or happens to you as per profession, family life etc

I don’t like this because it just blames the victim.

Irrelevant whether a victim or not its inside you, the nervous system is dystegulated irrelevant of blame and needs awareness and recovery

​@@josiehewingEXACTLY!!

Find death before death finds us ❤️🙌

Unfortunately, there is a converse element in this, too. Upon the threatened destruction of another relationship in her life, a woman I know said to her therapist, “I’m just being true to myself. What about ‘to thine own self be true’?” and her therapist responded, “Which self?” To this person, authenticity meant putting her worst inclinations forward because they were true and real rather than recognizing that internal consistency also demanded that she recognize the destructive nature of that “truth” in the relationships that she also wanted and needed just as much. When her life was all about herself and inward focus, she was miserable just as she was if she wasn’t sharing transparently and being seen honestly.

So powerful !

Death is freedom!

I felt your comment to the depths of my soul. That describes the first fifty years of my life.

Gabor Maté is an amazingly knowledgeable man that has been an absolute blessing to my life.

He's the 'human' whisperer.

Was a really awesome talk. He hit on so many points. The presenter was great as well.

That’s a beautiful summarizing phrase: Dr. Mate’ *talks human*.

Are you for real or a Bot?

Yep, and we have to make it untrue, now🌻🌟💃💫🌟💥🥳

I heard this weeks ago, it's been rolling around in my head ever since.

@@heatherhinks6185 I reckon it also means the opposite can be made reality...the species who became aware the whole universe flows through us, is us, and with the power of universal intelligence ...Anything Is Possible...🌟🎉🧚‍♀️

It's so true and factual. The nature thrives much better without the human existence and disruption. The nuclear affected zones saw the recovery of natural habitat while the residents evacuated from the areas for over a year.

Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......

and then watch them fail in a posthuman corporate machine-like algorhytmic wold

Both my parents were authentically miserable and dumped their misery burdens on me. It would've been better if they faked being nice.

i disagree with this partially. "Letting your kids be authentic" can lead to not parenting at all and justnletting them get into any destructive behavior for the sake of "being authentic". Ive seen it happen, will smiths son is perfect example. Have you seen him in interviews hes an asshole and doesnt care about anybody. Children need guidelines and barriers of livinf and thought to be expkained by their parents. Period.

being authentic-- is a great way to demo for our children--

I love what you say Kristine x

Sorry you went through that.

❤❤❤

Hang on tight to yourself because if we keep trying for authenticity we will get there, painful though it may be. My parents also hated me, ignorned me and invalidated me in so many ways. I know anxiety and depression, and at 67, I am healing and getting more in touch with myself. One day, and it may not be so far away, you will love yourself more and you will heal. Keep on going! Keep hope.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. You sound like a survivor who is strong. Your story will heal others and help them indetify their strengths. Know that you are loved and you deserve the world ❤

Sorry to be in the hands of evil, make sure YOU are not like it, be your authentic self without this input. Heal through others kinder people, therapists etc. Much luck to you xx

DITTO 🎯🙏🏽🎯

Why would we want to judge and punish someone who has gone through so much trauma and lack of love/getting their needs met that it leads them to addictions to cope anyway? It's like we have this idea that people get addicted to things for fun or because they're lazy.. They're suffering and need our help

Don't be foolish. Living with drug addicts can be hell, especially alcool addicts; It will ruin your life.

@@YagrumBagarn a lot of addicts suffer their addiction alone because they don’t want to burden anyone.

Nobody said anything about living with addicts or alcoholics. And setting boundaries for oneself and BACKING them up confidently is the goal. I’s tough to do it for many of us. Lots of people aren’t able to set boundaries well. therefore all kinds of people walk all over them.. not just addicts - clean or not or alcoholics- sober or not. Addiction and alcoholism are DISEASES someone can be addicted to a non-drug substance- “Chocolate”- for instance is very addictive and a person may choose to create a pattern of eating chocolate whenever they have emotional turbulence etc. one definitely ears plenty of it during their many crises in life as an avoidance. It is just as degrading to be addicted to chocolate as to be addicted to drugs or alcohol. It damages MANY lives and causes obesity etc. I suppose it can take longer than a drug constantly being used does to destroy but not necessarily. People will judge (some even call THAT, Judging an addiction). Shame and debilitating compulsions to KEEP on GETTING THE SUBSTANCE into your body rules one’s life in all addictions unless they’re fortunate enough to have enough mind abilities within themselves and willingness to make changes. Childhood trauma is HARD AS HELL on us all, maybe an entire EARTH full of compassionate and kind people is needed instead of a negative push ri NOT BE FOOLISH like the guy a couple comments before mine was sharing. Maybe he had not set good, solid boundaries with an addict or alcoholic.. positive input was what was lacking in our childhood so although I may think em, i find it better to stfu when my words harm another on purpose, even absentminded. Words crush people and show where a person has an issue if some kind within. 1:51

