Dr Gabor Maté | We Live In A Toxic Culture (Part 1)

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We tend to believe that normality equals health. Yet what is the norm in the Western world? Joining us live on stage in London - in conversation with filmmaker and author David Malone - the renowned physician, addiction expert and author Gabor Maté dissects the underlying causes of this malaise - physical and emotional, and connects the dots between our personal suffering and the pressures of modern-day living.
Illness and trauma are defining how we live. 45% of Europeans suffer high blood pressure, and nearly 70% of Americans take at least one prescription drug.
Over four decades of clinical experience, Dr Gabor Maté has found that the common definition of ‘normal’ is false: virtually all disease is actually a natural reflection of life in an abnormal culture, as we grow further and further apart from our true selves.
Filled with stories of people in the grip of illness or in the triumphant wake of recovery, this life-affirming talk from the beloved physician and author will show how true health is possible - if we are willing to embrace authenticity above social expectations.
Gabor Maté is a retired physician, bestselling author and renowned speaker, highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, stress and childhood development. He has written four bestselling books published in nearly thirty languages, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction. He has been awarded the Order of Canada (his country’s equivalent of the MBE) and the Civic Merit Award from his hometown, Vancouver, for his ground-breaking medical work and writing.
David Malone is a filmmaker and TV presenter whose documentaries include Testing God, Soul Searching (both Channel 4), Dangerous Knowledge and The Secret Life of Waves (both BBC). He is the author of The Debt Generation.

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@HowToAcademyMindset
@HowToAcademyMindset Рік тому
Watch more of Dr Gabor here: ukposts.info/slow/PLFIigLLitqDmBx70a-rY1n035Oz8HumeC
@jorgelandell5179
@jorgelandell5179 Рік тому
Television, high cost of living, cell phones, excessive eating, lack of genuine relationships, divorce rates, shaming everything you don't do or don't have. And it's going to get worst.
@mavis3916
@mavis3916 Рік тому
Nah,
@rejectionistmanifesto8836
@rejectionistmanifesto8836 Рік тому
Depriving of oxygen like forced mask mandates... Young folks now is NOT the time to get pregnant or get someone pregnant. Please use daily birth control pills, condom, Morning After pill each time after sex and get the Tubal Ligation simple procedure. We are entering the Greatest Depression as explained by Gerald Celente and others who study the largest financial bubble in history which is in the process of collapsing. Do not condemn an innocent newborn child into a horrific future as the starvation and ruin of the Great Depression will look like luxury when this collapses.
@skeletor7708
@skeletor7708 Рік тому
I think thats the crux of the issue, its awful to say but the reality is, it is getting worse. People thought instagram was bad, look at Tik Tok. The societal cracks will continue to expand.
@davidfuller764
@davidfuller764 Рік тому
I approve of And resemble this remark. Shame is heavy.
@tarajoyce3598
@tarajoyce3598 Рік тому
Power coupons and self-interest are the main measures of worth and success...at least in the US....meritocracy kills one's humanity.
@richgarcia9254
@richgarcia9254 Рік тому
Krishnamurti was correct when he said that being well adapted to a profoundly ill society is not a good thing.
@SandiTink
@SandiTink Рік тому
Dr. Mate has helped me so much. I understand things about myself that never made sense or caused confusion. Every time I read his work or hear him talk, there are many “aha moments.” This man is a global treasure.
@arcacoma3524
@arcacoma3524 Рік тому
If we all stop comparing ourselves with others,we will live healthier...Comparison is the thief of joy.
@christineplaton3048
@christineplaton3048 7 місяців тому
Men comparing one woman to another destroy the chance at ever being happy
@louisesumrell6331
@louisesumrell6331 Рік тому
Constant stress, fear/anger, keep adrenaline and cortisol levels elevated, leading to dis-ease. Loving Kindness and Compassionate Understanding are the cure.
@markhedger6378
@markhedger6378 Рік тому
And lots of sunlight (dr jack Kruse podcasts )best wishes to you
@rubytuesday7653
@rubytuesday7653 Рік тому
🌿💛🌿
@raahustaja7267
@raahustaja7267 Рік тому
We need honest anger too. Permission to exist as a whole person. No one is perfect and there is no need to be. Evereone has a right and responsibility to say no to outright lies. Don t be kind when someone is trying to cheat you. Defend your integrity.
@3leggedsharkkickssurferinballs
@3leggedsharkkickssurferinballs Рік тому
​@@raahustaja7267 Yes! I love this comment. Authenticity is so important. Alas, it seems to be going out of style. And with ever increasing censorship and restrictions around personal self expression, it seems that authenticity will also soon be illegal. Without honesty and authenticity we have no hope of ever forming true, meaningful connections with others ( let alone ourselves ).
@rjvowels
@rjvowels Рік тому
Very well said!!!
