bodies and it totally makes sense. We seek to disassociate by distracting our self with negative consequential behaviors or substance additions until the body gives you, for example a herniated disk. That pain would be so intense and distracting that will force you meditate towards your body and drag attention to your phisical alarms. This leads to question our needs that in this case are disassociated from our true authenticity, forcing us to think about those esencial questions of personal needs.

@gebtmirschuld Рік тому

As soon as you reject help, you choose your future path. So in some way addiction is a choice.

@suzannemaroney4579 8 місяців тому

People choose to self medicate, they don’t choose to be addicted, there’s a big difference…..just my opinion. I can’t explain why it takes so long for someone to accept help….one idea is the drug has become their best friend because it has helped them cope with their emotions, and they don’t want to give up their best friend….

@hardware199 Рік тому

2:40 "...some even more toxic than heroin, but legal like alcohol."

@nedthumberland 2 місяці тому

I'm thanful for Dr. Mate's expertise and wisdom.

@Left_it Рік тому

Telling the truth itself is a revolutionary act

@dreammachine432 Рік тому

This dude is blowing my mind

@TejasM14 Рік тому

Another take on a similar question is "The Sane Society", a work by the Eric Fromm who translated a lot of Freud's work. His take was the same, society presents itself as sane, but in reality is not. Further more it is leading to the destruction of human potential. I don't expect much to change, except for the worse. However, individuals can either get off entirely or cope better on the rat race with findings from such books.

@bitscrawford Рік тому

the way dr maté speaks about god is so powerful. it made me feel seen and heard and understood, and honestly made me cry. thank you dr. maté, for everything you do

@wolfthequarrelsome504 Рік тому

We all have had traumatic experiences so why aren't we all addicted?

@kencur9690 Рік тому

Yeah, there are plenty of flaws in his argument. You aren’t addicted because you *chose* not to get into the addiction. Very simplistic thinking employed here, unfortunately.

@kencur9690 Рік тому

@@kimilsungthefirst6840 right. Well so do murderers and rapists and paeodophiles. It has been shown that these people are stimulated to act and feel “euphoric effects” that others do not. Take serial killers for instance. They are moved and stimulated to act by forces not present (or present to a lesser degree) by others. So, how does this tie in with your point. What are we to do? Are we to simply ignore that the above *chose* to act on that stimulation, and absolve them of all responsibility in their actions?

@fatimamelo3858 Рік тому

Doctor thank you so much to teaching people the why's of our behavior! People with profession similar to yours,make wounded people feel like it is our fault!

@LinA-it9vd Рік тому

Why is it about blame rather than responsibility?

@kalayne6713 2 місяці тому

Gabor. What a gift this man is.

@chrissiebohnert841 Рік тому

Thank you God for Dr.Mate

@carolynw45 Рік тому

Normal, is the button on a washing machine ✨

@Rema728 Рік тому

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@soniatorretta5046 Рік тому

Nice presentation dr. Mate. I have bought your book after your interview with Tim Ferriss. Wishing you a lon, hapy and productive life. Wanna read more from you! 😊

@drendelous Рік тому

humanity can be proud of itself having Gabor as its ambassador

@edwinagetty1345 Рік тому

thank you Gabor .illuminating

@happydillpickle Рік тому

Gabor Maté is perhaps the greatest mind on the subject of the human condition, on trauma, addiction and suffering. I absolutely love his work. What a brilliant person. But, Penguin: why ruin a perfectly good video with those horrifying jazz cymbals? Too loud; if you have tinnitus you will understand 🤣

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@bwiz6514 Рік тому

It's not the assumption that people chose to be addicted, but that they chose to do something they knew was addictive. And that choice led to addiction. Obviously, there are exceptions like the predatory practices of Purdue Pharma, etc...But it's also a choice to get help or not. If you choose not to get help, you are choosing to be addicted.

@TheDavveponken Рік тому

You're missing the point.

@clayoreilly4553 11 місяців тому

Thank your sharing your wisdom, Dr, Mate'. I very much appreciate these insights to myself and to others.

@shoukifong 11 днів тому

Thank you so much for your perspective, this helps so much for understanding myself and others and be kind to each other

@gszikra Рік тому

I feel I have a lot in common with Dr. Mate. I grew up in communist Hungary too. I have been to Vipassana. I have read the book Vinnie the Poo (Mici macko). And my first name is also Gabor.

@claresente Рік тому

I have a father who grew up in communist Hungary and spent 10 years of his life from 1946-56 in a political prison after coming back from serving in war. So from age 21-31 he was in prison sentenced for life for not being a communist. Same time Dr. Mate left Hungary, at the time of the Hungarian Revolution. My father was able to escape prison because the Russion guards feared for their lives and left. He led a group of prisoners (at night) and headed to Vienna in Nov 1956. There he met my mom and they immigrated to the US. He never talked about his prison days or how his parents and sister died from the Russians, but that trauma was there. I feel that Dr. Mate helps me understand my father, mother, and myself better on how trauma affects us. I wish you well.

@Rema728 Рік тому

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@Dzanarika1 Рік тому

@@claresente thank you so much for sharing your story. It makes so much sense why, we, as humans , are so messed up. It is a vicious circle indeed. It is about time to start talking about it and stop shaming people for their traumas and experiences. However, in order for any change to start happening, we first need to recognize the root problem, get educated about, inform other fellow humans about it and star our healing process, step by step. The whole society needs healing.