So much of what Gabor Mate says are the exact realizations I've worked through in the past half decade. It's so refreshing to hear someone saying all of the things I couldn't write down and get out due to trauma.

SHOTS FIRED MEN

@@Pelis_Chilangobythesea No shots fired, just an observation applicable to my life about the authenticity people say they seek in others and how it has not worked for me as I try to recover from severe physical and mental health/trauma that deeply impacts my every day life. Until I can get to a better place of mental stability in my life, I will never be able to be authentic and heal at the same time under the pressures of contradicting narratives pushed by society. I am helping no one with my social media presence, including myself, so I am seeking to remove myself from what is distracting me from healing in my real life.

@@afairshare en español por favor traducir. O eres auténtico o eres amado.en una sociedad tienes que adaptarte a canones de civismo. en una relación de pareja siempre hay un elemento de misterio. amar no tiene un fin ni un inicio, es solo un proceso de conocerse, es simplemente deceptivo. A lo largo de mi vida se me ha dicho que soy muy auténtico, y humilde, es frustrante que te llamen sentimental e intenso, si embargo creo que convivo conmigo mismo. Ahora Jung , Peterson junto con la escuela estoica, piensan en corregir el niño interior, callarlo y adatarlo. es necesario y es el sufrimiento que paga la humanidad. Nuestra patria es nuestro padre nos enseña como vivir, nuestro mayor enemigo nos impone maneras de pensar. De dónde viene la autenticidad de las cosas.

@OneOFThese NotLikeTheOther do you mean someone targeted me?

The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well

@@michealharris3221Does dr.sporess ship?

Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.

Tripping is not really bad but find a good mycologist Who will teach you the right things you need to know

Dr.spores is the best, he's been my supplier for anything psychedelics.

You're healing right on time Louise ♥️

@@marie_es Gh.

King Fu Panda is criminally underrated

@@joshjacobson932 land slide vite in a tibogan. With second downhill slope. Tu very freely.

BPD women are almost always demonizing the people close to them, calling there sister a psychopath is common BPD antagonistic behavior, so is being addicted to drugs and pushing boundaries of other people AS FAR AS THEY LET THEM. And the disorder generally does not subside until they are old. A significant bpd trait is demonizing others to avoid processing the guilt that they SHOULD be feeling

Not a whole lot! … just about every person sadly

Fully agree ❤️

Like our current U.S. administration? 🤣

I know I am destructive that's why I am hiding and isolating for the past three years to face my trauma.

I'm sorry we were abused, hope you are feeling well now.

And when we nurture that part of us that someone else couldn’t or didn’t, we can heal and become whole again.

🌿🌷💚🌷🌿

@@DenieceSmithRealtor 🌹♥️🌹

@@thomashassall96 🌿💚🌿

He brings so much peace inside us and between us. I think he deserves the Nobel peace prize!

​@@carmenl163 That’s interesting. I’ve always thought that Marshall Rosenberg would get the Nobel Prize for studying peaceful cultures and developing Nonviolent Communication (which addresses that practical applications of Gabor’s work). He hasn’t yet. 🤔

@@aninsidestory I would support him getting the Nobel peace prize as well! There are some fantastic teachers out there who are not recognized enough, I think. They are teaching us inner peace, which is the best way to outer peace. Byron Katie and Breneé Brown are candidates, too, in my view.

@@carmenl163 Yes, a big thumbs up to Byron Katie. I have a 'should' story in my head about Brene Brown. I can't get past that she is an academic researcher who studies shame, emotions and culture and she has not ever referenced Marshall Rosenberg or NVC to my knowledge. If you can help me see my way past this, I would be grateful. 🙂

Humanity, authenticity, and care. He really cares! He know what we really need to heal. Such an inspiring man. All therapists should learn from him.