@MastaChafa
@MastaChafa 10 місяців тому
The fact that his voice is ASMR is a big plus
@farrider3339
@farrider3339 Рік тому
"Culture is not your friend." True ! Culture has one interest only : To perpetuate the status quo. Good input Mr.Maté
@ermitanyo777
@ermitanyo777 Рік тому
I believe Terence McKenna also said the same exact line. If you havent seen mr. McKenna articulate his experiences, you should. Thanks. Youre welcome.
@farrider3339
@farrider3339 Рік тому
@@ermitanyo777 aye Sir. The TmcK said precisely so. That's why me use "quotation marks" .. Me heard quite some of his talks. Word acrobatics 🤹‍♂️ at its finest. Me like the TmcK albeit content debatable 👋°•.
@ohmyitsrennn1331
@ohmyitsrennn1331 Рік тому
A word ! 💯
@alvodin6197
@alvodin6197 Рік тому
Culture is culture. One can still have culture and traditions without shoving it down people's throats, excluding others etc. I wouldn't take Teri's word as Gospel, as he was very cynical an reductionist, especially his last year's of life. This is not to say that he wasn't a talented speakers obviously he was. Terrence had issues that probably was aware of. That can cause people to project unto the world and others.
@farrider3339
@farrider3339 Рік тому
@@alvodin6197 simple question now : what happens to those who deviate from mainstream ? To cut a long story short - tolerance within in the coordinates culture has defined and then exclusion from the collective. Cultural fundamentalism is seen as less critical than just being critical about the disadvantages culture comes along with. Here lies the root of national of tribal conflicts.
@Albisriede
@Albisriede Рік тому
Gabor touches here on one of the most important phases in a human's beginnings: Birth, raising the newborn and how this affects the child's development. 25-some years ago I came across a book (The Continuum Concept) by Jean Liedloff, who observed the child raising practices of Yequana Indians. One of the first things she observed was: Yequana children 'never' cry. She found that puzzling. In time she learned why. One principle reason is that from birth on their infants enter what she termed an 'in arms phase' of life (about 6 months), that being carried in a sling throughout the day, regardless what kind of activity the mother engages in, be that hauling water, firewood, cooking etc. At night the infant sleeps with mother and suckles whenever the need arises. So in tune with one another are the two, that mother doesn't even wake up when that takes place. This sort of being in tune with their environment creates an extremely relaxed (by any standard) young human being who never cries for 'psychological reasons' like our kids do, except when there is physical injury. Friends of the author - who at the time of the book's initial publishing were raising a young boy and who, incidentally, cried during most nights - were advised to try having the boy sleep with the parents in their bed. The result: the boy stopped crying and after several weeks decided that he wanted to now sleep in his own bed. Crying issue solved. Apparently a 'must experience'' phase in the boy's life had been completed and his developing authenticity was on the right track. I believe what Dr Maté is talking about is exemplified in Liedloff's book and should be regarded as a worthwhile read, especially for those who want to become parents.
@Justin-of9gf
@Justin-of9gf Рік тому
Very interesting, thank you for sharing !
@douchmush9861
@douchmush9861 Рік тому
We cry for attention
@happinesstan
@happinesstan Рік тому
Was there any information as to the actual birth process? For a long time I have been considering our accepted practices, and their impacts on self awareness and self-development. Having observed the birthing process of a variety of animals, I find our own to be quite [how to put it?] restrictive to the development of any sense of autonomy. What you have articulated above doesn't quite relate until you mention authenticity. I suspect a lack of authenticity in the way in which we perceive our primary experience, and that this lack of authenticity forms the foundation of all further reflections on the self.
@92baynrw
@92baynrw Рік тому
This is ridiculously embellished. Of course they cried. Crying is a very natural and important part of being human and human development.
@StressRUs
@StressRUs Рік тому
Unfortunately, we mostly have children by accident and for whom we have no time due to all our other time commitments. If we were honest with ourselves, we'd admit that we had thought little of what a child's needs are or if we were really ready to make such an investment of time and labor. Thus, 100,000 unplanned/unwanted children are being born just today in the world. Remember, if you knew, that all the crowded animal studies end the same: total extinction of the population due to failed parenting. Stress R US
@angelaengle12
@angelaengle12 Рік тому
11:15 I have an example to add to this. When my mother was pregnant with my sister and I (twins), 6 months in her mother passed away which caused her to go into labor early and we were delivered as preemies. She gave birth to us on the day her mom was being buried. We had a lot of medical issues being born so early including brain hemorrhaging and such. Emotional state is extremely important while being pregnant.
@joshuablack8221
@joshuablack8221 Рік тому
He hit on something that I’ve been saying for years - too many people act as if the medical and scientific field is the end all be all, as if they have all the answers and can’t be wrong or misguided.
@annnee6818
@annnee6818 Рік тому
Actually not that many people act like that. But many people act as if many people acted that way.
@sarahrobertson634
@sarahrobertson634 Рік тому
Al it of people believe that. Natural Law is actually the be all end all. Good old Mother Nature. Science is merely amen fort to understand nature.
@northofyou33
@northofyou33 Рік тому
Joshua, indeed. Most of the people I know act like this, and they scoff at me when I mention things that aren't mainstream-medicine based.
@happinesstan
@happinesstan Рік тому
Religion gained it's power over the will of the individual, by using superior knowledge of science and the natural world. They're going back to their roots. Thay can't just claim to have met God on the dark side of the moon, anymore.
@WisdomThumbs
@WisdomThumbs Рік тому
@@annnee6818 Explain why I’m the only person in my friend group who fact-checks claims of fact-checking. Explain why my friends and most of my family accept whatever medical headlines say. Explain why Big Pharma is trusted despite relying on bribery, and why Relative Risk is used to mask the realities of Absolute Risk. Moreover, explain why so many people believe that masks prevent transmission, and ridicule any PPE experts who show data otherwise. Explain why so many people believe the shots stopped transmission, and still believe it, just because of marketing campaigns based on *a lack of evidence, which have since been retracted.*
@mohamedelfatih9826
@mohamedelfatih9826 Рік тому
(Illness is not is abnormality. It is the normal response to abnormal environment) Sum it all
@sergiomontes2568
@sergiomontes2568 Рік тому
As a medical interpreter I can confirm than in the UK, at every maternity appointment, we *always* ask the mother for her emotional health, we make several questions about how she feels, if she feels that she needs emotional help to cope, if she lives in a safe environment and feels safe with her partner, and so on... it should be the same in every country.
@StressRUs
@StressRUs Рік тому
Our over-active stress response, driven by population density stress, is killing us NOW through ALL of our myriad and rapidly increasing "diseases of civilization". We have built a stressor filled environment. I just spent two hours in a cell phone shop attempting to switch carriers and get a new "flip phone", as I am convinced that the I-phone is a major part of the problem and provides an endless source of stress. Here's the rub: stress is addicting and we get hooked, just like any other feel-good drug/behavior, and then must constantly seek out stressful environments to keep the dopamine and endorphins flowing through the stress response. Gabor has much of value to say, especially about early childhood trauma. So many of today's pregnancies are unplanned (unwanted?) and so many of us had to grow-up unwanted. We are 3,000 times more numerous than were our Hunter-Gatherer/pastoralist ancestors just 10-14kya. What could go wrong. Stress R Us
@aprboone1
@aprboone1 Рік тому
I took the day off to get a new phone ..
@mikexhotmail
@mikexhotmail Рік тому
Switch back to "flip phone" ...I have been thinking about this for some time.
@StressRUs
@StressRUs Рік тому
@@mikexhotmail Our corporate consumer culture tells us incessantly to buy, buy, buy, upgrade, upgrade, upgrade, throw away, throw away, throw away, and "don't look up" at our exhaustion and destruction of our natural environment. So, the secret to a happy life is simply not paying attention to the "ads" and refocusing on the smaller, simpler, natural, kind, loving, and spiritual aspects of our environments. So, yes, flip phones and real conversations with our fellows about the real events/emotions/ ideas that we are personally experiencing. We do have choices. Stress R Us
@mikexhotmail
@mikexhotmail Рік тому
@@StressRUs Agree. I know where you are coming from still since there is so many "free" stuffs that I love such as this youtube conversation clip. It kind of hard decision.
@ronaldronald8819
@ronaldronald8819 Рік тому
It is fascinating how the insights that Dr Gabor Maté has are explaining so many ills of our society and how damaging that is to our well-being..
@rubytuesday7653
@rubytuesday7653 Рік тому
Life in the USA ( living on the Reservation).
@TheDoomWizard
@TheDoomWizard Рік тому
Then you might like my channel too!
@wet-read
@wet-read Рік тому
He is ok. Reading some of John Zerzan's essays on society will really blow your hair back! "Youth and Regression in an Infantile Society" and "The Mass Psychology of Misery" are good places to start. They are available online.
@ronaldronald8819
@ronaldronald8819 Рік тому
@@wet-readWill do that. Thanks for the tip!
@lisawhite8718
@lisawhite8718 Рік тому
Fascinating? You find it so interesting as opposed to horrifyingly heartbreaking? Feels like everyone is giving up.
@toshapetronicolos2344
@toshapetronicolos2344 Рік тому
“Sadly, our culture is much more concerned with expertise than wisdom.” OMGoodness - SO true! This video just breaks my heart… Dr Mate explains his words SO well yet some will still disagree that any of them are true…
@anitachojnacki4512
@anitachojnacki4512 8 місяців тому
Nailed it wish he was our prime minister DR GABOR MATE...IS A GENIUS AND A GENTLEMAN. TRAUMA IS SO RIFE.ABUSE IS HUGEMONGUS. IT WILL BE A SAD DAY WHEN HE PASSES EARTHSIDE GOD BLESS HIM XXX
@questioneverything4952
@questioneverything4952 Рік тому
I live in America. Obesity is rampant in America. Could we also talked about the foods at the grocery store? The type of food that we eat we'll make us very sick. The government allows all kinds of chemicals in the food. It's all causes a toxic environment also. I don't think it should be ignored
@henoheno4686
@henoheno4686 Рік тому
Gabors a Saint. Listen to this man everyone, please.