He’s very brave and authentic, been following him for a long time. Teacher who is still a student. The best kind! 👏🏽

Yes, I agree. And Collete Streicher is another.

Same here!

Diagnosis isn’t the cure, it’s a target. You have to do the work. Therapy isn’t psych surgery. What ails you can’t be cut out by the therapist. Recovery is a long and arduous process and re-integration is much harder.

Indeed. Body Keeps Score is riveting.

agree. It is what made me push myself with Sports, fitness and hopefully meditation soon. Meditation is still very hard for me cause my wounds are very deep, the ADD is super strong with me.

Whats the book called

@@sarahal-taay1965 It's called: 'the body keeps the score' and the writer is Bessel Van Der Kolk.

I just bought it

The issue is that in order to gain wisdom we have to actually act on these new changes or way of thinking. All these self help books just kinda keep us on a information overload loop... I wish there were more popular programs available to help us all get there.

Wow I have to wait for 2 days before the book is coming out in the Netherlands!!

Sexual abuse is the most damaging of them all.. Please look in your community for a group support.. I find it easier when you’re surrounded by other women with whom we can share the same experiences and there you can open up and start talking without feeling ashamed

He has helped me heal in so many ways. This fabulous man helped me look internally to heal as I always looked externally only to cause more harm to my whole being.....Then I was shown his work and I believed all he said. I had more than 1 childhood traumatic experiences that made me shut down and not express my feelings and emotions. This brought me to be a long-term addict that has crone's disease diagnosed when I was 24. I kept doing harder drugs to not FEEL the pain of this disease also to push it down as that had been my coping mechanism. In 2013 I was diagnosed with Multiple sclerosis n told I'd be in a wheelchair in 6months. It took me out, my whole left side not functioning properly at all. I had been studying to be a therapist for 3.5yrs before I got MS. Because of the knowledge I had learnt I knew I had tools to get in control of my dis-eases UNEASE IN MYSELF so I used these tools to enhance my self-belief and self-reliance. After 8months of letting my conditions debilitate me I rose above them and took back the control of my mind body and soul allowing my spirit to help me function again as best as I could, just differently from the ways I knew which allowed me to live a life of new experiences and hope. This is when I was shown Gabor Matēs completely ' out of the norm' information and I live by this man's informative knowledgeable insights and researched hands on experience. It's now 2022 & I am slowly yet surely healing from the inside out leading me to believe I will never be in a wheelchair but I will be helping others to rise above their dis-eases with the power of positive thinking & making sure movement is key in their everyday life. NAMASTE GABOR MATÉ 🙏♥️💓

@@rachelcaldwell330 you are an inspiration. Dr. Maté's work is groundbreaking. I am just beginning my journey back to self, so hearing your healing journey is definitely inspirational.

Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......

Well said.

That's amazing. Thanks.

I love what you wrote, can you explain the last sentence a little bit, is it really finding out who you are by thinking about your negative thoughts ?

@@patriciaredmond3996 We process our experiences in search of meaning then we choose one theory about the experience as true. The choice we make reinforces an emotion that seems familiar to us. We then hold on to the emotion and the theory we have about the experience...until it is automated in our brain.

@@aquickstory2196 thank you, I'm going to really think about that

He’s simply highly educated, perceptive and cared enough to apply it help others. Dr Mate has also used the fact he’s just human like the rest of us to turn intelligence to wisdom.

My dad taught me this many yrs ago. Wisdom always leads to truth, while intelligence may be used to deceive. (Tao Te Ching) Wisdom makes you the smartest person in the room, no matter how uneducated you are. (African philosopher)

Why is his age relevant?

I don’t see him as THAT old!!!

Old man?

@@flynnzilla8796 lived a long time, learned a great deal. Accumulated knowledge, experience through the years. The word ‘old’ is not a criticism

@@flynnzilla8796 aye child ,trauma makes us unkind why Dr G mentioned we destructive species.smh

Life changing❤

personality trait.

I am currently in school to obtain my MT certification. Massage therapy was the one of the main things that helps me get through a year of frozen shoulder. During that time I had many emotional releases on the table. And it really changed things for me. So much so that I want to be able to help people in this way. Do you have any recommendations for learning to help clients “access, process and release their trauma”?

Lovely. 🙏🏼

Nice

Love this 👊🏽✊🏼🙌❤

Your impression of him is false