@bridbrencoxireland5197
@bridbrencoxireland5197 8 місяців тому
He is genius
@rochelle9683
@rochelle9683 Рік тому
Dr Gabor's compassion for, and understanding of, humanity is truly inspiring. He has connected so many dots, both psychologically, and physiologically. The problem is, though we desperately need people like him to guide governments around the world, his views would be unpopular as they run counter to the way modern society has been set up (especially the economic strategies).
@fatimamelo3858
@fatimamelo3858 Рік тому
Doctor Gabe you are únic! I simply get mesmerized by your sensivity and wisdom...
@mattp4007
@mattp4007 Рік тому
Great point. Thank you for your insight
@Freyablogja
@Freyablogja Рік тому
I am so proud to be Hungarian when I listen to him ♥️
@marksiroki8213
@marksiroki8213 Рік тому
Mmm ne futyol
@dragomirdanut2451
@dragomirdanut2451 11 місяців тому
Im so proud to listen to this wise man ,and im romanian:))))
@Freyablogja
@Freyablogja 11 місяців тому
@@dragomirdanut2451 He is Hungarian. This is the point. I like Christian Terhes who is a Romanian, but it does not mean I am proud when I listen since I am not Romanian :)
@milleniumfalcon8654
@milleniumfalcon8654 Рік тому
What the world lacks is Freedom,Truth, Wisdom, instead we have opposite,the system insures complacency & we police each other unknowingly,when you been brought up on lies the truth is hard to find or acknowledge
@yvonneshanson1525
@yvonneshanson1525 Рік тому
Birds born in a cage think flying is an illness..
@christineplaton3048
@christineplaton3048 7 місяців тому
I had toxic partners. We ( my children and I ) were all profoundly affected. Very important teachings here. Can be toxic churches too that condone the behavior that harm the marriage.
@quinnbond3055
@quinnbond3055 Рік тому
When I was three, I had my tonsils removed. I was in a hospital room with three men. Visiting hour was between six and seven. For two weeks. It broke my mom's heart to leave me there. That was the NHS (UK) in 1967. Still hate hospitals and doctors.
@annnee6818
@annnee6818 Рік тому
I bet
@tslilbearshoppe9870
@tslilbearshoppe9870 Рік тому
he's right and it's disgusting and most ppl are fed up with it.
@eqilibrya5994
@eqilibrya5994 Рік тому
watching this my throat tightened. all the usual trauma responses ive become used to. these days I find any subject matter on the subject itself.. traumatic. But I stayed with it ...glad I did. the chest pain dialed back the longer I listened. I'l listen more
@aratneerg3699
@aratneerg3699 Рік тому
All the people saying u have control... As an adult I certainly have more control but as a child or a teenager i definitely would have just absorbed what was around me. Its not just about us, its about others... our society. We are social beings. We owe it to ourselves and others to challenge unhealthy attitudes.
@robinluedeman2910
@robinluedeman2910 Рік тому
Remarkable man! I wish his knowledgeable could be imbedded in everybody!!
@albertroundtree299
@albertroundtree299 Рік тому
May not know? What the hell is this chap saying! Dr. Gabor Mate is one of our greatest thinkers.
@seinfeldfan442
@seinfeldfan442 Рік тому
The part about not having your needs met is true, been there done that.
@rob-robi
@rob-robi 16 днів тому
Gabor is awesome
@oswaldojimenez5683
@oswaldojimenez5683 Рік тому
Totally agree with Mr Maté
@Jeannelawes
@Jeannelawes Рік тому
So much to take in Part 1 & 2. So I bought the book.
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp Рік тому
"Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two breaths or turning inward in prayer for five short minutes, become simple and live simply not only within yourself but also in your everyday dealings, don't make ripples al around you don't try to be interesting keep your distance be honest fight the desire to be thought fascinating by the outside world, we have to become as simple as Wordless as the growing corn and the falling rain, we must just be, listen to what is going on inside you, your thinking gets you nowhere, it may be fine and noble aid in academic studies, you can't think your way out of emotional difficulties, that takes something altogether different, you have to make yourself passive then and just listen, re-establish the contact with a slice of eternity " ---Etty Hillesum __ A free bird __Jewish mystic.
@susanyeadon6657
@susanyeadon6657 Рік тому
I went against the grain with my babies and was ridiculed , I have no regrets
@rosa-heidemarie
@rosa-heidemarie Рік тому
Me too! I decided to make MOTHERING my profession while my children were young. According to MY feminist beliefs, the feminine qualities and values, and what women evolved biologically to be is more valuable to society than those qualities and values associated with masculinity. By caring for the young, giving constant loving care for their emotional development and healthy nourishment for their physical development, a person who mothers is creating the foundation for healthy, sane, compassionate members of society more than ANY other endeavor on Earth. Only when we have a healthy, sane, compassionate society will we be able to solve the urgent crises that humanity is creating on our beautiful planet. Healing the world begins with honoring our mothers. And when I was mothering my young children, I was isolated and even ridiculed by other family members. We had very little money but we had a big garden and second hand clothes and took walks in nature and most of all, we had each other. But I had no social support outside our little nuclear family bubble.
@susanyeadon6657
@susanyeadon6657 Рік тому
@@rosa-heidemarie omg. I married into a rural community. Evaporated milk mixed with water was the accepted formula and kook aid in a bottle wasn’t unheard of ! 😳. Just as an example. I breastfed my three no solids until five to six months. Practice there was “ pablum “ at four to six weeks! Needless to say I ended up raising my three daughters alone. ✌️
@rosa-heidemarie
@rosa-heidemarie Рік тому
@@susanyeadon6657 Bravo, brave Momma!
@susanyeadon6657
@susanyeadon6657 Рік тому
@@rosa-heidemarie I was horrified to find out his community used canned milk and water. Kool ade in a bottle at one year also just fine 😳. I breast fed three. Only . You can imagine the outrage. I left 13 years later. Kids 10, 6 & 4.
@AlexiosLair
@AlexiosLair Рік тому
@@rosa-heidemarie we need more feminists like you.
@Milestonemonger
@Milestonemonger Рік тому
We're living through the most narcissistic generation.
@walexander8378
@walexander8378 Рік тому
@@passiveaction interesting. Care to expand on that?
@ladybug5859
@ladybug5859 Рік тому
I'm assuming you mean the millennial generation and Generation Z. THOSE two generations are marked by the absence of parents in the home to meet their emotional needs and their psychological needs and their spiritual needs because the parents are out fighting the good fight --to make the money to keep bread on the table and a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs. In Nations Across the Western world, we have made that very very difficult. As a very young child I was very reflective and I recall reading or talking in the kitchen after school and my mother was ironing - (which actually something I love to do but I can't seem to find an ironing board because they're so rare and mothers are no longer ironing) --and I remember thinking how I could not make it without my mother standing there ironing and listening to me and saying very little. I'm not quite sure what she even heard but JUST her presence there, her quiet presence, reassured me that I eaxisted for her, that I belonged, that I mattered as I rattled on about this, that or the other or maybe read her a book from school. Kids don't have THAT option anymore. Kids may have a nanny but it's hard to say if that Nanny listens with the same ears as a mother would and we know now that the connection between a mother and her biological child (I have to say that because that's what the science says) is absolute and it can be scientifically revealed by different tests. An adopted mother will probably build up certain bonds but the biological mother they say has parts of her self in that child in such a way that there's an absolute resonance and this is why mothers often know when the child's gone astray and and is in danger. In all events that's my take on it because narcissism develops usually because of person is told or thinks that they are better than what they really know they are. And a child that grows up without this ability to resonate with a parent on a daily basis for an extended amount of time will always think they're less than and therefore-- due to our current culture --will always SAY they are MORE than what they think deep down they are. THAT is narcissism. THINK about it🤔
@JohnTaylor-fh4et
@JohnTaylor-fh4et Рік тому
@@ladybug5859 it's not just the millennials and generation z, it's everybody. We've all been sucked up by some crazy consumer capitalist soul sucking system The only values, money, stuff and power. It's grotesque. And we're killing the planet on top of that.
@nomadnorbert
@nomadnorbert Рік тому
I believe that is how humans are naturally but today we have more means to do what our past humans would’ve killed to be able to do. I argue that if any past generation had all the comforts we have today, they would be exactly how we are today.
@jamesroof6150
@jamesroof6150 Рік тому
The Me generation of the late 1970s pretty narcissistic too
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 7 місяців тому
Exactly...and that is precisely what's killing us: chronic stress!
@dee-deebe9256
@dee-deebe9256 Рік тому
Such 💙💙 Wisdom 🙂 #thankyoufornamingithere #thecultureistoxic
@yerahmlee730
@yerahmlee730 11 місяців тому
Such a must watch
@MonaMarMag
@MonaMarMag Рік тому
When lying , dishonesty , impunity , lack of justice is tolerated . ( In many cased even awarded instead of being punished .) What did you expect ?
@truongut3649
@truongut3649 Рік тому
Terence McKenna summed it up without a lot of explanation... "Culture is not your friend."
@montanagal6958
@montanagal6958 Рік тому
Explains the mass fleeing from the cities.
@withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380
@withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380 Рік тому
20 years too late, was toxic it has already evolved past that but it’s nice to know I’m years ahead of the brightest minds 😊
@courtneygillespie
@courtneygillespie Рік тому
Agreed 👍
@obes8
@obes8 Рік тому
Truth
@interestedpart2650
@interestedpart2650 Рік тому
Spot on!
@DontBeeLeafTheHype
@DontBeeLeafTheHype Рік тому
Amazes me people still deny the simple truths of good and evil. Ignorance is bliss in this culture.
@farrider3339
@farrider3339 Рік тому
Good and evil are concepts and to be found in the eye of the beholder.
@yvonneshanson1525
@yvonneshanson1525 Рік тому
@@farrider3339 no👎
@farrider3339
@farrider3339 Рік тому
@@yvonneshanson1525 no ❌ 👎
@angelcandelaria6728
@angelcandelaria6728 Рік тому
It all magnified with the baby boom. Its called a generational problem not a problem of generation. It starts with the great grandfathers and great grandmothers and trickles down. Most people don’t even know the full definition or comprehension of the word narcissism. Everyone literally has narcissistic traits, the difference is in your agency of sociopathic or psychopathic behaviors in response to everyday life. Being a narcissist isn’t the soul issue, it’s the lack of connection and understanding overall. Not one generation has or will be the answer, it takes at least 3 generations to make a significant impact. While you are here in youtube look up narcissistic content and unlock for yourself the freedom of the “narcissistic glasses” once you study it, it’s impossible to unsee it or move around it, like a fish in water. Narcissism is the salt in the ocean for us in the air, the new cancer if you will.
@reginaarnone4845
@reginaarnone4845 Рік тому
It is a cancer
@deepdive888
@deepdive888 Рік тому
Well said
@rhondamathis1323
@rhondamathis1323 Рік тому
Wisdom
@emailcam
@emailcam Рік тому
Outstanding.
@zovalentine7305
@zovalentine7305 3 місяці тому
Gabor Mate MD PhD ❤
@jaimerodriguez1550
@jaimerodriguez1550 Рік тому
Mexicans and Mexican American migrants immigrants descendants love Mexico because when we are Mexico, we take a collective sigh deep breath we can't in the United States. They have poverty and drug wars there but yet rank high innthr happiest countries in the world. We do not understand the amount of stress we live under in the United States, because we deal with so much but we are so accustomed to it.
@chicago2colombia
@chicago2colombia Рік тому
Why leave Mexico?
@jaimerodriguez1550
@jaimerodriguez1550 Рік тому
@@chicago2colombia gotta get the good old American dolar, no place better than the good ole USA
@reeyees50
@reeyees50 Рік тому
@@chicago2colombia son they were always in mexico
@andrearenee7845
@andrearenee7845 Рік тому
A saint. 😇
@philippeberaldin5457
@philippeberaldin5457 Рік тому
No. A doctor....a far more useful member of society....and he's real👍
@crazigrl85
@crazigrl85 Місяць тому
Right
@firinne
@firinne Рік тому
3:19 6:27 7:29
@brida5923
@brida5923 Рік тому
A modern lived experience of coming to personal insights first expounded by the ancient guru, poets, philosophers who set themselves apart from the toxic environments of their time. As much as we’d like to think we are unique in the history of man, there is nothing new about our universal struggle with these issues. Every person has been removed from a sense of their true nature as spiritual beings here on the plant.
@Albisriede
@Albisriede Рік тому
Interesting points re: ancient gurus & philosophers. One or some of them must have coined the phrase "the Fall from Grace", a canny observation. When exactly that happened we'll never know, but it's perplexing to realize how that initial observation eventually morphed into modern religions' 'original sin' when, in effect, the true (Greek) meaning is "missing the mark". So, can one contemplate that "anyone can, occasionally" miss the mark? I believe yes, because without making mistakes very little, perhaps even nothing, can be learned. My personal contemplation regarding humanity's evolutionary process, wonders how things would have turned out if, instead of pursuing a strictly material path, we would have discovered that it is a 'spiritual' base that underlies everything. If so, where would we be today? Instead, it seems we maintained bits and pieces of that originally recognized spirituality, turned them into 'religions' for little more purpose than to manipulate one another. Call it the pre-cursors of political parties, if one will. Nature / Evolution can afford to "miss marks" of that magnitude, yet to us 'of limited spiritual capacity' such developments appear scary. One of Nature's magnificient laws is that she can afford to let much of what arises "go to waste" (not the best term), in order to let appear a rare exception of supreme spiritual expression, gurus etc. if you will. This is a law which routinely manifests in the material realm as well, where few of those born survive to full maturity. We live in an interesting World, eh?
@sub-ce8vr
@sub-ce8vr Рік тому
@@Albisriede very interesting world indeed, a weird dichotomy or conflict of interest between the desires of nature to procreate/survival and the desire to become spiritually free and realized which may be at conflict with nature.
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp Рік тому
"The rush and the pressure of modern life a reform perhaps the most common form of contemporary violence , to allow oneself to be carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns, to surrender to too many demands to commit oneself to too many projects is to succumb to violence, the frenzy of our activity neutarlizes our work for peace, it destroy our inner capacity for peace, it destroy fruitfulness of our own work, because it kills the root of inner wisdom which makes work fruitful, we are so obsessed with doing that we have no time, no imagination left for being as a result people are valued not for what they are, but for what they do Or what they have, for there usefulness, people may spend there whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find once they reach the top that the ladder is leaning against a wrong wall".----Thomas merton.
@Serenity-fu8xz
@Serenity-fu8xz Рік тому
@nid2598
@nid2598 Рік тому
So if it all breaks down to the mental meaning that we give to our experience then it is obvious that the problem lies is in the flawed thinking. How is it someone else's fault then? I mean not every child gives the same meaning to the same experience?
@chaimberger
@chaimberger Рік тому
@dunsaniandreams9
@dunsaniandreams9 Рік тому
Has humanity ever had a completely stable culture with ideal conditions ? A society where everyone’s been treated fairly? Lived in harmony? I love the sentiment truly. I do think our relationship to technology has altered reality… But, human pathology it’s not changed, nor is it just this just a simple well, the culture NOW is toxic, it always has been.
@kellharris2491
@kellharris2491 Рік тому
I have thought about this as well. How are we so different then other groups of humanity in different places and time? Are we better or worse? I think that many groups of humanity have been worse off. But our coping methods are different and lacking. Technology has cut us off from nature. Technology has also made a lot of regular labor obsolete. Men and women are struggling with more existential crises. And they don't know how to fix it
@ArsenicJulep
@ArsenicJulep Рік тому
The Dobe !Kung and the Hadza people live in harmony with nature and have no status, no crime, no divorce.
@ukko8457
@ukko8457 Рік тому
Not really this same system ran by same powers has been in place for thousands of years and it has never had the wellbeing of people as a priority, maybe far far back in time there might have been a golden age, and we should strive for it.
@dunsaniandreams9
@dunsaniandreams9 Рік тому
@@ukko8457 wake up man. People are people, stop with the Jean-Jacques Rousseau stuff. History reflects no utopia- Romans, Greeks, Babylonians. It’s incredibly idealistic. Though civilization now lies on a knife edge, nearly anyone would choose to live now with all modern conveniences of medical, food, shelter and general overall well-being.
@rudiegotbetter8730
@rudiegotbetter8730 Рік тому
Read the dawn of everything by david braeber. Theres clear examples of societies where we were much democratic and empathetic.
@ErickMcNerney
@ErickMcNerney Рік тому
10:38 - is it about getting the pregnancy done as quickly as possible so they can perform as many as possible for increasing profits?
@zacbarnett7783
@zacbarnett7783 Рік тому
This is a simplistic understanding....There are two ways that humans experience a toxic culture (1)Imposing hurt on people, by physically causing them harm, and (2) Passively depriving them of their needs. This explanation does not come close to the mark. What about inducing people to harm themselves. For example, the Canadian government offering government assisted suicide to those who feel depressed...sad...deflated...disappointed that they did not win Lotto or pissed off that it was raining when they woke up in the morning? Or, what about the Fentanyl dealer who deliberately and knowingly sells Fentanyl to the addict simply because the addict wants him to?
@ChauNguyen-wd6fm
@ChauNguyen-wd6fm Рік тому
200yrs ago people dont live until 60 because of diseases, lack of doctors, etc. whenever we try to "improve" we create new problems. the cycle never ends
@enibeni3783
@enibeni3783 Рік тому
Obviously! Look around.
@rsavage42
@rsavage42 Рік тому
I’m shocked.
@PraiseJesusChristOurSavior
@PraiseJesusChristOurSavior Рік тому
we are in a pandemic of no self perspective.
@jaysmith3361
@jaysmith3361 Рік тому
The weak survive and breed with the strong.
@RealTalk-mq2ug
@RealTalk-mq2ug Рік тому
I am tormented and tortured and haunted and terrorized and raped: deep inside my soul. The grief is unbearable. He left me. Replaced me. My "best friend". The only friend I had. The ultimate betrayal. Complete abandonment. I wake up every morning: breathless and panicked: praying desperately just to die... How the actual fuck could he do this to me? We went from speaking every single day about every damn thing, and now we're strangers! My heart and mind cannot process nor comprehend: how this is even possible!! He replaced me for another. The pain is unbearable. I'm in hell. Hell with no escape...
@saskk2290
@saskk2290 2 місяці тому
I'm sorry you are in pain. Is there perhaps other abandonments you have faced? Perhaps early on that would make this one hurt so much?
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp Рік тому
"Ultimately we have just one moral duty to reclaim large areas of peace in ourselves, more and more peace, and to reflect it towards others and the more peace is there in us, the more peace there will be in our troubled world".____Etyy Hillesum_ free bird _ Jewish mystic.
@Brann82
@Brann82 Рік тому
What happend with perfect creature in sick enviroment
@richardfinlayson1524
@richardfinlayson1524 Рік тому
I'm really glad my son was born at home with two beautiful midwives, and was breast-fed,he's 24 now,lol
@MelanieSakowski
@MelanieSakowski Рік тому
Like sourdough bread; the culture needs the right environment to integrate the chemistry for a fine ass bread.
@rubytuesday7653
@rubytuesday7653 Рік тому
The first time ,I neglected my beautiful children.......when ,I gave birth the nurses took them away......
@davidmayhew8083
@davidmayhew8083 Рік тому
Who doesn't know that?
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp
@DilbagSingh-sp2yp Рік тому
But the whole teaching, "The way" Contained in this ancedotes, poems, and meditations, is a characteristic of a certain mentality found everywhere in the world, a certain taste for simplicity, for humility, for self-effacement, silence, and in general a refusal to take seriously the Aggressivity , the ambition, the push and the self-importance which one must display in order to get along in society. This other is a "way" that prefers not to get anywhere in the world, or even in the field of some supposedly spiritual attainment. The life of riches, ambition, pleasure, is in reality a intolerable servitude in which one "lives for what is always out of reach, " thirsting" for Survivial in the future" and incapable of living in the present"------Thomas Merton, from the book "The way of Chwang Tzu".
@martyfarty2231
@martyfarty2231 Рік тому
This culture whom created it. If we going the path of psychology it becomes very very dark.
@christat5336
@christat5336 Рік тому
Big pharma makes money
@dtla5052
@dtla5052 Рік тому
It's because we shouldn't be living together like this. All our borders should reach outter space
@kevnev52
@kevnev52 Рік тому
capitalism is the root cause, we must build collective alternatives.
@kellharris2491
@kellharris2491 Рік тому
The increase in C sections is criminal. For many it's about money.
@plantstho6599
@plantstho6599 Рік тому
Ironically i got a stock trading ad while watching this.
@OldEarthWisdom
@OldEarthWisdom Рік тому
I bet this is interesting but the volume sucks
@green2stayecoswdmarketingn339
@green2stayecoswdmarketingn339 Рік тому
It's all just a intellectual novelty to the British aristocracy, banker network, but everything is changing,#THENEWECONOMY💲
@2bullcrap
@2bullcrap Рік тому
Victim mentality makes you sick too.
@squatch545
@squatch545 Рік тому
It's true. My farts are pretty toxic.
@olivermatias2349
@olivermatias2349 Рік тому
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@douglasking9383
@douglasking9383 Рік тому
Tell me something I don't know.
@dwilson6769
@dwilson6769 Рік тому
C section is painful!!!
@jazzsoul1695
@jazzsoul1695 3 місяці тому
Very good! I also feel it's fine to let baby sleep w parents through age 2-3 and gradually put in another bed. Not to let them scream for hours!
@gezalesko3813
@gezalesko3813 Рік тому
And dogs, the cult of pure narcism and self love..
@revolutie89omorareasecurit77
@revolutie89omorareasecurit77 Рік тому
Sa nu executı ce execut eu ca nu estı la nıvelul meu Rıstı AVC
@catrinacantrell5466
@catrinacantrell5466 Рік тому
No kidding. Thank the system. Thankfully we are learning and growing to counteract the neg. Generations we were born in. I live where woman still are not free and manmade culture makes unhealthy environment, shortages, war and woman don't need to wait for men to grow and take there 1/2 of world control because we are at an Exstinction level event and we all need to grow and find solutions and learn and grow so the war doesn't kill us from bad environment that say lack and fear when really it's those who control the monetary system. Behavior disorders came from wars as weapons in war. Then bunch of non vets. Have these disorders and never in the military. The placebo effect is population control. Minnesota is a slave state in 2023. We all need to grow. How do we get better being drugged that cured nothing and rules that don't let you protect yourself without punishment when we been violated and fought out of natural instinct. We have no trust forthe system. It's old and a lie.
@zososierp
@zososierp 9 місяців тому
The irony that a minority of people have propelled capitalism, and to that end, the societal symptoms we have now.
@tistrya-424
@tistrya-424 Рік тому
khaste nabashin... albatte toxic ke bishtar shabihe lajane farhangeton ta toxic
@thewisestman1
@thewisestman1 Рік тому
I don't really get what this guy is saying, but in today's Telegraph a front page ad for an inside article read, "Famous mini-me. This season's must-have is a pretty daughter." The words were accompanied by a well known celebrity beauty with her similarly attired and attractive teenage daughter. I am aware that there was an element of slightly disparaging humour about this tag-line (at least I think there was) except that it is illustrative of an underlying truth about our culture. It has become shallow and vapid to the point of being almost valueless. Homo sapiens consumeralis has become dunbed down to a point where Huxley's Brave New World is pretty much the order of the day. The mobile phone and Internet aren't helping, but the malaise goes much deeper than that. Our culture is not so much toxic as non existent.
@GenK1991
@GenK1991 Рік тому
The interviewer seemed extremely nervous
@jamestracey5958
@jamestracey5958 Рік тому
Aside from select UKposts channels and 100% done with social media IE the toxicity and sure life is only Grand
@intwominds1943
@intwominds1943 Рік тому
“Ummm”
@carltwidle9046
@carltwidle9046 Рік тому
Yes it is toxic. It's a system of greed, hatred, and competition. It's very hard to find genuine relationships. I had good jobs, but the work environment and some people i worked with were toxic.
@peoplespeace
@peoplespeace Рік тому
Is this an analogy workshop!?
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